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My boyfrind makes me feel a burden.
I'm with a guy I've been with for 18 months, who is usually a dream guy.
However, he has a very short temper, and with snap at me over nothing. He also calls me annoying to other girls, and has said to my face multiple times that he's sick of 'having to handle me' and 'I'm Impossible to deal with'. His favourite things to call me are delusional and ridiculous. He will happily reduce me to tears and then say 'you can't just cry every time you have to face the truth'. He is usually this nasty after I ask him to control his temper, which he claims is 'baiting him' so I 'bring it on myself'
I dont feel like I should have to put up with this, but I love him so much, and we can have wonderful times together
This isn't really an abusive relationship but I didn't know what category to put it in.
Am I over reacting? What do I do to make it stop? Trying to reason with him Doesn't work :(
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Ok, this is obviously a bad position to be in. I`ve been diagnosed with depression, it fucks you up, don`t let him do that to you.
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Leave him
This IS a mentally abusive relationship. You're boyfriend does not respect you, he does not value you and he does not treat you right.
People who care about one another do not put them down by calling them names. Yes, he is a good for nothing asshole.
Dump him
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You make it stop by leaving.
This is an abusive relationship - and it's likely to get worse. A man who doesn't take responsibility for his own cruelty, for name-calling or insulting you to others, and who feels no remorse at all when you are distress... That's an abuser in training even if he is nothing else. One of these days this guy will cheat - and tell you it's your fault. Or he will hit you - and tell you that you brought it on yourself.
The only way you get better than this, is by demanding better than this.
If he isn't willing to take responsibility for his temper, at at least work on putting an end to the name-calling, then nothing you can say or do can help him, and you need to walk away.
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