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You can't go looking for love...
I'm lonely. Really lonely. I live on a college campus and there are thousands of people around me all the time but I still feel so alone. I have plenty of friends..but that isnt what i am looking for. I want to meet a guy...but I don't know where to look. I know people are like when you meet the right person it will just happen...you can't go looking for love...when the time is right...blah blah blah. But what if my fate is to make the first move? I can't meet someone if I spend all my free time trapped in my dorm room doing mindless busy work.
So where should I go? What should I say? I am generally not a shy person but I've never been one to strike up a conversation with a total stranger and have it go anywhere.
The reason why I am so anxious about this is because I graduate after this semester and when I do I will be moving back to my parents house in my small town where everyone knows everyone and the chance to meet someone new will more than likely be shot to hell. I need some pointers on meeting new guys...before i have to go back to little town on the prairie and have to pick between the 5 or 6 boys that arent engaged to their highschool sweethearts -_-
Any advice?!
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Your biggest obstacle right now is yourself. Wanting to be with someone so badly is not attractive. You'll come off as hopelessly desperate. You need to exude confidence and joy. You say you've never been able to strike up a conversation with a stranger and have it go anywhere. In order to get what you want you have to take risks. It isn't going anywhere because you're not taking it anywhere. Take these conversations to the next level. Have something in mind that you can invite the person to. Give them your phone number. Ask them if they want to hang out with you later. Yeah, you may be rejected like 100 times, but it only takes one person to accept. The final bit of advice that I have to give to you is to not become discouraged. If you really, really want to find someone, you have to be ready to be rejected over and over and over. You have to have the strength to just brush it off and try again. Stick with it, quit being so depressed, and you'll find someone in no time. Good luck!
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Sometimes the best way to meet someone is through friends.
I met my husband through a friend, I never knew him directly but we went to high school together. If you have a certain hobby you could join a club, Go watch the basketball games at your local college. Get involved
Maybe one of your friends knows a friend who knows a friend? Etc.
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