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i love a guy who has a gril and i hve told him how i feel and he hasnt responded on it he still acts as my frnd ,wht should i do

You ask what you should do...but you have already done all you can do, you let him know how you feel. Being brave and asking questions or being able to tell people how you feel will help you a lot in life. Never try to interfere in any relationship between a guy and a gal, whether dating or married. If she was more of a girlfriend and he had romantic feelings towards you, then he would naturally have responded to you. Since he hasn't, that means he see's you only as a friend. If you can not handle being around him and behaving as just a friend, then for your peace of mind it might be best to not hang out with him as a friend. However, be open about it and explain to him why you will not be hanging out with him or avoiding him, it is the right thing to do so he doesn't wonder why he nevers see you anymore.

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I'm a 14 year old female. And this guy has a crush on me...Of course I know it's a crush, but...i think I like him too now. He's nice and caring. I know it's just infatuation, but what should I do? Thanks.

I will tell you what I told my 3 daughters at that age. There is nothing wrong with having friends who are boys. Notice I didn't say boyfriends which implies going steady, dating, kissing and more. Male friends are always a welcome relief from the types of things girls want to discuss or do. I told my daughters, "you invite your girl friends to come over to our house, you ask if we can have them come along on family outings to the beach or amusement park (or whatever your family does). A boy shouldn't be treated any different." Let your parents know you have a friend who is a guy and you'd like to invite him over. At your age, there shouldn't be the pressure of couple dates. Why avoid a possible wonderful friendship just because others think it means it has to be romantic or sexual. Many adult women have had male friends that they are not romantically involved with. I am one of them. Sometimes the hardest part will be convincing the guy that it is okay. At your age, guys don't understand girls yet very well. The pressure to seem knowledgeable about girls is scary to them. It's unknown territory. If the pressure were truly to be taken off by the girl saying that she enjoys him as a friend and just like to hang out together like she does with her girlfriends and be friends... the good guys will jump at the chance. The ones who don't aren't worth getting to know because they are more concerned what their guy friends will think about him having a female friend who is not a romanctic interest. I realize that the crush feelings can easily be there and thats one of the special things about a friendship with a guy...it's the 'spice' that makes this friendship different in a most wonderful way from the friendships with the girls.

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why do i search for something that i can not achieve? i married a man that i love with everything that i am ... but i feel so lost and alone .. there is no passion anymore .. i dont think that he is still in love with me and i think that he is searching for a way out ... i have cried so much that i feel empty.. here i am resorting to putting my feelings out to the world just in case there is someone that can save me from my self ... i just want to die, i am a failure as a mother to a son i never see... i am a failure as a wife to a husband i watch hate me each day .. fleeting moments where i see what could ... what should be .. but when he looks at me he see's a traitor... or just person that he once knew... i used to have so many wonderful traits but i dont have anything... the only thing i want is what doesnt want me... death would be preferable to this living torture?? please someone tell me how to end this i just want to rest now. i have nothing left to give of myself ... i am all ready dead .. if only i can end my own painful existence...

You do sound depressed. Seeing a counselor is good advice. However, at the same time...only you(and your creator if you believe in God) can truly be your best advice, for you know yourself the best.
I hope I am not reading into your words something that is not the case, but I get the impression that perhaps over the years you have been willing to change who you are to have what you thought you could get, 'as in the man who is your husband'. Your way of expressing yourself sounds like you have a very low self image of yourself right now. I don't believe this was always the case. If you had that low a self image when you were still single, you would not have been able to get him to marry you in the first place. I am wondering if your life began to revolve around that which you thought would bring you "Happiness" and contentment. Obviously there is no joy in life for you. Here's a quote I wrote that sums up Happiness vs. Joy for me,
“Desiring Happiness is to desire being led about by the external occurrences in your life which are momentary and leave you craving more. I'd much rather have Joy that comes into existence by internal sources of contentment and inward peace, is long lasting, and therefore not affected by what comes our way.” So stop focusing on what is not working in your marriage or in relationship with son. You haven't failed to remedy a situation or learn or grow until you're dead. I am not trying to be callous here with you mentioning wanting to end this. I am trying to say there is hope. I believe that the desire in you to find an alternative path to get out of the miserable place you're in is stronger than wanting your life to end. Why? You would not have asked for help here otherwise. The answers for you lie within yourself. My advice would be to listen to your inner voice...if you believe that we all have a higher self as well as a subconscious mind too. If you don't believe that...what have you got to lose? Same goes for having a belief in something greater than you. I can tell you right now that having that belief in God is what kept me sane and with a strong self image in the 30 years I was with a husband who verbally abused me starting just months after we married and it continued through to the day I finally left. My strength was inside myself..because thats where my inner voice was and where Spirit of God resides. You are looking outside of yourself for approval and for your strength which means you will come across as "needy" to some people. Some are attracted to that because they have a need to control someone and it's easier to do with someone like that. I could be totally wrong, if so, please forgive me.
But people like yourself do not end up in such a desperate place by being a happy, inwardly strong and confident person. Hitting bottom like this is not a bad thing. It is actually good because there is no lower to go, the only direction from here now is up. Sooo...what are some of the first things to do to get the ball rolling in the right direction, you will need to do things for yourself, things that will raise your vibrational levels (go buy a book about this) but a few things I can mention is that right now your energy levels are low. The fastest way to raise them is to put on the kind of music that makes you feel good every time you hear it. Sing along to the songs. Movement helps with depression. Movement such as walking. I dare you to try skipping like we did as kids without getting a smile on your face while doing it. Dancing in your house to your favorite music will do it also. Humor and laughing is another quick way to raise your vibrational levels Watch a great comedy. Look up comedians on the computer and watch several. You will not feel like doing these things at first and thats alright, just force yourself through it. But before long you should feel a little lighter, like the heavy blanket on you has lifted. You will need to do this regularly. Next I would suggest finding yourself some "Meet up groups" to join where the people share a similar interest with you. If you have no current desire for anything, try to remember what you used to like and start with that. Or perhaps try something new. All That I am telling you right now to try is what I told my daughter when she was depressed for a year after a breakup and lost lots of weight. She went to a free appointment with a counselor through her employer only to hear the man suggest her to try everything I had already told her! Hopefully you live in a good size town so there will be many options. Lets say you like coffee, walking and board games....there are meet up groups like that to be found. The ones I'd like to see you stretch and try will be filled with a good amount of positive people who work on healing. Most meetups are free or have a nominal free for any printouts given to take home. Try searching for Reiki healing, healing energy meetups, intuitive healing, spiritual health meetups...these aren't exclusive belief systems but accept all, meditation meetups although this might be a hard one for you to start with. In internet search put "Meetups.com" your city, how far willing to travel, and narrow down search with specifics in the drop down list. Most the ones I mention can be found under New Age/Spirituality. The folk in these groups are very accepting, not pushy, willing to give free healing energy to each other and would love to give to you. Take a chance, be transparent and let them know how you are feeling and how you want that to change. Once you have begun to receive some energy healing from them and are doing better, next focus on exploring belief systems...all of them are helpful, whether you decide you identify more with a mix of all, are buddhism, hinduism, or even druidism or paganism. Christianity has it's good points but in your fragile state, I would suggest refraining from getting involved there for a while if that is your choice as I come that background and they just aren't set up to embrace all the things that really help that I have suggested to you. The church tends to steer you away from Reiki, intuitive healing and such. I would really like to hear back as to how you are doing. I am sorry this is so long but I really felt everything i said had to be shared. It may be overwhelming to start but you can do it! I will pray for your guardian angels to help you. Please let me know if there is anything else I can help you with, if you need further clarification on something. Blessings to you dear one!

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14f

I had a best friend lets call her L and i had another best friend lets call her V.. they didnt really get along..

So i left V to hang out with L more.. i was really close to V but i guess i was attracted by Ls personalty..
she didnt give a fuck about anything.smoked weed. (I already smoked weed before) she was a good listener..
So we all went to the same school and everything was fine until people at school started calling me and L sluts.

No one liked L because she caused to many problems and she was supposely a two face.
But i didnt believe them because i trusted L .

So then L and I started stealing and smoking more
frequently and we got closerr..
we got so close i took the blame for everything she did.
I almost got in a fist fight because of her. I almost got expelled because her dumb crush stole tequila from a store and she basically said i did it.
I would buy her things with my moneyand shed never say thank you.
When shed do something hurtful shed never say im sorry.

Then random people came to me and asked me to have sex with them.
I said no to all
Then random guys i didnt even know msged me on fb asking to sex because they heard from an anynomus source that i am easy.
I would cry about it everyday because it got to the point were i would go to the mall and girls would shout hurtful things at me..
Prostitute.. slut..whore..bitch....nasty..

And i would always cry to L about it..
Shed comfort me..

But then i had to transfer schools because of an unrealated cutody battle..

And when i was at my new school..
my ex best friend V would call me telling me L is talking smack about me telling people i
Fuck every guy i am with
I give bjs for money
Etc..

I didnt believe her until people starting msging me on fb everything that L said....
I couldnt believe it i didnt want to.. i was extremely heartbroken...

But now im still a bit heartbroken and i feel super betrayed..
I am currently friends with V now and im glad because she has demostrated to be a true friend..
But the problem is ..


The school year is ending and we are all ending into high school
i recently found out L is going to the same school i am going to with V.
the thing is i WANT TO KNOW why is she telling people that?
She blocked me on fb so i cant msg her.
She moved so idk where she lives..
She even changed her number so i cant call..

How can i talk to her calmy and effectively without starting another figght?

I dont want to be friends anymore i just want to understand why sheis doing what shes doing..

And i want to make the peaces with her so i dont get anymore drama in high school


Please help... how can i get in touch with her???

Pleasee i will be extremely gratefulll(:

You have already figured out it was a poisonous relationship. The issue then is not really about what she is saying, doing,or how to get in touch and make peace. You need to understand that there is no such thing as making peace with a person like that. Often times in your life ahead of you, you will come up against people who for some unknown reason do not treat you well. The question should not be why are they doing it but what is it I need to learn from it. Life has it beautiful moments and it also has it's harsher sides which come out in interactions with people, through school, family, job, marriage, kids, neighbors, etc... If you begin to notice a repeating pattern of certain people like this coming into your life you need to focus to see what it is you need to learn, because until you do, it will keep happening. Move on and enjoy your friendship with V. Maybe the thing to learn right now is what a true friend is and what is not

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I have a guy friend and I know i'm interested in him. He is a really big flirt, so he gets really confusing and its impossible that i'm the only girl to like him... We dont talk a ton, but he's not one to talk everyday. He invited me over to his house to watch a movie and cuddle a month or so ago, and we did watch the movie but just wound up sitting on the couch and later played Call of Duty; he later told a friend he thought I didnt want to be there (in which he was set straight and was told that i did..)

the other day we were messaging back and forth and having a random conversation where i told him i was tired of watching movies alone with my dog, and he said "well you don't have a boyfriend to watch movies with so yeah that would get boring!" and i said "exactly!" he then told me to "go find a guy at the club lol" and i said "i dont think so.." and he said "why not?" so i said "well im not going to find one at a club.." so he said "then where?" i replied "i have no idea.. see, i'm a traditionalist. he, must come after me haha" and then he replies with "oh, so he has to make the first move?" and i said "yes sir." so he said "i see i see."

thats where i'm confused; did he repeat the question because he was confused on how i worded it, or did he repeat it for a reason? someone help!

There's a certain boldness that comes with age to just come out and ask what you want to know. I can ask men things now that I was too chicken to broach the subject on. I have some of the traditionalist in me too but sometimes darn it...men can be so dense and won't get a subtle question.

I have no more idea what your guy friend is thinking than you do. All I can do is give some examples of what you might say to get some meaningful, revealing conversation going.

For example, you say he is a real big flirt.
I'll call him Joe.
Me: So Joe, I know you love to flirt. I was just wondering if you flirt just for flirting sake, like a hobby, but the flirts mean nothing serious. Or do you flirt only with woman that you find something attractive in?
Joe: Yes, I like to flirt for fun. But I also only flirt with woman I am interested in.
Me: Really? Well, in that case I am wondering, since you flirt with me, what exactly is it about me that you find interesting. (or if he has not flirted with you yet) Really? Well you must have some interest in me if you invite me to watch movies, but you don't flirt with me. I am wondering, is it because you see me as more like a sister to you? Or do you feel more comfortable making friends with women than men for buddies without any romantic attachments?

A man who has some sexual attraction to a woman is going to pretty much come out and say so. If he simply acts on it and grabs for you without you knowing whats coming, then I'd really question his integrity as a man. He should be able to hold himself in check.
Sometimes the really good guys, may be the kind who has in words let you know how crazy he is about you but leave it in your hands to make the first move and proceed at a rate you are comfortable with. Don't focus on the meaning of a repeated comment. It may mean nothing. Basically, as it stands right now, you really know next to nothing about him other than he likes to flirt and watch movies. Thats not enough to proceed with making any move towards a more permanent relationship.

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well me and my ex boyfriend still talk a lot like here and there, we do intend to flirt and we always talk about our past i acc love it and so does he, like last night he was saying how he wanted to kiss me and stuff, i always say the same to him to.
Thing is we haven't seen each other in like nearly a year , we both haven't dated anyone , and i'm leaving to University in September its quite sad, were gonna meet each other soon and go Cinema, he said he would defo kiss me, my feelings have always been there from the start if they weren't i would of moved on by now, like ive moved on with my life but its just the feelings ...
I have a feeling he still has them too , like if you didn't like someone still you wouldn't talk to them in that way right?

we've made love before, and we both want to do it again.. would that be bad?
i just can't help the way my heart feels..


thanks female 18.

I will echo helpingout's advice. If you're 18, you're old enough to make this decision. It's not like you're too young. If you have been sexual together before, then enjoy what you have before you go to University. Make no promises to each other, be in agreement that whatever feelings you have, neither of you will expect something to come from it in the long run. We all need that sexual release valve to stay healthy sexually so if one can find a friend with benefits, or a short term boyfriend, lover...all that is good. Just be up front and honest that you are not considering anything like long term plans with a man for the future yet, not until you graduate University if that is what you wish. And enjoy whoever comes into your life. Who ever is meant to be in your life, will come into your life, or into your life again at the right time.

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I Have Friends That Were G Strings ThaT Are 10 Or 8.so is it still o.k to wear them? Cause people complain about them and realy. There being baby's over some one wearing underwear -_-. But i was just asking.
:3Noah:3

Lets not look at whether parents, society or the media say it's okay for a certain age because you will get a wide variety of answers.
Parents will say no 8 or 10 year olds have any business wearing something that they view as sexy and trying to attract sexual attention. I would have to agree personally. Society will not give a crap but your peers..those your age may have a lot to say about it, challenging you to wear it too as if such a small scrap of fabric is going to add to your personality and character. It doesn't affect that. What does media and advertisers have to say? They have lost some of their market with older females due to lagging economy. When many have lower paying jobs or none at all, they aren't going to be out buying makeup, perfume, or even replacing panties but just make do for a while. So the media keeps turning to the younger and younger market and their advertising is definitely now geared to get girls aged 9-10 to 12-13 to start purchasing all sorts of things that they believe as they were told will make them smarter, better, sexier, etc..

SO what does that leave us with? The question is not whether it is Okay to wear but why would you want to wear them? WHY do these friends want to wear one? If it is simply because they are more comfortable than full panties that are cut lop sided and one side elastic is looser so you end up with a wedgie that is uncomfortable...then I can see wearing a g string. What you wear should be your personal choice, reflect your own sense of style but still be respectful of your age group, and the situation you are in.

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Im a 13 year old girl is it legal for me to give a 14 yeal old a bj at 13?

I can't say about legality of it. But whether something is legal or not hasn't stopped anyone before, has it? The people who don't rush into anything but give thought to possible repercussions from any of their actions are the ones who are likely to have less regrets later in life looking back. You are taking a good step in deciding to ask for advice. I am taking a rough guess here, but since you asked before rushing ahead to give a bj, there wasn't a burning desire in you to do so or you would have. There's a good chance it wasn't your idea either.
To be real frank with you, if ALL you did was a bj, please know that people can get some STD's from just that like oral herpes. Or the guy will not stop at that for long and pressure you for more.
Ok, lets jump ahead to thinking that through. He's pressured you to have full sex. How will you feel? Used? Happy? Feel grown up? Dirty?
Is there a hundred percent chance that he was prepared with a condom? NO. If he did have one, was it very old? Sometimes at that age it is embarrassing to purchase them and swiping one from somebodys bedroom doesnt guarantee how old it is. The latex/rubber can break. If he did use one, did it slip off inside you after he ejaculated because he shrunk quickly enough that it stayed in as he pulled out and now semen is easily spilling all over inside you. There's a chance of getting an STD or getting pregnant. If that happened, then you have the anxious wait to see if your next period comes, you can't sleep, eat or concentrate on school because of your worries, and grades drop. Even if it doesn't happen the first time, if you have repeat sex the odds grow that you will become pregnant at some point even using condoms. There are grown up married women who become pregnant while using condoms or a diaphragm.
Lets imagine, what if you were pregnant at 13? The younger you are the bigger chance it affects your health, toxicity problems, not fully developed enough to safely deliver a baby.
Can you tell your parents, can you imagine their reaction. You're still their child, a woman in the making but not a full grown woman yet. Abortion? Adoption? Ridicule at school? Attending a school for pregnant teens?
It is way safer to wait until you graduate from high school before entering any sexual relationship. I told my 3 daughters to closely watch the girlfriends that were dating, how long did it last, the get together, breaking up on rapid repeat...and watch to see what it did to the grades of those girls. They reported back that the girls who dated around alot went from good grades to start with to plummeting til they were near failing. They realized I was right to say, wait until you finish high school before attempting serious dating.That doesn't mean you cant have a friends that are boys. Just hold off on the romantic stuff and the sex til later.

Perhaps this isn't what you wanted to hear. Or you say, hey but what do I do about my raging hormones right now? Well, find some open minded female adult you feel comfortable confiding in, and have her take you to buy your first vibrator toy..but stay away from the boy.

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Hey guys
So i have never really hung out with my boyfriend and his friends at the same time before.its not that i want to, but it seems kinda weird that he avoids his friends when he is with me. I know his friends they go to my school, and they know me too, and its not like my boyfriend is ashamed od me because when we first started dating he told all of his friends right away.
So for example, my boyfriend and i were in his room talking and stuff and his sister invited her friend over named jacob who is also my boyfriends friend too. (Him and his sisters mutual friend) anyway, so all of a sudden my boyfriend tells me to be really quiet and not say anything. I asked him why and he wouldnt say. He just quick opened the door ro his room, stuck his head out and said hi to jacob, and then shut the door again. He kept whispering for me to be really quiet.i persistentlykept asking why because it was frusterating me. After a couple of minutes, we heard jacob and my boyfriends sister leav the house and my boyfriend said he wanted me to be quiet because he didnt want his friend coming in and saying stuff..... What the heck i mean come on what kind of excuse is that.? Does that even make sense? What is another possible explanation for this? Im so lost.

I suppose you could let this slide and wait to see if it happens again. If there is a reocurring pattern that develops and boyfriend refuses to explain to you, there's a couple of possibilities. One possibility is that he doesn't have enough trust in you to bare his heart, and answer truthfully for fear of anger from you, fear of ridicule or fear of something we can not picture yet.
You say that he told all his friends when you started dating. Is this something you personally witnessed and overheard? Or is it something he told you? There is a possibility that he is afraid of your discovering what he actually said to his friends if he embellished or stretched the truth. Some young men like to brag and tell tall tales, exaggerate because they want to appear manly and not wimps in their friends eyes.
Dating is a time for young people to discover what they like and what they don't like in a partner or future mate. I can guess from the fact that you wrote asking about this that you might be wanting a guy who is proud to be seen with you, a guy who is not afraid to be his own man and not cave in to peer pressure, a man who has no fear of what others think of him or of him with you, a guy who trusts you with his deepest thoughts, fears, hopes and dreams, a guy who is open and honest with you, who communicates well. You are learning a lot already. Girls at this age are usually a bit more mature. So if it means that much to you to get things out in the open, you will need to ask some very direct questions. Make sure your questions are not accusing him of something, just that it seems to look like. . . and that you need to know for sure if you are to continue to be a couple. If he still won't open up, you will need to decide whether you will continue to date him or not. Maybe it doesn't look like a big deal, but if you learn how to make allowances for poor behavior from a guy now, you will likely continue to do so in the future and end up married with kids to someone maybe even much worse. Remember, now it a time to spread your wings and learn from your experiences. Don't date simply to have a date, or because a guy asked. Good luck and blessings to you.

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So my sister has a 18 month boy and is now pregnant with another boy. I'm 20 so I'm not rolling in money, however I want to get them somenthing that is very meaningful and not just something I could buy at Walmart. I wanted to start a separate account to save money for them to go to college, however I don't think I will be able to save that kind of money and I don't think my sister would accept it. But I'm thinking along those lines... something very meaningful that will help they boys for years to come, or something that my sister can also benefit from. I REALLY want to give them all something they deserve!

Adviceman gave you some good advice. I have a suggestion for a gift that most people don't think of giving. When I already had a child and was expecting a second, a family member bought me a book that was a big brother, big sister book. It has the guidelines such as where to place of pic of big brother with his newborn baby brother. His favorite things and so on. As Auntie, you will have access to photos and knowledge of how to fill in muxh of it to start and mom and can with it later. There is so much we forget and the years go on that it is good to have written down some where. I have for example, a "dear grand daughter story I keep adding to on my pc of all my experiences with and thoughts of my grand daughter to give to her once she turns 18. Stuff like that make wonderful gifts.

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This year i will graduate sophmore year in high school. I can say with no doubt that since I was little, I have never not had a best freind. Yes, I have lost my best friends before, but it seems like right in time for the next one to come in. But this girl is different. I met Lisa last year and now we are literally inseperable. i have never had a friend that understands me like she does, and I couldnt imagine going through theese rough high school years without her. Heres the catch...
Lisa is very mysterious. although she claims to always tell me everything, I am yet to stop findin out more things i didnt no abotu her. The biggest one being that she dated ANOTHER GIRL at the beggining of the year. she still has no idea i know (sidenote I am not against any gay people, i was just shcoked to find out she dated a girl because i never had thought of the possiblilty of her 2 be gay). Anyway, know she seems straight as ever. but i still wonder.
Lisa is also very un-touchy feely. She gets unfortable at the slightest things. She just started hugging me this year, and that was a huge step.
But here is my problem..
I think i may be in love with her.
I need help ! i cant tell if i am or not. You see, ever since Decemeber when i found out she dated a girl, I have been getting theese thoughts in my mind. They used to be just thoughts of me wanting to hug her, but not anymore. Now, we cuddle all the time, and sometimes are faces get real close. And i think about her kissing me. Im not even if i CRAVE it, i just get theese thoughts. And i always want to be around her and When i am iwth her i want her all to myself. I have never considered the option that I am gay...but dont no if theese thoughts are normal? I have though about dating her..and to me that seems ew. Just not for me. But whenever we get close...
I feel a strong connection to her and almost wish i could just try to kiss her. but than i feel silly and shut it down.
Heres another thing...
My friends say she OBSSESED with me.
I dont see it, proabbly because i am obessed with her. but idontkno...
One of my friends even thinks shes in love with me. But idontknow if thats true. Thing is, whenever i am not madly in love with being her best friend, I f*king hate her guts. literally I am so annoyed with about 30 percent of the time it ends up cativiating my mind. My freinds say shes a bad influence on me, but im not sure.
Either way, i am just really confused. Is this normal thoughts? Or should i question my sexual orientation?

I had to leave alot out of this story since i didnt want to make it to long, so if u have any questions..shoot me an Inbox. thanks for the help! it is much needed!

Your feelings are normal but not many people have them. There is such a thing as being Bi-sexual. Women who are attracted to other women and some act upon that attraction and enjoy sexual relations. The one's I know of, most all were married and had a healthy marriage. The husband was very understand and allowed her to have her girl lovers. This does not make one gay. Since you are still young, you may discover in the future, you are interested in guys or maybe not. Perhaps you will marry and have kids. So many possibilities. I am not saying you might be bi sexual or gay, but since that current situation is there for you, it would be a safe one to explore. I say "safe" because it is the one way girls can explore sex and orgasms without possibility of getting pregnant. Bear in mind that emotionally it can be very rocky at times due to the fact that females have their cycles and get quite PMS ing and nasty in temperament. Does this help or do you need to expand on your story?

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Hi my name is vanessa and im 17 i have a rabit dildo and other toys but no matter what i use i cant have an orgasm. But when i have sex i can. Plzz help am i doing something wrong or what but plzzz help.....Is my dildo not big enough or what.

No there is nothing wrong. Every woman is different. Some have orgasm like you do only when they have a partner, some only have it with toys. For a period of time in my life, I was involved in swing clubs and everyone there talks about their favorite toys and which works best for what. So I can say from those conversations, that most women get the best orgasms with toys through clitoral stimulation. Some need just the lightest vibration to get off. Other's like myself need a toy that is very strong in its vibrating ability. 80 to 90 percents of toys I have bought just didnt do it for me. And that's why I end up with usually just one. The small wand i use for clitoral stimulation I can't remember the name of. But it vibrates so hard that your hand will tingle forever just from holding it. Some sex stores will have models with batteries in them so you can see how strong they are. But touching anywhere on your body except 'down there' isn't going to tell you how well it will work. I say, wear a thin dress and hold the vibrator up to your crotch. If you can get a terrific sensation through the cloth, it will be better later right on skin. The ultimate toy out there, I had in a previous marriage so i dont have it anymore. But it is called the Sybian. Most people let alone a teenager won't find it easy to afford. But that one plugs in to an outlet, you straddle it, it comes with many parts. Give great clit and internal g spot orgasms. For cheaper on the budget g spot orgasms, I recommend using a pyrex wand that is curved to hit the g spot...no batteries, you just move it with your hand and it works better than the myriad of battery operated rubbery ones. Good Luck Vanessa

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