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I'm too young for crushes. But...I like him too.
I'm a 14 year old female. And this guy has a crush on me...Of course I know it's a crush, but...i think I like him too now. He's nice and caring. I know it's just infatuation, but what should I do? Thanks.
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I will tell you what I told my 3 daughters at that age. There is nothing wrong with having friends who are boys. Notice I didn't say boyfriends which implies going steady, dating, kissing and more. Male friends are always a welcome relief from the types of things girls want to discuss or do. I told my daughters, "you invite your girl friends to come over to our house, you ask if we can have them come along on family outings to the beach or amusement park (or whatever your family does). A boy shouldn't be treated any different." Let your parents know you have a friend who is a guy and you'd like to invite him over. At your age, there shouldn't be the pressure of couple dates. Why avoid a possible wonderful friendship just because others think it means it has to be romantic or sexual. Many adult women have had male friends that they are not romantically involved with. I am one of them. Sometimes the hardest part will be convincing the guy that it is okay. At your age, guys don't understand girls yet very well. The pressure to seem knowledgeable about girls is scary to them. It's unknown territory. If the pressure were truly to be taken off by the girl saying that she enjoys him as a friend and just like to hang out together like she does with her girlfriends and be friends... the good guys will jump at the chance. The ones who don't aren't worth getting to know because they are more concerned what their guy friends will think about him having a female friend who is not a romanctic interest. I realize that the crush feelings can easily be there and thats one of the special things about a friendship with a guy...it's the 'spice' that makes this friendship different in a most wonderful way from the friendships with the girls.
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If you read through a lot of the posts here from girls of your age you might well think that it's ALL about sex, and sexually related behaviour. The replies are realistic and responsible in general. But it's just as 'normal and natural' for a young couple to have a less physical, just fun and easygoing relationship. So try spending a little time together, with him as 'a mate who just happens to be a guy.' And see how things pan out. Try to avoid putting a 'label' on it at all. Good luck. There's absolutely no rush to do ANYTHING at 14 you don't want to.
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Ooooh Go on a date.
Hang out with each other- thats what people do when they like each other!
If it doesnt last, you can probably stay friends.
If it does, you could become his girlfriend.
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