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boyfriend avoids his friends when im around
Hey guys
So i have never really hung out with my boyfriend and his friends at the same time before.its not that i want to, but it seems kinda weird that he avoids his friends when he is with me. I know his friends they go to my school, and they know me too, and its not like my boyfriend is ashamed od me because when we first started dating he told all of his friends right away.
So for example, my boyfriend and i were in his room talking and stuff and his sister invited her friend over named jacob who is also my boyfriends friend too. (Him and his sisters mutual friend) anyway, so all of a sudden my boyfriend tells me to be really quiet and not say anything. I asked him why and he wouldnt say. He just quick opened the door ro his room, stuck his head out and said hi to jacob, and then shut the door again. He kept whispering for me to be really quiet.i persistentlykept asking why because it was frusterating me. After a couple of minutes, we heard jacob and my boyfriends sister leav the house and my boyfriend said he wanted me to be quiet because he didnt want his friend coming in and saying stuff..... What the heck i mean come on what kind of excuse is that.? Does that even make sense? What is another possible explanation for this? Im so lost.
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I suppose you could let this slide and wait to see if it happens again. If there is a reocurring pattern that develops and boyfriend refuses to explain to you, there's a couple of possibilities. One possibility is that he doesn't have enough trust in you to bare his heart, and answer truthfully for fear of anger from you, fear of ridicule or fear of something we can not picture yet.
You say that he told all his friends when you started dating. Is this something you personally witnessed and overheard? Or is it something he told you? There is a possibility that he is afraid of your discovering what he actually said to his friends if he embellished or stretched the truth. Some young men like to brag and tell tall tales, exaggerate because they want to appear manly and not wimps in their friends eyes.
Dating is a time for young people to discover what they like and what they don't like in a partner or future mate. I can guess from the fact that you wrote asking about this that you might be wanting a guy who is proud to be seen with you, a guy who is not afraid to be his own man and not cave in to peer pressure, a man who has no fear of what others think of him or of him with you, a guy who trusts you with his deepest thoughts, fears, hopes and dreams, a guy who is open and honest with you, who communicates well. You are learning a lot already. Girls at this age are usually a bit more mature. So if it means that much to you to get things out in the open, you will need to ask some very direct questions. Make sure your questions are not accusing him of something, just that it seems to look like. . . and that you need to know for sure if you are to continue to be a couple. If he still won't open up, you will need to decide whether you will continue to date him or not. Maybe it doesn't look like a big deal, but if you learn how to make allowances for poor behavior from a guy now, you will likely continue to do so in the future and end up married with kids to someone maybe even much worse. Remember, now it a time to spread your wings and learn from your experiences. Don't date simply to have a date, or because a guy asked. Good luck and blessings to you.
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