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is he interested?
I have a guy friend and I know i'm interested in him. He is a really big flirt, so he gets really confusing and its impossible that i'm the only girl to like him... We dont talk a ton, but he's not one to talk everyday. He invited me over to his house to watch a movie and cuddle a month or so ago, and we did watch the movie but just wound up sitting on the couch and later played Call of Duty; he later told a friend he thought I didnt want to be there (in which he was set straight and was told that i did..)
the other day we were messaging back and forth and having a random conversation where i told him i was tired of watching movies alone with my dog, and he said "well you don't have a boyfriend to watch movies with so yeah that would get boring!" and i said "exactly!" he then told me to "go find a guy at the club lol" and i said "i dont think so.." and he said "why not?" so i said "well im not going to find one at a club.." so he said "then where?" i replied "i have no idea.. see, i'm a traditionalist. he, must come after me haha" and then he replies with "oh, so he has to make the first move?" and i said "yes sir." so he said "i see i see."
thats where i'm confused; did he repeat the question because he was confused on how i worded it, or did he repeat it for a reason? someone help!
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There's a certain boldness that comes with age to just come out and ask what you want to know. I can ask men things now that I was too chicken to broach the subject on. I have some of the traditionalist in me too but sometimes darn it...men can be so dense and won't get a subtle question.
I have no more idea what your guy friend is thinking than you do. All I can do is give some examples of what you might say to get some meaningful, revealing conversation going.
For example, you say he is a real big flirt.
I'll call him Joe.
Me: So Joe, I know you love to flirt. I was just wondering if you flirt just for flirting sake, like a hobby, but the flirts mean nothing serious. Or do you flirt only with woman that you find something attractive in?
Joe: Yes, I like to flirt for fun. But I also only flirt with woman I am interested in.
Me: Really? Well, in that case I am wondering, since you flirt with me, what exactly is it about me that you find interesting. (or if he has not flirted with you yet) Really? Well you must have some interest in me if you invite me to watch movies, but you don't flirt with me. I am wondering, is it because you see me as more like a sister to you? Or do you feel more comfortable making friends with women than men for buddies without any romantic attachments?
A man who has some sexual attraction to a woman is going to pretty much come out and say so. If he simply acts on it and grabs for you without you knowing whats coming, then I'd really question his integrity as a man. He should be able to hold himself in check.
Sometimes the really good guys, may be the kind who has in words let you know how crazy he is about you but leave it in your hands to make the first move and proceed at a rate you are comfortable with. Don't focus on the meaning of a repeated comment. It may mean nothing. Basically, as it stands right now, you really know next to nothing about him other than he likes to flirt and watch movies. Thats not enough to proceed with making any move towards a more permanent relationship.
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It's really hard to tell what he means with all of this because we don't know him.
He is interested in you, obviously. If he invited you over to cuddle and watch a movie.
He might be interested in you, but who knows if he is interested enough to be your boyfriend. You said he's flirty, so he might be the type to just go that far and not want a steady relationship.
Because he was telling you to go find a guy at a club, so either he's saying he's not that interested or he's seeing if you're interested in him.
Anyways, you'll never know unless you ask.
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The trouble with being the kind of girl who waits for a guy to make the first move, is that you have to wait for him to make the first move - and he might not.
Does it sound like he might be interested? Sure. He definitely could be.
He also could just be a flirt, or he might like you, but not like you enough to do anything about it.
He might not have the confidence to admit he likes you, or he might like someone else more.
You'll never know unless you ask, or, if you wait around long enough, maybe you'll find out.
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