My Mom doesn't like when i watch like MTV cuz she sez there is always junk on. like and she wants me to lead such a sheltered life. Like she thinks i don't know anything about like sex and drugs and stuff. i'm 12 wut should i do?
Your mother is trying to let you grow up more slowly than everyone is pushing you into. MTV is not all terrible, but it isn't appropriate for a twelve year old who doesn't yet know what to do with all of the information thrown out by the music world. Its only goal is to sell music, no matter what You could see if she would watch it with you and explain why she believes you shouldn't watch it, but she probably won't. She will relax rules as you become mature enough to make your own choices. I realize that you already know something of sex and drugs, but you don't yet understand how bad those things can affect your life.
I used to sneak to a friends house to watch MTV. I wouldn't suggest it, but more things you do right the more privileges you get.
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I have written a few short stories and I think they are pretty good and I think they could be full stories if I had more detail. Do you think I could use them as playwrites?
You could probably flesh them out with a bit of work. Remember there is much more dialogue involved in a play and there is subtext between the lines. You might try talking to a drama teacher and/or checking out a book on playwriting. There are several available in the library (I actually have one, but have never finished reading it let alone starting my own play). Best wishes.
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Okay I really don't know how great of a question this is...or whatever...but I just really need help...
You see...I have social anxiety disorder...this thing is so hard to live with it's not even funny...that's just PART OF my problem...
I have been in love with someone named Orlando for about a year...but he doesn't know who I am and I'm completely sure it was/is love. Well, recently I found out he had a girlfriend and it broke my heart...
But...the thing is...I don't dwell on it as much as I thought I would...I still really like Orlando...more then I've ever liked any other guy before...but my LOVE for him is actually starting to slowly die down for him and I'm slowly starting to let him go...
Well...there is this boy...lets call him "EBO"...well... in 6th grade I knew Ebo and I never actually TALKED to him in person becuase of my social anxiety disorder...but i went to the movies with him adn some of my other friends often...well he was always really nice but I never really liked him or anything...
But...the summer AFTER 6th grade I tranferred schools and now Im going to high school in 3 months and I talked to Ebo a few times online and we had a long talk and we never opened up to each other that much and he said "I wish I could hug you" and "if you feel you need to say something I'm listening" and then about a month and a half later he just randomly said he missed me and about a month before he said he missed me is when I realized I really liked Ebo...I mean the boy is so sweet and caring.
When he said these kind of things (and they may not seem like a big deal) but it came as a shock to me and it made me get butterflies and it just came as a surprise because when I knew him he was never one to just come out and say things like that...and I really like him but as I was saying before I have social anxiety disorder...and I never spoke to him in personm before and I only talk to him online and I havent seen him for a year and supposedly he's changed a lot with his looks... (looks dont matter to mjeO but now a lot of girls want him and I'm just scared because he would probably think Im weird if I told him I liked him and I know he's not worth it if he thinks Im weird and he would never say anything mean to me (i know that for a fact) but Im just scared it would make things awkward and if I DID tell him we would never be able to go out with him because I probably wouldn't talk to him at all and I can't help that...and omg I really liek this kid what do I do??
I think you have made an excellent first step with this guy. He seems very caring if nothing else. I second the motion to invite him and several of your friends to some other group things. It will help you get used to talking in person. Eventually, you will want to spend some time exclusively with him. Don't rush it. I know its really hard sometimes just to go out and do things. I have this problem too, but I usually feel better once I am already in the situation. You might reasearch some things you want to talk about. Have an imaginary conversation with your mirror. You won't have to do this for long as you spend more time with him. Take a deep breath and dive in.
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hey..i am an inexperienced kisser and I would like some tips/advice on it...and the best things to do while you are kissing. thanks!
You can't kiss until you're married! Just kidding.
I usually have my head really close to the subject to be kissed and close my eyes about the time my lips meet theirs. Some people don't close their eyes. Sometimes I part my lips just a little (in case they might want to french kiss i.e. stick their tongeues in my mouth). Just take it easy, it will feel natural after a few times.
Usually you can tell when someone else wants to be kissed if their face is only a few inches from yours, and they stare longingly into your eyes.
The very polite sometimes ask if they can kiss you.
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I really really like this guy I'll call Mark, but he's going out with a different girl who I'll call Ruth. Ruth was at her cottage, and she called her best friend, and Mark was at her best friend's house! This is not the first time Mark did this, he cheated on a previous girlfriend with Ruth. The only problem is, how do I tell Ruth? She doesn't know, because her best friend lied and said it was her little brother.
1. Sit down with Ruth and tell him what he has been doing.
2. Do not admit to her you like this guy or she won't believe you.
3. Find some other guy to like. This one is bad news and will lead to heartbreak.
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my dad raped me. should i tell my mom, he said he would hrt me if i did. what do i do? thanx, gracie
Gracie,
Tell your mom as soon as you can. He told you that he would hurt you to intimidate you. Rape is very much about exerting power over the powerless. It is very damaging, and you will need medical and mental attention. I am sorry that this awful thing happened to you. Please take care of yourself. Its going to be a hard row to hoe with this one, so be as strong as you can.
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okay. there is this kid that has been in love with me for like 3 years. he constantly used to bother me at school and on the internet and stuff. not to be superficial or anything like that but this kid smells so bad you can't breathe around him - no lie. two summers ago, he told me he loved me and i said " ew" and he threw a glass bottle at me. after that i didn't talk to him for a while. then i decided i was too mean and decided to talk to him again.. but his obsession with me got HORRIBLE. finally at the end of my junior year he was pestering me and i couldnt take it anymore and i screamed at him to leave me alone. then after school i was walking to work, and i saw him in my field on the way there. i freaked out and didnt know what to do so i let him talk and after that i didnt want anything to do with him because seriously this kid is MESSED UP ( like OCD and anxiety disorder). i just dont know what to do when i go back to school and have to see him again. hellllpppp!
I would try to find a tactful way of saying that he might have a odor problem. He might not even know about it. After that, I would avoid him if he is bothering you that much. I would consider telling a teacher or someone if he is harassing you too much.
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I have medium-long super straight blonde hair. i was going to go super hippie and grow it out to my butt, but lately i have been wanting to cut it really short.. any opinions?
It's hair. It grows. If you want to cut it, go for it. Lots of guys prefer it long, but it doesn't really matter that much.
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OK, this is THE MOST EMBARRASSING QUESTION I HAVE EVER ASKED on Advicenators, but I need to ask it, sooooo... here goes...
I'm 14 and my breasts aren't really small, but they're pointy! It's so embarassing - even when I wear bras they still stick out all pointy, and I wondered if it was normal? Please help!!
You may just be terribly sensitive at the moment. You can put some band aids over them, and they won't show as much (the padded bra thing is a good idea too).
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I have been told that I am a very gifted actress, and my drama teacher said that I should get into theatre camp, but I live with my dad, and money is tight. I really want to go to theatre camp, but all the places I looked at are day camps that cost way too much money. (my dad has a tough job and cant drive me to and from camp so it would have to be an overnight camp) any ideas what I should do?
HELP ME!!!
Once you have saved money or gotten a scholarship, talk to the camp. Maybe there is someone you can share a ride with for a small fee or trade for some chores.
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I am into musical theatre and i met this guy while doing a show and i really liked him. Now we've sort of kept in touch, but i miss him so incredibly much. I've tried to see him a couple times but it hasn't worked out. What should i do?
~Confused~
I would continue to try to meet with him. Sometimes one show love affairs happen. They only last for the run of the show, and then they are gone. It sounds like he likes you as a friend, but not committing to coffee even sounds like he isn't really into it.
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im tryin to make a long story short it mite be hard to make out, and if it is, go to my column...im southern_chickety, and ask me!!
i've wanted to be an actress for the past 2 years
i love acting, and i take theatre classes, my mom wont support me in it tho, because the said it's a hard career, and it wont be easy to find a job, and it wont be cheap, and we dont have the money to spend, i mean my parents are raising 3 kids, and they have one in college
i wanna go to acting skool and stuff, but now every1 is sayin if i go to acting skool ill just become a broadway actress, and i dont wanna do broadway, i wanna do movies
i'm really confused, should i follow my dreams,and try to be an actress or listen to the family¿¿??
im 14/f/nc
When you get to college, you can still take theatre classes in addition to whatever else you want to pursue. It is terribly hard to be an actress, but it isn't impossible. It is possible to double major--its tough but doable. So you could major in performance and something else or minor in performance. Some of the best movie actresses started in Broadway,and they sometimes return there. So don't blow off Broadway. In the mean time find some community theatre to audition for. There is a lot of that going on.
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one of my really good friends (shes 14) has been having sex with this one guy for over a year now. she used to be going out with the guy, and not she's not, but she's still having sex with him. she's been hurt before because of this guy, and i just don't want her to get hurt again or get into a bad situation. she has b.c. but sometimes forgets to take it and doesn't read the instructions on how to make up for lost pills. i don't want her to mess up her life at such a young age. any advice on the topic would be great. thx.
Holy cow. She is too young for this stuff at all. Have you confronted your friend about how her life would be over if she had a child? No mall, no prom, no anything? If she wants attention, this isn't the way to get it. She could possibly be taken advantage of from this guy. If you can redirect her attention to other things, it would help. If there is any possible way you could tell someone you both trust, I would say so. This is too much too soon. I wish I had all of the answers. I am praying for you both.
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I have this one friend that i just met and he's thinking about commiting suicide how do I change his mind? We all care about him and he just won't listen to us! We have told hm that we care about him and would hate to see this happen to him but he just wont listen to us! What do I do? Keep in mind that no matter what were not going to send him to see a shrink!
You have got to tell his parents or someone who you all trust. He needs help. If he is telling you, then he is begging for some sort of help. It feels awful when you know that they are thinking about it, and then they follow through. It is even worse when you don't know why they did it.
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does anyone know anything that i can do around the house that will get me $?
You can come do my dishes....just kidding. Ask your parents what they need. Mention you would like a few extra chores for some moolah.
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I can talk to my best guy friend Matt on the phone for hours... and still find things to talk about. We talk on the phone a lot, but it's always me that calls.. or him calling me back. So I thought well I'll wait and see how long it takes for him to call me..
A week goes by, nothing.
Finally I have to call him, and we have like a two hour conversation and he even complained that we hardly talked the last week. (In my mind I was thinking yes and it tore me apart.) I mean it seems like he likes talking to me, but he never EVER calls..
What's the deal? Is that a sign he just doesn't really want to talk? Or am I reading into this to much. I know how it feels to be called my someone who you REALLY don't want to talk to, but talk to anyways.. maybe it's like that?
I'm so confused..
Drop him a hint that you would like to be called sometimes the next time you talk. Don't worry yourself overmuch about this. If he is returning your phone calls and taking them, you are fine. When he stops returning phone calls, then give him a break.
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alrighty i need as many people as possible to answer this question for me alright so my bf said he'd call me back and its now 10:36 and he said he would call back at like 9:40 he said... well being that he is at his cousins with like adam, shaun, and nate i think hes just havin fun so thats prolly why he didnt call or something but ... i did kinda be mean when we said goodbye 2 phone calls ago and he said you did sound kind of mean why you said goodbye you were kinda like K bye when i asked him and he said hey can i call you back and thats when this sit. came up but i was like yeah and is like k bye... i was thinkin... smart@$$... but i didnt say that.. that'd be out of line i think... just help me out... should i also send a text to him saying hey just wanted to say goodnight and ill see you later love you (name) alrighty.. plz help
He's having fun. Get a hobby.
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I'm 15 n my bf's 17.Earlier we used to speak about a lot of topics but now we feel at a loss of words.We simply don't know what to speak about.Could u please give me some topics to speak about?(Besides school)
-Butterfly004
Maybe you are spending too much time with your boyfriend, and not enough time reading. Even the newspaper has current issues in it that would help. I also like to listen to NPR news in the car (well this would be a little hard since you are 15). The news on TV helps some. Or the serious sitcom you watched the night before. Abortion, the War in Iraq, crime, who you want to be president are all good ideas.
Then there are thing you would want in the future: where you would like to live, what your dreams are, etc.
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I keep having dreams about my ex-boyfriend.I have never seen my present boyfrend in my dreams.The more I have dreams about my ex the more I wanna get back with him.What should I do?
This actually happened to me a few months ago. Try to spend as much time with your current boyfriend, and the dreams will eventually disappear. You can call your current beau on the phone, write him a letter, or drop by his house.
Just don't stalk him.
When the dreams disappear, you won't miss your ex as much. This took several months for me, but the guy I broke up with was very obessesive and invasive. I now have really exciting dreams about my current boyfriend.
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Due to an error that really messed up the site today, I've set up the "give advice" page to operate in "backlog mode" (because, well, we're backlogged). What this means is that instead of just seeing the newest questions first, you're seeing questions with the fewest answers first. After someone answers a question, it gets bumped down. This helps to make sure every question gets answered, and all the questions are answered equally. Questions three days old just aren't shown at all.
I put the site in this mode because we're in an emergency situation, but what do you think of it? Should we have it like this all the time, so questions with no answers are at the top, waiting for you? Or do you think we should go back to the old way, so you always see the newest questions when you click on "give advice"?
Answer with your opinion!
I think it is better to see the newest questions first because some people need their advice more quickly than others. It doesn't bother me to sort through the days question to answer those that have no answer at all.
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