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hello
i am suffering from some sexual problem like
when passes urine i feel burning sensation,
an ulcer type on my penis
Burning during urination is an indication of a urinary track infection. An ulcer on you penis could be an STD or something else. Fact is only a doctor can tell for sure.
If you do have an STD or UTI; you need to be seen by a doctor ASAP. We are not doctors and we cannot help you or diagnose you. Only a doctor can do so. If you do have syphilis or gonorrhea or any of the other STDs the sooner you seek medical treatment the sooner you will know what you have and what and how it can be treated.
Go see a doctor today!!!!
okk i want to use birthcontrol zinc and proactive for my acne but im not sure if thats to muh to use could any bdy help me out?
This is a question that really needs to be asked of your doctor. None of us are doctors and cannot make that determination. There are a lot of information about you that go into making that type of determination. Information that only your family doctor has, who knows you best, and answer this question for you.
If you are over 14 you can have this conversation in private with your doctor. By law that conversation and any other medical conversations, examinations you have with your doctor(s) is confidential. The doctor(s) can tell no one without your written permission, not even you parents.
To be certain of non-disclosure to anyone; tell the doctor that the examination or consultation you are having is confidential and is not to be disclosed. The law is HIPPA; Health Information Personal Privacy Act. You can look it up on line if you want more information.
im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m
My mum has told me in the past, before i ever had a boyfriend, that she's aware that i'm at the age where ill start to get sexually active. I never had a boyfriend during high school or anything and never have done anything more then kissed a guy. She was proud of me for holding out on having sex and everything considering alot of my friends lost their virginity when they were 15-16.
My mum is the kind of person that makes alot of jokes about things, but its this jokes that are making things very awkward for me. In the past i wouldn't have minded cause i was single and she knew there was no one that i would be sleeping with. But now i have my very first boyfriend, and the things she says are really affecting me.Especially when i need to talk to her about being safe. When i first told her that the boy of my dreams took me to the lookout on a mountain overlooking the city and asked me out, the first thing she said was "he didn't knock you up or something did he?". She keeps making remarks about me and my boyfriend and it makes things awkward and its making me scared to have a very important talk with her. She lets me stay over his house and everything, and tells me she trusts me, but then she goes and asks my sister if im having sex with my boyfriend when i stay at his house, and when my sister said no, she sighed heavily and said she was so relieved.
My boyfriend and I, have talked about sex. We both want to wait a while and not rush into anything, as i'm still a virgin and he is willing to wait till i'm ready. He wants to make it special for me and told me that he can wait as long as needed, he also doesn't want to move too quickly. The thing is, we both think its a smart idea for me to go on the pill, so that we have protection for when that day comes. My body also needs a couple of months to adjust to the pill itself, and i dont think theres any harm in starting it now, so that i have that security. The thing is, i was meant to go on the pill a couple of months ago, before i even had a boyfriend, due to excruciating period pain. But i kept putting it off.
now im stuck in a very awkward situation. I feel like i cant talk to my mum about going on the pill and getting protected, so that when me and my boyfriend are ready, we will be safe. Most parents would appreciate their daughters confiding in them about sex and being responsible and making smart decision in regards to preventing pregnancy, but i cant seem to do that now knowing how much she doesn't want me to have sex etc etc. The thing is, when i do tell her, i want to let her know i wont be having sex anytime soon. I feel almost like the adult in this situation, as i want to be safe and she seems to make a joke out of anything. It hurts me when she assumes my boyfriend is careless and only after one thing, when she doesn't understand he's not like that and wouldn't force anything on me if i didn't want to do it.
Razhie may be right that your mother is reaching out to you in someway; I can't be sure from what you have written. You are also correct that you are an adult now and you do not need your mothers opinions or permission to go on birth control.
One thing you can do to change your situation is to find a part-time job. While full time jobs are hard to find, part-time jobs in many areas are available if not plentiful They may not pay much more than minimum wage. It may even seem demeaning to ask if you want to super-size that order. The one thing they all have in common is they pay real money, more than enough to pay for your birth control pills. Even if you are still in school there is nothing wrong with getting a part time job to have some spending money.
You may also be able to get birth control pills from a free clinic in your area. A clinic sponsored by planned parenthood or group like it may offer free birth control. Something you could check into.
The other thing you need to do is take moms comments as her way of trying to make light of a serious subject. IF you wish to talk with her on this subject try asking her to go shopping or out for coffee were her comments, if over heard, might be embarrassing to her; this will make talking to her easier for you. Then in a quiet spot talk to her about your desire for going on birth control. Tell her you not only want then so you can be responsible when you do decide to have sex; you also have a medical need for which your doctor has recommended them. Go on to explain what that medical need is and whatever your doctor has told you how the birth control pills will help. Then if you feel you need to you can explain why you have not had sex yet and when you will have sex.
In other words when it comes to giving some young man your virginity you have certain standards. When you meet someone that meets those standards then if the time is right you will have sex.
You have been very responsible so far and not given in to peer pressure so many other girls and boys have. You can only give your virginity to someone one time after that it is lost forever. Although there is nothing wrong with saving yourself for your husband,if that is what you decide, there is nothing wrong with waiting until you find someone who will appreciate the very precious gift you are giving him.
We receive many letters on the subject of when to have first time sex. In answering those letters I found the following website to refer theses girls to. It deals with When do I know I'm ready? You may want to look at this web site.
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.
15f
what is the best way to deal with depression without seeing a doctor or using a hotline???
Doctors are finding and treating more teenagers for depression than they use too. Teenage depression is now something doctors recognize and treat as a disorder where once it was looked at as merely a phase teenagers went through.
Most depression is more of a medical condition than a mental condition as the cause is the lack of one or two chemicals secreted in the brain to control depression. Since these chemicals are secreted in the brain doctors prefer that a psychiatrist treat the patient rather than the family doctor as the psychiatrist is better trained for this.
Lets face it; if someone is going to tax the chemicals in the brain that control moods why not a teenager, especially a female. You have all the facets of puberty to deal with. The hormones racing through your body, the changes in your body, both outwardly and internally. Plus there is a change in schools not once but twice both of which come with a whole new social structure. The there is learning to deal with boys and their suddenly seemingly to have six sets of hands.
We cannot forget the changes at home. You have more responsibilities, more is expect of you both at home and in your school work. College is on the horizon, SAT scores are on your mind. Part-time jobs are also on the horizon. This is a lot to handle when your 15 years old.
There are certain things you can do to organize and limit the impact of these things though they don't go away. For some of us, some, not the doctors, call us "Type A personalities" get so wrapped up and put so much pressure on ourselves we just don't have the reserves to handle it all. At least that is my way of putting it.
When this happens the doctors can help us with medication and talk therapy. Talk therapy with a trained counselor in teenage depression can help you identify what is really causing you the most stress and help you deal with it in a way that will be less stressful.
Talk to mom or dad and tell them what is bothering you. ask to see the family doctor and tell the doctor what is bothering you. The doctor will most likely what to do a full exam just to rule out other causes. Then expect to be referred to a psychiatrist for treatment.
Suffering from depression is does not mean your crazy. More people suffer from some form of depression than we think. according to a recent study as many as 1 in 5 of us suffer from some form of depression at sometime.
Why are my breasts in pain?!
They started to hurt a week after my period ended.
Also i am still a virgin so there is no chance i am pregnant!
Knowing your age and knowing that you had already spoken with your mother would have lead me to giving you a different answer. At the time I answered you this information was omitted. Most of these type questions come from much younger women.
Since you are not pregnant and the pain started after your period; I recommend checking in with a gynecologist. If for no other reason then to rule out any problem in your milk ducts, such as a tumor or a tumor that is to small for you to feel with a self breast exam. A tumor does not have to be cancer but why take the chance. Check with someone who can make a proper diagnoses.
There are a number of reasons your breasts could be causing you some pain.
Problem is none of us are doctors and it is impossible to examine you over the web which would be necessary to make a diagnoses. Not being doctors we cannot make a diagnoses.
Best thing to do is talk to your mom and go see a doctor if she feels it is necessary. Never feel ashamed or embarrassed to talk to your mother when something is bothering you. Especially when it has to do with your reproductive system. Remember mom has they same parts as you do. They are just a little older than yours.
Most likely whatever is bothering you is just a part of puberty but we can't tell. Mom might be able to tell by asking you some questions. Just a reminder of the age old mothers come back that is appropriate here; "she use to change your diapers," so she had seen everything before.
My parents recently found out that me and my boyfriend have smoked weed together before. After getting caught, we swore to each other (for the sake of our relationship) that we wouldn't smoke weed at all until we're eighteen. How can I get my mother to believe that we are being legitimate? She also doesn't trust me and thinks that I will get sexually involved with him in all the wrong ways, but we have both established our boundaries (no sex until we have been dating for a year, but we are both open to fooling around and oral sex and such). I have always gotten good grades and still do, I am respectful, and my mom has always trusted me. I need that trust back. How can I go about acquiring that?
First please don't confuse trust and love. While you may have lost you moms' trust I doubt you have lost her love. As a parent myself there are many things my children can do to loose my respect; I can think of nothing they can do to loose my love.
To gain moms respect back you need to show her that you are respectful of her wishes. Getting good grades, helping out around the house, doing as she ask of you without argument all help. Time is the only other factor. It will take time for mom to begin to trust you again.
Smoking weed was a big error in judgment on your part. It does not matter if the weed was yours or your boyfriends. Whether you smoked the weed because your boyfriend urged you too or because you really wanted too. What your parents saw and what I see is you did something you knew was wrong and you did it anyway. We are asking ourselves what will happen the next time you are faced with the same choice.
My biggest worry was never drugs, it was alcohol. I was always worried they would drink and drive or get in a car with someone that had been drinking. I have always said to my kids, if you drink we will discuss that in the morning, but call me and I will come get you wherever you are. Thankfully they have always called and yes we did discuss their drinking. I never yelled and I never punished for in the end they did what I asked of them.
These are the concerns of a parent when a child lets them down and does something they know is wrong but do it anyway. It won't be easy; it will take time; but you can earn your parents respect back.
I would suggest as a first step you sit down with you mom and tell her how hurt you are that you have lost her respect. While I'm sure you have apologized for what has happened you need to tell her again that you plan never to let something like this happen again. Tell her how import having her trust and respect is to you and ask her what you need to do to earn that trust and respect back. Then work hard to do those things.
You sound like your a good daughter and a typical teenager. You made an error in judgement. It won't be the first and it won't be your last. Hopefully you can learn from this and limit the number of judgement errors you make in your lifetime.
My mom, her friend, and I are all tryingto think of ways to make some extra money. My mom and her friend both work in the health field, but they both only work part time And it'd be too much to work full time. I'm 18, about to be 19 and am
a college student.
Any ideas for extra money?
Need more information as to what your mom and her friend do exactly in the health field. Then what you can feel you do to assist them.
I am a freshman in college now and currently have about 14 years ahead of me for schooling. I would like to be a forensic pathologist but the pay versus the school is a little risky. Along the path however i would recieve a Bachlors from my first college, A Doctorate from the second (Med school) and 4 to 5 years of what they call "residency" for what that is worth. I am seeing the salary for a forensic pathologist vary from $34,000 to begin and $270,000 experienced. And i am wondering is this the right path or is there something better? i do not mind about 15 years of school, no more than that i would eventually like to have a life haha. And i also would like to say that i am hoping to adopt one early teenage child during med school if that is possible and then have my own after med school. I know that alot of people will probably tell me to wait but i have always wanted children early and i think it is a responsible step to wait until after med school. But would still appreciate your opinions. Please help me =) thanks in advance.
This may sound a little foolish to you but it is the most true of anything anyone can say to you.
The most promising career is the one that brings you the most enjoyment. Not every career is going to bring you the most money. Yes, there are jobs out there that will allow you to earn lots of money. If you are not happy at that job all that money is meaningless. Yes, it is also possible to find a job that allows you to make a lot of money in a job you enjoy but first you need to identify what it is you enjoy most.
What is you like that you are really good at. Do you like science or math. Then you need to explore careers where your interest and experience in science or math can be used. Maybe you are good at art and drawing. If art, drawing and math are things you are good at you may have hit a trifecta in an engineering career.
Having a life plan is a good thing and you should be proud of yourself for planning for your future. To have an enjoyable life you need to take everything into consideration not just how much money you can make.
Most importantly no one; not I or any of us here can tell you what career path to follow. This is something only you can decide.
Can you get in trouble if you are at a party or someones house and they are doing like heroine or something, can you get in trouble for just being there?
Just purely curious :)
well actually what if people are just doin pot and I'm there can I get in trouble if the cops come?
The situation you have written about differs based on the laws of each state. It can also differ based on what and how different officers observe when they arrive at the party.
They have a certain amount of leeway and can charge only those that the find in possession and under the influence of what ever they find. They can also arrest and charge everyone at the party and let the states or district attorney sort out who to bring to trial and who to dismiss charges on.
You can have the same type of party in two different states with laws that look identical. One states law has only slightly different wording. In that state the police can only charge those in possession and those under the influence. In the other state the can charge everyone.
The best thing to do is not to put yourself in that position. If you are at a party and someone or group starts using dope you get up and leave. That's what I did. There is a reason drugs are called dope; only dopes use them.
Ok so I'm having really bad period cramps I have ovarian cysts and I already took pain pills but it's not working at all!!!! What should I do to help??
You have already taken the pain medication your doctor prescribed and it is not helping.
While I realize this is a holiday weekend and your doctor does not have office hours until Tuesday you should call the answering service and have your doctor paged or the practices on call doctor paged. If you didn't have ovarian cysts my advice might be different, but you do and waiting until Tuesday to see a doctor could be dangerous.
You don't say how old you are so I am also going to suggest you tell mom or dad or both that you are in pain and the pain pills aren't helping. This is not something to hide from them or be embarrassed about.
After you speak with your doctor by phone the doctor can decide if a stronger medication is needed or if you need to go to a hospital emergency room where a doctor can examine you, possibly use a sonogram to examine your cysts and make a proper diagnoses as to what to do for you.
As someone who has to deal with chronic pain caused from an auto accident. I am always asked to rate my pain on a scale from 1 to 10 with 10 being the worst pain I have ever felt. Rate your pain in this manner for your doctor so the doctor can get a proper feeling for how bad the pain is for you.
18/f: I am gonna be doing college part time next year and so I'm gonna have more time on my hands. I feel like I have no hobbies, nothing to dedicate myself to, nothing to make me a more interesting person. I am living on a college budget, and I live in a country where most private classes are expensive, and there aren't many other sports clubs other than soccer, especilally not for girls. I am intereste in many things, baking, cooking, sports, crafts, photograpy,art, etc. But I am not particularly good at any of them, and I dont know where to start learning without spending a lot of money. Any suggestions? thanks.
Not knowing what country you are from it is going to be hard to answer your question. This being so I will base my answer on college life in the USA were I am from.
College life is much different from the school life you have been use to. You are treated in a much more adult manner and are free to pick and choose from many different activities. As for picking a hobby I would start by looking at your Colleges' student guide or hand book under student activities. There should be a listing of the different activities sponsored or sanctioned for on campus activity.
The nice thing about a hobby is what matters is your interest, not how good you are. Take photographs for instance. You will most likely find people in this club who are not as good as you and who are better than you. In a club like this it is all about learning from others and doing together. The same would be true for most other clubs you might have an interest in. Some clubs may state, "beginners welcome, or this is for advance people only". Not exactly snobbish for the advanced club just that a beginner would be lost and not get much enjoyment in that club.
You can also check at the student union for other activities that may be posted there. These activities are generally not sanctioned by the college and meet of campus. There is nothing wrong with these groups, they just for one reason or another do not meet one or more of the requirements for college sanctioning.
As I said college life is different from the school life you are accustomed to. You will find plenty of activities if you know where to look. I have offered you two places to look. I'm sure once college is open you will find more places to look.
Ok so I guess yu could say I have eating pro lens but I'm trying to stop but I was wondering that once you don't eat alot for a long time then start eating 3times a day will you get fat:(
I read what you wrote and what I see is not the question you asked. What I see is you are still more concerned with the cause of your eating disorder.
You are either anorexic or a borderline anorexic. This of course is my opinion based solely on two lines of writing. Not being a doctor it is mostly an educated guess based on letters I have read for those that are anorexic.
Anorexia is a very serious and life threatening disorder if left untreated. By not eating, properly, your electrolytes become unbalanced. This leads to different organs in you shutting down. The last organ(s) is you heart followed by your brain. You are then clinically dead.
To say it won't happen to you is being very foolish as that is the direction this disorder takes if you do not reach out for help now. I wish there was a 24 hour help line that people with anorexia could call for help, but there is not. What you need to do is see your family doctor and do as he/she instructs. You need to inform your parents and close friends of your disorder and ask for their help and support.
Talk therapy from a clinical psychologist trained in eating disorders is also needed. There is an underlying reason you have chosen this route. A trained psychologist will help you find that reason and deal with it.
Once again these are my thoughts and suggestions based on what I see in your writing. If I am wrong I apologize. The fact of the matter is I don't think I am; so please for you own best interest see your doctor.
i am 14 and my boyfriend has asked if he can finger me he keeps asking and i dont no what to say because he has told me we will stay together if i let him but wont if i wont let him , i was worring that i am two young so what should i say ??
As someone old enough to be your grandparent I am going to try and impart something you should always remember when it comes to matters of sex.
Never ever let someone try and coerce or force you to have any type of sex or sexual relationship with them that you don't want to do or have. This is true if you are 14 or or 114.
It starts with what he is telling you now. Then its is he wants you to take of your blouse and bra or pants and panties off. Always with the threat of if you don't he will leave.
Show this boy where the door is an find a young man who will respect you and your boundaries.
Dear Readers,
I found my mom's vibrator and also alot of other digusting things in her drawer.....!!! I was just trying to find my car charger for my phone .....she even was the one to send me in there......!!! Was she trying to tell me that way or did she think I was just STUPID!!! Any way I found it ........what should I do?????........PLEASE COMMENT ON THIS........I NEED TO KNOW....!!!
Thanks,
Elizabeth Little
You say you found "mom's vibrator and also a lot of other disgusting things in her drawer", but not what those things were. You also did not say why you find these things disgusting.
Lets stat by me saying that there is nothing wrong with masturbatory toys, even if dad is alive and well and living with you. Masturbation is a normal part of ones sex life, be they married or single. A recent report I read states that 90% of us masturbate. The report went on to state that most organized religions, including the Catholic religion condone masturbation. Bear in mind condoning and approving have two separate meanings.
Is it the fact that you find mom masturbates disgusting? You shouldn't, your mother is a grown woman with certain sexual needs. Even if dad is still living with you she and your dad may have different sexual needs. Masturbation is a good way to relieve her needs while waiting for dads needs to catch up with her. Far better than mom having an affair to sedate her needs.
I'm guessing here though I'm probably correct in thinking, you may have found some other sex toys in moms draw. They may be toys mom uses in masturbation or toys that mom and dad use in sex play. If dad is not in the picture those toys may be toys mom uses when entertaining her boy friend. Fact is they are none of your business. As long as you did not find anything that could cause you mother true physical harm then it is her business only. If she derives pleasure from whatever you have found this is her business and not yours.
When it comes to sex, be it masturbation or intercourse, between two consenting adults there is nothing that is truly disgusting as long as it done consensually. As long as both partners agree and no one is truly physically harmed then it is only their business. It may not be something you would do but it only makes it disgusting in your mind.
My advise: You have no reason to confront or question your mother over your discovery. You neither have reason to feel any different towards your mother than you did before your discovery. Your mother either forgot what was in that draw or she felt you were old enough to see and understand what was in that draw. I would leave it at that.
IF you have questions about the items themselves. Such as how they work, or how she derives pleasure from them? Then you could if you wish ask her about them. Otherwise just go on about life as it was. She is still the mom she was before the discovery.
14/f
Hi I've been riding my bike a lot more often than usual and kinda suddenly,(it's pollen/allergy season) and lately I've been noticing my right eye is ITCHYYYY!!!!! I only noticed today that the lower eyelid is a bit swollen and the sclera is a very light shade of pink. Does this sound like pinkeye? From what I read online I think it is the not-infectious kind but I need an opinion I know is from a person. Thank you
The advise given by AskSinz is excellent advise. I will ad this. Until proven otherwise, after seeing your doctor, consider pinkeye to be very contagious. Once your doctor tells you if the form of pink eye is contagious or not it would be good to take some precautions to keep the rest of the family from getting it.
Wash your hands often.
keep your towel separate from the rest of the family.
try not to touch your good eye.
A warm compress may help relieve the itching.
Given that this is a holiday weekend you may want to go to one of the mini-clinics in your area, rather than wait until Tuesday to see your Doctor.
My situation seems to be different from anything I’ve ever heard of or read about. I love my wife dearly, but I’m about ready to walk out the door because my own emotional ‘love bucket’ has run dry.
My story starts in the 15th year of our marriage: at Valentines we had a marriage vow renewal ceremony then shortly after (March 5th) she told me about her infidelities during the previous years. Actually, she told me about 4 and it wasn’t until much later that I found out the number was way higher.
She’s said she was sorry, that she’d never wanted to hurt me, that she’d been ‘sick’, that she’d only done it for the attention and she just wanted me to forgive and forget and we could just go on as if nothing had ever happened.
When I cried and told her how much this hurt, she got angry and defensive. My position was (and still is), “You destroyed something that was very precious to me: what are you going to do to make up for that? I don’t know if I can ever trust or believe you again: what are you going to do about that?”
Her position: “Nothing! I stopped, didn’t I? Beyond that I don’t owe you anything.”
Even if our sex life hadn’t dried up, I doubt that I could muster much enthusiasm for a woman who turned out to be so much different from the girl I thought I’d married.
If only she hadn’t told me! My advice to every adulterer is: don’t ever tell unless there’s a burning chance that he/she will find out – in which case you need to tell them before they find out on their own.
I don’t want much: I was promised love, honor and faithfulness and I want that! If I can’t have that then I at least want a substitute I can live with.
The other side of the coin is that during this time I was a radio / tv broadcaster. The opportunities for me to have been unfaithful to her were abundant. Nope! Not once. Not even close.
Which leads me to the other edge of my sword of frustration: had I taken advantage of those opportunities then right now, we’d be on equal footing.
What would you do?
While thinking of how to answer you I keep being drawn back to the last part of your letter; "had I taken advantage of those opportunities then right now, we’d be on equal footing."
To me this comes under the heading of you thinking that two wrongs would make a right. I think you know that is not true and I ask that you not think that way. This is part of what is tearing you up. The fact that you had opportunities but you stayed faithful to your wife and have found out she was unfaithful. This is anger thinking.
A divorce may be in your future. This is something you have to decide, I or we cannot make that decision for you. What I can do is tell you I see a lot of anger in your writing and rightfully so. This anger will continue to impede you good sense in this matter until you get it either under control or out of your system.
The thought of marriage counseling both together and separate sessions is a good idea. Somehow I have the feeling your wife may not be agreeable to this. Also marriage counseling statistically ends more marriages than it saves. What it will do for you, even if you go alone, is give you the therapeutic source to get things out of your system with a trained counselor who can help you understand and put things in their proper perspective.
Once you can see things in their proper perspective, then you can make a proper decision. Decisions made under stress, which you are under at this time, are generally the type you end up hating yourself for.
My best advice is to seek marriage counseling. If your wife won't go then go alone. Once you have gotten your anger and stress under control you can then make a proper decision as to Wat direction you want your life to take. The worst thing you can do right now is to have an affair to get back at your wife. You will wind up hating yourself and you will give her ammunition to fight you with.
My husband is a drinker and he came home and totally went ballistic. He threw up on me, and more. How do I get him to stop doing that and say I love you?
You don't; alcoholics, which by your description of him, is what your husband is have got to want to stop. They stop when they hit bottom, Everyone hits bottom differently, or so my brother-in law, sober for 25+ years tells me.
For him it was waking up in the drunk tank. He and the officer that arrested him are now and have been the best of friends since that incident. The officer helped him get into AA. With AAs' help my brother in-law has been sober since and quite active in the AA community and with programs against drunk driving.
My best advice for you is to find an al-anon meeting in your area for you to attend. Al anon is for family members of alcoholics to help them deal with the family member who is the alcoholic.
The following web site will help you find a meeting location near you: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/local-meetings.
So I was job shadowing at the hospital where I live for a pharmacy technician position and naturally I asked lots of questions. One of the questions I asked was "have you had problems with people stealing drugs and what happens if they get caught" apparently this question was a no no. About an hour later I was told that they were concerned about the 'questions' I was asking and that I could never job shadow at that hospital again.
Would this be a normal reaction at any other pharmacy?
Did they just overreact?
What I'm really wondering is, I kinda want to become a pharmacy technician but because this happened I'm a bit concerned. I asked one question and was treated like a criminal. Was I just being naive or is it that easy to get in trouble in a pharmacy?
Well any comments or answers would be greatly appreciated. Thanks :)
While your question may have been one of general curiosity; it sent up a red flag to the person you were job shadowing and management at the hospital. Unfortunately they heard you ask: if I stole some drugs, would I get caught and what would happen to me if I did.
I am going to go out on a limb here and say you are a teenager who was either not given an opportunity to explain yourself or in the face of adult authority were to intimidated to do so.
Drug theft in pharmacies are a big problem and not restricted to hospital pharmacies either. No matter how benign your question was it set of alarm bells. To be honest if I was job shadowing or touring the hospital for some reason your question is probably one I would have asked. If I was job shadowing my question would have been one self preservation as being the new person, if hired, I would be suspect for any missing drugs.
If I am correct in that you are a teenager; then I would suggest you ask your parents for help with this. I would ask them to contact the president of the hospital and ask for a meeting to discuss this situation. This will give you an opportunity to explain why you asked the question in the first place. While the hospital may not change their mind about having you in their pharmacy. They can be asked to expunge any record they may have of your visit, their reaction and any action they may have on file in their human resource department.
my daughter is 10 and she wants to work at mackedonals so i was just asking plz she rilly wants to earn money to get her blackberry plz can she work there xx
From the way things are spelled I believe this is the daughter and not the mother.
First:I believe you need to be 13 to use this site, so come back in three years.
Second: To answer your question; you need to be at least 16y in most states to get the working papers you need to work at place like a McDonald's.
Third: What in the world does a 10 year old need with a Blackberry. Childhood passes all to fast as it is, don't rush things. You will grow up soon enough.
Im torn between faiths. the two faiths that i am torn by are Buddhism and Christianity, i have studied both religions adimently. so im not ignorant to eithers teachings. i am just torn on the which one to choose. As it stands im not religious, but have been trying to find a higher meaning in my life and have narrowed it down to these two. I feel the connection to both, so i am a bit divided. so any tips.
peace.
My son was born into a home of two different religions. My wife and I decided early on that we would not force either of our religions on any of are children. Rather we would raise then to respect and honor all religions.
My family was not thrilled with this choice but my in-laws were and helped in every way. My son is now and adult and has chosen to in some respects follow his mothers religion as it is the religion of his girlfriend and hopefully future wife.
He also honors my religion by celebrating the holidays with us. I say us as my wife does celebrate my holidays as I do hers.
This is probably not the answer you are looking for though it has worked for my son since he was old enough to understand the difference in our two religions. He chose to have presents at Christmas along with the rest of the neighborhood children and celebrate my gift giving holiday in a more traditional manner. In fact his best friend was the son of a minister who celebrate all the holidays along with my son. It was a great learning experience for both of them.