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How do I get my husband to stop drinking while telling him I love him?
My husband is a drinker and he came home and totally went ballistic. He threw up on me, and more. How do I get him to stop doing that and say I love you?
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By the sounds of it he is a alcohulic and will not stop untill somethign drastic happens. Find a way to help him see sense. Whether thats rehab or you own way of solving the problem. He proberly wont listen to you at first but thats just the drink. Stick by him and hopefully if all turns out well he will be gratefull. Your husand is going through a rough patch and it will be hard for a while but you have to stay strong.
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Therapy or rehab.
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You don't; alcoholics, which by your description of him, is what your husband is have got to want to stop. They stop when they hit bottom, Everyone hits bottom differently, or so my brother-in law, sober for 25+ years tells me.
For him it was waking up in the drunk tank. He and the officer that arrested him are now and have been the best of friends since that incident. The officer helped him get into AA. With AAs' help my brother in-law has been sober since and quite active in the AA community and with programs against drunk driving.
My best advice for you is to find an al-anon meeting in your area for you to attend. Al anon is for family members of alcoholics to help them deal with the family member who is the alcoholic.
The following web site will help you find a meeting location near you: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location).
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Alcoholics need professional help and the only way to recovery is too WANT the help.
Try talking to your husband when he is sober but keep in mind that many people who have a problem don't always want to accept that they need help.
Group Therapy: If he doesn't want to go then you can try offering to tag along with him for support.
Therapy: Talking to a therapist is always a great start
When people are drunk they often think irrationally and not with full function. Like I said your husband needs to want the help to be helped.
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