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found my mom's vibrator......What should i do...????
Dear Readers,
I found my mom's vibrator and also alot of other digusting things in her drawer.....!!! I was just trying to find my car charger for my phone .....she even was the one to send me in there......!!! Was she trying to tell me that way or did she think I was just STUPID!!! Any way I found it ........what should I do?????........PLEASE COMMENT ON THIS........I NEED TO KNOW....!!!
Thanks,
Elizabeth Little
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Relax!
Vibrators aren't disgusting. Sex isn't disgusting, either. Everybody, and I mean EVERYBODY, masturbates and has sex at some time in their lives. Just look at it as a natural fact and don't get caught up in feeling obligated to make pantomime recriminations due to this country's really uptight and hypocritical attitudes toward sex.
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In 5 years this will make a funny story to tell your friends. Just try to forget about it until then. I doubt seriously she realized you would see that stuff, I had the exact same thing happen to me when I was younger. Was helping move some furniture around the house when all of a sudden there's a dildo in the room and my mom grabbed it and ran red faced out of the room.
Just pretend it didn't happen. Just because it's normal doesn't mean it'll be a comfortable conversation for anyone involved.
On a completely unrelated note, I would advise coming up with a pseudonym for your online postings. It's usually not the best idea to volunteer your full name out into the world. Makes you easy to google. Sign with your first name, or a nick name people use, etc.
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You say you found "mom's vibrator and also a lot of other disgusting things in her drawer", but not what those things were. You also did not say why you find these things disgusting.
Lets stat by me saying that there is nothing wrong with masturbatory toys, even if dad is alive and well and living with you. Masturbation is a normal part of ones sex life, be they married or single. A recent report I read states that 90% of us masturbate. The report went on to state that most organized religions, including the Catholic religion condone masturbation. Bear in mind condoning and approving have two separate meanings.
Is it the fact that you find mom masturbates disgusting? You shouldn't, your mother is a grown woman with certain sexual needs. Even if dad is still living with you she and your dad may have different sexual needs. Masturbation is a good way to relieve her needs while waiting for dads needs to catch up with her. Far better than mom having an affair to sedate her needs.
I'm guessing here though I'm probably correct in thinking, you may have found some other sex toys in moms draw. They may be toys mom uses in masturbation or toys that mom and dad use in sex play. If dad is not in the picture those toys may be toys mom uses when entertaining her boy friend. Fact is they are none of your business. As long as you did not find anything that could cause you mother true physical harm then it is her business only. If she derives pleasure from whatever you have found this is her business and not yours.
When it comes to sex, be it masturbation or intercourse, between two consenting adults there is nothing that is truly disgusting as long as it done consensually. As long as both partners agree and no one is truly physically harmed then it is only their business. It may not be something you would do but it only makes it disgusting in your mind.
My advise: You have no reason to confront or question your mother over your discovery. You neither have reason to feel any different towards your mother than you did before your discovery. Your mother either forgot what was in that draw or she felt you were old enough to see and understand what was in that draw. I would leave it at that.
IF you have questions about the items themselves. Such as how they work, or how she derives pleasure from them? Then you could if you wish ask her about them. Otherwise just go on about life as it was. She is still the mom she was before the discovery.
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Nothing really. Your mother is old enough now and is entitled to have these things in order to gain pleasure. If you would like you could talk to your mum about it and ask her why does she have these things and tell her what you think of them. But apart from that if you think it's really disgusting then just stay away from them and if you can avoid going into that draw again.
Hope this helps xx
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Your mother is a full grown women who is entitled to have these things. I know it is a bit disturbing and weird but reality is, Your mother has the right to her business too.
I do not think it was a matter of your mother wanting you to "see" her things, She probably didn't think of it at the time. If you don't want too make a huge deal of it then don't. Pretend you never saw it and just get on with it, It's not that big of a deal.
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I would just put it back and pretend you never saw it. As hard as it is to not say anything because it's so embarassing to you, I'm sure it'd be awfully embarassing for your mom. I found a vibrator in my mom's bedroom as well, I was about 18 years old at the time, so I mentioned it to her and she told me it was a 'gag gift' from a co-worker because it was her 50th birthday or something! Disgusting!
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