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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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i didnt know what to put this question under. but if you shave like "down there" are you supposed to put lotion on..or is there a certain way to shave. cause i get little red dot and i dont know if its normal
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Its probably razor burn. Lotion will help a lot.
Use a new razor everytime and use lots of shaving cream or soap too. :)


Im a girl and i masterbate and it feels qood .. but what are some qood ways to rub myself or to use thing that make it sooooooo good ! (link)
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


ok so i went to take a pregnancy test today..i read the box which said to pee on the test for 5 seconds..me being the idiot i am..i peed on the cap..im all new at this so i had no clue there was a cap! i dipped the test in the toilet..and it came out negative..im thinking this isnt accurate because of all the water in the toilet..am i right or is it still ok to trust the negative? (link)
You are probably right. If you want a more accurate reading you should probably retake the test. Hope the results are the same. :)


how does weed affect your health? I mean, can you get lung cancer from it? What illnesses can you get if you're a pothead? (link)
Since I really didn't know for sure I looked it up. Found a site with all kinds of answers to many questions on the subject. Check it out.

http://www.nida.nih.gov/MarijBroch/Marijteens.html


As of recently I've been thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend.
Within our first month of dating, he asked me to marry him, and I said yes, out of my own stupidity. About a month later we got in a really big fight.. and I just didn't feel the same about him. Like before the fight we would talk about things like getting married and having kids, but after the fight, It made me feel way too uncomfortable. And I told him that.

Oh.. and a few days ago, he was at the gym, as usual, and some guy gave him some pills, telling him they were Tylonal Cold. For some stupid reason, he took them. He told me, a little bit after he took them, that they were making him dizzy. Then he started talking about how some people were after him and were gonna kidnap him. And then he started takling about how we were supposed to be together in our past lives, and how he wasn't gonna let these people take him away from me again. It really freaked me out..

Now.. I just.. I don't feel the same way I used to about him, and I definately don't feel the same way he does.. He's a tad clingy. Like when I asked him about what he would do if we broke up.. he said he would probably start cutting again, and drinking as well. He also said he might not be able to talk to me for a year or so. And it made me feel really guilty...

I need to know...Do you think I should break up with him? If so, when do you think I should do it, and what should I say?

Thanks very much. (link)
I think you need to break up with him. I agree he seems a little to clingy. Don't let anyone rush you into thinking of getting married so quickly.

What he does after you break up is his problem. Please do not be blackmailed into staying with this guy. Break up with him, just say you no longer have feelings for him, and if he acts goofy...contact an adult in his life to deal with it. It is not your problem. I would do it soon. :)


ok i sound like a idiot when i write this but here i go.My mum met this boy a year older than me and she told me to email him to help me about unis and things! so yeh i felt like a idiot doing it but i did we ended up more talking about meeting up.My friend told me not to but i want to see what he is like? but will i look stupid please help shall i meet up with this stranger or not? THANK YOU (link)
If your mom knows him why not have her introduce the two of you? Tell her he has been a lot of help and you'd really like to meet him. :)


"ean" what does it mean asap (link)
EAN is an acronym for:
Meaning Category
Emc Activation Number Business->General



Is there a way to masterbate that won't hurt? (link)
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


hey i am still a virgin and i plan to be for a long time .but i want to experience and orgasm without having sex and without using toys.how do i do it. (link)
http://www.coolnurse.com/orgasm_female.htm


um, i am a virgin and all. and thats kinda the problem. most of my freinds arent virgins, and i get made fun of. even my father had sex when he was like 12. and its driving me practilly INSANE! im sixteen years old, and i "enjoy" myself almost daily. i am speaking the embarassing truth. one of the minor reasong why i bought a computer was so i could look up porn. and i tell myself all the time ill stop "enjoying" myself once i actually have sex. and thats put me at ease for awhile. i mean, other that that i ok, besides sucking my thumb.one time, a prostistute was asking if i wanted a good time, and as sad as it may sound, i was saeiously considering it. and thats when i knew i had issues. so the actual question would be: do i have problems? is this humane? shold i go out and see a shrink? please, this took alot of courage to admit this, so, please,dont judge me. (link)
It is all perfectly normal. There is nothing wrong with you. Here are some links to site that will answer some the questions you are probably having. There is lots of good info here on everything. Hope you find it useful. :)



http://www.coolnurse.com/male_health.htm



ok, like i kno the basics and stuff, but like i how do boys and girls go through puberty like what all happens.i rate high if its very detailed. (link)
Details you shall have...check this website out.

http://www.coolnurse.com/puberty.htm


Ok, So like 3 nites aqo i went to the bathroom & there was blood on my underwear .. so i told my mom blah blah blah and shez like its your period .. [ 1st time ] and then i didnt bleed anymore at all .. but the day before that my stomache was makin werid noises [ NEVER D0ES ] && i had discharqe .. i still have discharqe but no blood .. i had cramps the next day and i felt bloated and all the symtomps BUT no more accually blood .. so do i have it or not ?? (link)
Yes, you officially have it. It may start out slow, and maybe you won't have it at all for the next month or so. More than likely it will start normally in the next couple of months. Here is a link for you to read up on what is happening.

http://www.coolnurse.com/menstrual.htm


what does activism mean? tell me right and ill rate a 5 (link)
ac·tiv·ism (ăk'tə-vĭz'əm)
n.
The use of direct, often confrontational action, such as a demonstration or strike, in opposition to or support of a cause.

Activism, in a general sense, can be described as intentional action to bring about social or political change. This action is in support of, or opposition to, one side of a controversial argument.

The word 'activism' is often synonymous with protest or dissent. It can take a wide range of forms, from writing letters to newspapers or politicians, to rallies and street marches, direct action, or even guerilla tactics.

In contemporary use, "activism" tends to be a word associated with the actions and ideologies of those on the political left. However, activism can stem from any number of political orientations. An activist may be called a freedom fighter by some, and a terrorist by others, depending on which side of the political fence is making the observation.






ok... like i was supposed to get my period like last week. but ididn't yet. i have my doctors appointment september1. and my mom said that i have to tell tehm the truth of when i got it. but my mom like never believes me so she thinks i already got it but i never did. so like she said if i never got it. and i tell them that that they have to run tests on me. is that true? because i never did get it yet this month. and i am scared. like i got it in march. like don't say like "oh don't say that you are no0t on your origional track yet. but my mom doesn't believe thast happens. so like what should i do. im so confused. what are the tests.... and like i don't know. i am so confused. like i can't remember when my last period was so i can't tell them that. so.. what do i do?

Rissa xoxoxo
13/f (link)
Just tell them as close as you can remember to the correct time you las had it. Heres some info on the exam so you know what to expect.

http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm

http://www.coolnurse.com/menstrual.htm


Is she punk or GOTHIC? I mean I know the difference, Im goth but She always changes. What is she for real?
ill rate 5's to good answers (link)
Human. I don't see her as either. She is just a person who dresses as she pleases, depending on how she feels in the morning when she gets up. As everyone should. : )


does anyone one if like school nurses give pregnency tests or anything (link)
I don't think they do. They don't around here anyway. They may not keep things private either.
You can get a home test at Walmart, or just about anywhere else. They are pretty reliable.
Let me give you some links to read. They may answer some of the other questions you are probably having. Both places have links to yet more places. Good luck to you. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm

http://www.coolnurse.com/gyn_stuff.htm


what are some things to do by yourself on summer
hi i am 13 years old and it seems like i never go anywhere with my friends i guess its because they are to young there like 12 but i have a 15 year old sister and she goes like every where with her friends i was wondering if i am just going to stay like this with my friends never going anywhere without there parents and i dont no how to ask my parents like not to come with me everywhere (link)
Why not pick a movie or something they wouldn't like. Ask mom if she could drop you and one or two of your friends off so you can go watch it.
This would work with roller skating or bowling, anything you'd have fun with.

If they just insist on going with you, ask them if they could just sort of be there but not be...sort of hang out by themselves somewhere close by. That way they are there if needed but you guys can still gossip and do your own thing. I think your mom would probably agree to that if you asked. Just do it nicely. Good luck and have fun. :)


i just moved, im 13 and i dont know anyone. chool starts wed and i wanted to know some icebreakers/tips/what supplies are common for 8th grade. much appreciated (link)
These were written for shy people. Shy or not thouogh, they are some pretty good ideas. :)

http://www.shykids.com/shykidschitchat.htm


OK see
Like I watch tv and I see all these ppl
having sex ! I mean I really want to !( I don wanna do it just because everyone else is doing it but I just really want to !) I really want to but I am scared
because I am a virgin ! I am really scared it will hurt like F****** Crazy ! \
I really want to have sex but .. not only do
I not have a bf but I am scared and..
I won be on Birth control until like later in next month ! ( I wanna be 100 percent protected ..
so I wanna use a condom and Birthcontrol!) Someone please help ! (link)
Here are some websites for you to check out.
http://www.coolnurse.com/sex.htm
http://www.coolnurse.com/birthcontrol.htm
http://www.coolnurse.com/sex_faqs19.htm
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm






i keep going for a wee the last few days, i've been at least 8-10 times just today i did have unprotected sex just over 2 week ago but he did pull out before he came i know people do get pregnant from the "pull out" method also im 10 days late for a period it isn't unsual for me tho but could i be pregnant? (link)
It is possible. I'd give it another couple of weeks before you panic about it thouogh. There are other reasons your period could be late besides the fact that it usually is. Stress is one of them! Here are a couple of sites for you to read up on. Hope they are of some use.

http://www.coolnurse.com/birthcontrol.htm

http://www.coolnurse.com/gyn_stuff.htm

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm

There is a lot of helpful information on the site. Do some looking around while you are there. :)




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