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um this is embarassing to ask
um, i am a virgin and all. and thats kinda the problem. most of my freinds arent virgins, and i get made fun of. even my father had sex when he was like 12. and its driving me practilly INSANE! im sixteen years old, and i "enjoy" myself almost daily. i am speaking the embarassing truth. one of the minor reasong why i bought a computer was so i could look up porn. and i tell myself all the time ill stop "enjoying" myself once i actually have sex. and thats put me at ease for awhile. i mean, other that that i ok, besides sucking my thumb.one time, a prostistute was asking if i wanted a good time, and as sad as it may sound, i was saeiously considering it. and thats when i knew i had issues. so the actual question would be: do i have problems? is this humane? shold i go out and see a shrink? please, this took alot of courage to admit this, so, please,dont judge me.
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girl your only 16 your smart , you know when it will be the right time, who cares what people think of you deep down i bet u they regret it , unless theyre f'ing retarted or what ever , no you dont have to see a shrink, your smart you will know when the times right
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From everything I know about guys, it's totally normal to "enjoy" yourself almost daily. Everyone does it, no one talks about it, and yeah, you're going to keep doing it even if you have sex. Lay off the porn a little, though - that stuff can really desensitize you after awhile.
I'd only be really worried about it if you started missing life to stay home and "enjoy."
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I think you aren't redy for sex yet, you still want to find the right person to have it with. you wouldn't like a 1 night stand, but a long term relationship. if your friends are judging you it is only because you are different and you aren't rushing. you have plenty of time top have sex you are only 16 you could have you 1st experience at 24 but it wouldn't matter. hope i helped.
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first thing you need to understand is --
SEX iS NOT EVERYTHiNG.
i just watched the movie, "40 YEAR OLD ViRGiN."
that guy was 40 YEARS OLD & he was still a virgin. & you know what, he turned out happy. it may seem like everyone is having sex, but really -- no one is. the people who brag about having sex really aren't. and if they are -- who cares ? what gives them the right to brag. it just makes them look like jackasses anyways. i have a lot of 18 year old friends that haven't had sex yet. they just choose not too. i mean, why are you trying to rush sex anyways ? don't you want your first time to be unforgettable. why lose it to a prostitute ? wouldn't you rather want to lose it to someone that means a lot to you. someone that you love. and who cares if you have to please yourself. it feels good doesn't it ? and i heard that the more porn guys watch, when they get to do the actual thing -- they're amazing. so hey, don't worry about it. one day you'll lose it -- and you'll be happy.
okay bye, have a nice day :)
<33 jessica
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if your parents brought you a computer so you can look at porn..thats pretty sick..i dont think i know one parent who would buy their child a computer and encourage them to watch porn or to have sex. you dont need sex...enjoying yourself is fine..and even when you decide your READY FOR SEX...you could and should still enjoy yourself.
i dont think you need to see a shrink..i think your parents do for wanting you to look at porn and have sex.
dont have sex until your so0o ready you know you will never regret it..dont do it just because
-meliss-
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Alright 1st u dont need sex ... i know i may seem like a loser but as you can tell im christian so i believe you shouldnt have it until ur married i mean who cares if your friends make fun of you thats gay as crap " haha your a virgin" whatta kinda crap is that.... so you dont really need sex .... maybe you shuold ask God for some help
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hEy hUn! oMgOsh! dont even worry! a million other people feel like you! the average age that a teen looses his/her virginity is at age 17 and 50% of high school students have never had sex! so as if it seems like everyone around you has had sex... they really havent! you have to wait! you dont want to have sex just to "have sex" theres not fun in that! you want your first time to be special, romantic and something that you reaaaly want! you dont need a shrink! your 16... your hormones are crazy, so your sex drive will be insanley high! so don't be desperate! dont let your 1st time be with a slut bag hooker! keep, keeping yourself satisfied and time will come when you won't be a virgin! good luck hun!
hope i helped!
xOxO, aLeX
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its perfectly normal and no, you dont need to go see a shrink. like someone else said, porn was here for a reason... a lot of people feel the way you do. but you cant forget that there are a TON of stds out now a days so whenever you do decide to do it, use protection. and while everyone else is making fun of you, put it aside. at least you havent put yourself up for major risks in life yet.
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phh ur father is like a pimp dude haha, j/p
Don't be ashamded ok? Your just like in your horny stages of live and like thing " oh man if i dont get laid my life it over!" well thats not true, porn was put on this earth for a reason hun. To give you something to think about, THINK OF ALL THE AIDS AND STDS THAT ARE GOING AROUND IN AMERICA TODAY! CAUSE AMERICAN GIRLS DONT KNOW HOW TO KEEP THERE LEGS CLOSED! (ya lets not do this to my world ok? thank u..)
It's kinda of a inside thing i always say in school, all my friends say i am like in my own little world, but like my own little world still consists of the ppl outside of it. so if the aids are on the real world there gonna be in my world 2! lol
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What is wrong is that you're desperate to find a way to be the same as they are I mean you should not feel embrassed what so ever I mean I'm a virgin what is so wrong about that.If they make fun of you just ignore them they think just because they had intimacy,you didn't they act like it's such a big thing I mean come on how ridiculous is that if you didn't oh well that is you and if they wanted to that's just them but you are a pure person inside and outside so don't feel alone on this other people too who never had sex before.Don't try to do something that you'll regret your whole life just to fit in with others who see you as nothing,don't even try to even spend a night with a prostitute nothing good will come out of that,even give you an std!Never go even near a prostitute just never make this big mistake again okay.For those people one day they'll get punished for making fun of others you just try not to get near them or try to avoid them so you won't have to hear them act immature to you or hear them say negative things about you.
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if your question is, "is this normal". most deffinetly. just because your still virgin doesnt mean you always going to be. its most deffinetly humane to be a virgin at 16. most people lose their virginity at 16-21. some people rush into it faster than others. should you see a shrink.. if you think you need one but from my perspective no. because im 16 to and like thats still kinda young. i may have lost my virginity but i think i rushed into it. so dont think your any diffrent or outcast because you havent had sex yet.
xO. jessica
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Do you have a problem? Possibly. There is a thing out there which is an addiction to sex, and "Enjoying yourself" could be part of the cause, but I don't think so. Since it is only daily. If it was twice a day, maybe, but probably not once.
My advise to you is to try to stop enjoying yourself (Wow, that was weird...) for a week. Depending on how much you think on it that week, make a decision. Did you think of it 10% of the time, 30%, 50%, 75%, 100% of the time? If you thought too much, consider joining a sexaholics anonymous group (There are such things.)
Second, do not have sex until you are ready to assume all responsibilities. Assume that each time you have it, the girl is going to get pregnant, even if you wear protection. That prevents me. :)
But no shrink. I don't think they would do much for this issue. For others, maybe, but not this particular issue.
-Steven
EDIT: I received your feedback. If you still remember the number of times you've done it, you are not addicted. I'd say like twice a day for 2 years is about when you'd get addicted.
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its normal dude, calm down. just wait until you get a girlfriend, im 16 and a virgin and i dont care who knows it. i know a bunch of people older than you that are virgins, so just wait it out
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There's nothing wrong with you.
My husband and I were both virgins until we were 26 years old (on our wedding night), so not *everybody* is doing it at your age. It might just seem like it, sometimes. ;-)
It's much better to wait for the right person to come along, than to just do it for the sake of doing it and not being a virgin anymore. That's a horrible reason to lose ones virginity and can lead to much regret. You only get one shot at it, you can't take it back.
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It is all perfectly normal. There is nothing wrong with you. Here are some links to site that will answer some the questions you are probably having. There is lots of good info here on everything. Hope you find it useful. :)
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