don't worry, i won't bite. you can come to me with anything. i live in alaska and i graduate c/o 2008. even though i'm really young, that doesn't mean i don't know what i'm talking about. i've been through a lot of stuff and i've been there for all my friends and family during their time of need. i love helping people. i actually plan to major in psychology when i go to college. so yes, don't worry. i'll be here to help.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a month, on Decemeber 15. We are always together, and I think that I love him. I know it's like, oh your a child you don't know what love is, but I really do believe that I am in love. We were laying on my bed on each other and I was thinking about how I love him, and I was about to tell him.. I asked him what he was thinking about, and he said, "I love you." It was like so strange though because I was just about to say the exact same thing, but anyways.. Wow, totally off topic. I'm 13, and whenever we are making out.. We get a little too into it, I suppose. Where it gets to the point when it's "dry sex", or having sex with your clothes on.. Yes, I know it's weird.. But, I feel the erge to want to have sex with him, and go farther, sexually. I am only in 7th grade, so of course I don't want to go that far.. All I have done with any guy is "feel up", because I refuse to go farther.. He was trying to finger me and I wouldn't let him. Basically, I am trying to ask..
Would it be wrong if I had sex with him?
I don't think I am ready, at all.
I could be wrong? Maybe, I am.
But - I am scared that next time we hook up that it will go a little too far.
And it's not like a 10 second hook up, it's more like 10 minutes.
Really, how far is "too far"?
I believe feel up is far enough for 7th grade.
But I'd love your views. (link)
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... wow, 7th grade --
but i won't look at that and i'll just answer your questions.
#1. "would it be wrong if i had sex with him ?"
-- you can't really ask us if it would be wrong. we are not you. only you can decide if it would be wrong or right. you say that you love him. and it's better to have sex when you love that person. having sex is not wrong, it's normal. but at your age make sure you use protection.
#2. "i could be wrong ? maybe, i am. "
-- if you seriously don't think you are ready. then don't do it. don't do something you don't want to do. you're in 7th grade, you have your whole life ahead of you to experience this kind of stuff.
#3. "how far is too far ?"
-- again, only you decide that. you think it's being "felt up" but another person might think it's having sex ? so it's up to you, you choose your morals.
-- and the whole, "too young to know" thing is a bunch of crap. when you Love someone, you Love someone. it's just a little weird that you fell in Love in 6th grade, because when i was in 6th grade i didn't even really pay attention to boys.
i hope this helped.
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hey i am 14 years old and my boyfrend wants to finger me. i want him to and i'm not scared about that but i just dont no what to do or anything i need serious help... lol and i am not to sure what happens when he does it either!? (link)
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well, since you seem ready. just go for it.
but be careful. make sure you know your limits. one minute he is fingering you and then next you two are having sex. hormones are raging, especially at fourteen. it's a different experience. but if you truly confide and trust your boyfriend then you won't regret it. make sure that you're not going to regret it. and make sure his fingernails are groomed and clipped because that would really hurt. the sensations are different than anything you've experienced. be aware of that. you won't be able to control your body or your feelings. just be careful and make sure that you're ready.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating since July 4th and he really liked me before then we've dated in the past and now lately he's been acting like he doesnt care and he says he'll call me back and never does and he says he wants to hang out but in order to hang out he has to call me! how can i get my boyfriend to like me more?!! and i need something really smart and please dont say break up with him because i dont want to..
THanks in advance**
i'll rate high
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let's use a story to tell some advice :
my [ex] boyfriend and i were dating since august. and it was all great in the beginning. we were really happy. then as we got into the relationship -- he started acting like he didn't care. just like how your boyfriend is acting. sad thing is, i put up with him. i would wait around for him and wait for his call and put up with his stupid attitude. so one day we got into a fight and he told me all the things that were wrong with me, and stupid me -- i tried to fix everything, meaning i changed myself. then a few days later he did something so stupid and it really bothered me -- and i tried to confront him and he ended up saying that we should "take a break." note : if a guy ever tells you that, break up with him then and there. so we were on break for almost a month. i waited around for him to come back to me for almost a month. and then, you know what happened. i asked how long we were going to be on this break -- and he ended up dumping me. there really isn't anything you can do to make him want to spend time with you more. talking would be the best thing. if you really care about him, then put up with it. so good luck, don't hurt yourself and don't do anything stupid.
okay bye, have a nice day :)
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So we just started school back up this Tuesday and I like it just fine. But the only problem is that I don't have any friends. And I sit alone at lunch, and all the kids look at me like "OMG what a loser.." I actually heard some kid behind me say to one of his friends about "oh look at the girl sitting by herself" and he laughed like it was the funniest thing in the world.
I am a very shy person, and I have actually tried to go up to a few people and ask if I can sit with them. They say yes but don't talk to me and make me feel really uncomfortable around them so it's pointless to sit with them. I have contemplated just going to sit in the bathroom or library at lunch.
But the only problem with that is I have to eat during lunch, because if I don't, when I come home I'll eat alot. My mom and I get food stamps and every month they lower the price so I can't eat all the food. What do I do? Do I just suck it up and sit by myself everyday? Or do I just not eat so much? Please help! I will rate! (link)
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gosh. kids are mean.
that's why i'm not one to judge before hand. you don't know what baggage people pack around with them.
-- i guess i don't really understand the whole thing about either you talk to people and not eat, or you eat and not talk to anyone. why can't you talk AND eat ? people are dumb if they don't eat lunch. and it makes it even better because you all can share food and stuff. you're NOT cool if you don't eat. just think of it that way.
try to involve yourself in the conversation, or start one of your own. talk about the cool show you saw on tv last night, or about how hard your math test was. or gossip. as bad as that sounds, it always drags people in.
just be yourself.
okay bye, have a nice day :)
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ok i had asked a question this morning buti have to say something else that i need advice on that happened tonight...
ok well i just gto home from a party and this guy tommy asked me to have sex with him and i said no and he called me a tesse and alot of other guys called me a tease b/c i wouldn't let them do ne nasty stuff to me the tommy took me into a room and put duck tape on my mouth and then un zipped his pants and mine...and then he took the rest of my cloths off and made me stand on the bed naked he was just lookin @ me...then he fingered me and raped me and he told me that if i told ne one that he would do it agian and kill me...there was no way for me to go b/c hes a football wresaler and really strong...by the way im 16 and he was 18...i don't want to tell neone because hes on of my moms ex boyfriends son and she treats him like a son and i would never think that he would do nething like that...HELP what should i do? (link)
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that takes a lot of courage to post on the internet. now what you need to do is tell your mom. and if she doesn't listen, then tell another adult you trust -- or just go to the police. no one is allowed to violate your body like that and no one should threaten you afterwards. that is just so fucked up. NO MEANS NO and it's your right to not want to have sex. so yes, please go tell someone and get that stupid dickface behind bars.
okay bye, have a nice day :)
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I like this guy he's 19, I'm 16 but we both like each other a lot. you see when my parents got married his father had married them. And i didnt no that the pastor had a son. so since the wedding our family and theirs has been spending time together, i just got out of a bad relationship and was moving on. so when i met him after so many times we spend every night together and have grown close. Although dispite the age difference we both are falling for each other, and hes a Christian "good boy" so he'll keep me out of trouble, so i wanna be with him, but im scared about what people will say if they find out. I mean what do you think should we make "it" official or will it create problems? Thanks in advance! (link)
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legally, you two can date. it's a three year gap. but you know what, age is just a number. if you both care about eachother then go for it. all that matters is your happiness. if he makes you happy, then be happy.
okay bye, have a nice day :)
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my boyfriend was fingering me the other day and like all of a sudden i felt like alot of watery stuff..and i blamed it on him and was like u CUMMED on me..and he was like i didn't i didn't even feel anything..and so he takes the blame and says sorry..but still promises he didn't feel a thing and so i get up and notice the sheets are really wet only to find blood all over them..meaning that wet stuff was ME bleeding..is it possible to bleed THAT much? i mean it was everywhere (link)
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man, that sucks. it seems like you started your period right then and there. or he broke your hymen. either way, it's going to be okay. i thin you just started your period though, because not a lot of blood is supposed to come out when the hymen is broken. you should apologize to your boyfriend though. he might be hurt, or scared. or he might think he sucks.
okay bye, have a nice day :)
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um, i am a virgin and all. and thats kinda the problem. most of my freinds arent virgins, and i get made fun of. even my father had sex when he was like 12. and its driving me practilly INSANE! im sixteen years old, and i "enjoy" myself almost daily. i am speaking the embarassing truth. one of the minor reasong why i bought a computer was so i could look up porn. and i tell myself all the time ill stop "enjoying" myself once i actually have sex. and thats put me at ease for awhile. i mean, other that that i ok, besides sucking my thumb.one time, a prostistute was asking if i wanted a good time, and as sad as it may sound, i was saeiously considering it. and thats when i knew i had issues. so the actual question would be: do i have problems? is this humane? shold i go out and see a shrink? please, this took alot of courage to admit this, so, please,dont judge me. (link)
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first thing you need to understand is --
SEX iS NOT EVERYTHiNG.
i just watched the movie, "40 YEAR OLD ViRGiN."
that guy was 40 YEARS OLD & he was still a virgin. & you know what, he turned out happy. it may seem like everyone is having sex, but really -- no one is. the people who brag about having sex really aren't. and if they are -- who cares ? what gives them the right to brag. it just makes them look like jackasses anyways. i have a lot of 18 year old friends that haven't had sex yet. they just choose not too. i mean, why are you trying to rush sex anyways ? don't you want your first time to be unforgettable. why lose it to a prostitute ? wouldn't you rather want to lose it to someone that means a lot to you. someone that you love. and who cares if you have to please yourself. it feels good doesn't it ? and i heard that the more porn guys watch, when they get to do the actual thing -- they're amazing. so hey, don't worry about it. one day you'll lose it -- and you'll be happy.
okay bye, have a nice day :)
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i want to break up with my girlfriend but let her down easy, like break it to her softly and u know not an insensitive im dumping u manner just like a lets be friends 13/m (link)
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warning :
do not use the,
"LET'S JUST BE FRiENDS" line.
-- you should also try to break up with her on the phone, or even better. in person. because over the internet or a text message just shows that you have no balls and then she'll tell her friends who will tell her friends who will tell their friends . . . and so on. and then you'll be known as the aHOLE ex boyfriend who dumped his girlfriend with a text or online.
every girl is going to get hurt when they get dumped. unless of course, she feels the same way. so don't expect her to walk away smiling and singing. just tell her that you don't really think she's the type for you, but that doesn't make her a bad person. and from there try to stay friends with her. be friendly and don't two-face her. just don't say, let's be friends. because most couples that use that line when they break up -- don't stay friends.
make sure you're making the right choice.
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How can i be more affectionate with my bf. He thinks i dont like him as much as I do so yeah what kind of stuff can i do to make him more convinced? (nothing that involves taking off clothes) I RATE REALLY GOOD! So please give good advice. (link)
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cuddling is the best thing. while watching a movie get really close and hold his hand. it's the best feeling. you can also be affectionate without being physical. my ex-boyfriend and i wrote eachother a lot of letters and poems. he made my day so much better when i'd get to school and he'd have a love note to give me. my ex and i also had this thing where we'd buy little disposable cameras and take them on all of our dates and take pictures of our surroundings, inside jokes, us. and then we bought a photo album and put all our pictures in there. just tell him how much he means to you. kissing is a good way, but it can lead to things. so i say just enjoy eachother's company. plan a picnic, watch some disney movies and eat popcorn. it's always fun to act like you're 10 again, when nothing really mattered and everything was about having fun. and by then, your boyfriend will know that you like him. if he doesn't then maybe he's not worth it ? it's up to you. good luck.
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