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Hello, so I am just curious if anyone has found any strategies that work a little better when trying to break up with someone.
I have tried for a year and a half to make my current relationship work mostly because I am too nice and partially because my boyfriend has serious issues with depression and I wanted to help him. But he hasnt been able to get better in fact only worse so it is not time to end it.
Except I'm a chicken. We are both 21 so young and I personally have only broken up with one other person in my whole life. As far as I know I am the first relationship hes had. We dated for two and half years. We have amazing history like the best time of my life with him. So it makes it harder, sad and the worst part is I don't want to hurt him.
So I'm wondering what I can do to soften the blow, we are on a break right now because I told him I need time to think and he is going crazy. Texting me every day, telling me things will be different, begging me not to break up with him, that I am the only person for him, that I am the person he wishes he was and knows he can be again (because we were so similar when we met, but he completely changed when he went into depression). I tell him were just too different to be together and he shouldn't be with anyone right now. But he is telling me all these things that I know he feels and I don't want to hurt him so badly and ruin his opinion of women. Hes begging me right now not to leave him so does anyone have any tips on what to say when I do break up with him to make it less painful? Anything youd like to hear that would make a breakup better?
I know it will hurt regardless, but any tips?
Hi. I have a daughter who has depression. Depression comes from an imbalance in the brain of naturally occuring hormones, neurotransmitters . If it's just depression connected to an event that recently occured, a person can ussually overcome the depression on their own as with one daughter whose boyfriend dumped her. the other had it as a teen but it wasn't noticeable and she was able to manage until pregnancy kicked it into uncontrollable strong depression and she needed to go on medication. You didnt mention what his situation is, what he is doing to remedy the depression, if he is seeing a doctor, is on medication?
Perhaps with medication he could live a normal life. My daughter can. And she is in a healthy relationship. Depression isn't a death sentence for a person where one must break up with them for that reason. If they are not willing to go for treatment, then its a problem and that is a good enough reason to say its over and leave without another look back.
You focus on the depression, but are there other reasons that he is not right for now. You mention an amazing history and the best time of your life. Since I dont know if he is or isnt on medication it is hard to give you the most helpful answer. He could be on the umpteenth try of another med and its not working...i dont know.
If you have that info. i would like another try to help more. Like when did things change if he wasnt depressed before....what happened in his life around the time he changed?
Do have to take Semen test before producing a baby?How do u know that these sperms/semens are ok for producing?
Maybe I should ask, are your and your lady trying to become pregnant and having difficulty. If that is what you are asking, yes thats one of the things a Dr will check and he will check her out too.
If that is not what your asking, perhaps you could clarify what is on your mind? Perhaps you have had some trauma to your genitals or have a disease you think may affect your ability to ever create a child. Any of these concerns are best brought up to a medical professional.
Im 11 and I am a girl. My best friend is 11 alao and he is a guy. I have a crush on him and I dont know what to do and I need some advice. Should I tell him or not?
I bet you liked him before your hormones started now coming into play so you feel the crush part of it now. It's normal and it shouldn't change your friendship at all. He may be already or soon feeling something similar. What do you wish to tell him? That you like him? Thats obvious if you've been friends for 6 years. So perhaps you want to tell him you have a crush on him. If your best friend was a girl and you had a crush on a boy, you'd want to tell your bestfriend about a crush you have on a guy. In your case the best friend and the crush are the same person. So go ahead and tell him if you feel comfortable doing so. It's not something you have to do.
18/f
I've asked a question similar on here awhile ago about me and my boyfriend. We worked through the problem (I thought we did) but it has come back up again and I'm not sure what to do.
We started dating the beginning of my senior year. So we've been dating for about a year and a half. Like every other relationship, it started out great and then became harder.
The problem right now is that he has been getting frustrated over everything. The number one problem I have is that whenever I am upset over something, he turns cold and gets upset. Lately, I've been trying to deal with my personal problems with my family. Like money, losing our house, looking for a job, my mom went to rehab and my younger brother went to juvi. It's a lot for me to handle even though it's not too much but I've been a little upset over it lately. He'll just pat my back or something and then will go do something else. That ends up making me more upset and I ask him why he does that. He'll get angry and say he doesn't know. He tells me that he doesn't know what he's supposed to do. So I'll tell him to just sit with me and tell me it's going to be ok. But then the next time he does the same thing again.
Whenever I try to bring it up, he just gets mad all over again.
I do my best not to fight with him because it doesn't solve anything and it just results with me crying and him leaving.
So now I don't lean on him or tell him about what's going on.
The thing is, when my family was having even more difficult problems months ago, he was so good to me. He has changed a lot and he knows he has too.
Another small thing that has been bothering me is that yesterday I was texting him and I was going to tell him something sweet but personal and I asked him if anybody was with him. He flipped out and asked if I was accusing him of something. (I guess he was referring to cheating) And then when I told him what I meant he said, "Oh ok haha"
Today we hung out and everything was fine until we went back to his house. He got a call from work and they told him that he was going to work today and his hours are crazy and wasn't supposed to be working today so I asked, "You didn't tell them you couldn't work?" And he got mad saying that I was mad at him. But I was just asking a question. Then I felt so stressed out and I just laid down and he left and went to work. So I went home.
I know this relationship is going wrong. He told me awhile ago he wanted space. After that, we had a messy fight he said that he loves me but doesn't know what's going to happen in the future. I told him I'm not going to stay with him and hope that maybe I can be a part of his future. He has to know if he wants me or not.
I put so much effort into him to just break up and give up. I do love him and during our good times, he's great. And he's the one person I have right now. All my friends are gone after we graduated and the only ones that are still around are the friends that were not good people. It makes things harder because my dad loves him. And he helps out my dad whenever he needs it and he's met all my family. So then there's the pressure from the family. I love him and I just miss the guy he used to be.
Anyways, I'm sorry that this is crazy long. I'm planning on ending it if he truly doesn't feel it anymore. If he's just really stressed out from school and work, I want to know how to work through this. How do you get through a problem like this?
Honey, you've already figured it out when you say, "I know this relationship is going wrong"
All you needed was to hear someone agree.
Look at it this way, is he weakening who you are at core? Or is he strengthening who you are at core?
To further explain: weakening would range from wanting to change you, to not giving the type of emotional support you require, making slight of your issues and needs
Strengthening is accepting you for who you are, with all that entails, willing to support and uphold you, who you are becoming, that which you do and create like your job, school, hobbies. etc...
Now which one is happening in your relationship? If you don't like the answer, then its time to find a young man who does fit the description you are looking for. Lastly,Don't let feelings get in the way of your better judgement.
I have a friend who feels that anytime I say anything about her is telling her business. It has gotten to the point that she is paranoid. I want to keep her as a friend but I'm tired of her accusing me of saying stuff I don't say. Any suggestions?
Without an example of what you are talking about, I really have no idea if the issue lies only with her, only with something you're doing or if both of you are contributing to the problem.
What have you said, and to whom when mentioning her name. Do you say it when she is present or when she is not present? If so then how does the information get back to her and who is telling her stories. Someone could be twisting what you have said when presenting it back to her. It could be she is paranoid for a reason...something going on inside her or in her life so she is more touchy. I could not begin to guess what might cause her to feel like that.
If you could post again and go into a lot more detail, perhaps it'll be easier for all of us here to help you better.
My horoscope said things like "It is time to break a rule" and "It will require you to step out of your comfort zone, but it will lead you to a beautiful new beginning" And "You have restricted yourself with a certain dream. You have held yourself back out of a sense of propriety perhaps". What do you think this means?
If what you are reading is not making sense, it is because you are not getting a very in depth personalized astrology chart.
A horoscope in the newspaper or printed in a book for your sign for the current year is going to be vague.
If you have an interest, I suggest you find someone that does astrology readings and would do so for a donation if you can't afford what they charge. Some do it seriously like my husband, its a hobby on the side but not how he earns his living. There are other things that will change your astrology info for the day from the general horoscope stuff such as what the rising sign was, the time of birth, place of birth, date and year of birth.
Sorry but I could not begin to give you an idea of what those things meant that you read. No one will be able to give you a satisfactory answer if you really want one unless you see an astrologist
here is my story.im a 13 year old female and have had an obvious attraction for women since a very young age. I would deny it every day and say this cannot be happening your straight you like men.I fell into a habit of self destruction. I had 1 crush on a guy, but I was 8 my parents were fighting and I only liked him because he was girly.Last summer a friend who was also questioning her sexuality came out to me at a fair. I talked to her recently and she says shes straight again.At that moment I realized that maybe I am as well.I always would fantasize about women,men almost never.I have come out to a very few close people including my mother who is very accepting and understanding and a few very close friends.they understand,I live in a tight homophobic racist community and have been made fun of for being a bit if a tomboy and holding hands and even hugging and kissing my 2 best female friends good-bye.my dad is one of those guys who never accepts anything like this.im afraid im in a phase, but am sure i'm not.comments?i have anxiety as well. I have had a crush on a girl for he longest time she's straight and knows I like her its complicated she acts like she likes me all the time and says stuff like o shes my half gf, I'm so lost.im a cutter and bruiser and lost.im made fun of constantly and need support and an answer to my questions in my heart about who I like in that way.thank you and I apologize for thwe length.
It may be that you like only girls. Time will tell. I have known some adult women who were bi sexual. This doesnt mean that they could relate to many men sexually as well as women. They were married and only could tolerate their husband as a man and they went after women because that was the greater draw.
I am sorry to hear that you grow up in an area that your community is not open minded. Until you are of age to make a move to a more tolerant area, you may need to fake a relationship with a guy to take the pressure off. You mentioned the girly guy in your past. Perhaps you can find online teen gay groups for your area. Find a guy who is very much gay who would pose as your boyfriend while he has his male crushes in secret and you , your female crushes in secret. It would help him out too in taking the focus off of him as being odd or bad. I am sorry I can not think of anything else. This is a coping mechanism used by many Pagan/Wiccan folk who live in the Bible belt and have to pretend in public to be church goers and actually attend at times when invited so they appear to fit in. It's what you have to do to have some peace of mind.
Blessings to you dear
hi everyone so, im 17 years old and i first got my period Friday May,10, 2013...and started my birth control Sunday, May 12, 2013....now its Monday may 27, and i still have it!! can someone please explain to me whats going on?? i basically take it the same time everyday...especially the last few days...when i first started i took it 2 hours late top. but that was only one day...i usually took it about a half and hour or hour late...but these past couple days i take it at the same time. my mother and i thought my body was only adjusting but now it is ridiculous. in the days or so i am going to call my doctor, but if anyone has any sort of answer it would be very appreciated! thankyou!!
Periods can have very differing schedules and lengths of time or types of flows during the teen years. When you add hormonal birth control that messes up the body further. Just keep your dr. informed and see how long they give your body to adjust to the particular type you have.
The better thing you could do is go online and read the side effects for what you are taking and all the other hormonals contraceptives.
Because the hormones trick your body into thinking its pregnant so you dont release an egg, you can have other symptoms of pregnancy like painful tenderness in breasts that dont go away, bloating or weight gain, not always minor but some women report going up a couple sizes in clothes, loss of libido, changes in hair growth, mood swings and maybe depression, increase of acne or first time acne, oilier skin, constant headaches, and a few reported migraines.
The Drs. lightly pass over the side effects because these contraceptives must be replaced /repeated at some point such as the pill and shots so over long term it's more expensive over time say 5 yrs vs the IUD not the Mirena (its hormonal) but the copper. I have read online womens reports of what it cost them with planned parenthood and tho month by month the pill seems less expensive the IUD is good for up to 10 yrs so the initial cost is very little wehn compared out by the years. There are side effects but very little compared to hormonal contraceptives. I encourage you to look it up online
How would lI hire a nanny?
Some can be found through Nanny agencies. They will have done all the screening and background checks already for you. I would assume this works the same no matter which country. Others are found advertising in ad columns looking for employment. You will have to do all the screening yourself. I would start with searching onlline.
If you are in the U.S. do you have any friends or family in Britain that could help supply you with names of agencies that could prove helpful?
I am sure the person you find will expect their airfare paid to come to you. I assume you are well off financially to do this and also house and feed the nanny. I do not understand the need to go so far for a nanny. Please also consider that no matter how certified the person is, they still may not turn out to be a good match for your family and then you will have to start the process all over again. That can happen with someone you find in Texas but there is less hassle with getting someone from so far away if you have to go through several before finding the right one.
Okay so my boyfriend and I were alone one day and I ended up giving him a hand job but i'm not sure if he pre ejaculated or actually ejaculated but anyways when we were done he had to fix himself up and then he decided to put his finger down in my area for a while but i'm concerned if i could be pregnant i missed my period but i don't have a regular period anyways can someone PLEASE help and if it helps he didn't take that long to change from his area to mine
Yes he could easily have had some live sperm on his hand if he touched himself afterwards, no matter if precum or after ejaculating. Both will have sperm in it. When I was young I didn't have regular periods either. That is not necessarily a sign that you are pregnant. Only way to find out is with a test. Get it at the pharmacist or from planned parenthood.
If you do not plan to have full on sex for a while and don't want to go for contraception, at least have some spermacide on hand for now like one uses with a diaphragm. But the safest thing to do is get in to see someone about getting contraception.
Please do read up on it online. The ones with hormones have lots of side effects. Many girls have written on line to tell their stories. Unfortunately those are the ones most widely prescribed by Drs. Read up on it and check out the copper IUD. Thats the safest thing in my experience and most carefree, you dont have to remember to take anything, no side effects, it is good for 5+ yrs and after removal, you can get
immediately pregnant if trying for children.
He keeps liking my photos but I'm not sure if he likes me because were not talking and then he added me back on a chat messenger after he deleted me?
I assume we're talking about some sort of online friend page thing like Facebook.
How many other people like the same photos? I might like something a person posts on FB but that doesn't mean I have romantic feelings for the person. It is easier to click a 'Like' button than to have actual conversation with a person. Some people don't write much because they're bad spellers or very slow at typing. I cannot know what the case is. So if you want to talk to him, just start talking online or in person. If he doesnt respond on line it may be for the reasons i listed. Then you could ask in person, "Did you get my message on line?" Find open ended questions you can ask that can't be answered with a yes or no so he is put in a position of having some real conversation with you. If he is interested, once past the awkward phase of having conversation, he may give other signs if he is interested like finding reasons to be near you and looking at you a lot. Sometimes the girl has to be the brave one because the guys if interested in a girl are so afraid of rejection.
22/F
My boyfriend and I have known each other for 8 years and started dating at the beginning of the year. We are in a long distance relationship and I plan on moving there after college this summer. However we've been fighting a lot lately over stupid things we wouldn't fight about if we got to be together all the time (falling asleep early, making Skype dates and canceling to hang out with family and friends) anyway he went out on Saturday night while I went to the beach with some guy friends and he was secretly mad about it and didn't talk to me all night and then the next day when I asked why he couldn't give me the decency to send at least one text he was like I'm tired of this we should just be friends. After he cooled down we talked but nothing was getting accomplished so he changed the subject to basic things like what r u doing send me pictures... It's like he doesn't even care to work things out and now he isn't texting me as much as he use to or calling me or telling me he loves me or anything and its weird. I asked him if we're done and he said no but the way he is acting seems like we are. Should I just assume that we're over and move on since he doesn't seem to wanna talk about it?
Lets see if I got this right, you have been online friends since age 13,14 or so and started dating? Online? How does one do that unless we're talking about IMVU or 2nd Life 3 D program. Talking to someone on Skype is no substitute for being there in person.
I used to do lots of online dating. There is no guarantee that someone you clicked with on line is going to have any chemistry with you in person. That happened more times than i care to recall. So there is no guarantee that it will work out if you go through the trouble to move to where he lives. Will that take you away from friends and family?
I would say, rather make a visit to see him...a vacation. If you click, you can go back home and start planning to move to be with him.
Here's another thing to think about: In all this time,8 years, has he never talked to, dated or kissed any local girl? That's not normal for a guy. There is a slight possibility that he juggled you with a real on the spot girl. I just don't want you to be blind sided because you didnt consider the possibility that he dated. His being angry of you out with guys may have got him thinking, if he did the same dating girls and worries over how to explain that or perhaps his feelings for someone there has grown but he's not sure until he meets you if he'll click with you better or want to stick with the other girl. There is so many scenerios that could play out here that it is not a good plan to toss all your eggs in one basket and just move there without checking things out in a visit first.
Good luck!
What can I use to orgasm
Dont know if you're male or female. Using your hands on yourself works great for many people. Masturbation is used even by married adults mutually on each other and is a healthy normal part of your sexual life.
If you are female and old enough to go visit a store with sex toys, it may be time to purchase a vibrater or dildo.
I am a 13 year old girl from New Zealand and i have been talking to a 15 year old guy from Algeria for almost a year now. We have skyped a few times and im beginning to really like him. But the problem is, he has a girlfriend. I would love to meet him aswell but there are problems that make me think it will never happen. Should i tell him how i feel or just leave things the way they are?
Hello. One of my daughters met someone on line she liked and developed deep feelings for. So I understand this can happen.
However in real life there isnt anything you can do about it especially since he has a girlfriend and lives so far from you.
Okay so thats the downer side of it. Now, how to make something good of your situation. Use this as a time to learn what it is you like in a guy. It will help greatly once you are older and ready to find a mate for life.
So...Make a list of what qualities this 15 yr old has that has attracted you to him. Is it only looks? Is it something about his personality? Maybe he is very polite. Maybe he has encouraged you. Maybe he has a great sense of humor. Make a list...I like a guy who is polite, an encourager, and funny.
While you are a teen is the time to learn what you like in the opposite sex in keep adding to the list because it takes more than just a funny polite guy to make a good long term partner. You will learn more with each experience. But write it down so you don't forget
There's this boy name bradeon ,he is in middle school just like me but he's in eight grade and I'm in seventh but we sit together,ok anyways people are saying he likes me but I'm not sure,I kinda have a small crush on him,but its not noticable,so should I ask him out or just wait?
Sometimes when a person is interested in someone or in love with someone, it is more obvious to the friends of the two people than it is to them.
What have you got to lose? Nothing, you are already friends if you sit together.
Don;t count on him knowing you have a crush on him. He's probably not a mind reader. So you will need to ask him out. Some parents at this age have limits on what they consider okay for real dating. If you'll just be hanging out at school together, that shouldn't be any problem. Thats a good start.
ok my feonsay and and i have been going out for almost a year she has had a hard up bringing and we work out sooooo well whin we are together now hir fother abandend hir whin she was 2 and another man rased hir his name is shon now back in the day hir and hir dad yousto do dope now she dosint do it any more but he dose now she is 21 now and he is saying that he loves hir tonight she told me that he tuched hir and if she is not guna b with hir he is guna kill me and she and i beleave that he will so she dose what he sase now he also has HIV so if somthing hapends i cant b with hir we love each other alot i wana spend the rest of my life with hir but i dont know what to do someone help me !!!!
I got lost as to which guy is doing this to her.
But who ever he is...this is emotional black mail and to threaten another person...that is not right either. You need to tell the police.
Also, Something is not quite right in his head. He may have all sorts of mental issues, especially with controlling others, and he may suffer depression as well since he has HIV. He needs to be seen by mental health professionals. But to get that started the law needs to be called in.
Both you and her should go together to the police with that. Tell them everything. They will likely tell you about what legal things you can do, a restraining order to keep him away from you. If he attempts anything, only with the restraining order they can pick him up and at that point his mental health will be evaluated too.
How do you know if your in love.I'm a girl and I'm in my teens,I curious is there a sign to know if he's the right one ,please help.
Now remember, he may not be feeling the same thing. But here is how to know you are in love...some of most common signs:
You can't stop thinking about him.
You are more happy, and smiling a lot. In fact your friends may have noticed and pointed it out.
You feel more energetic
Your feel like your head is up in the clouds.
You are more concerned about his welfare
You have no eyes for anyone else.
You take more care with your appearance to look your very best for him.
You don't hang out with your girlfriends as much anymore
He's the first thought that crosses your mind as you wake and the last thought before you fall asleep.
The world just seems a brighter more fun place simply because he is in it with you.
You can't stand being apart from him at all, the draw is just too strong.
Thats what tells you that you are in love
Hi, so I'm a 15 year old female. My boyfriend rescently went to another state for family issues. He was there for about a week, so we didn't get to see eachother alot, only talk. When he was there he started txting this girl that goes to our school. They sexted and sent nudes back and forth. We kinda went on a break because he claimed that he lost his feelings for me. When he got back we were still on a break/ broken up. He made out with the girl that he was sending nudes to. This was a couple months ago but I still can't let it go. It bothers me so much, were still together now, but he didn't tell me about all this, I had to find out about it. I have no trust in him whatsoever. I was wondering how I would be able to forget this, and regain my trust in him. Because he has moved on from it, I haven't.. And it really bothers me. Thanks
Let me get this clear. You call him a boyfriend. Does that mean he was a male friend at school and you hung out together but were not dating, or were you a couple? He lost feelings for you. What feelings? Did he ever profess to love you, be crazy about you or something like that? He had to have something to lose it. Or maybe he never really felt serious about you to begin with. It would seem so if he never did the sexting and having sex with you. Why was it so much easier with the other girl?
Either he is a player who just wants a gal who will give it up for him so he gets his needs taken care of, or he is a liar for pretending to be someone with you when he has a secret past. Either does not sound good. Does he weaken you or strengthen you?
Right now i see one thing weakened...your trust. Is there more? Does he strengthen or build you up in any way? These are the things to learn now that will help you in finding your long term mate some day in the future. I think you know the answer
ok so me and my boyfriend love eachother very much but it doesn't seem like he shows it at all and hes still friends with hes ex and doesn't want to stop talking to her and says I don't trust him what should I do??? it feels like im second best
You say you love each other. People have different ways of showing love. Its called love languages, and there are 5. One is giving of affirmations, acts of service, giving of gifts, quality time, and physical touch. For example, how do you show your family you love them, do you tell them only...then your love gift is giving of affirmations. Lets say the way your mom communicates love is by quality time. You tell her you love her but dont want to spend any time with her, she won't feel loved by you.
I have no idea how much boyfriend is talking to ex and if she contacts him at all so its hard to tell. But I would say that if anything makes you uncomfortable and he really cares about you that he would be taking your feelings into consideration.
For him to put it back on you and say you don't trust him shows he will look for the easy way out(whether its true or not) in any conflict that naturally can come up in a relationship. It takes both partners working equally hard on a relationship to make it work. Happily ever after doesn't happen just because you wish it so. It only happens when both parties put in maximum effort to make it so. Time will tell just how much he wants this relationship with you
I am really scared that i peed in bed last night its first time in my life after I left wetting bed in the age of 12. I am quite healthy I don't take any medicines I don't drink wine I don't know what to do I am ashamed of telling it to others.actually last night in my dreams I went to my uncle new house but in dreams when I reached there I felt that I need to urinate badly so I used my uncle bathroom and did a lot of pee but it happened in real and I got up immediately and found my bed wet.
there could be some information you have not thought of as being related to your issue. As it only happened once, i wouldnt be too concerned. However if it occurs more regularly there could be an explainable reason for it and a doctor could give you some tests to rule out certain medical ones.
Do a search on the web about adult bed wetting. Lots of info out there.
Here's one to get you started
http://www.ehow.com/about_5247381_reasons-loss-bladder-control-sleeping.html
Good luck!