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my best friend likes me
im 13/f. my friend is 13/m and he likes me and i really dont like him like that back but i dont know how to tell him. he hangs out with me more than he does his girlfriend and it makes her upset. his girlfriend is my bestie and i dont want to make her mad either. if you guys have been in a situation like this and nave advice for me please tell me PLEASE :) PLEASE.
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Well, i have a friend who's a boy (I'm a girl) and we're both 13, too. he told my friend he likes me, and she was hinting it to me. It was kinda creepy and upsetting because I've known him for ages, but i really don't like him like that. so I just kept a big distance from him, stopped talking to him as much (as he might get the wrong idea) and hinted back that i didn't like him. I would do this by saying things like 'Ugh all the boys in this school are so immature.' I know this seems sort of bitchy, but eventually he'll get the message, with out it being as awkward as saying 'i reaally don't like you!!' soo yeahh, Hope i helped x
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Well at least tell your best friend because she deserves to know.
As for your friend who likes you, I'd definitely go with Dragonflymagics advice because you all are young and are still learning. So have a talk with your best friend and then you both can talk to him.
If not that, then at least you can tell him that you just don't like him like that. That's all you have to say. Then your best friend can also have a talk with him and see how he feels about her.
It's harder to date when you're really young because boys don't really understand how to treat a girl yet. Anyways, communication will definitely help rather than keeping quiet.
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Wow if its your best friend, I'd have a talk with her asap tell her that you only feel like friends with the guy and that recently he started showing interest in you like romantic and dating. If you're too chicken to tell him, at least tell your best girlfriend. Since she is the one he is ignoring without any explanation in choice of chasing you, it's high time the two of you girls go together to approach him and level with him. Be nice and dont call names. Teens don;t have much experience yet in relationships. Girls sometimes come with a built in sense of what is ok or not but guys have a harder time. So you both may have to teach him.
So get him to agree to meet both of you at same time for a private chat. You tell him you aren't interested in him that way, and she can tell him she IS interested in him that way. Then find out if he is interested in either of you or both of you. On rare occasions there are teens who have been comfortable with a MMF relationship or a FFM relationship but i find it unlikely at your age, maybe 16 and older. IF he is no longer interested in your bestie, teach him how to be polite about communicating that and not just walk away without saying a thing. There is nothing she can do to change his mind. At your age, most relationships average about 5 month in length according to statistics. Your teen lives are going to be a learning process of what you like in the opposite sex beyond just looks. So you will likely over your teen years date many different guys and when you find something you dont like, dont stay with the guy but move on to learn more elsewhere.
Hope this helps you dear. Talk to your bestie!
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