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I like someone from overseas.
I am a 13 year old girl from New Zealand and i have been talking to a 15 year old guy from Algeria for almost a year now. We have skyped a few times and im beginning to really like him. But the problem is, he has a girlfriend. I would love to meet him aswell but there are problems that make me think it will never happen. Should i tell him how i feel or just leave things the way they are?
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Hello. One of my daughters met someone on line she liked and developed deep feelings for. So I understand this can happen.
However in real life there isnt anything you can do about it especially since he has a girlfriend and lives so far from you.
Okay so thats the downer side of it. Now, how to make something good of your situation. Use this as a time to learn what it is you like in a guy. It will help greatly once you are older and ready to find a mate for life.
So...Make a list of what qualities this 15 yr old has that has attracted you to him. Is it only looks? Is it something about his personality? Maybe he is very polite. Maybe he has encouraged you. Maybe he has a great sense of humor. Make a list...I like a guy who is polite, an encourager, and funny.
While you are a teen is the time to learn what you like in the opposite sex in keep adding to the list because it takes more than just a funny polite guy to make a good long term partner. You will learn more with each experience. But write it down so you don't forget
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If he has a girlfriend, he's off limits. I mean imagine if you were with a guy and then some other girl who likes him comes along and tells him that she likes him. Would you be ok with that?
There are boundaries that you need to respect. You don't want to be the reason they break up either.
Other than that, long distance relationships are really hard. Have you ever met him? If not, first of all, be careful. Also, if you got with a guy in another country, you'll have to wait years and years to ever see him. When you're young, you won't be happy spending all your time texting and skyping when you could have been out with another guy having fun.
Dating when you're young is fun. You don't want to spend your time right now chasing after a guy who has a girl who is also in another country.
So my advice would to just leave it and move on.
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