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Distant boyfriend after fighting continuously
22/F
My boyfriend and I have known each other for 8 years and started dating at the beginning of the year. We are in a long distance relationship and I plan on moving there after college this summer. However we've been fighting a lot lately over stupid things we wouldn't fight about if we got to be together all the time (falling asleep early, making Skype dates and canceling to hang out with family and friends) anyway he went out on Saturday night while I went to the beach with some guy friends and he was secretly mad about it and didn't talk to me all night and then the next day when I asked why he couldn't give me the decency to send at least one text he was like I'm tired of this we should just be friends. After he cooled down we talked but nothing was getting accomplished so he changed the subject to basic things like what r u doing send me pictures... It's like he doesn't even care to work things out and now he isn't texting me as much as he use to or calling me or telling me he loves me or anything and its weird. I asked him if we're done and he said no but the way he is acting seems like we are. Should I just assume that we're over and move on since he doesn't seem to wanna talk about it?
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Lets see if I got this right, you have been online friends since age 13,14 or so and started dating? Online? How does one do that unless we're talking about IMVU or 2nd Life 3 D program. Talking to someone on Skype is no substitute for being there in person.
I used to do lots of online dating. There is no guarantee that someone you clicked with on line is going to have any chemistry with you in person. That happened more times than i care to recall. So there is no guarantee that it will work out if you go through the trouble to move to where he lives. Will that take you away from friends and family?
I would say, rather make a visit to see him...a vacation. If you click, you can go back home and start planning to move to be with him.
Here's another thing to think about: In all this time,8 years, has he never talked to, dated or kissed any local girl? That's not normal for a guy. There is a slight possibility that he juggled you with a real on the spot girl. I just don't want you to be blind sided because you didnt consider the possibility that he dated. His being angry of you out with guys may have got him thinking, if he did the same dating girls and worries over how to explain that or perhaps his feelings for someone there has grown but he's not sure until he meets you if he'll click with you better or want to stick with the other girl. There is so many scenerios that could play out here that it is not a good plan to toss all your eggs in one basket and just move there without checking things out in a visit first.
Good luck!
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