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Hi.I just want to ask you a question as regards the ''sex before marriage'' thing.Where in the Bible is it forbidden?Who defined fornication as being sexual intercourse before tying(tieing) the marriage ''knot''? And..if one can not wait,then he should marry,according to what Paul said in Corinthians.Ok.But..what if one can not marry at the moment because his parents think he has to get married at 30?or even later?So...does that mean that he has to 'burn'' until the time his parents or other people deem ''right'' for him to get married?If i'm not commanded to ''burn'',why should i?And...masturbation.Is it natural?I have masturbated too,and i,by GOD'S GRACE,have tried to stop it,not doing it now.But,what is the way out?If GOD created human beings and made sexual desire part of the physiology of both married and unmarried people.When married people have the desire for sex,they just do it.When unmarried people(because of certain circumstances) have the desire for the same..what should they do?why does one principle apply to a group of people and does not apply to the other?Where in the BIBLE does that come into play? (link)
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Well, you asked specifically about biblical views on the subject, and as such I would like to send you a link to a page that covers the majority of what you have asked here:
http://www.bible.com/bibleanswers_result.php?id=256
There are a great many things written about this, and the information isn't hard to find if you would like to do some research of your own.
As for your parents... Well, I would question them in such a way: If Mary gave birth to Christ at 14-15 years old... then why do they expect you to be 30?
As for the simplest "why" of waiting for marriage: Simple enough: when you have sex with random people you aren't spending your life with, you collect diseases and emotional baggage that, to a greater or lesser extent, poisons every relationship you have from that point forward.
Everyone who has had more than one sexual relationship can attest to the fact that there is regret in some way. Sometimes physical regret, sometimes emotional regret, but you are ALWAYS less able to give ALL of yourself to someone new.
You leave something important behind in every relationship. You have enough of them, and the person you eventually want to be with forever... well, they would have to be stupid to accept someone who has collected as much baggage as you have.
So, let us just say they do accept you, and you get married. The regret of your past will wear on you, and the knowledge that your mate settled for you, having been used by so many others, when they could have had someone all to themselves... no diseases, and no baggage... well, that will wear on them as well.
Now as for masturbation... I don't know of any place in the Bible that it is specifically spoken against. There is a verse that is often taken out of context to support the idea that all masturbation is a sin, but the real deal there is that God commanded someone to bear children with a woman, and when he was about to complete that order, he pulled out and spilled his seed on the ground instead.
The sin here wasn't spilling the seed, it was disobeying a DIRECT order from God himself.
I don't think anyone is truly stupid enough to think that is about masturbation. In my opinion, they know full well it doesn't apply, and use it anyway to support a view they can't back with any other scripture.
So, here is the bottom line:
From what you have written, it looks like you are trying not to masturbate, but looking for biblical justification to have sex with people you aren't married to.
Here is my suggestion: Think.
How many diseases will you collect while masturbating?
How much emotional baggage will you collect?
How many times, and in how many ways will your heart be broken by people you mate with if you are home pleasuring yourself?
How many hearts will YOU break, when you have sex with someone who is more serious than you are... if you are home masturbating?
How many random children will you be responsible for creating if you are home taking care of things yourself instead of out screwing random people?
So... when I put it all out there like that, which makes more sense:
Relieving the tension yourself?
... or collecting diseases, emotional baggage, broken hearts, infertility (from the diseases) and random children (or the responsibility for random abortions?)
You answer which one of these things that you think would be the worse one to do, both for your health and the health of others.
Which one is more likely to damage your future relationship?
The important thing to remember in all of this is that God doesn't hate you and want you to be miserable. Anyone who teaches something that leads you to believe that needs to have their teachings carefully examined.
If you have other questions, I will do my best to answer.
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So I got really sick this year during the month before the last month of school and I wound up missing 16 days of school. My doctor actually called the school and alerted them of what had happened. Nobody said anything when I went back to school after missing 16 days so I figured I was fine. Then during the summer I got my last report card in the mail and it said I had 16 unexcused absences.
I called the school and the only lady that was still there told me that I was labeled a "truant" and that I wouldn't be able to get my license!
I told her what happened but she said she didn't have the rights to change it because she was only a librarian and not an attendance worker and that seeing as it was so far in the future now that I probably wouldn't be able to get it changed anyways and that the only way it would be removed is if I attended school next year for 30 days in a row without missing any days.
The problem is I really wanted to be able to take my written test in the next few weeks and to be able to get my permit at least but now I'm wondering if the person at the DMV is going to check my attendance and then see that they labeled me a Truant and not allow me to get it.
So will they check my attendance when I go to take my written test?
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This would vary by state, I am sure.
If you have a medical excuse, then there should be no problem. Even if they do check your attendance, just bring a note from your doctor excusing your absence, and all should go well for you.
You can also call the DMV and ask the testing division this question. They will tell you right away just what you can expect, so that you don't have to worry about it when you go in there.
One thing to consider: If you didn't finish your driver's ed, you mat not have all the skills you need. If you feel like this may be the case, then please consider driving school to pick up what you may have missed.
The most important thing here is your permanent school transcript. Make sure you have written documentation from your doctor, which you can present to the office when you return to school.
Your transcript can ALWAYS be amended if you talk to the right person.
Good luck.
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Can you get an STD by being fingered ? (link)
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Yes.
You can get many different STDs by being fingered, performing oral sex or any other form of sexual contact.
If you are going to start being sexual, then EVERYONE you touch must be tested for STDs.
Also, you should know: There is NO reliable test for HPV (Causes genital warts and cancer) for males.
While we are talking about this, here is a note for the future: Condoms don't stop HPV or herpes from being spread to you.
You are a smart girl. You asked this question BEFORE you did something stupid, not after like most people do.
Good for you!
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I get pressure on my chest, almost like something in pressing down on it, which makes it really hard to breathe. This started about a year ago, and it's been happening more and more often. It's gotten bad enough that I woke up last night and couldn't get back to sleep for a couple of hours. Also, every now and then I get a really sharp pain in my ribs, almost like someone thrust a knife in them. I am 18 and have never had any heart problems and none on either side of my family that I know of. Granted, I don't know my birth mom, so that doesn't help much. I know I should go get checked out, but I was wondering if anyone has any idea on what is going on? Please and thank you! (link)
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You are getting warning signs that should be of the highest concern to you.
Most people get only a very short warning period if any at all. You have had a year of warnings, which have only gotten worse.
The stabbing pain means only one thing:
Dial 911.
Do it now.
Your age has nothing to do with it, and neither does what you know of your family history.
I will make you a deal: You call 911, NOW, and tell them what you have written here. If they say you can wait until tomorrow to go to the doctor, then you do just that, otherwise you need to do whatever the people at 911 tell you.
Please don't be stupid about this.
Call 911.
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Hi!My boyfriend and I are 20years old n we are dating since d last 2 and a half yrs..we really love echothr a lot..but he hardly expresses his luv mayb jus on my bday or our anni n dis gets really hard for me bcoz I need to hear every now and den "I luv u" n stuf like dat but nw m over it bcz I ve gone through shit and he was widme through out so I know he luvs me..the prob is he's too lazy..we don't go for dates ever we stay 10mins away from echother stil sometimes we don't meet for 10-12days..i keep nagging but he just says"m too lazy" its been 2 and a half years n can u believe we haven't gone for any bloody vacation..I have many guy frnds n I stay alone so I don't get to travel a lot n when my guyfrnds make a plan n invite me n my boyfriend,my bf asks me to tell them a no cz he's lazy so I miss a luvly vacay.n when i ask him to take me somewher he tells me "no I don feel like goin nywher"its so annoyin..he doesn't go n doesn't letme..m jus so sick n tired of dis behavior..n u know what when we meet he just keeps makin fun of me to make me laugh wich really is funny so I don't mind but nw I jus can't stnd him cz its so pissin off dat I dn gt to spnd time widhim n wen he is widme vr jus crackin stupid jokes n playin arnd..nothing sweet n romantic..m tired of this..what should I do?I don't wanna leav him bcoz he's a gem of a person mean it..he never let's me fall..please help me..also arnd 4-5times he ditched me n kept me waiting bcoz he was out wid his frnds..so dat really makes me think dat maybe he jus pretends to be lazy.I've broken up wid him bcoz of all this around 5times(m too short temprd)but he alwys mkes me gt bak cz for a fact v both do love echothr too much..n all our frnds n family knw abt it..please help me.. (link)
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You should re-write this using real words. I don't mean to be unkind, but I doubt anyone would believe you are 20 if you talk to others in this manner.
If you would like to re-write the question like a 20 year old might speak, I would be happy to take the time to read it and respond, as would others.
Thank you.
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so the past few times that ive been having sex with my boyfriend, within the first 2 minutes he feels like he`s about to cum, so he has to keep stopping for 5 seconds each time. so when he finally has it under control and hasnt finished, he starts to become really soft and i can get it hard again, but as soon as we start having sex it goes soft again. and he doesnt know why and neither do i..this has never happened before out of the 4 months we`ve been hanging out..it just started happening about 2 weeks ago..its also weird because he used to not finish for at least 10 or 15 minutes into it..and today he just texted me and said he`s having pains in his penis so i dont know..what do you think the problem is (link)
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If he is experiencing pains in his penis, he should see a doctor immediately. You should both be tested for STDs as well.
When things change suddenly like this, it is always something that you should have checked out immediately.
Please make an appointment for yourself right away. If he refuses to get looked at, you should stop having sex with him, since you know the only reason he won't go is if he is hiding something.
Good luck to you both.
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my dog had a small fight with a dog who may have a condition where germs collect in the mouth causing her breth to constantly smell bad and now my dog has a huge infection on its face and its swollen up .. i dont have enuff money for the vet so is there anything i can do to help her and will she die?
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You will have to take your dog to the vet. They will let you make payments that you can afford, rather than let your dog die.
You should do this right away. Both for your dog's sake and your own. The infection may spread to humans, and cause you great harm. Only your vet will be able to tell you for sure.
Please make the call right away.
I hope you are all ok.
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why does my boyfriend of 1 and half years always calls me,''dear''? he just rarely calls me my name probably because he's older than me. he's 45 and i'm 31. or is it just a terms of endearment? thank you guys. (link)
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I am having a hard time believing some of the answers here.
When you are in a committed adult relationship, you usually only hear your actual name when the other person is mad at you.
This is normal, and it happens with pretty much everyone.
I don't usually answer things like this, but when I noticed someone insinuate that it could possibly mean he is cheating on you, I didn't know if I should laugh or cry that someone would try and plant such an awful thought in your head... so I figured I had better answer.
After you have been together for a few years, you all but forget each other even have first names. :-)
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There is this guy that I really like and I think he liked me back but he moved to Canada (I live in Australia), I thought he was moving in a month and I was trying to build up the nerve to tell him how I feel but he had already left. I cant stop thinking about him and I cry all the time over how much I miss him and how pathetic I was for not telling him how I feel. I don't know any of hie friends to ask for his email address and I have no way of talking to him. I miss him so much and cant stop thinking about him. I think I am in love with him. Please help!!!
I'm 13 and I'm a girl. (link)
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Hi there,
You asked this twice. The other copy has already been answered:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=596888
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could any one give me all details about Concorde, history, how does it work, feature ?? (link)
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Everything you need to know about the Concorde:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Concorde
... now please stop asking this over and over again or your account will be closed.
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so i have been friends with this girl for 5 years now. she thinks she's really superior because she became a born again christian. She some how thinks she can judge me. She likes to be the boss also. Like for example when we were going out dancing one night she was telling me what dress to wear. And then she wanted me to visit her in college station and she wants me to come stay with her for 4 nights and my mom said no, but my friend kept pushing it because she wants her way so my mom finally said yes, but i couldn't drive there so my friend got me and then we drove to college station from Katy. I really wanted to take my own car because i knew she would start taking me wherever she wants to go. I mean she did, like when we were in college station i broke my phone and she wouldn't take me home to get my phone so i could take it at&t to see if they could fix it. She kept saying oh they can't because you dropped it in the pool, even though the guys said to bring it in. I ask her to borrow her face wash and she said she didn't have any, but when her friend needed to borrow it she told her where it was. I mean she doesn't do anything for me. It's always about her. Then we were at the pool i had one beer and i am only 20, but i turn 21 in January, so i didn't think it was a big deal. I mean i know i am not suppose to drink, but we were hanging out with some people, and they kept asking me and i said yes. well anyways my friend was making a big deal out of it, and starts telling me oh you shouldn't do that stuff blah blah and i didn't think it was such a big deal because i don't drink that often. She starts saying oh i don't think we should hangout if you keep doing that stuff. And goes on and on and my feelings got hurt. Then she tells her brother which i don't think it's any of his business or even hers. Not only that she left me at the pool to go find her friend and then when she came back they went to go workout. When we went to the mall she left me at so many stores and would just walk out, and since my phone was broken i had no way of reaching her except when i called her from this store and asked where she was. well anyways she was in town but went back to college station and now she's all like oh i miss you over text, and is calling me all the time and talking to me on Facebook, like nothing happened. So i don't know what to do. She's really mean and even before we went to the pool she was like oh you need to put on your shirt because you have hair on your stomach and just stuff like that makes me mad. I mean i know i have hair on my stomach but of course she feels the need to point it out. And another thing I've noticed whenever we hangout we never do anything at all except for argue because she wants everything her way. she's such a brat. Even though sometimes when we're suppose to hangout i am about to go to her house and i call her and she tells me oh i am not at my house. Or if she's suppose to come over she says oh i am just going to stay in tonight. I mean she flakes on our plans. I mean i don't get why she makes plans with me if she won't follow through. Or if we do hangout why she thinks she can walk all over me. so what should i do? (link)
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Listen,
If you forgot all of the people who have answered this before, please see the links below.
There is NO way we are going to go through this again, when you had already told me you were ending the relationship.
If you CHOOSE to hang out with her, then you are CHOOSING to be hurt by her. This is a CHOICE.
Here are links to the good advice you have been given when you asked about this person before:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=593266
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=593198
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=593178
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=590639
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=590338
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=589777
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=586473
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=586447
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=585101
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=585046
It made me very sad to see you are still keeping yourself in this situation.
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a student finds a shiny piece of metal she thinks is aluminum. In a lab, she determines that the metal has volume of 245cm & mass 612g. Is metal aluminum? explain answer please (link)
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You can ask people to help you learn a procedure, but not ask people to do your homework for you.
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Hello,
I am a 17 year old Female looking for a mans honest opinion. I have self esteem issues with my body and i have only talked to girl about it. My labia is an inch long and ive noticed that noone else i know is like that. My boyfriend hasnt said anything but i just really want to know how you feel about them to get a basic idea on how all guys feel about them, accept for the jerks who make fun of them and the girls who wear them, there not even worthe talking about. (link)
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One honest answer, coming up:
I have seen labia 3+ inches long, and that is a bit weird for me, but from what I have seen what you describe is pretty normal.
Most guys don't care about this at all unless they are freakishly huge, and I am talking you could tie them in a knot when I say huge.
There are some young men that make fun of such things, and I am going to tell you a little secret: When you see a guy running his mouth about this, the odds are that he has never seen a vagina in person, let alone had sex with anyone.
With that in mind, pay no attention to their idiocy.
Also, I don't know if this is you, but some girls who are extremely underweight have lost the layer of fat within the outer labia (the chubbies that hide the inner labia) which allows the inner labia to be more visible than they would be at a healthy weight.
Bottom line: What you are worrying about, is not something worth worrying about anymore. Now you know the truth, so you can put this worry to bed and forget about it. :-)
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ok my this is my friend stephanie........
I want to know how would you know if a guy likes you.
-steph (link)
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Hi there,
You aren't allowed to share accounts here for legal reasons (you are legally responsible for advice you give) so your friend will have to go here:
http://www.advicenators.com/register.php
... and create her own account.
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i want to use the camera of nokia 6220 classic as webcam (link)
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The question was posted twice. The copy that will be getting answers is here:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=596811
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Kay so I can't upload a picure of myself on this website and have no stinkin' idea why! Do I have to pay or somthing? Cause there's this pink heart saying i should upload a picture.. but I can't click it! help? :( (link)
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Hi there,
Please go here:
http://www.advicenators.com/settings.php
... and find the field that says upload a picture.
Click browse, and select a small picture that is 15KB or less.
Change anything else you wanted to change, and press the submit button at the bottom of the page.
It will upload the picture and display it on your column.
If you would prefer to use a larger size file, then you can link to a picture of you from your photobucket or other free hosting account. If you don't have a photo sharing account somewhere that allows linking pictures, you can upload a picture someplace like tinypic and then use the link it gives you.
To use that option, find the area on the settings page that says: "URL of a picture of you:" and paste the link in there.
Once you submit the form, your picture will show up on your column. Be careful not to use a picture that makes your column look weird.
Check after you upload, and if all is well, great! If you have any problems, please drop a not in my inbox.
Thank you, and welcome aboard! :-)
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What does it feel like to have your period and have sex? or is that even possible? and would guys like that? (link)
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I see no guys have answered this, so far, so I will give you a guy's perspective:
You know how your own smells such as arm pits, bad breath, etc. you have to have someone else confirm how bad it is because your nose is desensitized to your own smells? Well that goes for your vagina during period time as well.
Sometimes, on certain periods even the woman having the period wishes she could cut her nose off to get away from herself... and THAT is the nose that is less sensitive to that smell than anyone else's.
Now, I will be very blunt here:
During your period, your vagina can smell like a dead body rotting in the August heat.
Any man desperate enough to have sex with you at this time, is probably not someone who has a great deal of respect for you, or themselves.
There is an exception, of course, and that would be that there are guys who have a sexual fetish for blood and odor, believe it or not. Don't count on finding too many of them out there.
To give you an idea of how much fun this sounds like for the average guy: My ex's uncle was involved in an outlaw biker gang (wish I was kidding, but I am not) and his initiation into the "club" involved him getting his "red wings" which involves performing oral sex on a woman who is on her period.
So, basically the grossest least desirable thing they could think up, since they didn't have a murder they needed done to jump him in.
All guys are different, but this is one of those things on which you will find very few guys taking the other side.
Hope that gives you a general idea.
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ok i need you to do this for me: google "beatles love affair part 8 (do part 9 for me as well) click on the 1st result. it should be from quibblo.com. click on the choice that matches paul mccartney. there will be part of a story as a result. please copy and paste those stories for both part 8 and 9 on here as an answer. no links please. im usng a kindle and the cursor cant scroll over links. so if you could please just copy and paste those stories i would be very grateful. (i cant just do this myself cause my kindle is bugging out) but please do this 4 me. i will love u forever ;) kisses! (link)
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Sorry, that would infringe on the copyrights of the owners of those articles.
Guess you will have to wait until you can access it on a computer, sorry.
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I'm going to be 14 years old in a month, and I just weighed myself, and discovered that I weigh a whopping 115 pounds!!!!! I'm 5'2"...is this overweight? How can I shed 10 pounds?!?!?! (link)
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No, you are not overweight. Not at all.
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Earlier this, I started liking this guy that was in a few of my classes. We are kind of opposites; I'm really smart, he's sometimes stupid, I'm a goodie goodie, he is kind of a bad boy. We texted each other around spring break and I found out that he was really nice and funny. When I was out sick a few days later, he texted me to check up on me. He is one of those boys that the teachers like but is mischievous. We would talk in school and had a few embarrassing moments like when he ran into me (literally) in one of our classes. I helped him out with a school assignment (which is how we started talking), and he made a big deal about how I helped him. When I told my friends that I liked him, none of them could seem to keep their mouths shut. In a few days, everybody who knew me at school knew that I liked him. I started getting weird notes (from his friends). His friends would keep asking me if it was true (I didn't say anything). One day, I brought dessert in for our class, and he texted me the next day about them. When I was on the bus, 10 minutes later, I got a text from him asking me out. My friend (thankfully) told me that it might not have been him, so I didn't reply. It turns out she was right. For the rest of the week, I kept getting notes and texts from his friends apologizing and asking me out again. It was so embarrassing because he never said anything to me about it. After those incidents, the texts and talking stopped. A few weeks later, he texted and called me to apologize, that it was his friends. We texted a little more that day, but since then, things have been really awkward. Did he like me and I messed things up or was he just being friendly? (link)
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