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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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sorry if this is kinda gross but when you have a tampon in when you go to the bathroom do you hold the string or let it hang?

once again sorry if that's kinda gross (link)
You shouldn't have to mess with it. Here are some sites for you to check out. :)

http://www.tampax.com/en_us/pages/ques_main.shtml?pageid=tp0002&=1

http://www.kidzworld.com/site/p3627.htm


How Do you know when someone is flirting with you.
and how cna u flirt back? (link)
I can give you a link for flirting tips. If he is doing anything like they suggest you do...he probably is flirting! :)


http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/flirtideas.shtml


okay...this guy told me that i had sex appeal today and i dont know if i should have taken it as a compliment or an insult.

so could someone tell me what sex appeal is and if its a compliment or and insult.

BTW: im 13/f and i rate 5 for NONsmartass answers. (link)
I'd say it was probably a compliment. Her is the dictionary definition. :)

sex appeal
n.
Physical attractiveness or personal qualities that arouse others sexually.
Slang. General appeal; power to interest or attract.

Sounds pretty good!


so i used to have normal-big boobs.. then i stopped eatting so well and they got smaller. is there any food that will help me make them bigger? (link)
Gaining weight will make them bigger of course but it isn't anything in particular that you eat. If your weight is okay then I think I would just live with what you're given. Being fat with boobs isn't worth it! :)


Okay, new update. The stomach pains did come back but i'm guessing it's nothing serious. I think that's all but yeah. Head was hurting too. Heck, maybe i'm just being paranoid??? I don't know anymore. Write Back!!! (link)
You're not being paranoid. Not eating messes up your system big time. Just graze and eat a little at a time and hopfully the stomach pains will go away. :)


ok, so my doctor prescribed amoxicillion. but i was wondering if its going to make me hyper and crazy lik some other stuff i've taken.
will it?

thanks!

15/f (link)
It shouldn't. It is a med to fight infection and should in no way make you hyper. Other than feeling better in a couple of days you shouldn't notice any affects at all. :)


I just did a survey and I seriously don't know...what the heck does 'cut some rug' mean? The question was "would you cut some rug with me?". Help please.

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Cutting the rug is an older term meaning to dance. So if someone says to you lets cut the rug...they mean they want to dance! :)


okay so when i wake up my eye gets like really weird.. my eyelid looks swollen but its not swollen and i dont have pink eye ..i get this about every morning and it gets so annoying because one eye looks smaller than the other! whats wrong and what do i do?!

oh and this has been happened since this summer but its been on and off (link)
It sounds like allergies. I don't know for sure of course but that would explain it happening off and on. Benadryl works pretty good. You may want to discuss it with your mom. :)


well i've had this cold for a week it's geting worse. i want to feel better by next week, any help
i will rate high
striperella (link)
Tylenol cold non drowsy works wonders. You can also usually find a generic store brand with the same ingredients. Our state no longer allows it on the shelves thanks to all the meth users out there, so depending on where you live...you may have to ask for it. But it is the best thing for colds. Symptoms will go away within hours of taking it. :)


i found out that the guy i likes likes me back, and i need to know how to be flirty with him but not be like all over him. we are going to homecoming together later this month, but we arent like a "couple"
THANKS!!
i will rate (link)
I am definatley not the flirty type, but I do have a website that might possibly be of intrest to you. :)

http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/flirtideas.shtml



I know this will sound stupid but can a doctor tell of u have masterbated in the past week????? (link)
Not unless you come right out and tell them so.
They have no way of knowing, don't worry about it. :)


Alright well I have these 2 differant groups of friends. One of my friends, Laura, is like this rocker/ punk and likes rock like HIM and The Used and she got me really into it. So now I'm all rocker-ish and wear like BMX shirts and a beany hat and everything and I really like this new apperance. (I used to be preppy) It's not like my attitude has changed or anything and I'm definately not going to go out and do pot or anything like that. But then my other group of friends are more like normal. They're not preppy or fall under a particular group. I love them all both the same and my other best friend, Jess, thinks that I'm going down the wrong path and I'm going to wind up in trouble. Him and this other guy I'm friends with are whispering and talking about me behind my back and saying how I've gone punk. And I don't want to be punk because I really haven't changed and I just don't want to be known as a punk. Jess also says that if I don't change back to the "old" me then he doesn't know he wants to be my friend anymore. This hurts because I'm best friends with both Jess and Laura. I want to stay how I am but how can I show Jess and my other friends I really haven't changed and how can I make them just accept the new me?

Thanks for all your help and I rate really high!!

*..:..* The "punk" *..:..*


PS I just entered High School (9th) and so this is when I'm experiancing like new personalities so I'm not really randomly changing. (link)
You dress anyway you want to. Dressing a certain way doesn't change your personality any more than the type of music you listen to does, or the type of movies you watch do. Tell them to crawl out of the 50's. :)


Ok so i havent had a boyfriend since like febuary and i like this kid but he said he needed to get to know me better what should i do to get him to know me better??

ill rate high for good answers

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Just talk to him. In person, on the phone, IM, email...doesn't matter how you do it! Get to know what music he likes, who his friends are..stuff like that. Be sure you tell him all about yourself too. Before you know it you are friends and you know each other better. :)


The guy I have this huge crush on (i've liked him since February of this year) is a year younger than me. He's in 7th grade and i'm in 8th, but he has a late birthday so he COULD be in my grade but he missed the cut off (his bday is in November of 1992 and mine is in july of 1992 so i'm only a couple months older than him.) However, other people think i'm weird, cause they don't know when his bday is, and they think im weird cause i like a younger guy. Well the truth is i really like him. and i dont care what other people think. but what should i do 2 not make them think im a dork/loser for likeing someone younger than me?? Thanx i rate 5 every time :-) (link)
Why on earth would they think that? Some people are really goofy. I have been married to a guy a year younger than myself for 30 years. Do what you want. Tell anybody who doesn't like it that they don't know what they're missing and go for it. Good luck! :)


Welll..it's me again. I haven't talked to her but i think she knows. I'm not sure...but her and my dad always give me a hard time about not eating much. I've never eaten a lot even before this all happened and i wish they'd get off my back. I guess i'm just really upset with homelife right now and could care less what my parents think. But physically, i'm doing pretty good. Had a lot of stomach pains today, but i'm sure that's okay. My friends give me a hard time about not eating either. I'm just kinda going with it right now. And weight loss isn't that serious. At least not that bad. But yeah, that's the latest update here. Thanx again. (link)
Thanks for keeping me updated. If you are having problems at home I'm sure that isn't helping you any! If people are noticing maybe its time to tell. I'm behind you either way. :) Take it slow. If pains don't go away you need to get it checked out.


ok.....well this boy asked me out, and i dont like him, i like some one else! but i dont know how 2 tell him that i dont like him.
HELP ME!!!!! plz!
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You really don't have to tell him that you don't like him. Just tell him no, you kind of like someone else. A simple no if fine too. You don't have to give any reason if you don't want to. :)


Hi I am a 17 year old boy and my girlfriend wants to have unprotected sex
with me, but i'm not sure i want to have unprotected sex.

We have had protected sex before. Please Help me?. (link)
Why would she want to have unprotected sex? I realize you have feelings for your girlfriend but I don't advise it. Many a young lady has trapped many a young man by getting pregnant. First and foremost...follow your instincts. It isn't a good idea for many reasons. :)


do i like this guy and he asked me out but i said no because he is kinda weird but now i like him but i would be made fun of if i went out with him so hat do i do (link)
If you like someone bad enough you just go out with them no matter what anyone else might think.
Being weird isn't necessarily a bad thing. :)


ok well my friend said that i should wear a bra when i go to bed to prevent me from getting saggy boobs when im older is that the right thing to do? (link)
If you want to wear one to bed it is entirely up to you. As for it preventing sagging when you get older...untrue. If you have large breasts they are going to sag as you age. :)


do guys prefer it when your vagina is shaven or just left? (link)
This is just an opinion since I am not a guy. I think if a guy is seeing a vagina, and he is a young man....he is probably so happy he doesn't care one way or the other. So, do what YOU prefer. :)




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