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Can anydoby explain to me how to remove earrings? I can't seem to get them out, they're just regular studs. Thx.

When I was very very young, maybe as young as 5, my obsesion with piercings was just beggining and I got my ears pierced. My hair wrapped around the earring, and I was unable to get it loose. I tried tugging and it wouldn't work, and when my mother tried to help she only hurt my freshly pierced ears. If this is part of the problem, if they are too sensative to tug on, then you should either wait until it heals more, and just twist it and move it back and forth until it heals; or, you could try to go back to the place where you got it pierced and have the piercer help you out. That is what I had to do when I was 5 or so.

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when you use the common application to apply for college, is it okay to print it out and mail it to the college instead of doing it electronically??

Yes, it is. That is how I applied to the first college that I went to. If you are in high school, then you should be able to go to your guidance councelor and get a copy of the application. Also, if your able to go to the college, then they should have plenty of appications in the admissions office.

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I just started giving advice TODAY. And already I've given like tons of advice! Am I addicted? Lol! xDD

Yes, probably, it seems to happen very quickly. I should be writing my 7 page essay on David Sedaris (most hilarious author ever if anyone cares) but noo, advicenators just wont let me.

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I need help witht this riddle please try n figure it out fo me ok here it goes....... there is a ,man on trial and a man steps up to the stand and asks to speak, the judge says who are u the man says brother n sisters i have none but the father of this man is my fathers son, how is the man related to the criminal. $M$

ok, your riddle really does not make much sense, and I seem to be the only one who thinks so. Are you trying to say this

The man who steps up to speak says that he has no brothers or sisters. He also said that the father of the man on trial is his own father's son.

If that is what you are trying to ask, then the man is the criminals Father.

Seriously, go with this answer and you will get a good grade in whatever class this is for.

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hey

ok, well this guy and i r good friends we talk like for 3 hours every day. well i dont know if i should say he is my boyfriend because he never asked me out but he calls "boo-boo"(i dont why) and babygirl and all ways says i love so he acts like hes my boyfriend but i dont know if he is or not. plz tel me what you think thnx alot

~*~Emily~*~

Ask him out yourself. Or ask him what he introduces you as to his friends. See if he calls you his girlfriend or not.

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This is just a question of curiosity...how many mL's (milligrams) of water are you suppose to get each day? If not mL's..then oz's(ounces)..? Thanks!!!(14 year old gurlio)

8 cups of water a day. There are 8 ounces in each cup, so that would be 64 ounces a day.
Don't listen to texangirl, she's wrong. You should drink a hell of a lot more than 2 cups of water a day.

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OK heres the thing me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year, and hes a grade younger than me, so next year ill be in a different school an im wondering if othr people are goin to make fun of me and stuff, i rlly like him but im afraid that it might ruin my reputaion, also im afraid wht will appen if he was to brake up wit me? will my reputaion be ruined forevr? PLEASE HELP ME!! I RATE HIGH!!

Think about it this way. Would you rather have a reputation of "doing what other people tell you to do and hurting the people who care about you and who you care about"
Or would you like to have a "reputation of standing up for yourself and for the people who care about you and who you care about".

And of those two kinds of people, who would you rather hang out with? Someone who is close to you, but then starts to be mean to you, all because someone else told them to... Or, someone who will be your real friend and stick up for you no matter what some jerks say.

If someone tries to say something about you going out with someone a year younger than you, then ignore them, they are not good people. Don't listen to what other people say when they are trying to judge you, just do what you really want to do.

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does anyone know a HOMEMADE way to make a hair remover?? [preferably eyebrows] -i rate if its a answer that works-

Tweazers only cost a dollar or two.

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I recently got my tongue pierced. I love it, but the thing is, my church and friends don't approve of it. How do I deal with those opposed to the piercing?

Your always going to be faced with people that will have a prejudice against your piercings. It's almost inevitable. Just tell them that your the same person even if you decide to get a piercing. Just be very mature about it, and let them know that your are just as respectable with your tongue pierced.

If they still will not accept you, then get a red tongue ring and you can wear that when you want it to blend in with your tongue.

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i don't have a father figure in my life. my dad is a jerk..he tried like almost killing me before..and i don't see my step-dad as a father! do i need a father figure in my life? please help! i rate high!

No, you don't. I have never had a father figure, and I believe that I turned out fine with good values and a strong will. Hopefully your mother is strong and will teach you how to be strong like her. Many people get divorced these days, and not all fathers are the best role models. Just make good decisions on who you do want as a role model and you'll turn out fine.

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whats a good name for a new fish?

I've always wanted a fish named fluffy.

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I have a lot of cool sayings in my profile. Most in whick I made up. Every time I look at me friends profile, she has all my same sayings in mine. I get so frusterated! Now, she just IMed me witrh her advice colum user name and it is almost the same as mine! Should I tell her how I feel? Please, I need help fast!

Yes, tell her how you feel. If you don't then she will continue to do that. Don't be mean about it, she obviously looks up to you, just be nice about it, and maybe help her come up with her own sayings. Or show her a site where she can find some of her own.

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Okay well my ex boyfriend and I were dating for 9 months. Then he dumped me on our 9th month annerversary. I was so depressed. And to top it all off thats the day i sent out invitations to my 13th birthday party and he was invited. But anyways. I was so upset he dumped me cuz he liked another girl. I mean he never has had a chance to go out with her so far but its close. I still really like him, but im not sure if i should tell him or not bcuz he likes this other grl that he dumped me for...((which she has a boyfriend)) he tells me this grl likes him too though. Can u do that? Like someone else when ur already going out with someone? But i guess wut im trying to ask is... should i tell him i like him? cuz if he doesnt like me wouldnt he tell all his lil friends?? idk wut to do plz help me!!!

There are a few reasons why you should not tell him that you like him and just try to get over him.
1)because he already broke up with you for another girl.
2)because he is rude enough to try to go for a girl who already has a boyfriend
3)because you think he might go and tell all his friends that you like him

If he already broke up with you for someone else, then he doesn't deserve you. Let him go after the girl with a boyfriend, and let him fail many times.
If he's going after a girl that has a boyfriend, that is incredubly disrespectful to that girls boyfriend.
And, If you even think that he might go tell his friends that you like him, then he is very immature and downright mean.
From what you have said he sounds like a jerk and does not deserve you.

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(f, 15) hey i'm really confused right now...my best guy friend in the entire world just asked me to be his girlfriend a couple of days ago. now he has an awesome personality, but i don't think i could get over the lack of physical attraction, so i know it seems really shallow but i said no. supposedly he got over it really quickly and likes my friend sarah now..i know that sounds good that he didn't get hurt, but now i'm really jealous..i don't know if i'm just jealous of her because all the guys like her, or if i really do like him, or i am just being selfish and want everyone to like me..it's driving me crazy..i'm really not a bad person, i just don't know how i really feel..it doesn't matter that much i guess since he doesn't even like me anymore, i just want to figure out my feelings and i don't know how to. please help!

It's a natural reaction. I'm sure it felt good when your friend said he liked you. Even though there was no physical attraction for you, you were still flattered by him liking you. If you are feeling jealous because you are starting to actually like him then talk to him and tell him you made a mistake. But if you think the jealously is only coming because you don't want him to like her, then you will soon get over it and be happy that he was able to move on.

But who knows, maybe you actually do have feelings for this guy. If you actually have strong feelings, then you might realize that the physical attraction is there also.

But it's a very real possibility that you are just upset that he moved on so quickly and went after your friend who gets everyone. It's not a bad thing, it's only human to get jealous like that. Don't go calling yourself a bad selfish person just yet. And I don't think that he really would have gotten over you as quickly as he pretends to be. He is probably trying to be strong and not show that he might have been hurt. So if you like him, then tell him and you will probably find out that he still has feelings for you.

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Why do so many people use teenbonics and 7334? I do not understand. Teenbonics are generally used by the under-18 group (usually... not always...) and are frustrating for people to read sometimes. Especially if English is not the person's first language. 7334 or leet (short for elite) speak is just as obnoxious. It was originally used by hackers to talk about their... "jobs" in chats and forums so they would not be caught. Is it really so hard to type a few more letters? You is only two more letters than "u" and "lyk" is one letter short of being the proper form, like. Anyone else annoyed by teenbonics? Is there any polite way to correct people (especially friends) who use teenbonics? I know not everyone is perfect... a few capitalization or spelling etc. errors are fine. Constant abuse of the English language is wrong.

Yes, it's annoying, and it really does disturb me that young kids can be that ignorant about the English language. I've tried to correct people, and only get yelled at. I've been told that it's just way to easy to leave out those one or two little letters, and yes they would be type LyK DiS. I know that a person would not be able to type fast when they are using numbers, Caps. every other letter, and misspelled words. They just seem to think it's cool. When I can't read a question I give it a bad rating in hopes that more people will also rate it bad and it will eventually be deleted. If you are a level one Moderator, then help me by rating all the questions with especially bad teenbonics as frowns. Maybe if all of their questions get deleted they will start to realize that it really isn't very cool.

I am not saying that every young person uses this very annoying form of typing, and yes, I've come across quite a few 20-30 year olds who use it.

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okay i knoe alot of ppl are havin sex and all and i used to want ta have sex really bad but i was talkin to my friend and she really explained to me that its a really good idea to wait for mariage. so thats me new plan. but c i talked to alot of guys about having sex... and now i dont knoe how to turn them down..?? i mean will they think im dumb if i say i wanna wait till marriage??

Guys will call you dumb... prude... a loser... they will pretty much say anything to get you to think that you should sleep with them. But those kind of guys are definately not worth it to even sit there and explain that you want to wait until marriage. If a guy calls you dumb for your strong will, then you shouldn't hang around him, and definately don't let him take your virginity.

I respect you for wanting to wait until marriage when you really love someone to share something as special as sex with them.

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I have two horses that are the BEST of friends. You can't take one out of the pen without the other. They are stuck like glue, but one is 42 years old! really he is! and the other is at least 30. When one passes away, do you think we should put the other one down? I mean they are both already really old and I know that one would be in MISERY without the other. Just getting an idea if the event might arise.

Not to make you feel bad or anything, but that is extremely mean to think about doing. You can't just kill an animal because it's friend dies. Instead, why don't you think about how your going to need to give the younger horse extra love and attention. Would your grandmother want you to just kill her when your grandfather passes away? You should care about and love your horse just as much as if he/she was a part of the family.

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ok i didn't really know what category, but whenever something embarrasses me - even a little - i blush. i have relaly fair skin and I turn dark red. my friends always joke about it, and anyone who i've just met, catches on pretty quick too! how can i not blush as much??????

It's cute, just be happy with it. If your friends joke around about it, just joke around with them. If a guy jokes around about it then it means he thinks it's cute. So just be happy with it. If it doesn't bother you as much, then maybe you wont blush quite as much.

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Ok, I'm sorry, I really don't need advice but...

Is it just me, or is every1 else sick of these kids in their early teens talking about having sex?

It is fully YOUR decision about whether or not u are ready 4 sex but if u r having any doubts about it that u prolly aren't ready. Even better, u should prolly wait until ur older (or even married) cuz then u know that u truely love the person cuz u shouldn't b doing anything that u might regret.

Ok... I think that about does it w/ my tyraid...

Yup, I tend to avoid those kind of questions. I answered one before, telling a 13 year old that she was too young if she couldn't even say the word "sex" as opposed to "it". She gave me a one. These kids don't want to hear the truth that they're too young, they just want reassurance from others telling them to go ahead and have sex with whoever they want to.

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Does anyone know a site where I can ask a question on sex. I believe my question would be too graphic for this site because of how young most of the people here seem to be. :\ Or maybe a girl that would be old enough to answer my question (im 16)

Ask me. I can help.

Oh, I'm 21 if that helps.

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