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why am i jealous?
(f, 15) hey i'm really confused right now...my best guy friend in the entire world just asked me to be his girlfriend a couple of days ago. now he has an awesome personality, but i don't think i could get over the lack of physical attraction, so i know it seems really shallow but i said no. supposedly he got over it really quickly and likes my friend sarah now..i know that sounds good that he didn't get hurt, but now i'm really jealous..i don't know if i'm just jealous of her because all the guys like her, or if i really do like him, or i am just being selfish and want everyone to like me..it's driving me crazy..i'm really not a bad person, i just don't know how i really feel..it doesn't matter that much i guess since he doesn't even like me anymore, i just want to figure out my feelings and i don't know how to. please help!
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i think that you just expected ur guy friend to dwell on the fact that you said no..but instead he moved on very quickly..and no its not selfish! so its alright <3/Dakota
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I am having the same kinda problem, I think whats going on is that you knew he was always going to be there likeing you, wanting you, but he found anouther girl, and it is your friend. Talk to her, tell her how you feel about him, I think you feel like you had someone and now you don't. if she is a true friend she would understand. and if she doesnt even like him, he will get over it really fast. he still got feelings for you. hope this works! Good Luck sweetie. oh and you are not shollow or selfish!
*~*Crystal*~*
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.The only way to find out is to follow ur heart. watever u feel inside.u gotta let it all out,inorder to feel better.good luck
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It's a natural reaction. I'm sure it felt good when your friend said he liked you. Even though there was no physical attraction for you, you were still flattered by him liking you. If you are feeling jealous because you are starting to actually like him then talk to him and tell him you made a mistake. But if you think the jealously is only coming because you don't want him to like her, then you will soon get over it and be happy that he was able to move on.
But who knows, maybe you actually do have feelings for this guy. If you actually have strong feelings, then you might realize that the physical attraction is there also.
But it's a very real possibility that you are just upset that he moved on so quickly and went after your friend who gets everyone. It's not a bad thing, it's only human to get jealous like that. Don't go calling yourself a bad selfish person just yet. And I don't think that he really would have gotten over you as quickly as he pretends to be. He is probably trying to be strong and not show that he might have been hurt. So if you like him, then tell him and you will probably find out that he still has feelings for you.
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It really doesnt sound like you ever liked him. If you did like him, you'd know it. I think the only reason your jealous in a way is b/c he got over you soo quickly and went to your friend, and you feel almost wierd in a way b/c he forgot you for her, which isnt all that cool. But anyway... he doenst sound all that faithful, if you did go ahead and go out with him he'd probably be over you fast. Hope I've helped. P.S. if you really need to sort your feelings I suggest getting a journal, and if you have one, try a big fat long entry. You'll eventually write something down that means something, and helps you out.
best wishes! xoxo
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well.....his feelings about you couldn't just have vanished right after you said no. you probably are jealous, maybe because you like him but rejected him, but also because a lotta guys like sarah. the thing is i can't know your feelings and if you don't either, then you should figure them out, because no one can do that for you. if you said no so quickly, you probably don't like him more than a friend, and physical attraction can play some part in that.
hope this helps :)
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chances are if he really liked you, then he didnt get over you that quickly. and if you like him then you should tell him, but maybe you said no because you never really thought of him has a love interest.
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