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I'm afraid that it might ruin my reputation
OK heres the thing me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year, and hes a grade younger than me, so next year ill be in a different school an im wondering if othr people are goin to make fun of me and stuff, i rlly like him but im afraid that it might ruin my reputaion, also im afraid wht will appen if he was to brake up wit me? will my reputaion be ruined forevr? PLEASE HELP ME!! I RATE HIGH!!
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Well i have the same problem! except i really like this kid thats 2 grades younger than me. He's so cute i know people will make fun of me for a while if they figure out that i might be hoooking up with him. But i think you should follow your heart and screw what other people think , make yourself happy, not others.Because i think that's what i am going to do.
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well i can understand a little where your coming from my ex of almost a year was a year younger than me..but it dont bother me and you shouldnt let it bother you..especially if you really like him dont let other people ruin somthin good for you...age is nuthin but a number! and if people say somthin just tell them at least you have some one who cares about you and that they should worry about themselves..i never let it bother me and people were cool with it! good luck!
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ur reputation will not be ruined!!! people go out with younger kids all the time!! i wouold sugest yall take a brake he should understand that u wanna see wut else is out there...then u might realize that u dont care wut other poeple think about it n u will get back together with him!! hope that helped....LiL_SaRaH 720<<<AsK mE!
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You need to decide what is more important to you - this guy, or the way people might (and I stress MIGHT) feel about your relationship with him.
If he is more important, then you need to be strong enough to stick with him. It truthfully sounds like you are more concerned with your reputation.
If your friends are real friends, why would they mock you for being with a younger guy? And if he broke up with you, I'd hope they'd be more worried about your feelings than about running off and telling everyone how broken your heart is.
I think you need to consider where this is all coming from - maybe you are using your reputation worries as an excuse to break if off with him? All you can do is make some time alone for yourself and do some hard thinking.
It's okay if you want to stay with him, but it's okay to break up, too. What isn't okay is doing things just because you worry about how people will judge you - that's a surefire recipe for making a choice you'll regret.
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Don't let what other people think get to you..i have a friend who went out with this girl one grade younger than her..( he was in 9th her in 8th) and they lasted and still are together..noone made fun of him..and if someone ever did he wouldn't care because he loves her so much...you shouldn't care either..it won't ruin your reputation if you go out with someone in a different school thats younger..don't worry.. all that matters is that you like eachother..
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people are going to make fun of you no matter what you do. whether its dating or school or who you hang out with, upperclassmen don't care what the excuse is as long as they get to piss people off.
so screw what they think!
Your rep is never "ruined forever" only for a little while.
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first of all: if your going to a diff. school w/ diff. people; what reputation? usually the high schools are bigger, with more people; there's gonna be people going out w/ ppl 3 years younger... it's completely fine. don't worry about it, if you really love him, forget about a rep. taht barely's there
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Just because hes in a grade lower then you shouldnt keep you from loving him and everything what you do in your relationship is your own personal business no one elses but yours and his and i mean if you honestly care what people think that you honestly dont really care enough to just let it surpass and everything if you love him then dont let others get in the way of that you do what you want to do in your relationship no more can control that but you and him
-Cass-
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Don't worry about your rep, that doesn't matter as long as u like urself, atleast that's what i say. I think you should try and stay together, but if there's no time to then, i think u should go ur seperate ways. I really hope this helped!!Latas!!!!
.::Chelsea::.
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ok just one ?....why would you care what people think of you?? I mean if people make fun of you then thats their problem....i doubt they'd make a HUGE deal out of it! n if he brakes up with you then oh well...i mean what can you do? the best thing u could do is try to get over him or try to win him back!!!! >:)
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I shoulent be telling u this cuz i do, but u shoukdent care what ppl tghink, of u really really really like him, u shouldent care what they think!
~MeLiNdA~
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this reminds me of the song southside like da guy in da video seys if ya like him then go fo iit cuz at da end of da day nobody cares!
XoXo`-bRyTt
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if you love him, it shouldn't matter what grade he's in.
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dont worry bout ur reputation, its not gonna take u places, and who cares if ur bf is younger, the new thing with stars today is dating younger me, look at Demi moore and Ashton, Cameron Diaz and justin, its a big thing dating younger men, dont worry just go with it. hope i helped
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If you value what other people will think of you over the value of your actual feelings and relationship with this guy then - why are you even with him?
You shouldn't be worried about what other people think of you. If someone does judge you because you're with someone from a different school or you were dumped by someone from a different school, well why do you even value that persons opinion anyhow? People that do that aren't really worth the mental anguish.
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I know some people that are like that and no one makes fun of them. It wont ruin your raltionship. If he was to break up with you it wont ruin your relationship forever, yeah it will hurt for a while but you will find someone new. Just be sure not to do anything bad to make him brake up with you if you really love him. Then you wont have to worry about breaking up.
xo_
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Aww don't worry no one will make fun of you. I think if you really like him you wouldn't care about what people think. If you think he might break up with you ask him about it. Just say will you promise me somthing? and ask him not to break up with you no matter what. And if he really likes you and is a good boyfriend he will do that. So don't worry!!
xoxo chels
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ok well I gotta ? for u out of these people who would u rather chill with? People that dont respect u cuz of your b/f or the guy that makes u happy. If u really love/like ur b/f it shouldn't matter how old he is. If people dont want to respect u for u. Then they dont need u. You would deserve better friends then that . The people that do accept it are the true ones. Dont care what other people think though. Its none of their biz. Also if ur b/f loves/likes u then he also shouldnt care what ppl say about u. ighty
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u shouldnt care what other ppl think hun!!if you love ur bf and ur bf loves you..then you shouldnt worry about it! its nobody elses business ne ways! <3/DAkota
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Think about it this way. Would you rather have a reputation of "doing what other people tell you to do and hurting the people who care about you and who you care about"
Or would you like to have a "reputation of standing up for yourself and for the people who care about you and who you care about".
And of those two kinds of people, who would you rather hang out with? Someone who is close to you, but then starts to be mean to you, all because someone else told them to... Or, someone who will be your real friend and stick up for you no matter what some jerks say.
If someone tries to say something about you going out with someone a year younger than you, then ignore them, they are not good people. Don't listen to what other people say when they are trying to judge you, just do what you really want to do.
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Ok what do you care about more, the boyfriend you love, or your reputation? No offense but you shouldnt bother going out with him if your reputation is more important. Ignore what people say, and if it helps dont bother telling them who you are going out with. If he breaks up with you, your reputation should be fine! People dump and go out with people all the time
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dont worry about what other people think! if u truely like him then dont worry bout it. But maybe if ur going to a new school go into it single and not have to worry about a younger bf at a different school.
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