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Hai friends i have a small dough i don't the online shopping web sites so plz give online shopping sites names

Depends where you live and what you are looking for.
If you're looking for Stereo equipment, it wont help if I recommend a clothing or shoe store. In your case, it might be best if you use on-line search to find what stores are in your area and get their address and driving directions and go have fun shopping. Put in searches for Department stores and city and state in search box or clothing stores or appliance stores...what ever it is you are needing to find

if a girl loves a boy unconditionally and wants him to at least propose or give he a promise ring with out asking him for it?

Depending on your age my advice will differ a bit. If you are a young teen, focus only on dating now, marriage is an if, way in the future. You won't have any experience with being around guys long enough to have learned what kind of behavior you like and what is not to be tolerated from a guy. Experience teaches a lot. But to have a broad base of experience, you need to have dated more than one or two people in your life.
Moving on, if you are young college age, you have hopefully matured enough that it is a good time to look at yourself and get to know yourself next if you don't already. Who are you at core? And what are your values and morals? When people have to talk about and describe themselves on a dating profile for example, they fall flat. All they can think of as to who they are is where they attended school, what degree they have and what job they have...thats it. I did not think 'promise rings' were an 'in thing' anymore with the non church type. Young teens in church are encouraged to take a vow of remaining a virgin until they marry and wearing a ring their parents bought for them to signify they made that vow. I assume you aren't part of that group or the guy wouldnt be buying it for you. Sorry but I don't have much to go on with what you wrote.
Once you know yourself well enough to know what you need and want in a guy, needs are a must have...vital...if not present in the man, its a deal breaker. A want is like icing on the cake, nice but not necessary. A want for me was for a guy with long hair but I would have accepted one who shaved his head.
Now how do I tell you the next part which you probably dont want to hear:
No one MAKES another person decide to promise to marry or promose or marry. Most females dream of the perfect wedding even when no guy is interested or dating much less in love with her. Look how many Wedding shows, or wedding dress shows are on cable TV. It's an obsession. Young women have come to care more about all the details of a perfect wedding when there is no guy in their life. And if there is a guy, they have not put the details into finding out if he's the right guy for her the same way she focuses on getting proposed to or married. Thats the problem and why so many people marry the wrong person for them. Some will cheat, divorce, or become abusive toward each other before someone gets hurt or killed, or they live in a loveless marriage and let their libido and sex life die and live only as friends. The percent who had the fancy wedding and still have a guy who is hot and passionate about her and treats her like a Queen from day one 10 yr or 30 yrs laters is a rare thing.
Why, because we get married for wrong reasons or to wrong person.
An indicator of a possible problem here for you is that you say you love a boy...not a man...which indicates you armakese young still and that fact that you have not mentioned that a guy loves you is an even greater problem. Love must be a two way street.
Don't ever marry someone who doesnt rock your world. Too many marry someone who loves them but is not in love with them. The difference is like being married to your brother or married to your best friend and a man who is madly in love with you. There is a difference most people dont know it. If I have guess wrong on all this. Write my column and leave more detailed info in my in box.

i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years almost 3 and we have made out many times and i was thinking what can i do to make him ejaculate faster other then giving him a blowjob or handjob.any help please?

Each person is unique. What it takes to get any one male or female to orgasm will differ with the person.

Physically though, it is known that massaging a males g-spot will (with many but not all males) make them ejaculate faster or feel a stronger orgasm which is just as pleasurable if not more so.

So how do you find the male g-spot? Its pretty easy. Here's the part you may not like or him either until he experiences it at least once.
It's his prostrate gland. How do you get to it? The same way Doctors do when they give older males a prostrate check up.
It is a couple inches inside his anus on the side facing the front of his body. Wear a disposable rubber glove or pharmacys also carry just rubber gloves for the finger only. You will want to put lube on the rubber finger you intend to use, best to use the middle finger. I still get my directions backward as i approach with my finger.
You want the pad of your finger to be coming into contact with his g spot so you can bend the finger to press down on it and massage. You both have to communicate well with him telling you if he thinks you're in the wrong place and once you've got the spot, if he wants you to press lighter or harder and just massage, rub it all over. It feels about the size of a walnut. Look it up on the web to see what you are going to be doing. It's really not that gross once you two are comfortable together which you ought to be by almost 3 years together. It doesnt have to be a surprise thing you do in sex that is special.
I have only known of a few guys who dont feel anything that way or did not like.
The majority love it. this from talking to people who are comfortable talking about it.

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I started seeing this guy, James, about 8 months ago. We immediately got along so well and our sense of humor matches up- which is very important to me. Being in college though, I knew I wasn't ready to be in a committed relationship. With parties constantly going on, I was always meeting cute guys that I knew I would say yes to going on dates with. I've never been one to sleep around, but I loved meeting new guys. James was very clear that he really liked me, but I kept pushing him away.

However, since summer started, I began seeing him every day. Any time neither of us had to work, we were with each other. I got to know him so much better. Recently, I moved a couple hours away but have gone to see him a couple of times. Each time I see him, I find myself thinking how wonderful is and I can truly see myself marrying him. He's everything I want in a man, constantly has me in tears from laughing so hard, and I always feel the excitement I did when we first started seeing each other.

The problem is that I still get asked on dates by other men from time to time and I find it hard to say no. They text me and I flirt back, and afterward I feel awful. How do I let go of that? James' parents love me and they always talk about our future- which EXCITES me to think about! I don't feel as if I'm running from the commitment because the thought of being in a relationship with him makes me so happy. I just can't quit seeing other men too. How do I stop before I ruin my relationship?

The problem is that your heart and your subconscious mind has not made a commitment to James...you admitted that right off the bat. You are young and deep down inside, you are the female version of a male wanting to experience a lot of females before he settles for one. You are plainly not ready to commit.
What you are trying to do is:
You want to enjoy single college life for now but find a way to keep a nice guy on the back burner waiting for you once you've gotten your fill of experiencing the attention and dating and party life.
Right? Well, that could easily blow up in your face with James becoming tired of waiting for you to come to your senses and he moves on and gets a girl who is ready to commit to a serious relationship or maybe even marriage now.
No one can predict when they will find the right one for themselves so if it happens in college, then good, make the commitment and enjoy.

You still want to play and are not ready for some of the things of adult life. And thats okay if thats who you are. But don't force yourself to change who you are to make someone else happy. Be your self. If being yourself is being single and partying with lots of guys, then so be it. But you must be honest with James and tell him that you are still young 21, and not ready to commit to a relationship, even just dating, with one guy. So this is notice to him that as much as you like him, you want to live and enjoy college life. The decision making part of our brains dont finish fully growing until mid 20's so you might be pushing it to make the best decision for yourself on a committed relationship for a handful of years yet. So dont rush into anything. I can't tell you how to stop doing what you are doing because it might involve changing who you are and what you need to experience. Once you are done playing, if Jame is still single and available and willing to take you back, then lucky you, go back to him. But he may be taken.
If you are really that much in love with him that you fear losing him . . .then no pretty guy could turn your head and get you to want to tango with him. Plain and simple, it seems you don't care enough about James. It take more than a nice guy to be in a committed relationship or marriage with, it takes someone with whom there is sexual chemistry too. You've got the friendship part down, so James could easily be your best friend...important in marriage but he may not end up being your lover..the one who moves you with love and passion beyond your wildest dreams. If you marry someone who is only a best friend without having the hot lust, love, passion part, then you end up like the greater amount of couple who are married to a best friend but have no sexual relationship at some point. Some of those are happy to let their libidos die. Others are not and one or both partners start having affairs not because there is something wrong with their partner, its just they are with the wrong partner to begin with.

my husband was having a fling with a woman and was about to go see her in another country, had I not caught him. I took everything away from him and told him to leave. now he wants me to give him a chance. however he treated me very cold before and i begged for a chance mine you I cook, wash, clean his house. I don't drink or smoke. I cried and told him what did I do wrong. I got on my knees and told him whatever I had to do to better our marriage. He just keep telling me that he didn't want to try, and he told me to change for myself that he didn't love me. however he was nice. he said he wanted to start a new life at 45. we've been married 17 yr's. and have a 16 year old son. he talked to the woman on the phone in front of me, told her not to call, text, or e-mail him. however I don't see him the same. very quite and like his thinking. The female is 34 and is crippled from the waist down. An old school so called friend introduced him. My husband would come home from work always moody and said he wanted to be alone in the bedroom he wanted time away from me. he got information on plane tickets and was looking where she lived on map quest and going to get a loan for the trip. till i caught him. I told him that he was committing adultery and so was she, because we were married before God, but that didn't move his conscience. help pleas

I don't know how big a loan it was to be, but to intend to take out any loan which puts your family in a less strong standing financially just to satisfy his needs and/or curiousity is very selfish of him. He wasn't thinking of the impact on you or the son. The fact that he could not be honest with you no matter how it hurt, shows he is a weak person with no strong morals or values at his core of being. It sounds like the man you are married to may have loved you as a person, loves you maybe as the mother of his son but it probably ends there. His love is more like a love for mom or sister or grandmother, but certainly not the love for a spouse. Making vows before God means nothing to many. Only those who have core values to begin with.
Many people marry who should not because the amount of sexual chemistry and compatibility they have with each other is mediocre but when a person has nothing better to compare against, you have no idea until you have been married a while that you're with the wrong person. I as a christian lady followed the rules to not have sex before marriage. I wish i had been having a sexual relationship with him before cus I would have known something was seriously wrong. In compatibility, we probably were 3 on a scale of 1-10. If you arent an 8,9, 10 a couple has no business getting married or staying married once they discover this. It's okay to make a mistake. But trying to force staying together because of misplaced devotion to ones faith is crazy. I was crazy, I stayed with him 30 yrs before God told me to leave because the stress hubby was experiencing from a life of marriage to someone who he had no chemistry with was causing him to treat me with frustration, disrespect, anger etc...and the stress my body received because of it was going to kill me in the end if I did not leave...that is what the Holy spirit told me. I would be dead in 4 yrs if i didn't leave. I left.

Honey you have done nothing wrong. In some cases one person is in love and committed and satisfied and sees no problem which may have been the case for you unless you were just choosing the ignore the signs. in my case i ignored the signs. From the start I bet you were the wrong person for him. You know those romance novels with the hot passion for each other, mutual for both? Sometimes its there for a couple months only...called new relationship energy. Eventually it wears off and you know then what you are left with. If after NRE wears off, you don't have any hot passion together...something is wrong. I choose to believe that romance novels were b.s. and there is no such thing in real life. Boy was I wrong. My new husband is my sexual equal. I have the exact body he dreamed of since he was a young boy. He and I have a vibrant sex life...it IS possible. You deserve it too. Your husband realizes something is wrong and that you dont bring that spark to him. Its not his fault or yours that there is no spark for him or both of you. Its a chemical thing. But for him to not be honest about how he felt and seek to go behi spirit told me. I would be dead in 4 yrs if i dund your back is very wrong. You need to split up because the two of you are not right for each other and there is some guy out there for who you will be the cats meow. He will treat you as a Queen and he will say how blessed he is to have you and he will never tire of seeing you undressed, or of kissing, or flirting, or making love. It will be as special the umpteenth time with your new mate as it was the first time with your new mate. Once you experience this, you will realize what you had with the ex never ever came near. To move forward however, you will need to have some heart to heart talks with God and hear directly from him, his blessing for you to move on. God does not have the restrictions that the church does. I highly doubt He will tell you to stay with your current husband.
Also:
Think of what your son is witnessing. He only has the negative impression of devotion in marriage. If he is to have a successful marriage of his own someday, it would be good for him to see you treated well and fully loved and cherished by a new husband. The children always know way more than you give them credit for. Mine did and so did the teen or college age kids of many friends. They always knew. While seeing parents split up is hard, in the long run, your son is going to want more for you and dad to be happy and if that means having different partners, then that is good.

I am a 14 year old female. I live in the United States. My grandmother is very ill. She lives in mexico. We found out on 4th of July that she was in the hospital. My mom is very very very strong, just like the rest of her family. It's just a couple of months ago she lost her sister, due to some heart issues. It seems that my grandmother is having the same issues that my aunt (the one who passed away), also had. Right when we found out, my mother and I wanted to go to Mexico to go see her. Although it isn't easy. My aunt lived in San Diego which is about 2 hours away, It was must easier to go visit her. While my grandmother lives in Mexico, a different country! Airline tickets and too expensive and I have a phobia so we decided we'd go driving there. We found out she had surgery and she was handling it just fine. Also we were suppose to leave on Thursday, July 11 but today Tuesday, July 09 we received a phone call. My grandmother was doing better a couple of days ago, and now they found out she has an infection and is very ill. Now we have to leave On Wednesday. Honestly I'm very scared. I get car sick easily, I get claustrophobic easily, its a full day and 3 hour drive. I am leaving for 2 weeks and I have never been away from my sister, father, and home for that long. It worries me that it might just be to much to handle and i'll just have a huge break down. I try really hard not to cry in front of my mother. I wanna be as strong as she is but I just hate the fact that I'm going to see her and the rest of my loved ones in such a bad mood. Please give me tips on how to comfort them and how to comfort myself!

I don't know if there are any age limits to using a motion sickness medication but first, ask pharmacist at your local pharmacy and get a recommendation and make sure to take it before you get in the car, not after you begin to feel the symptoms. If you are feeling better physically, it won't be as overwhelming when dealing with your emotions.
It is so good to hear how close you and your family are. Not everyone is blessed that way. Being away from family and home will need to be looked at as an adventure. You will soon be in high school and will that there may come chance to be away from home on band or concert trips or for sport events. Its better that you experience it now so you dont have a breakdown in front of peers later. Any new, unknown is scary to every human, its just we don't all show it or react differently. So its okay to be nervous about being away from home...thats natural, not a sign of weakness. It would not be good for yourself to bottle up tears and not cry if the mood hits. Always allow yourself to be real and true to yourself. Never try to change who you naturally are to be like someone you admire or adore such as your mom. Since you are already worried about it, your subconscious mind that controls all your emotions is scared that you are going to try to force yourself not to cry.
Bottling it up can cause more problems for you healthwise than help your mother. Crying is a good natural release for the body. Some people don't need to cry as much as others. Just trust me for now. If in the future you get a chance to study on line about chakra's and stuck energy in your body, you will understand why I have said so. The stuck energy of bottling up your feeling can easily cause medical problems in your body and in extreme cases become a disease.
Just the fact that you are accompanying your mom and her having you present is the best thing you can do for her. She does not have to face this alone. Look at this also as a special privilege to see your Grandma one more time before she possibly passes on. Perhaps having another purpose to focus on while there will be helpful to you. Think of those who can't be at her side at the end, how precious would it be to hear a tape recording of her voice and a message from her if she is strong enough to talk and maybe filming her with a cell camera. Take several different videos. Take extra batteries for camera. Get shots of your mom with your grandma together. Eventually it will be good for her to have those videos and photos to remember her last times with mom. Your mom as her daughter is less likely going to be able to do this herself, as her focus will be on her mom, your grandma. Give yourself time to hug and love on her and talk to her and maybe have someone else get pics of you with her.

15 year old female, DAILY headache and breathing hardly for a couple of seconds, and sometimes develops a very very hard headache for only a couple of minutes. Yesterday, she vomited before sleeping and today she's vomiting EVERYTHING she eats...
Any ideas?
High five everyone like always.

-Thank You.

I do know that migraines can cause a person to feel nauseous and vomit. Thankfully I only had it 3 times in my life. No matter if its migraines or something else, if she cant keep down food and fluids she needs to be taken to the Doctor, first to be rehydrated and then to have some tests done to discover what is behind all of this. I wouldnt even want to guess what it is.

my boyfriend and i try to have sex, but the thing is he thinks im not virgin, the thing is it hurt so much but i didnt blooded i need someone to tell me if i still virgin?

What you have said, tells me that not only is your boyfriend uneducated about sex and all the different variables and things to learn to be really knowledgable but you also do not have a clue.
only 12 states are required to haveSex ed classes and those are not required to be accurate. So it falls to you to educate yourself on more than just this one issue. (If your boyfriend is too prideful to admit he knows next to nothing or unwilling to go watch the youtube site together with you that i am going to give you, then he isn't worth your time. Find another guy.)
Once you have intercourse, the part when his penis enters your vagina, you are no longer a virgin. Females have hymens which stretch like rubber bands so they don't always tear and bleed a few drops. Its an old misconception started by men long ago in times of when it was important to have a female who was virgin so that there weren't other children who might come forward and fight his own children for rights to have the wealth and property passed on to them.
What many people don't know is that the hymen stretchs like rubberbands and so in some women there may be no bleeding at all or in some, a little tear of skin that produces a couple drops of blood, never much. There is no way, no test at all to know if a woman is a virgin or not. Why, because many adult women who are out of a relationship for a long time before they find a guy, will discover that when they were not having any sex, their hymen shrunk smaller again as it was when their were teens.
Your boyfriend needs to be educated. Hopefully he isn't the type to spread around stories that you are a slut.
There is a YOU TUBE channel called Sex plus by Laci Green she has 159 3-4 min very informative videos. She is close to being a peer, college age now but started as a teen, and very funny and entertaining. As a much older adult, I couldn't do any better than her in teaching on so many sexual topics. Its amazing what self education can produce. Please start off by watching this one video with your boyfriend and going on to view the others too.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8WkpA

How do a girl who is dateing a friend but being cheated on by him without my parent knowing but satisfie her enogh where she wont tell him?

Sometimes a person is not ready to hear the truth. They need to discover it on their own. You can not be the one to tell or warn her. All you can do is to comfort her when she finally discovers on her own and is devastated. Never say you knew it all along. If you are asked point blank by her how she can ever trust another guy, and if you do happen to know what the warning signs are, you can say something but don't offer any advice unless asked directly for it.

Hi this may be a little long winded but thanks to anyone who reads this.

I am 23 and female, I have been friends with my friend lets call her T for 10 years, we were very close when we were younger and spent all of our time together, as we got a bit older she moved schools and we grew apart a little but we used to meet up and get drunk, anyways we used to kiss whilst drunk but we still dated boys.

I got in a bad relationship for a while and did not really see her, when we were 19 we ended up having a threesome with a guy we met in a club, and she was not interested in the guy she mostly wanted me.

Now years later we both have a child each, she is engaged and I am in a committed relationship, when we go out she still flirts, ages ago she told me she loved me when drunk. Last week we went out and she told me she was attracted to me, she was trying to hug me alot and touch my face then when I confronted her about this she said it was in my head and was weird.

I am just so confused about whether she is straight or not and what her behavior means, has anyone else been in this situation and could you shed any light on it?

Thanks :)

There is not much talk about women being bi-sexual. But there are more women who are than men. I have hung out in clubs in my past where you found lots of bi-sexual women. I got to talk to their husbands. They were okay with her wanting to have fun with another female. They themselves had no interest in any other female than their girl-friend/wife.
I wonder whose idea it was to have the 3-some once. I am guessing it was her talking you into the both of you giving this guy a great time by focusing on him together. It may be that her infatuation with other females only extends to you, or perhaps she isn't willing to admit she is bi-sexual. She better figure it out quickly because it will cause problems for her new marriage if the husband is not okay with it.

Just to make it clear for you: a Lesbian is only sexually turned on by another female. A person who is bi sexual is sexually turned on by both males and females. Nothing wrong in that, it's just how some people are wired. You can be supportive as her close friend without becoming a partner for her. First be honest with your self, are you turned on by females...excluding when you are drunk and inhibitions lowered. You would know it because you would experience the feelings while fully sober. If you are not, you need to be honest with her. Since she has not been willing to bring up the subject but just try to get a positive reaction from you, your friend isn't going about this in the best way. Her feelings were hurt when she was coming on to you and you rejected her, thats likely why she then said it is all in your head. Go read up on bi-sexuality on line. Then approach her to talk about it. Tell her that while you feel comfortable doing stuff in the past while drunk that you've been honest with yourself and find that you are not sexually turned on by females, you don't find yourself actually wanting them. You have read about bi-sexuality and wonder if maybe thats what is going on with her. Reassure her that you know she likes men so she is not a lesbian but there are women who like both. As her friend, you are asking that she be honest with herself, and its okay if she is, she isn't going to lose you as a friend, you just won't be a female sex partner. Bring up honesty and truth between her and the fiancee. Your concern being that she may want to look on line for other females looking for bi women friend and discover now by trying it, if she really is sexually turned on by women as well as men or was it only you. She deserves to know this about herself before the actual marriage so she can tell her fiancee if she is. It may be a deal-breaker. It may not be. Many guys do not feel threatened by that at all. But to say nothing and discover this after several years of marriage is a bigger emotional mess to deal with.
Be a good friend and have a talk with her. She may not be receptive but the thought will be planted and if she is still bi-curious, I bet you she will at some point try it out again in the future with someone else to verify that need in her or not.

I'm kind of confused... I was at an all night fundraiser for my Band and Color guard. Since I was in both i did 2 1/2 hours with band and the rest of the time with guard (It was from 6 to Midnight)Color guard performed for the band our winter guard show and then we were aloud to stay up ALL NIGHT. So (I'm 13 and a girl, i was an 8th grade when this all happened) and one of the Sophomores (he's now a Junior) asked me if i was going to stay up. I said "Heck yeah!" and he looked at me and said "The 8th grader is going to stay up?" He asked, I told him I would show him and i walked away.(He's cute and I'm not using names so I'll going to use all of the people's first initial) So i was kind of hanging around jumping from group to group of students. When i saw this group of group of guys on the floor playing cards. I kind of knew them so i decided to go over there. I sat sown and I realized 'Z' (The guy i mention above)was watching. So a short amount of time later he decided to actually play. He gave us all some M&M's and I found out one of the guys 'J' liked Egyptology like I do. So we started talking about it and I got up to show him something on the computer right next to our group and for some reason 'Z' followed us. He did this again when i got up to show 'J' something again. So then our Band director turned off the light because some students were already sleeping and the rest where watching a movie, so we took the cards and a blanket out into the hall and sat down. We sat in a cube formation (I sat with my back against the wall, J sat next to me, another guy sat making the other side. My friend C sat next to him, the Z sat opposite to me and then E sat across from the other guy) The guys were trying to explain a game to me but i couldn't grasp it, and playfully 'Z' said "Wow S you're really slow!" and immediately 'Z' said "Yeah! Well she is way more mature than you are!" and C said something about it right after that and 'Z' defended me again just like he did before!(I had told him earlier that night that i was really mature for my age)and we started plying a game. 'E' was lying on his stomach and explaining the games while shuffling the cards (Keep in mind I am the only girl with 5 guys)and I looked up and 'Z' started mimicking 'E' with his hand and mouth and kept eye contact with me.I started laughing and he did,keeping eye contact. After a while I went back into the Band room and 'Z' and 'J' followed me. The next morning It was cold and i couldn't find my jacket (I was in a tank top)to go get breakfast and 'E' gave me his. I came back inside after doing so and 'Z' looked at me weird and confused. I felt like i had to explain why i had 'E's jacket. Now this happened a few weeks ago. We where having our pop's concert and I was walking around (I didn't want to get in my dress yet) and 'Z' randomly goes "Shouldn't you go get in your costume?" I forgot what we said after that though. At a Pre-Festival concert i went to for band I was kind of upset with 'Z'(he called me something mean, but not that bad.I think he was teasing.We were on a bus) and i sunk down into my seat, on my phone and i randomly hear "S, S!" I sat up and saw him and he asked "Are you dead?" I said yes and turned around. On a us to Competition i had fallen asleep and when i woke up on the way back when we got back to the school 'Z' said to me in a baby voice "Wakey Wakey!" because since i was 1 of the 8th graders i was like a baby. I have NO idea if he likes me or not and I don't know if I like him or not. I might. I need help! He's about 2-3 years older than me so please don't say He's to old or I'm to young. I just need help. I'd also like advice on how to get closer to him when I'm kind of shy. Please help!

I remember being the one gal hanging out with a bunch of guys. We were all the same age in youth group at church but sometimes they'd approach me and ask if I wanted to go with them to some event. I was chosen over the other girls. There are reasons for that.
It might be that your Z and the others see you stand out from the other enjoy the company of females but with all the other girls there and there were 5 guys, not even one other had found a girl to ask to hang out with him and the guys. You were the only one they all were interested in.
Why?
At the middle school and high school years, many girls could be too flirty and girly for a guy so guys don't find it comfortable to approach and talk to girls. The majority of girls can appear to be some strange creature. Lets say, like female but from another planet...thats how they come across...as being very foreign. You however, no matter your age, come across as female yet very human and approachable. So throughout the years, you likely will find that you attract a lot of guys as friends because they need a female they are comfortable with to begin practicing how to talk to a girl, flirt with and get positive feedback from a girl and how to learn more about them, what they are like on the inside, their personalities and characteristics.

In the group of male friends, there will occasionally be one or maybe two who have a genuine interest in taking it from a group friendship level to a more best friend level and maybe to dating if all goes well. It might not but thats all part of dating and learning. Look at it all as a learning experience for later in life to pick a partner. It's few who find someone in high-school who become a lifelong partner.

So Z tried being intentionally funny to see if you would respond favorably and you did...you laughed. It is a very rewarding thing for a guy to be able to do something that a female likes. He needs to be recognized in some way that makes him stand out from the others when he is practicing his flirting skills and is genuinely attracted to the girl. Think of it this way, can you really see yourself practicing your flirting skills on a guy you don't even find attractive? Nope...same for him. So he is attracted to what he see's but being attracted to and really liking a girl are two different things to a male. So you won't find them easily making a commitment right off the bat to 'be a couple' or date if he does not know enough about a girl to know if he likes the you inside of you.
So it would be a good time to see if he would like to hang out and become closer friends with you. Next timed you see him, refer to the incident and how you like his sense of humor and how he could make you laugh.(that will make his self pride as a male feel good) and then ask him if he would like to hang out together with you and become closer friends. In another year, you'll be in high-school too with him as a junior or senior. Once in high-school the age difference doesn't much matter. While right now, this summer, your parents may be alarmed, let them know you two are just becoming friends and are not dating. But ask if its okay to have him hang out at your house with them there. Thats a great way to start. If a guy is too self conscious to hang out with your parents at home, he is not the right guy for you. Plenty of teens have written whose parents let the young man come hang at their house starting age 13 or so and after years of it they have become comfortable with the young man and know he is always going to treat their daughter well and are more likely to be okay with and supportive of them as older teens becoming sexually active as many have told me.
I am not saying that is the goal...having sex...the goal is to learn about guys and what you like and don't like about them. You never have to put up with anything you don't like. Just make a mental note of it and move on. That may or may not happen with Z but dont even worry about that. Just ask him as I have suggested and yes, get his number. But from someone of an older generation, may i suggest that you don't rely too heavily on just texting and actually phone calls and try to spend time face to face. Its the seeing each others expressions as he did when you laughed that worked. It couldn't happen over phone. Also,, when you get his number, ask if he really likes texting or prefers phone calls. Lots of guys are not into typing and you wont get much meaningful convo that way from him. Good luck!

For the past five years or so, I've had an awful time trying to sleep. It's recently gotten so bad that I go days with just a couple hours of sleep. I feel awful and heavy and gross, but no matter how much I try, I can't sleep. I try to relax, I meditate, I do a little reading before bed, and I've taken medication.

I spent a whole month taking NyQuil because it was the only thing that made me tired enough to sleep. I tried benedryl too, which helped both my sleeping and allergies. But now, none of them are working anymore. I've spoken to my doctors about it, but they only gave me anti-anxiety pills and while they did make me a little drowsy, they made me feel horribly depressed too.

I've never been medically tested for insomnia, but I think I need to. I'm pretty sure that's what it is. I'm hardly ever sleepy and when I am, it's during the day when I have to be around people. Otherwise, I'm wide awake. And sometimes, after an all nighter, I'm exhausted, but push through the day so I'm tired by the time bedtime comes around, but as soon as it gets dark, I'm wide awake and active. I really need help because this is driving me insane, and my mom too as I still live with her and she constantly complains about my staying up all night and taking naps during the day.

Can I get this medically tested? If so, what kind of procedure is it? Are there any natural remedies I can try aside from meditation?

Maybe your body just has its days and nights mixed up. And your dr. can suggest some things to try. Or your Dr might suggest a specialist to help you.

I use natural medicine, herbal preparations and such but haven't used any for insomnia. I have not had insomnia until menopause but it's not bad, occasional.
You can start doing the research on line. Or check out your local natural health store, even if its a food store, there will be an herbal personal care section. I like Super supplements so if you have one near, try them. The people who work there are usually very knowledgeable. I would check out melatonin first. Also look up herbal therapy, homeopathic therapy, and naturopathic therapy for sleeplessness or insomnia. Depending on the words you use, you bring up new search results. Couldn't find one article that lists everything but i did like the following:
http://www.ehow.com/list_7478866_natural-cures-sleeplessness.html

i wonder if im ever going to get merryed

OH haha, you say merry which goes with Christmas. Funny the other answer, but I am sure you are looking at this as a serious question in your mind. The word is Marry with an A or Marriage.
I am going to bet you are a girl because most girls think about that. Guys don't automatically think, Will I marry someday. Nope instead they dream about what the perfect lady looks like for him and maybe they even think about personality traits.
Right now the best thing I can tell you is to focus on getting to know yourself and grow yourself...meaning to learn and mature and once you know yourself well, then understand what your likes and dislikes are in guys . You can discover this by going through the dating process. It will be the start and end of many different relationships. You won't have a clue if a guy is right for you if you don't know yourself well enough. It's harder than you think. Many people when asked to describe who they are inside will only list their schools they attended and their job or profession. That does not define who you are. Once you can describe yourself on paper like this, You will have an easier time knowing what you are looking for in a guy. Marriage is off in the future somewhere. Caution, if your mind is always focused on the future, you may end up missing out on some wonderful times in the present

Hi, me and my boyfriend been dating for 3 years and we live together. he's very reserved sort of person but not very open but when he's drunk he says, 'you're the love of my life and love you to death.' does he really mean all this or is this just a drink talking? we do say i love you at least 3 times a day . thanks

For a guy who's not very open, its amazing to hear that he will say i love you 3 times a day. Most wont even do that so You're one of the lucky ones.
Yes, it's coming from his subconscious where all our emotions and feelings reside. Alcohol allows these inner feelings that are normally buried to come out.
On the flip side, someone who has been abused as a child may carry anger, fear and resentment buried that hasnt been dealt with. When these types get drunk you see the person who becomes a mean drunk and the feelings that are normally buried in them that come up are the negative ones.
You can trust it. Guys don't always say I love you when they are in love. Equally as revealing of his love and devotion is Honey you are amazing or You are the woman I always dreamed of and other such phrases.

There was this really hot dude at camp and he would always give me this really cute smile and he would keep looking at me like he was intrested....my friend asked him if he liked me but she said he said he doesnt know....maybe maybe not....but he constantly is making jokes and asking me to hang with him and his friends at the pool......but when i asked him if he liked me he said he doessnt know...and that it doesnt matter because camp was only a week but we arranged to got to camp at the same time next summer ......does it sounds like he likes me or is he just being friendly.....anyone with advice or experience please help!!!!!!

No body not even adults can know if somebody is going to end up liking them just because they looked at each other. Thats only initial attraction of being attracted to someones appearance.

First comes visual attraction. This does not let either person know yet if they will "like" the other.
Second comes approaching the person and starting up a conversation and seeing if it flows easily or you can't find things to talk about. At this point you decide whether or not to become friends...not a dating couple.
Third as friends you take time to get to know each other better and if you both decide you are not just attracted to their looks but their personality too, you both decide to be in a committed dating relationship.
Dating is more serious than friendship because now it is more intense as to what you are learning about each other because you spend alot more time together. Older people might begin living together at this point. There are some things easy to hide about a personality flaw in a friendship but once spending lots of time together it is easier to begin to see the flaws.

As a young person the goal in dating is to write a list or make a mental list of the flaws you wont tolerate in a guy and what things you do like about a guy. When either of you discover something about the other that is personally not good for you, you break it off and move on to the next to learn some new things.

Last step, dating can lead to making a life time commit to a person to love them and grow old together. Too many people skip some steps and thats how they run into trouble in relationships. Or once they discover they have no attraction to or nothing in common with, they don't leave the person.
It doesn't matter that you wont see him but a camp. Use this as an experience on how to approach and talk to a guy, nothing more. You may become FB buddies but he won't be a good prospect to go any further and become a real in person friend or dating prospect. Go for the learning opportunity. Right now you are at visual attraction stage. You can experience the conversation stage with him but nothing more.

Can you go swimming on your period WITHOUT a tampon.

No, wear a tampon. Many agencies today are worried about blood born diseases. That will be an issue in any public place no matter what your age is. Someone can be a carrier of a disease but not have actually experienced it. SO its a health issue.

Besides, it would be horribly embarrassing to be seen with a red streak going down my leg.

Omg lately my brother has been acting like a girl...hes eight but i think hes turning gay...he asked me if i could paint his nails....but i dont know if hes kidding or not.....but then he acts totally gross and gets on top of me and my sister and i push him of and beat him and tell him to stop but hes gross and he wont listen

People do not turn gay or decide to become gay for the fun of it, they are born that way. It doesnt change who the person is. At 8, i would say there is a chance he may not have figured that out yet.
There is also such a thing as a person who is bi-sexual so they are attracted to both females and males.

My concern here would be having a brother who does not listen to my requests when I ask him to stop. The fact that he does not stop means he is being disrespect to both you and your sister, not to mention being inappropriate even if he is just teasing. Give him 3 years and you'll know if you have a major problem. It may be better to tell Mom and Dad and get this behavior nipped in the bud right now.
Once puberty hits and his hormones are raging, if he has no concerns for what is the right thing to do, and doesn't love you sisters enough to respect your bodies and private space, then there is nothing to prevent him from taking sexual advantage of you and forcing you.
Schools and society teach kids that their bodies are private. If anyone touches you in a way that you are uncomfortable with you need to say something and ask for help. Many don't ask for help because the offender is a dad, step dad, a brother, a cousin, an uncle or a grandpa. It doesnt matter if it's family or a stranger, it is wrong.
Since you feel grossed out by it...its time to put a stop to it since brother wont honor your requests to do so.

Well becaused i moved it doesnt really matter but my best friend that ive known for 7 of the 13 years of my life didnt belive me over some girl shes only known for a week. I was telling the truth about what happened but the girl made up this whole sob story and made my other two best friends side with the girl along with my 1st bff. i didnt do anything to the girl but what i really want to knoe is how come they didnt belive me?

Trust is an important thing in any relationship. Glad to see you know that.
As to why they didn't trust well at 13 we all just didn't have enough life skills yet to know how to make good decision, how to not be gullible, or how to spot a person who is a fibber, a good story teller, etc...
While your bodies are maturing, your brains won't finish developing fully in the frontal part until mid 20's. The big deal is this area of the brain deals with making good decisions, not quick rash ones. Thats how so many teens end up in a bad situation or dead. They could not think ahead to see the possible pitfalls or warning signs. Its not a life and death thing with your best friend, but obviously she is easily fooled and drawn to a flashy storyteller. Hopefully she will come to see the truth on her own and grow up and learn. There isn't anything you can do but wait and be willing to take her back as a friend once she realizes her errors and apologizes. If you take her back but she pulls the same stunt over and over again, then she has not learned anything and its going to take a way long time for her to grow up. It would be best in that case to cut the friendship and look for more mature trustworthy friends.

I was walking to my room when suddenly the side of my foot felt like it had a splinter. I looked but didn't see anything.

I've had splinters (or some other sharp object) in my foot before that I couldn't get out. So, when you can't get them out... where do they go? Does your body swallow them or are they pushed out?

Also, any tips for getting small things you can't see out of your foot?

I don't even see an entry point? It didn't bleed.

Thank you.

You may have something clear like a glass splinter in there. When I have had one on a finger, I ran the tip of my tongue over the area to determine if i could feel the end of the splinter. I was able to find it that way to pull out by tweezers. A foot is harder to do anything with. You might want to enlist the help of someone. Wash or soak your feet so the skin is soft. Have some good magnifying lens and a bright light available. Sometimes daylight works better than artificial light.
Hard objects don't melt and become part of the body, they will always be there. Depending on how deep and where in the body, the body may develop something to encase the object. If it becomes a real bother and you can't locate it yourself, just go see the Dr and have him find and remove whatever it is.

How do I break up with my boyfriend that is in love with me but I dont even like him? Hes 15 and im 14.

The best way is to be honest and tell him you are not interested. I don't understand why you agreed to be his girlfriend unless you didn't know you wouldnt like him until you hung out together. Just seeing someone at school is not enough sometimes to tell if you like them. If this is the case for you, tell him you didn't know him enough when you agreed to date to know if there was an attraction to him but you know now that there isn't. Thats all you need to say

But you need to know why you want to break up. Dating as a teen and college age should be about learning what you like and don't like about the opposite sex. If you just switch boyfriends on a whim just because someone looks cuter, that's not a good reason to break up.

Next time someone asks you to date, you might try telling them, I don't know you well enough to know if I'd be attracted to you enough to date you, so lets be friends and hang out and if I do feel that attraction, after a couple times, I'll let you know and we can date. That would be one way to avoid breaking a guys heart.

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