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if a girl loves a boy unconditionally and wants him to at least propose or give he a promise ring with out asking him for it?
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Depending on your age my advice will differ a bit. If you are a young teen, focus only on dating now, marriage is an if, way in the future. You won't have any experience with being around guys long enough to have learned what kind of behavior you like and what is not to be tolerated from a guy. Experience teaches a lot. But to have a broad base of experience, you need to have dated more than one or two people in your life.
Moving on, if you are young college age, you have hopefully matured enough that it is a good time to look at yourself and get to know yourself next if you don't already. Who are you at core? And what are your values and morals? When people have to talk about and describe themselves on a dating profile for example, they fall flat. All they can think of as to who they are is where they attended school, what degree they have and what job they have...thats it. I did not think 'promise rings' were an 'in thing' anymore with the non church type. Young teens in church are encouraged to take a vow of remaining a virgin until they marry and wearing a ring their parents bought for them to signify they made that vow. I assume you aren't part of that group or the guy wouldnt be buying it for you. Sorry but I don't have much to go on with what you wrote.
Once you know yourself well enough to know what you need and want in a guy, needs are a must have...vital...if not present in the man, its a deal breaker. A want is like icing on the cake, nice but not necessary. A want for me was for a guy with long hair but I would have accepted one who shaved his head.
Now how do I tell you the next part which you probably dont want to hear:
No one MAKES another person decide to promise to marry or promose or marry. Most females dream of the perfect wedding even when no guy is interested or dating much less in love with her. Look how many Wedding shows, or wedding dress shows are on cable TV. It's an obsession. Young women have come to care more about all the details of a perfect wedding when there is no guy in their life. And if there is a guy, they have not put the details into finding out if he's the right guy for her the same way she focuses on getting proposed to or married. Thats the problem and why so many people marry the wrong person for them. Some will cheat, divorce, or become abusive toward each other before someone gets hurt or killed, or they live in a loveless marriage and let their libido and sex life die and live only as friends. The percent who had the fancy wedding and still have a guy who is hot and passionate about her and treats her like a Queen from day one 10 yr or 30 yrs laters is a rare thing.
Why, because we get married for wrong reasons or to wrong person.
An indicator of a possible problem here for you is that you say you love a boy...not a man...which indicates you armakese young still and that fact that you have not mentioned that a guy loves you is an even greater problem. Love must be a two way street.
Don't ever marry someone who doesnt rock your world. Too many marry someone who loves them but is not in love with them. The difference is like being married to your brother or married to your best friend and a man who is madly in love with you. There is a difference most people dont know it. If I have guess wrong on all this. Write my column and leave more detailed info in my in box.
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