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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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is it true that when you put butter on your boobs, they grow bigger???????/???//??//?

No.

14-f

ok so last night i went to a party and i met this REALLY hot guy who is 17, after a while i drank a little bit too much and this morning he sent me a text saying that i was the best he ever had, need to do it again soon. and im pretty sure u know what im talking about when he said best i ever had, considering i woke up in his room...... what am i supposed to do????????????????????????? should i see him again??

Hmmm.. 14, drinking, and having sex...?

No. You should not see him again. You shouldn't be drinking or having sex. A 17 year old boy shouldn't even be touching you. The sex may not have even been consensual because you were drunk & obviously don't remember.

Go get yourself tested for STD's, AIDS & pregnancy. Who knows if he protected himself. Stop drinking, stop going to parties, and stop having sex. You're way too young to be doing any of that. Have slumber parties with your girlfriends. Christ.

a guy asked me if i wanted to try smoking with him and i said sure because i like him a lot. and so we were walking to his brother's apartement and he started making out with me really randomly,,he was going a little too far and i told him to stop. he got really mad and started yelling and then he walked away. wht am i supposed to do, i dont want to ruin our friendship!!!

The friendship is already ruined because he ruined it. He took things too far, and then when you denied him, he acted like a little bitch about it.

You shouldn't be friends with someone like that. End the friendship. Good job saying no. Some girls don't know how.

i get about 6 hours of sleep on every school night.

but during around 2nd or 3rd period of class, i start to get reallly really tired, and i lose focus. I actually fall asleep while the teacher is lecturing. And once i wake up, i feel like a zombie for the rest of the school day. This has been happening for a While now...

how do i stay awake? please dont give me an obvious answer....... what do i do????

Get your homework done as soon as you get home from school & then do things to tire yourself out so that you fall asleep earlier than usual. Falling asleep earlier means sleeping longer.

If you still happen to get tired during the day, eat breakfast before you leave for school, or carry a granola bar or something in your backpack. If there's a Starbucks near your school, go there at least once a week & get yourself an iced coffee or something. Take cold showers in the morning. If your school has vending machines, get yourself a soda and take it to class.

17/f

my mom is really annoying, about stupid stuff. like i don't like football games, i used to but now were not allowed to walk around, and you just stand there in the crowd, and you can't talk, because its too loud, and i don't like football, so its just not enjoyable. well my mom is like why don't you want to go, why aren't you going, you'll regret it. grrrrrrrrrrr. & like homecoming, i don't like dances, i never have.

how can i explain this to her, so it will sink in?

My mom was the same way. She never got on my ass about stuff like football or homecoming, but she did get on my nerves about school, clothes, etc.

I don't think your mom is trying to annoy you. She just wants you to have fun & make the most out of your high school experience. You said you're 17 so you're more than likely a senior. This is your last chance to participate & have fun. Trust me, once you're out of high school, part of you does begin to miss it. If you don't take the chances you have now, you'll regret it.

Even if you don't like football, go to a game just to be with your friends, or to see that one guy you like. Go to homecoming. If your school is formal when it comes to homecoming, there's nothing wrong with having a day to look like a princess. It's the same deal with prom. I missed prom at my high school, and I'll regret it for the rest of my life. I'll never have another chance to go to prom.

Just realize your mother isn't trying to annoy you about it. She just wants you happy & make the most out of the time you have left. :) Just go to one game & make her happy. After that one game, you don't have to go to anymore. Besides, you might find that you enjoy yourself.

16f and sometimes I have these weird feelings that I want to get married like when im 18. And lately theyve been getting worse.. Ive been thinking that I want to have a baby.. like now. Ill daydream and think about how horrible it would be but how cute the baby would be and with the guy that I am about to be going out with. Its creeping me out that I feel this way. I was just wondering if someone could explain kind of like why I feel this way.

Believe me when I say you do not want a baby. You do understand that they're not cute & cuddly forever? That they do grow up & get to have minds of their own and have behavior, right?

Children are lots of money. You are still a baby. Having kids now will only damage you. I'm pretty sure that if you had a kid at your age, the father wouldn't stick around. 2 of my cousins were/are teen moms, and the fathers aren't around anymore. Why? Because the fathers didn't feel like growing up & taking responsibility. What makes you think the boy you're about to start dating will?

Don't have sex. Don't have children. Keep your legs closed, graduate from high school, go to college & get yourself a career before you think about having children. A child right now will only hurt you.

There is this girl at school and she hates me. I have no idea why because she hated me since middle school. I'm 15. She keeps asking me why I am staring at her and when i try to answer, she says to shut up and says not to talk to her. Everyone else in her posse laughs. I even lost a friend to her. The rumor that she (the bully) spread to get my friend on her side was saying that I love her boyfriend and he hates me when, in fact, it's the opposite. One more thing, I am trying to ignore her. A couple of days ago, I was just coming out of the cafeteria when she said, "What the f*** are YOU looking at?" I didn't even look her way. Dad said to ignore and if it continues to go to the vice principal but that rarely works. Any advice would be helpful...THANKS!!!

Ignore her. Talking shit back to her won't help anything besides you getting your ass kicked. I don't think you should go to the principal because whenever that happens, it's usually just made worse. Adults never seem to get that.

Just ignore her. She's insecure and feels the need to tease you. Don't let what she does bother you. Showing signs of emotion around her & letting her know she's getting to you is adding fuel to the fire. Don't give her encouragement.

i ate like 3 or 4 fiber one bars today, i had one for breakfast, one for lunch, one when i got home and one after dinner, i never had them before and they were really good, haha.. whoops, i didn't see all the calories in them, but anyway, should i not have ate so many? because i got a really bad stomach ache.. just wondering if that linked it to my stomach ache.

More than likely. Fiber helps your digestive system a lot, and it also makes you poop. Chances are your stomach is upset because you ate so many so now you're just gassy.

Every day's an argument with my boyfriend, and it's only on ONE topic: my really good friend who happens to be a guy as well. I think that makes him uncomfortable. We've talked about it before, this has been going on for weeks. I've tried to make him understand he's strictly my friend and nothing else, and that's it.

Example: I went out with my guy friend & a few other girl friends, and we saw a movie my boyfriend wanted to see with me. He spazzed the fuck out saying that I went against my word when I didnt promise anything. Everyday's a fight over my friend. I can't do it anymore but I'm not gonna drop my friend over this since they didn't do anything to me or him.

If your boyfriend is really that mad over your friend, then he's gotta go. There is no reason for him to be so jealous & out of control. Fighting is healthy for any relationship, but when you're fighting over day about something that's already been established & made clear, it's unhealthy & bad for the relationship.

You give your boyfriend an ultimatum. Either he accepts that your friend is just that; your friend, or he can stop being your boyfriend. There's no relationship if there's no trust. Obviously your relationship doesn't have any when it comes to him.

I want as many opinions as I can get. You can even share your experiences. :) So tonight I went to a Boys Like Girls concert, but Kaci Battaglia, Push Play, and Hey Monday also performed for the annual Pink Ribbon Event. It was AMAZING!! :) The thing is, they came down here to Kansas, close to Wichita which is where I live. I appreciate that so much! I was so happy I was able to go, but it all just seemed sooo surreal to me. Has anybody ever felt or thought like this? It's like you can't quite realize reality, and that there's someone FAMOUS, a celebrity, right there in front of you. I was a good 12 ft or more away from the stage; I never thought it would happen, ever. This has been the CLOSEST I've ever been to someone famous; seeing them IN PERSON! :o You know how there are things thrown out to the audience? Do you ever feel jealous or envious of others who get things like t-shirts, water bottles, or use towels or something? I do, then I start to have this feeling of sadness, like I'll never be THAT lucky to ever experience anything like that. Again, it just seems all surreal. I find it amazing how it seems like I'll never be lucky enough, but these people who live pretty close to me are lucky! I mean, this is KANSAS. Not many people come out here to perform in Kansas, let alone want to... I understand that though, because they perform in high populated areas right? And/or convienent locations for other high populated areas. So it just sucks because I don't think I'll ever be able to see other artists perform live, unless they're close. :\ Does anyone else feel or think the same as I do for the following? You know how musicians are like, "I/WE LOVE YOU ____ CITY! Keep rockin'! You guys are great! You're an awesome city! This song we're about to sing was inspired by a state, and who knows, we love you so much Kansas that maybe we'll write a next song about you guys!" (that happened tonight, Martin from BLG said it...) Do you ever think that they don't ever mean it? They just say it, just to perform? It gets the crowd really hyped, but I can't help but think they don't mean it at all. They just want a good performance. Is it so weird that I think like this? I felt overwhelmed tonight. Freaking successful artists, RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU. Lol x) but then I started thinking, "Geez, so these people are famous! They're celebrities! But wait, they're human too, just like everyone else. Yet they're so special, and loved by MANY." You know what I mean? I just felt so amazed tonight. I'm also feeling so envious of others right now. They're so lucky, and others are even lucky enough to be able to drive out of state, or really far to see musicians perform live. I highly doubt my parents would drive me far, let alone allow me to go out of state to see a concert. Strict parents. ;-; :\ So what do you guys think? Is it weird that I feel this way? What are your guys' opinions? I'd really love it if someone would share their personal experiences too. :) Lastly, does anyone have any advice on how I could get 'lucky', and possibly be able to score spots at the very front of the stage, or be able to get 'souvenirs' from artists? :D

I used to feel that way when I first started attending concerts. I was always so blown away that these people loved our city, and so amazed that I was close to them. I looked up to them, they were my idols, etc, so to see them in front of me was amazing.

Sometimes I still feel that way about certain bands. I always get so hyped when I'm at a concert. It's not the same deal for me now where I'm amazed by them being in front of me, but more amazed of their talent & what they can do and how much energy they have.

As for contests on the radio, just follow the rules of the contest, and maybe have some friends with you. Make sure you all know the rules of the contest. Have each of you calling at the same time. Everytime it's busy, hang up & call back. Keep calling until someone picks up. Have their phone number already typed in so that when they say to call you can just press the DIAL button. :)

To get souvenirs from the bands, reach your arms out and jump in the air to catch what they're throwing if you need to. However, if someone next to you catches something, don't go to grab it. I had some girl do that to me one time, and it really pissed me off. I wanted to hit her so don't ever grab for something when it's already been caught.

At the end of a show if it's at a small venue, always stick around! Some bands usually go the part of the venue where their merchandise is so that they can meet their fans! Bring your camera, a sharpie & money. Buy a shirt! They make most of their money when they're on the road because CD sales usually go to the record company and lots of bands don't see that money. The money they make is money that was earned from touring when people bought their merchandise so be sure to do that. If you buy a shirt, have them sign it & take a picture with you.

Shows are lots of fun but you need to know essentials like that so that they're even better. :)

Please dont tell me other wise. I want so badly to be happy and live a long healthy life but honestly everything I have done in my life makes me so unworthy of life. I know I need help but I dont trust anyone with this problem. I go to doctors for help but theyre hopeless and take for ever, Im unabled to open up to absolutely anyone. I want it all to end so bad RIGHT NOW!!! I hate myself I hate my life. Im making everyone around me miserable.

Your question immediately stuck out to me.

I understand that help sometimes takes a long time to get, but that doesn't mean you should stop pursuing it. Keep seeing the doctor. It isn't hopeless. It may take a little bit, but you'll eventually notice a change.

Life isn't worth ending. Chances are that everything you see as a problem can be fixed. Problems are temporary. Death is permanent. There is no coming back from it.

Please keep seeing the doctor. I guarantee you will see a change in yourself.

I get that girls want jewelery and flowers, but what do I buy my boyfriend for his birthday??
Like a general outline of something...

PLEASE HELP ME!
xxx

Never get your boyfriend a gift card (as any gift). He's your boyfriend, and you can do better.

You can try buying him:

Clothes.
Movies.
CD's.
Shoes.
Cologne.

If you don't have much money to spend though, why not make him something? Get him a nice card, and maybe make him dinner.

What's YOUR view on long distance relationships?
xx

I don't mind them. They're hard, BUT they can work if both people put in the effort & the time.

I just broke up with my Ex... 3 days ago...
This other guy, whom I've REALLY, REALLY liked for
AGEESSS!!!! asked me out today, I told him I'd let
him know.

Do you think it's too soon to be with somebody else?
Because I really care about this new dude... And
have very few feelings for my ex.

What's your view on the situation?
xx

I think it is. While you may have few feelings for your ex, jumping into a relationship so quickly will make him think you never cared for him at all. It's kinda like a slap in the face.

I would wait a little bit before you jump into anything.

Could the flu affect when a woman's period comes...like delay it?

It might because when people get sick they sometimes lose their appetites. If someone doesn't eat for a long period of time, it can cause their period not to come.

But, I've never had that problem. It may just be late.

Alright so I know there is a pedophile in my town, but I want to know if there are anymore?
I know there is a website where you can veiw all the child molesters in your town, but whats the website?
I can't find it.

Thankss.

Chances are there's more than 1 in your town. Scary, but true.

www.familywatchdog.org

I'm pretty sure the site isn't completely free though.

I know this isn't about sex but i didn't no what to put it under lol.

So I think Obama should have never became president
I think hi is an idiot.

So i want to know people who did vote for him why you did what were your reasons?
Cause if you think hes ganna pay for your bills and provide for you hes not.

I just wanna know everyones reason for why they voted for him or why you didn't vote for him.
Also a lot of people including me, Think he manly won cause he is black and i think if that is true witch i think it is i think thats wrong.
My resons are because I think racism is wrong and if people vote for him only because he's black just means your being racist. Now you might note be but your basing your decision on the color of his skin i and i think thats horriable.
I bet if he was a white man he would not of one or he wouldn't of one for the reasons he did.

PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THIS OVENSIVLY IM JUST SPREEDING MY OPINION ON WHAT I BELIEVIE AND I WANT TO KNOW WHAT PEOPLE BELIEVE OR THINK.

You shouldn't be voicing an opinion when you can barely spell.

However, I didn't vote because like Matt, I turned 18 after the election. But, I like Obama. Nobody expects a president to pay their bills or provide for them. That's a bunch of shit. People who have that idea are clearly out of touch with reality. I don't expect him to provide for me. I can do that myself. I can also pay my bills by myself.

I don't think he's stupid. I disagree with some stuff that he's doing, but he knows what he's doing. Besides, everyone always thinks that they're better than the current president but you don't see any of them in the white house. Voting for him because he's black doesn't make anyone racist. Did people vote for Bush because he was from Texas? It doesn't make sense.

He won fair and square. He's better than McCain and that's that. You're pulling out the race card and that's ridiculous. You have your reasons not to like him, that's fine - everyone has a different opinion on him. But make sure you have actual, valid reasons instead of his race. That's the only reason you've provided as to why you dislike him. This whole question is invalid.

i was watching the movie "Adventureland" and they were... im guessing 18-19 and smoking pot and drinking. I know smoking pot and under aged drinking is illegal and that its just a movie but, is it ok to do those things at that age? Does everybody do it? i'm usually 100% a good girl (A+ student) etc. And would never consider smoking pot or drinking, but i can't help but wonder... HELP! i am currently only 13 though and will not smoke pot at this age. but

1.) is it ok at that age?
2.) does everbody do it?

- so confused.

In that movie, they are not 18-19. They're college age, but I'm pretty sure they're a little bit older.

Underage drinking is not okay. You need to remember that. Just because other people do it doesn't mean that you should. Same deal with drugs.

Marijuana isn't legal no matter what age you are. Alcohol is only legal after 21. Keep being a good girl, and don't fall into the trends to fit in. It's stupid.

I really want snakebite piercings (the lip peircing on both sides of your bottom lip). The problem is, I'm worried about how much it will hurt. I do have my ears, nose and belly button pierced, so it's not like I'm a piercing virgin. How is the pain compared to getting your nose/belly pierced? Is there anything I can do to make it less painful or maybe even afterwards, like tylenol to help? Also, how do you brush your teeth afterwards, like the bottom? Thanks!

I don't have my nose or my bellybutton pierced, but I do have my lip pierced.

Honestly, getting a lip piercing doesn't hurt that bad. It just feels like someone's pinching the inside of your lip. It hurts for a second, and then it's over. It will hurt afterward though, so I do recommend that you take some Tylenol after. However, keep in mind that what hurts for me might tickle you, and vice versa. :)

As far as care goes, you just brush normally. But, whenever something touches your lip, you need to clean it right after. Usually you would use a saline solution, and mouth wash. Don't drink alcohol, don't drink soda, and don't eat crunchy food. Stick to soft foods like ice cream, jello, pudding, etc. Crunchy foods can get it infected. You can't kiss anyone or engage in oral for 2 months.

After 2 months, you can switch the ring, and go about your life normally. If you have any other questions, feel free to ask me. I suggest you ask the piercer though, because they're professionals and I'm not. :)

Hi. My name is destiny. i am 14 and i started cutting a few months ago. i know its not right to hurt myself but i cant help it. I am homeschooled. My mom teaches me. My brother has a traumatic brain injury. i am adopted so that is how he has the brain injury. He gets on my nerves, he critisizes me and if i do something wrong, most of the time its something so simple like forgetting to do something, my mom yells and i feel stupid and worthless. My mom has avery stressful life and i try to help all i can but i feel like i always screw things up. i feel soooo stressed out and to top it off there was this boy in school was about to ask me out, i reallly like him, and now o cant even talk to him. im hurting inside and out. i feel hopeless. my mom almost caught me last night and know i need help but i am shy and have a hard time showing my emotions. i can usually talk to my mom but with this i cant.

You shouldn't be afraid to go to a counselor or your parents. I thought the same thing when I was cutting. I refused to go to the counselor, and then I had no choice. Someone I trusted told the counselor about me, and I had to start seeing one. It was only at school, and I only saw her about twice a month, but it did sort of work for me.

I did show my mom once, but she never really got me help. I don't even think she knew how to. It was something she had never dealt with before, but she did care.

I really think you should tell your parents about this so that they can get you help. Just tell them you've been cutting and that you would really like some help for it. Let me tell you now - if you continue to cut, and do not get any help for it, it'll get worse, and it will eventually kill you.

If you really need someone to talk to, you can e-mail me. I've been through this exact same thing (cutting, issues at home) and I can probably help to some extent, but you really need to get help from a therapist, sweetie. It's for your own good. My e-mail is: 123abchristina@gmail.com

E-mail me for more help if you need it. Make sure you tell your parents before this gets out of hand. You can really hurt yourself (even if you don't intend to) and cutting has lots of consequences.

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