Not to worry. Doctors and even biology teachers told me that it is extremly unlikley for pregnancy to occur in that given circumstance.

Hmm. Tell her all of that. Read off to her everything you wrote, and tell her exactly how you feel. Ask her why she won't tell them. You never know, it could be because she is afraid they might not accept you and she'd feel guilty fot breaking things up with you in her parents get involved.

If you think it seems alright, call her parents over the phone. Tell them: hey my names so and so and i'm friends with ___. Tell them about yourself a bit, the basics, then ask if it would be alrite if you can meet up somewhere like the mall or movies or anything.

If that doesn't seem like a good idea, keep things going. Try not to pester her too much about it. Over time, help her gain the confidence and trust she might need to simply confront her parents and tell her. Maybe either of you could find ways to meet up at a place where its easier for the both of you, where neither of you are limited too much. Just because things are rough and limited, doesn't mean they can't get better. Good luck.

Don't worry too much about getting back into school. Really the first few classes are mostly about orientation, rules, etc. Making new friends is always a challenge, but has its rewards. See someone struggling with a subject or with work? Try to help them out if you can. Someone feeling upset? Try to cheer them up. Helping people is usually a good way to gain their trust, and from there build a relationship.

Teachers are teachers. They really can't do anything to you if you do all your homework and pay attention. You might not want to be talking all the time in class either, apparently they don't like that too much. Everyone gets different teachers, but you might actually find that while your teachers might be more difficult than others, if you had a different set of teachers you might have not done as well as you are.

Enemies...I've always found that probably one of the easist ways to becomming someones friend, is to find someone you both dislike or considers you their enemy. Kind of like a 2-on-1 thing, because you can both relate to the situation your in. In terms of making enemies, just give everyone space. Let everyone say and do what they want. If your always trying to help people, then it doesn't seem likely that you would make any enemies. But if you start making jokes about people, laughing at people, shutting people down, being judgemental, etc, then you might have to watch out for yourself.

Try to enjoy the last few moments of summer by asking people you know to hang out. Maybe go swimming, a movie, or just hang out at someones house. Do something fun to get your mind off of that. If you feel stressed out you can even go and maybe workout. Nothing too much, maybe some bike riding, running, of that sort. Talk to people you know that are also going in to school. Heck, you might actually be the least one worried. Just talk about what you think its gonna be like, who you will get as teachers, anything that might be new, your different subjects, etc. Don't think that its going to be all work and no play. Sophmore year is tough, but if you keep your head up and do all your work [trust me on that one], it'll be no problem. Good luck.

Communication is key and crucial to any relationship and friendship. Having doubts about the other person or even yourself is perfectly normal in a relationship. It's best to confront them as soon as possible. Really, if your boyfriend felt that you were cheating on him somehow, but you knew something like that never even crossed your mind, you'd want to know and set things straight, right? You need to tell him: hey ya know, i have some doubts and need to sort things out. No, having doubts does not mean you have to break up with eachother either. It just needs you both need to comminicate your feelings with each other more often or should be even more open with eachother than you are now.

Doubts can even be fixed by explanations. You might find it easier if you maybe wrote down any and all doubts you might have about your relationship, wether on your part or his. If you don't think you should continue the relationship due to distance, write that down. Then wrtie down any reasons you can think of to support that. Writing all of your doubts down and reasons might help you gather your thoughts a bit more clearly, and maybe even make it easier for you to tell him. If you find it too difficult to meet up or even just tell him about it in person, write it to him. It'd be easier in a letter or an e-mail, rather than over the phone or an IM, so it's all at once and not in pieces so different things don't come to mind if you have more than one doubt and want to explain them all fully.

If you feel any doubts, right away tell him. Try not to wait a few weeks to do it either, but make sure you are ready and clear about what you need to talk about. You can even tell him straight-foward: hey look, earlier today you said/did this this and that, or someone said this and that, etc. Keeping your feelings to yourself and all of your doubts will eventually hurt him even more in the end if you don't tell him when the time is right.

Long distance relationships can be rough, but can definatley work out. Try and be more open with each other and not afraid of telling him how you honestly feel about anything...because you would want him to do the same [not doing so might actually hurt your relationship]. Good luck.

Try 8notes.com. If that doesn't work, you should just buy it. Lately they have been making it more difficult to get sheet music online from any band or artist. Hope that helps.

Hmm if arguing over finding bottles doesn't help, then tell him that you need him to stop. Don't take it to the point of something like divorce or anything. Ask him why he drinks behind your back. If its just an addiction then ask him if he'd like to get help for that. If its something else, then work things out. Maybe you could both agree to something such as him drinking only when you are around, and limit it. Like say for example he can only have 3 bottles max, 4 times a week. I don't know if thats too much, but you get the idea. Try and work something where you gradually decrease the amount of beer taken in over a period of time. If you can't get him to drasticlly just drop it [because let's face it, usually addictions are hard to give up like that] then try gradually easing out of it, until he himself realizes he does not need it and lowers his dependence for it.

Sit him down and tell him to do it for the family too. Give him any and all reasons you can think of on why he should stop. No it doesn't have to turn into one big argument either. Maybe he drinks because of problems at work or something. Maybe too much gets to him and the things he thinks about makes him feel bad. If thats the case, which it might be, then find a way to get through to him to help get rid of his problems, that way he would no longer need to depend on beer and such. Just talking about it is usually good way to start off if you can't find solutions right away. Good luck.

Looks like you should bring it in for repair. That sounds like internal problems. Good luck.

Personally, I find that a lot of girls look better without make up than they do with it. Don't need to wear all that fancy blush or eye stuff. A little lip-gloss will do the trick. Not sure about your hair, but go for something that you like and doesn't make you feel too hot since its humid. As for clothes...go for something comfortable. Doesn't have to be something that stands out either, just something that says you're you. Of all the things you should wear, a smile should always be one of them; that makes almost any guy go wow. Have fun and good luck.

Hey relax. First day is going to be the same for everyone in your grade: something new. Theres going to be loads of kids who will be more nervous than you...everyone always is. Don't give it too much thought, you'll be fine. Yeah things will probably seem real different, being in a bigger building, too many people you don't know, everything new, etc. My first day I knew two kids. By the end of the year I knew almost all 400 in my grade. So just try to have fun and good luck.

I've asked several doctors, being that my parents are doctors and this is what I found out. At 5'0, your weight should be 100lbs. After that, for every inch, you add 5lbs. So you say you are 5'3 and 115-117? Thats fine - right on the dot. Not underweight or overweight, so you don't have too much to worry about. Hope that helps.

There should be a few websites that have a multiple number of workouts for abs. Try the scissor one. Not sure if it has a name or how to explain it well, but you lie on your back, legs straight out, lift them 6-8 inches off the ground, and kinda like criss cross them: right over left, left over right - back and fourth. You could also try using weights to do situps. If you can, find a wight to hold by your chest, arms crossed, and do situps with that. You should start off light, even if it feels too easy. Once you get used to it, try increasing the weight gradually. I'd say to start off with 10-15 lbs, just so you get a feel for it. You don't always have to feel the burn to get a good workout either. Good luck.

Start off with the main question: Do you want to play soccer? Reguardless of any factors such as injuries or school work or money, do you want to play? You gotta love the sport to do well. I say in the short amount of time you have to decide this, make a list. Write everything down. Write all the positive things, and all the negative things. Look the list over and see which one will be of a greater impact. If there are more negatives than positives, doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, but that you should give some careful thought into it as well.

If you really want to play and want to do well, then don't worry about being the best, just do your best. That means practice. Yeah I know, 'everyone says that'. But actually going outside, even if its on your own and working on it will pay off in the long run, always does. Again, totally your decision, but if you choose to do it, you could always try to back out and call it quits if it's not what you wanted and/or can't keep up with school. Good luck.

Hmm...Well if you don't have it already and are allowed to, download iTunes, from itunes.com. If you open up to the music store [and no it does not cost anything], you can click on a button on the left hand side that says Billboard Charts. You can start off by checking out the list of top 100 songs from different years. They currently have listed years 1946-2004. They don't have all 100 top songs listed, but do have a majority. Try looking through a few years that you think might be what you were looking for, and give it a 30 preview. Sound familiar,upbeat, or up there on the charts? Then give it a shot. Hope that helps. Good luck.

You know what I've always wanted for my birthday? A cool million dollars. Haha no just kidding. Time. Simple and sometimes complicated, the greatest gift you could ever give to somebody. Since we are all have a limited amout of it, giving some of that to somebody is always appreciated and very valuable. Make that day special for him. Draw him a picture with crayons. Glue a picture of you two together, or one of each of you next to each other and decorate it with whatever you can find; no it doesnt have to be hearts and such, but it can be something eye catchy, or even in big letters: best friend. Hand write him a letter. Write about his birthday, your friendship, your wanting to do something special, funny moments, inside jokes, etc. Those are all things that are kept in the shoe box in the closet filled with other random stuff.

You know what else would be neat? Take a piece of oak tag or a big piece of paper, and one by one, with glue draw the letters out Happy Birthday '____'. Before the letter drys out, stick M&M's really close onto the glue to spell out letters [preferably regular ones, and use random colors, dont make each letter one color]. then fill the rest of the oak tag with M&M's, but don't glue them. If you can do this at your house or something, or even at a store, like a place you could leave it at, have him go over to it and lift it up. At first he wont see anything but M&Ms on the paper, but when he lifts it up, everything will fall down and the glued ones will stay. Of course, give him a bag of M&Ms afterwards, because who doesn't love chocolate. Hope those ideas were creative or practical enough, maybe even helped you think of something on your own. Good luck.

Free? You'd be better off doing what I did and writing out while listening to it. But if you aren't into music that much or don't have the time, you would be better of buying the book. There are though some sights that give a few parts of some songs. Try 8notes.com. Good luck and Coldplay rocks!

Tell him all of that. Sit him down and literally read to him what you just wrote. If you really don't want a relationship, tell him it's not because you don't like him, but because you don't feel ready [because really, you don't], and because as your best friend, would never want to hurt him. I'm sure he'll understand, because guys don't like the idea of risking it to get hurt. Explain to him that sometimes best friends last much longer than boy/girl friend relatioships. If something happend and you could not talk to each other for a while, once you did again, you would most likely be friends again. But if you went out and things didn't work out, there would be that chance that you would not be friends again.

The best thing to do would be to sort out your feelings. Don't agree to a relationship if you really don't have true feelings, because then you really would hurt him and maybe even yourself. Don't rush things, even though you don't want to wait too long. If you rush and don't think about things too much, then the relationship might actually last that long - short amount of time. Think things through and again, talk to him and tell him that. Don't shut him down, but let him know that you never thought about that, starting a serious relationship. Always be honest with yourself and him, wether you go out or remain friends. Good luck.

Don't let it get to you. Really, if you just let it go, I mean when you know you are right but don't tell her something just so she won't go off about it, then she can't charge you guilty for any fights you might have. Try not to let those feelings get to you, because later on in life, you'll appreciate it more if you never fought back and made life impossible for either of you. Try not to argue or fight back or anything, because you might say something that could lead to something bad, and living life with regrets is the worst. When you fight, try not to be too responsive to things that are said. If something she says gets to you, or you know is wrong, don't act on it right away, let her finish and continue. Take things in and try to figure out why those things are being said. Don't try to interuppt by correcting her or denying anything or stuff like that. You probably won't like doing that too much, but that would probably let her finish what she has to say a lot faster. No, I'm not saying not to talk to her at all either, just be careful of what you say, and be more of a listener than a corrector. I know, it will probably be tough at first, but it is something you could get used to...because it doesn't seem like arguing back and forth feels to great or has proved to make anything better.

To feel better, say to yourself what is right. Let her assume anything she wants. Defend yourself if you need to, but so long as you know the truth, thats all that really matters. If that doesn't help all that much, talk about it to somebody you trust. Don't need to get into details too much, or come up with solutions, but usually talking about it helps, even if its a little bit. Good luck.

Have any of them shown signs of liking you? If they havn't, don't try to force things on with either of them either; that might end up in a relationship with one, and a broken friendship with another...and if that relationship doesn't work, thats two lost friendships. If you do want to be with one of them, find out for yourself which one means more to you. Different schools can usually be worked out through; just as seeing the person everyday might turn into a pain. Otherway around too. So really, the best thing to do would be sort your feelings out and see which one means to you the most. Don't jump to conclusions either, because it wouldn't be worth risking both of your friendships, or theirs. If one or both does like you, tell them that, they would want to know. Good luck.

I tried doing crunches before I went to sleep. Made me tired and a little bit easier to just relax and fall asleep.

Doing things during the day, like physical activity could also make it easier to fall asleep at night. Also, try not to eat too much before you go to sleep.

Going to sleep early would also help. Getting to bed and actually getting to sleep are two different things. Try not to think about stuff too much when you are in bed. Worry about tommorrow not at night, but tommorrow. Try sleeping with two pillows, one, or none. Try different combinations to see which one works best. Good luck.

If there isn't a chance to talk to him before the games start, then once they do, say something. Be friendly, say: hey I remember you from kindergarden, hows it going. A good way to bring back that friendship would be to talk about old memories, such as people you both knew, your teacher, funny stories, etc. There doesn't seem to be a reason why he wouldn't talk to you or even be your friend, so don't be shy about it. You'll be seeing each other more often it seems, so after a few times of talking, ask him to hang out or do something. Good luck.

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