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It’s a really long story so I will try to make it shorter. and sorry if you get confused. So long story short there was this guys in one of my college classes. he turned around because he heard me and my friend let’s say her name is sarah talk about a class that he was taking at the time and he overheard and let us see his catalog. which i thought was nice of him and he was very attracted too. well we would talk in class sometimes because i found out that he was taking a bio lab like me but a different bio lecture and just minor conversation starters. i wasnt really into him at that time. but then a couple days later i see him at the rec playing basketball right before my karate class which my karate class is right next to the basketball court and it’s before the class we have with him. so i'm like oh what a coincidence. He loves basketball so he is at the gym for like six hours a day playing. So I would see him right before I go to my karate class and after in my social psychology class. well oddly enough he emailed me in our school email a couple weeks later and asked if he could see one of my laps and to text him. so i texted him a little later was like yeah you can use my lap no problem and we made a date to meet up and i was thinking that's all he wanted but he kept texting me and making small talk and at the end of our convo he was like I will text you tomorrow so I was like wow he wants to text me tomorrow. He ended up adding me on fb that day. And was messaging me too trying to get to know me. He was a senior in college and I was a sophomore in college so he is a little older but not too much. He doesn’t party or hook up with girls not really his thing. He doesn’t drink or smoke.. Which is what I need in a guy because it’s so hard to find a guy who doesn’t do those things now in days. He likes to run Which I love running. My future husband has to run because I love it and I would love for us to run together. We have lots of things in common. All his interests are want in a guy. But anyways so he ends up texting me quite awhile for weeks. so I think he is interested in me. but then I find out he has a gf because that's what it says on fb. and i get upset and i confront him about it and he says it's a bad relationship she breaks up with him all the time. well I’m still upset about it so i tell him I gotta go and he says okay goodnight. i wake up to a text to him in the morning wondering why he is texting me but ignore it. i walk to my first class which is my bio lecture class and who do i see i see him. so since I saw him I ended up texting him 30 minutes after I see him. and he is like funny running into you and stuff. well I decide I could just be his friend and stuff while hoping him and his gf will break up sometime for good if it's meant to be with me and him it will. During school he would acknowledge me while he was playing basketball with all his basketball buddies and talk to me and we would meet up and study together well now it's during the summer and he wasn't as receptive as he was in school. like i would have to have now start the convo's and stuff and sometimes he wouldnt respond. so i get a little upset. well my friend who was in my karate class and social psych class decides to add him on facebook to see if he is still in a relationship and then delete him. Because I wasn’t his friend on facebook because of when I found out he had a gf he asked if I still wanted to be his friend and I said im not sure but I only said that because I was hurt. Well after that he delete me off facebook but the next morning he texted me and I got over it but he never accepted my friend request on facebook yet but like I said I got over it and decided I could be his friend. But anyways well he ends up messaging sarah being really weird saying whats up boo want to chill and stuff. We play along with it and stuff and ask him saying but you have a gf and he was like not anymore. They ended it so im freaking out thinking why is he talking to her but he isnt being so receptive to me. he asks her if im with her and she says no because im not. But I am talking to her on the phone and see is telling me their who convo. well i ended up tagging her in a post and he sees it. and he thinks im with her so he deletes her and blocks me and her off fb. i get upset and text him and he says it's not my fault your friend added me and why did she lie and say im not with her when he saw that i was with with her on fb. well i explain that i just tagged her in a post and that i wasnt with her. well he lies and say that sarah said that she wants to three way me her and him. well i was too tired from work to talk on the phone so i was like can we do it some other time but he didnt respond so im like if you really want to we can so i have her call him and me and he doesnt answer. so i text why didnt you answer if you wanted to three way. and then he says your not here. so i get confused then i get to thinking does he want a threesome. and so i spazz out him and say just because you and your gf break up doesnt mean you can be all crazy and that's not what friends do. And I say I thought you you don’t just hook up then he texts me four times in a row and says not that. I said threeway calling. your confused. bye. so i try and text him a week later to let him cool off and he is still mad and was like why are you texting me and im like what do you mean and he was like after what happened kind of pointless and i try to explain that i misunderstood everything and he doesnt respond back. another week later i text him again and he is like why do you keep texting me and i try to explain that i was confused and everything and he doesnt respond to my text or my fb message and then he finally answers me when i say can you just talk to me about this and i will leave you alone because we have disagreements and you get mad easily. so i try and explain to him but he wont talk to me. and reblocked me off fb. Cuz he unblocked me off fb after I texted him about him blocking me well school is about to start up in a month and i really want to become his friend and maybe start talking to him again but i dont know he seems like doesnt want to anymore. i know i shouldnt of brought up his ex girlfriend when they just broke up and i should of been more of a support system but i dont know he just really confused me. he is like my dream guy and i feel like i ruined it because if you think of it in his perspective I was being mean and I would have been mad if I was in his shoes and him and his ex just broke up but he was just really confusing me yet if it's meant to be he will talk to me again right? im just confused. i need help. he graduated because he was senior with a sociology degree that's how i met him and he was going to take summer classes to get his 2nd degree in physical education but he decided to just take it in the fall! which excited me because im a junior and still am in school which we go to school in michigan. but he is from new jersey but lives and goes to school here in michigan but what is your guys take on this? do you think i messed up bad and he just isn't interested in me. or maybe he is just still mad at me. i really have no idea. but thanks for helping :)
Lets go back to when you first saw on FB that he listed he was in a relationship. One of the things you are going to need to learn in life is to not over react. If you understood anything about how most people these days end up in a relationship with someone who is not right for them...even married to someone like that, you might have seen this as a chance to counsel a peer.
Fact: he was paying attention to you because he liked you, even though he was in a supposed bad relationship. Texting convo's of such an important nature is not a good idea. The best thing would have been to ask to have some time to talk to him in private face to face. I'll call him Tony. So you could say, Tony, by the attention you've shown me, I was pretty sure, and still am sure that you like me alot. The natural next step would be to learn more about each other and date. But on Facebook your status says you are in a relationship. I am not accusing you of anything...just want to find out what the situation is. Tony would then tell you he has been dating the girl for some time. There's things they like about each other but for the most part, they fight often and she keeps leaving him. You could say, wow, it doesn't sound like a good match. Dating is all about learning from the different people we date what we like and don't like about a person. You've probably had enough time to figure that out.
So if there's things happening that make you unhappy enough to start flirting with me and paying me attention, for what do you think you are staying with her yet?
He might have said something like, "when i make a committment, I want to stick with it even if it gets tough." (Thats a good trait. Makes a loyal husband if he can come to the conclusion that he is making a committment to the wrong person.)
Or he might have said," Dad raised me to not be a quitter." ( Thats another good trait, He is one of those who when the going gets tough, he keeps going and doesnt give up.)
Or Tony might say, "She is a very fragile depressed type of person, I am afraid that if I broke up with her, she might try to commit suicide. (there are teens who have written in who are in that exact situation) If Tonys girl friend is one of these, you would have found out by keeping your cool and could suggest he see a school counselor about it because you can't protect a person like that by staying with them. Losing a job might be enough to make them kill themselves. They need counseling and Tony needs to move on.
Or there could be other reasons why he hasn't left, all which would point to wonderful great qualities in a guy which are just temporarily misplaced with this girl. By being a friend, you may have been able to help him through this.
And Tony would eventually leave the other girl, change his FB status back to single and then he is available to begin to date you if you are still interested.
Everything that happened throughout your story with your friend,Sarah, Tony and you was nothing but immature things said and done all the way through which made the situation worse. Giving someone the cold shoulder and silence treatment is not going to resolve anything.
If this is really eating at you... you may want to apologize for acting immature. fess up that you felt hurt when you found out he was in a relationship instead of being a single guy after you. By staying calm you can find out if he really is a player who won't make a solid commitment to one female or if there are some strange circumstances and he is not seeing things clearly and making the best decisions because of misplaced ideas of a moral committment. Tell him you are willing to hear his story first before you can make a good decision to be a friend or not. It's fair. He should be willing to give you that since he started the flirting and coming after you.
Hey , um i got into a relationship recently with this girl from Vienna , and both of us really love each other , so um my parents wanted to see her picture so i showed them one of her pictures , and they totally dislike her... Their telling me she looks ugly and they made me dislike her a bit.... and after 2 days we were talking again and she told me that she loves me and she wants to see me in Vienna , so what do i do , should i listen to what my parents say or be with her ?? ... thanks .
She doesn't deserve you. If you can be so easily swayed but the opinions of others, then you are not ready for a committed relationship or marriage.
Hate to have to tell you stuff that shows you have growing up to do. But hey...all of us at some point needed to learn the same thing. I know I did, I had to grow a thick skin and not let the opinions of others have any effect on me. I think you can do it or you would've dismissed this situation in your mind and just ignored it.
So it's all about learning and growing up right now.
One thing I can say is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
TV and movies and Hollywood makeup artists have most the world believing that there is such a thing as the flawless beauties we see in film or modeling but it is all fake. Look up celebrities without makeup, before and after pics. You will see what I mean.
Then there are skinny people who fall for chubby people and vice versa, people of one color skin who fall for someone of a different color, or a different social status, younger than or older than, the list goes on. We are unique in what attracts us about another person.
If you really loved the young women, and were sure of her love for you...a friend playing a prank could come along and tell you that they say her cheating on you and it would NEVER occur to you to believe what they say because you know better what your status is with her.
You may have liked her and but you are very young, at least in life experience. So what you think may have been love is likely not that at all.
Your parents have their own reasons I am sure for what they said. But their comments point out that they never grew up and matured either. We can't help who our parents are. But we sure as heck have a choice to decide to become just like them, or to make choices to become better than them. I am sorry to hear you have parents that just don't know any better.
Listen to your heart, to your inner voice and that gut feeling. You'll do far better following that than giving any power to what the parents say. You do have the option of rejecting what they say. If they ever decide to use threats against you...tell them that you love but that your life is yours and yours only to live, not a life for them to try to live through you. They have their own lives to live. Then move on and live your life with who ever you wish to date and someday marry. If the parents do not come around and disown you...it's sad but that is their choice. No one can Make another person do anything they don't want to. A person can cave in and give control of their life to another, but you can always take that control back.
So get a backbone young man.
hello Dr.am naina.i am 22yr.m suffring from anaemia.with the help of medicine periods is coming otherwise not.i take hermons ovral L.i have thyroid also for this i take thyromin 50mcg. now period is not coming taking medicin also .my uterus is small size like a pea.so pls u tell me what should i do I am from India
You should be asking any medical questions of your Doctor. If I understand correctly, you are taking 2 medications now. Now medicines if taken together can have bad side effects that would not occur with only one of the medications. You may need to be put on a different medication. Check with your doctor.
When my dad gets drunk, he lay in bed most the day. When he is in bed, he says stuff real loud and sustained like "Ohhhhhhhh Myyyyyyyyyy Godddddddd!", or "Goddddddd Daaaaammmmnnnn iiiiiitttttt!". That or he just moans loudly. Why does he do this?
Maybe he is having a real bad hangover and the headache pain can be real great. Just be as quiet as possible and stay out of his way when he is drunk.
Okay, so I finally talk to the cute guy who works downstairs at the welcome center, and he's so much cuter when he talks. So on tuesday I went down to check the mail and he told me it would be $5,kidding of course so i got the mail but I had to come because another department's mail ended up in ours. So i went back down and asked him if could return it, and he looks and smile and says "i'm gonna tell" Flirting? or am I over thinking it. So later in the day I had to go back and check the mail (it comes twice a day) and he saw me walk up, and he said nothing new has come in since I was last there, but I should check anyway, since I'm already here. So I did. He gave me the mail bin and turned to his computer but didn't do anything and was drumming his fingers on the counter, like he was waiting for me to say something. I was about to, when a person came up and asked him something. So was he flirting or am i reading too much into this. But it seems were past the awkward stage, so what should I do now? Advice desperately needed.
Guys don't know how to talk to girls and this is during work hours so you are limited to have some significant conversation. According to the steps of relationships thing I've written and share with many, you are barely into the conversation stage. Make a little note to hand him next time and write inside it, would it be okay with you if we traded phone numbers to keep in touch and talk outside of work? That is very clear and he should know that he has to make the next move and say yes or no. For the future, I have posted the steps to relationships
The Normal steps to a Relationship
Attraction: Whether just plain looks or a pheremone attraction. It doesn't mean that either one "Likes" the other yet so it is important to go beyond the staring at stage to conversation.
Conversation: Now you are talking and find that you like the persons sense of humor, how they think, their beliefs or way of living life...this is the teaser...either you decide you want to learn more in depth about the person or you decide you don't have enough interest from the conversation to want to learn any more. Someone not interested stops talking to the other and looks elsewhere. If both want to learn more about the other, you start dating.
Dating: Dating is not all about calendar appointments to go to a movie or out to dinner, or out dancing. It is a time to learn what you like and don't like about the opposite sex. Find out more about the person you have interest in which happens only if you start seeing each other regularly making it a conscious choice. If there are too many dislikes, start over again with someone new. Or take this to the next level. Usually a move to being a steady couple happens automatically without any conscious thought.
Steady relationship: This is meant to be a time where you have plenty of opportunity to spend in each others presence getting to see how they handle themselves 24/7 under all sorts of conditions, their good days, and bad days. Many choose to live together at this time. There isn't much that can be hidden when you live with someone, like their housekeeping habits, what their usual diet is, any mood swings, and by now there should be a good idea of what their normal sexual habits and needs are. You don't want to get matched up with someone who is the opposite libido level of yourself.
Committed relationship: Here there are vows and oaths made to each other, a professing of mutual love and devotion for each other and it goes beyond words to living it out daily in how one treats their partner. This person will be your life mate with a marriage license or without one.
My husband lost his job five months ago and hasn't been looking for one. He stays home with our daughter while I'm at work. He dosent do anything around the house just sits on the internet. Anyways I got sick of him saying that's enough. I work full time to try and suport us. Because of this we haven't had sex in four months. Then this guy iv known for for years tells me I'm the most beautiful hard working girl he had ever seen. And I don't know what happened it just all fell apart from there, next thing I know we are at his house. I'm pregnant now i don't know what to do. Advice please
Could be that hubby is depressed because of losing his job. For many guys, their self worth is wrapped up in their job. It looks like he needs some counseling but then money is tight. There are no easy answers to give on that. Regarding being pregnant, If you keep the baby he'll know it wasn't his.But that couldn't make things much worse. If he divorced you because of it, he wasn''t doing anything before....you might not notice much difference. Or you could go to planned parenthood and ask for lost cost abortions and go through that. All it takes away is the stress of being pregnant but doesnt change anything with the husband.
We all deserve to have a man who can stay strong and love us and take care of us even if he has lost his job. Mine is unemployed currently and we couldn't be happier. Our relationship has not suffered. Not everyone handles stress the same way. Did you marry for love? Do you still love him? Do what you can to see that he gets help if you still love him. Do the best you can but you need to keep yourself healthy and yours and daughters heads above water. Do you have extended family who can help? If the husband being dead-weight causes you more stress so you become depressed as he is and can't function, then it's not fair to the daughter to have 2 depressed parents.
Hard as it may be, the decision may come down to doing what is best for the daughter over helping the husband if it involves your mental and emotional health being threatened by your situation. You may need to seek a legal separation. Husband would have to find a sibling who would take him in or he may need to hit rock bottom and live in a shelter for homeless men. If he doesn't come to his senses, you continue your life without him in it. Because of your situation, you are going to be very suseptible to men who would like to entice you to have affairs.
Don't be too hard on yourself for that. Sex is one of the best stress reducers there is and not having any with husband in all that time is what brought your need to such a great point and your resistance down.
Word are cheap from the guy who says you are beautiful and hard working. Let him put his money where his mouth is and help you out however he can, maybe with an abortion. If you go this route, see Planned parenthood about some birth control cus honey, it's gonna be a long hard road for your husband no matter if you stay with him or not and there won't be sex from those quarters. You don't want to end up pregnant a 2nd time. These are things for you to think about. I wish I had a magic wand to wave and make things well for you. But theres no advice that could easily solve your situation. The decisions are really only yours to make. Don't let anyone shame you for what you decide to do. Just make the deci sions you feel are the best you can make and stick with it.
theres this boy in my grade named cameron and ive liked him for 4 years and he says he likes me but i dont actually think he does..it really sucks because he likes a girl named savanna alot more then me and shes one of my bestfriends.. but she doesnt like him back... should i just give up on him or still like him? now for some details he makes me so shy and i cant talk around him and his smile is perfection and i actually think i love him hes so nice an funny an just amazing..How do i get him to ask me out? PLEASE HELP IM SO CONFUSED.
Hello dear.
I will base my thoughts directly on what you wrote, your exact words, so if you chose some wrong words to explain which misled me, then feel free to write my inbox and reword it.
Facts first, He said he likes you!
Fact #2 You are doubting what he said.
Fact#3 Savanna is your best friend
Fact#4 Savanna does not like him in return
(I assume she has told you so. If she hasn't then this is not a fact)
Fact#5 You feel awkward around him.
What is NOT true: That he likes a girl named Savanna more than you. This is the point that needs clarification. You did not write that He said to you that he likes Savanna more than any other girl. If you are basing this statement on something you've heard others say, it's not 100% trustworthy...you can only really trust what he has to say. Others may be just guessing based on what they think they see.
Since Savanna is not interested in him, you would not be hurting your friend in any way by going after him. He may truly like both of you but if Savanna is less shy and more outgoing than you, it is naturally easier for him to see and get to know some things about her.
You are at the conversation stage with him as far as the stages of relationships go. If two people are attracted enough by talking enough with each other to want to learn more, then you both move into dating. If not, it ends there and you both move on to other people.
So how to get past being nervous, shy, feeling awkward around him...its natural cus you feel attracted. As a male acquaintence, you might want to approach him by telling him part of the truth, not about how much you like him but: "Hey Brian, I am wondering if you'd be willing to do me a favor. I feel real shy inside and want to overcome that and learn how to talk to guys. Would you be willing to help me? I need to get comfortable with having just normal conversation with a guy." If he likes you, he will be willing to do so, and under this guise, it will be a bit easier to get used to talking to him. You won't have the pressure of feeling you have to confess anything right away about liking him. Take the opportunity to tell him things about yourself and ask him questions about him.
I know you can do it dear. There is nothing to give up on. It is not a hopeless situation unless you are unwilling to learn to overcome your shyness in speaking to guys. If you can't, you risk a possibility of never finding a great relationship.
okay so i've been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months now. Everything is great. I feel like he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. He knows how to make me happy & he's just the sweetest thing ever. We've had our ups and downs just like any other couple. The biggest problem we have is trust. He trusts me but it's kinda hard to trust him. In the beginning of our relationship everything was amazing, just perfect I never thought things would get so badly to the point where we almost broke up. We would argue because I would find out things that he lied to me about. He's gone to parties without telling me anything and I got mad because he lied to me & told me he was going to sleep. Then later I found out he lied about smoking. He told me he quit for me but he lied. & he's lied to me about other little things which made me question him at times. There were also times where I felt like I was in competition with other girls. Ive told him about it. & hes change. He stopped with everything & things have been getting better. But is it bad that I just cant get over what he did? Like its always in the back of my head & i guess i have some anger towards him still. There are times when were talking just fine & it reminds me of the past & wat he did & i bring it up & we argue again. Can you please tell me ways to get over it ? I dont know why I just cant forget that he lied to me & hurt me.
Did you ever give it thought that in the beginning your relationship was amazing to you because you had not yet discovered that he has problems with lying? The "little" things he lies about may seem insignificant to you so it doesn't make sense why he would even bother to lie about it right? I agree, it doesn't make sense. Perhaps he feels he can not be open and discuss certain things with you because he has a preconceived idea about your temperament and reactions or from past experience he truly has learned how you react to 'surprises' or topics that he confesses and some guys feel threatened by females emotional responses. If this is the case and you can keep yourself detached to a point and keep your responses logic based, perhaps you will get somewhere with him.
Most people with a bad habit do not quit overnight because someone had a talk with them.
Change for most humans takes an entire lifetime to accomplish...not overnight. If he was able to actually do that, then he is better than the 99.9% of us out there who struggle with change.
So if there is a slight chance that he hasn't changed, what has actually happened then? There's a likelihood that he's found a way to hide it better from you. Your subconscious mind is looking at thing realistically and realizing that there is a chance that he is still lying though you can't pick it up as easy at the moment. Why your subconscious? Cus it is where all your emotions and feelings come from. Your conscious awake mind see's the points you do like about him and thinks he'd make a good life long mate. Your subconscious is not on the same page and I don't blame her. He has to earn your trust. Its not something that you have to find ways to "get over it" Trust is a fragile thing. Once broken, it's like the Humpty Dumpty tale "all the kings horses and all the kings men couldn't put Humpty together again." Or think of a fine china tea cup. You could super glue all the pieces back together but it will never be quite the same. It's not something that can be patched up and made to work. The trust that was there is gone. Now he has to start all fresh and new and start from scratch by proving (consistantly) with his actions that he is trustworthy.
You might want to listen a little more closely to your inner voice. Your subconscious is not being irrational.
Go back and read what you wrote to us. The first few sentences are like you are trying to convince us that everything is great with him.
We wouldn't have any preconceived ideas about him dear. Your title "Trust issues" and statement: "everything is great he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. He knows how to make me happy & he's just the sweetest thing ever" was not written for us. You are trying to convince yourself that all is well with him. Hon, you need to be honest with yourself because I believe you may not being doing so right now. If I am mistaken, I apologize but what you wrote is what leads me to believe this.
how can a man die with a essay way without any pain ?
No one will give advice on how to die. We can only help if you want to find possible options on how to deal with and overcome what ever obstacles are causing you to feel like giving up
My ex-Boyfriend wants to see me. I keep on telling him excuses like-
- I cant. I have to clean my room.
-My mom said i cant...
- I already have plans.
He still just keeps on asking. I have even tried to tell him that i dont like him anymore. He just wont listen! Please help.
If its FB or other chat system messages, don't answer at all, phone calls or text messages, don't answer at all. If its at school face to face, tell him that you dated him to find out if you really liked him and had chemistry with him. You have discovered that you don't feel that with him. This is the kind of thing to tell someone in person not text or phone.
He should be able to understand that and then stop. If he doesn't, you might ask another guy you know fairly well, if he'd do you a favor and pretend to be your new boyfriend to see if that makes the ex leave you alone. You could promise him a batch of cookies for helping. Once the ex has given up, you can drop the pretence.
Good luck!
I'm 25 and just found out I'm pregnant... I have a huge situation here and it will be extremely easy to judge and say cruel things so if you are that type of person, leave now. I made mistakes and am ready to deal with the consequences but that doesn't mean that I am not a human being who needs help. So those of you who are real and really want to help and give advice that isn't rude, please help me.
The father of my child is married and I doubt he will be involved in any way other than child support which he has already agreed to... which is fine. I can't really blame him... his wife is aware and wants him to ditch us... again, can't really blame him.
I want to keep this baby so much. I already love it and I know I would be a good mom but at the same time I feel like the situation is too cruel to bring a child into. I know a LOT of single moms who do it alone and are great but given the circumstances... and where I don't have any schooling after high school... would it be better to place the baby for adoption? I already know how the adoption process works... I am extremely familiar with it, it's just a matter of if it's right for me and the baby.
Positive, helpful advice only please and as much as possible. 5
How big of a support system do you have with family?
If you are going to go to work to support baby, who is watching baby? You can't afford to work to give most of it to a daycare provider. It would fall to a family member who is willing and free to watch the baby for you. As for a male influence in baby's life, uncles, or grandpa's work well if they were willing to do things with baby as he/she grows up.
At 25, you could still easily come across and start dating a nice single guy who is really crazy about you and willing to take on someone elses child. If you put the child up for adoption and later find a guy, it would be too late to get your child back and be a family with your child part of it.So it really depends on your family. Talk to mom and dad, your grandparents, sisters and brothers, even your aunts, and see if anyone is willing to help you out. It can't be pushed on them. If it's something you really want to try, tell them why you want to do that. If it doesn't come together, at least you'll know you tried. Good luck hon.
But if you decide to put baby for adoption, there are people who are willing to allow the birth mother to be part of the babys life as it grows up knowing who its birth mother is.
Okay, so there's this guy. He's really nice and funny and sweet. I met him at a camp and we really connected. He made an extra effort just to say something to me everyday. He always seemed interested in what I was saying. He even decided that his nickname for me was "wifey". We have so much in common! And he even gave me hugs when we saw each other. Well, one day, I was in the bathroom when a girl came up to me. She asked me "Do you like him?" I didn't know what to say. Whether to trust her or not. So I said no. She responded "Oh, well I have this thing where I like to hook people up but this never happened okay?" That suggested to me that he liked me and wanted to ask me out but was too shy to do it himself. Camp ended and I got his number. We text and there have been more instances where I was pretty sure he liked me. But, I found out he has a girlfriend! I don't know if they have broken up, but I don't think they have! Oh great, now I'm hopelessly crushing over him just to find out he's taken! What should I do? Maybe he's just the flirty type?
All you can guess from the gal asking if you liked this guy is that it must look pretty obvious to everyone else.
For all you know, the other girl could be his best friend but not a romantic interest. You won't know anything until you get a chance to ask.
For a guy to hug a girl and come up with nicknames is something a guy does when he is truly interested in her. Hoe did you find out he has a girlfriend? Are you or someone else who's seen him, assuming that he has a girlfriend? You text him. So one of these times, mention the other girl. If you know her name give it, Hey I notice Lisa around you a lot. Are the two of you just friends or dating?
If he says no, then let him know that some of the things he does, makes you think he might have some interest in you. Is that true?
If he says he is dating the other girl. tell him the same thing, that some of the things he does make you think he might have some interest in you. By doing those things he is sending mixed messages. He may not be aware that he shouldn't be doing those things if he is naturally friendly.
Hope that helps
Ok so I am starting to really believe that this guy likes me. (The guy who is 3 years older than me) I have finally admitted to myself I like him. I'm going to see him in a few weeks (late august for Band camp and then I will have all school year and field season comps/football games with him :D) and I'm going to try and act some what flirty around him (I'm a shy and an awkward geek so that'll be funny) I know not to over do it (I don't think I could if i tried! XD) I was wondering if you had any advice on how to 'flirt' with a guy. We are both shy-ish so yeah... I'd also like some advice on how to break the touch barrier a little more (he did it first by hugging me twice) maybe i could do that a little too... Please help! I'm a shy geek who doesn't know how to flirt well! Thank you :)
I was going to share the obvious and then decided to see if there was any sites with good examples to talk a person through how to touch a guy.
I liked the one of pretending to brush an eyelash off his face. Never woulda thought to fake that. I know you'll enjoy this site. Bookmark it girl!
http://www.wikihow.com/Touch-a-Guy
I've been dating my bf for 3 1/2 months I really adore him but I have a feeling he might be cheating. I'm really emotionally unstable and untrusting because of all my past relationships so its hard for me to trust. I saw a dick pic on his phone that wasn't sent to me but then he explained that he was gonna sext me one night when we were talking dirty etc. I got so upset and he got really upset and apologized for everything and said I was his world and he didn't want to lose me. He is always there to reasure me that things are ok and always answers questions when I have them. Also what bothered me was that he didn't shave for a week and said he was too lazy to (he usually shaves everyday), he changed up his haircut a bit because he said he was bored, and also he said he wanted to shave his happy trail cause it made him hot lol. That made me a little nervous like why the sudden change in appearance? I looked through his phone and didn't find anything but I was so paranoid and thought maybe he deleted stuff. Its driving me insane I really do love him but i'm just so insecure. Help?
You already recognize that the issue is with yourself so lets focus on you. I have in the past taken notes from relationship experts on line to be able to share pointers with those who write for advice. Here is what I have to share that hopefully helps:
Some women give their love and devotion to a guy who doesn't deserve it, who is wrong for her
while others no matter how plain and simple the signs are of his love and devotion, they don't see it or trust it because of lack of self confidence.
1 A woman's insecurity and neediness will kill a man's love
Do you love me, do you love me? No matter what he says or does, she never believes him, even if he's never done anything to earn her distrust.
2 It's impossible to love others and be loved by others unless you love yourself first.
Don't look to a man for all your self esteem and self worth. Have it already before relationship..
3. Men do not show love the same way women do. For them it's how they feel when she is around and how she fulfills the dreams of the woman he's always wanted and how possessive he feels if another man was paying too much attention to her. Some women tranlate love into his obsession for her and devotion while men translate her love for him as being appreciated and respected.
7 Questions to know if he really loves you
1. Does he say I love you. For some, it's a hard thing to say but they show it to you in other ways. When he says “I love you”, he is viewing that as a commitment to you. It is not a flippant phrase.
Saying I love you too early like during first couple dates is a warning about the guy. Its a very good chance he is needy and wanting a woman to be his mom. Other phrases from a guy count too, like you're awesome, I adore you. You're the woman I always dreamed of.
2. Does he make you a priority in his life? Guys have more than one priority...things very important to him but you should be one of top 3.
What he does for you or how he acts can't be faked easily because it's hard to lie with your body. Things he does without having to be asked, making dinner, picking up something for a collection for you have, making time for you, even if it's a walk or going to a movie. If the guy likes you, he'll make time for you at least a quarter of the time.
3 Does he tell friends about you and like to show you off? Have you been introduced to his family and friends? If he keeps you separate, he's hiding something or ashamed or fearful of something
4. Does he care about your pleasure during sex? Is he only into seeking his own pleasure or your's too. Does he open his eyes and want to have both your eyes connect while making love?
5. Does he respect and encourage you? Respect means, does he value your opinion, do you share decisions and treats you as a partner. Are you encouraged by him to have your own friends and hobbies outside the relationship and encourage you to seek your dreams and uphold you in that.
Jealousy is not love, it's control. It's okay to be protective, but jealousy shouldn't be what prompts the protectiveness
6. Do your friends and family like how he treats you? Others make a great gauge for judging a guys character.
7. Does he look at you with lust and passion in his eyes, with a hunger and thirst for you? Does he give you admiring looks, does he still want to sneak peeks down your shirt. What he sees is Very important since guys are visually stimulated. If he isn't looking anymore, he has lost his interest. All men because of this natural trait, will also view other women but do so discreetly, without being an ass about it. Don't expect a man to look at only you. If he doesn't look at other women at all, it may be a sign that he is gay. You do want a man who is visually stimulated by a woman.
If after reading all that, you still don't feel secure, I'd suggest some self help books or going to see a therapist. Goodluck dear!
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Hi hon. I would like to add that if you are having trouble consistantly to remember taking the pills that you consider getting the shot which is good for longer or getting an IUD. Doubling up on any kind of medicine is never good and can harm rather than help.
I know there is very little good sex education out there for teens and young people. You can find out lots by perusing the web on any subject to show you you want. You can also look up any instructions or warnings on the type of pill you take on the inter-net also. These days, to know anything you have to self educate. There are many folks with great instructional youtube channels.
So I ask my friend a question..and she answered it wrong...she really acts like she know it all.. She answered me quickly without thinking. And she said, "you tricked me". It was really an easy question like 15 minus 12~ so I said it is a revenge* ... Now she told me stuffs that I didn't said or did. And she got mad bcoz of what she said I did which is really did not do. After few days not replying her because it was tupid and I got angry.. She texted me it was just for fun and it was revenge.... We fight over that, because I think what she did wasn't right or fair~ she didn't apologize and she talks to me I was the wrong one.. Sorry for making it too long..just a summarization :) thanks and please tell me what should I do to make it better..
Two females whose bodies are still going through hormonal changes and the effects that has on their emotions is likely what is at the core of your problems, not to mention your age.
You are still in the process of maturing. I thought things out differently when I was your age too. It's just the way it is. I had to choose to control my emotions, and curb my temper. Until it is brought to our attention and we realize its not so much the person making us irritated or angry but something going on internally in us, it is hard to deal with it.
This is normal and this stage will eventually pass. If it isn't female friends you clash with at this stage, it will be sisters. I have 3 daughters and watched them all go through it with each other. But knowing why is half the solution...makes you try harder to control yourself. Have a talk with your friend and let her know you understand its not her fault or yours and see if you can get her to agree to nicely say you need some time out or ask to drop the subject or convo. when you feel you are about to lose control. Some measures like this should make it a little easier to navigate through this time.
Me aged 22 my problem is when i got vegina or sperm out by vagaculation or self process when this time vertebral nd ma hips getting back . I can feel this one and i measure my hips it getting bigger when i got this process and at this time musules contracts. This is my problem plz show me way to come out of this..
See if you can find someone who knows English better and can translate. I can understand most translations if its a few words misplaced or the wrong word. But I can't follow this at all. Sorry.
My boyfriend never wants to go out when I hang out with my friends. I almost feel like I'm single because everyone is with their boyfriends/girlfriends and they are always asking where mine is and I have to make up some excuse. And then he gets mad at me for going out or gets upset. I'm 21 years old and want to live life. All he does is want to lay in bed and watch TV and have sex. I love him but is this really worth it? I'm tired of acting like a 50-something year old couple. I've already talked to him about it and alls he says is "sorry I'm not good enough." He won't even make plans to go on vacation or on a hike or whatever with me by OURSELVES. Please help.
Could be his sun sign. Is he a Taurus by chance?
Some folks are just homebodys and don't like to go anywhere else. Dating is supposed to be a learning experience, not to be viewed as a failure if a relationship doesnt work. Some people aren't the best match for each other for many different reasons. Start making a list. Pros and Cons, a con would be a man who doesnt like going places with you, someone who doesnt have any active hobbies. A couch potato will soon look like a potato if he doesnt enjoy going to the gym, hiking, walking, biking,just getting out and moving about.
One thing no one is able to do is change another person. Changing of character must come from inside the individual, forciing or guilt trips only make it temporary and not geniune.
If you don't like just one thing about a man, learn from it and look for someone different the next time...thats what dating is about. Its not harsh, it's reality. Those who don't act choosy, end up married to someone they don't love, or don't have sex with and stay together for convenience sake or split up eventually or have affairs and divorce over much heartbreak and anguish.
I moved to a new city within the same state about a year ago and I'm finding it hard to make friends or even meet a guy. I'm a 21 year old girl, and I feel like everyone in the new city already has all of their friends and their social groups and it's more unlikely that they'll be accepting of a newcomer. I know when you're younger, it's easier to join a social group of girls but I'm 21! I don't want to be hanging around little children. I mean I don't mind talking to them but I don't want to be associating with them all the time. I want to meet people my age but it's so hard given that no one really takes the time to talk to me. Considering I'm the new girl, why do I have to be the one to go up to everyone? I'm already shy. I'm one of those shy until you get to know me people but considering that I'm the new one, I can easily overcome my shyness once someone actually makes an effort to look like their interested in being my friend.
Now don't get me wrong, it's not as if I have absolutely anyone. I have made a couple of acquaintances, but I rarely see them. Not by choice either. I have mutual friends with these acquaintances back where I used to live, which is how I know them in the first place. But these people have their lives as well and even though we minimally talk, I never see them/get to interact with them in person. The most we talk is through Facebook or other social media websites. I feel like eventually people get tired of friendships like those. I mean, I would too if I didn't see the person often because how much could you possibly talk about without having seen them in a long time. The people I see often are the ones who don't talk to me. Go figure.
As for love life, I've met a few guys but they've all turned out to come with complications. I really don't want any complications going into a relationship. I want it to be a clean slate kind of thing. What I mean is this, one guy I met recently, was a nice guy on the outside but personality was messed up. He had a girlfriend and flirted around with me and said inappropriate things. He even flirted with my 15 year old friend, and he's 22. I told him off, not badly but I told him if you're going to continue to act like this, then we have no business talking. He just texts me hi every once in a while but that's it. Another guy broke off a 5 year relationship recently. I've talked to him more and he's been a lot more respectful to me but I don't think he sees me that way nor wants a relationship. We don't talk very often for there to be a hint of a crush on me. He's a little bit older than I am too. Finally, another guy I know, haven't really talked to him much, but on the outside seems like a nice guy who comes from a respectable family, but problem is, he's a year younger or so.
I know not everyone my age is in a relationship, but it would be nice to finally meet someone. It's been 2 years since I've been out of a relationship and I really miss the feeling of having someone. I feel like I have all this love within me, but no one to share it with. I don't want to come off as desperate but why are these things so complicated.
I have friends back where I used to live and we're still friends. I don't see them very often so it becomes hard and that's why it gets lonely because I want to make new friends up here and meet someone. I'm so bored. And its not like I don't put myself out there, I do. I go to events in the neighborhood with my family and there are people there my age but no one my age ever actually talks to me.
What should I do?
Your generation is more reliant on internet, texting and such and doesn't have the same skills as the older generations who had to learn to make friends and meet guys face to face. Once out of school where you see certain people every day, how do you meet people? You didn't say how you are meeting people so maybe you're already doing all you can do.
What makes a good friend is having something in common with the other person whether for girlfriend or a relationship with a guy and step two with a guy is sexual chemistry/attraction.
Since both involve friendship and having things in common i suggest you start there. What are your hobbies, or some things you have wanted to try?
I have a daughter who found some New Age and energy healing type groups through Meetup.com in her area and made a couple new girlfriends that way. She hasn't meet a guy that way yet though.
Dating online is a possibility using todays technology and if you can get the guy to really share truthfully about himself, then it can be faster and easier to weed through the stuff that doesnt interest you and there are plenty of all ages on there. If you decide you want to try that, write to my inbox. I have much guidelines for you...many do's and don't to make it a more pleasant and hopefully successful experience. I did online dating. But then I was late forties whwen I was doing it and had alot more life experience and wisdom and yet still learned things along the way.
There are singles groups in every city that you can find online who organize a hike or a visit to an art exhibit or some other such social event and you choose to go to the events you want to and meet people face to face instead of internet date site. I have no experience with that other than one event. I didnt like it. Too hit and miss and more like hunting for a needle in a haystack to find someone more spiritual/new age like me. I wish you well in whatever you try. If internet dating is what you want to try, please ask and i will help. Good luck.
21/f This week I got my blood taken because I'm feeling sick and may have mono. My appointment was at 7am. My boyfriend (of one year) knows I was freaking out about it, and said he would come with me for support. I was so happy for the support, but felt bad that the appointment was so early so I told him he didn't have to to go because of the unnecessary early time. I guess I was expecting him to say time wouldn't be an issue, as I would have done for him any day; instead he took me up on my offer. I didn't express my disappointment because I offered to opt him out of it, but I still feel upset with him about it. Am I right to feel this way? Or am I over reacting? Thanks.
You're still young and learning hon.
One of the things we all need to learn is:
To say what we mean, and mean what we say.
Before you make such offers, think ahead a couple of steps and mentally prepare yourself. When I was your age, i did not think far enough into the future either and that is what gets us all into tricky situations.
Do the what if thinking: If he still went along, you'd be happy for the company. If he decided to stay home, would I be okay with that , how would I feel. You have your subconscious mind engaged at this time, this is what its good at and will tell you exactly what it is that could really happen because it controls all your feelings and emotions.
It wouldve told you that it was really wanting to offer him a choice as a test, not because you felt bad for him because of the early hour.
Your subc. mind wanted to know how deeply his love and concern for you goes.
Your both in your 20's for one thing, so little life experience..we all have that in our background. You are boyfriend/girlfriend, dating so you have not progressed to the ultimate level of relationship...a committed lifelong relationship whether with marriage license or without, where oaths and vows of love and committment are spoken.
The kind of commitment to you that you were expecting from him doesn't match the type of relationship you currently have.
But the fact that he took your feelings into consideration and wanted to go to support you showed he is coming awfully close to that level of relationship. You perhaps don't understand how men think. When you told him it wasn't important for him to go...he took you at your word which all men would do. You wouldn't say it if you didn't really mean it. Men are logical. They don't say things with hidden meanings behind them.
So you can't blame him.
However, in a long term loving committed relationship, a man will over time become even more intimately related with his woman to know when she doesn't really mean what she just said, or would open it up for discussion, or he might tell her that Of course he is going with her, he loves her and would rather be at her side. There are many great relationships but not all men are like the last one...wanting to be with her no matter what the situation or the time or what. That sometimes takes two very evolved, mature creatures who are also soul mates to have that kind of connection to each other. I do have that with my 2nd husband. Didnt have with the 1st.
If your boyfriend offered to go without you having to ask, you have a sweet guy. Give him a break for not meeting your preconceived idea of how it should turn out...AND hold on to him for heavens sake!!!