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My ex-Boyfriend wants to see me. I keep on telling him excuses like-
- I cant. I have to clean my room.
-My mom said i cant...
- I already have plans.
He still just keeps on asking. I have even tried to tell him that i dont like him anymore. He just wont listen! Please help.
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This is what will happen. This happens all the time (I've been there). You will give in to seeing him, have sex again, then the cycle continues.
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I have been in your situation, it's tough but once you tell them how you feel and the persistency of asking to see you doesn't stop, the best and most effective way to make it all stop is to not answer his texts or calls or messages whatever form of communication you use. If you see him everyday do your best to avoid him! He will get the hint, the longer you talk to him the more he feels he will convince you. Cut off communication and he will eventually quit it!
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Sometimes in order to truly move on, We must cut contact. Block him on facebook, twitter. Do not answer text/emails ir calls. Eventually he will move on, Put your foot fown abd tell him to stop harassing you. Doesn't sound like your being stern enough
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How is he talking to you? Is it on Facebook or through text messaging? If so, then just don't answer. He'll have to give up eventually.
If he's been coming up to you in person, then you need to straight up tell him that you are not interested in seeing him and to please stop asking.
I think by giving him excuses, he doesn't get the hint. He sees it more as, "She's busy, but she still wants to see me." So don't make up excuses, just tell him no.
I had a boyfriend when I was in high school, once we broke up he would still try to talk to me all the time and would try to walk me to all my classes. Eventually I had one of my guy friends walk with me to my classes for a little while so that he wouldn't approach us.
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If its FB or other chat system messages, don't answer at all, phone calls or text messages, don't answer at all. If its at school face to face, tell him that you dated him to find out if you really liked him and had chemistry with him. You have discovered that you don't feel that with him. This is the kind of thing to tell someone in person not text or phone.
He should be able to understand that and then stop. If he doesn't, you might ask another guy you know fairly well, if he'd do you a favor and pretend to be your new boyfriend to see if that makes the ex leave you alone. You could promise him a batch of cookies for helping. Once the ex has given up, you can drop the pretence.
Good luck!
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