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When my sister was pregnant she ate cornstarch and potato chips with chocolate

Simple answer: Raging hormones

Hi there. My partner doesn't want to have a child with me yet. We've been together 3 years and we raise my daughter together (although she isn't his biologically). We met when my daughter was 6 months, she's now 3 and a half. We live together and I would like for Amy (my little un) to have a brother/sister. He doesn't want one yet. Its a problem as he says he doesn't know if he loves me yet. He's a lovely guy, and I'm very happy with him, he's a great dad to my daughter. The thing is, every time he says he's not ready I get cross, why not? He is raising my daughter as his so he's already being a dad. my daughter biological father sadly died in a car crash before she was born so he's the only dad she has known. It makes me sad that he doesnt love me, we've been together 3 years ad he lives with me and I love himn very much, I tell him so. I just dont know what to do, I dont know if I'm being selfish or expecting too much and should give him more time or if I should expect better for myself. Why am i with a man who doesn't love me and doesn't want any children with me? He says he cares for me deeply, I know this is true but its not enough and I'm just getting angrier, i feel used by him and let down. I'm sick of feeling rejected, its not doing me any good. I'm totally lost any advice would be much appreciated :-)

Your boyfriend may have commitment problems, many men do. It is also not unusual to for a man to become more attached to a woman's child without fully committing to her. Usually the problem is his to workout and all the pushing from her (you) only causes him to be defensive.

The flip side of this problem is that there are unresolved issues between you two and he is staying around for the sake of the child. Another possibility is that there are just some issues that he does not know how to bridge but he is committed to you enough to stay in the relationship as it is.

When he says, "he doesn't know if he loves me yet", I don't think he means it as it sounds. What I think may help you two is counseling to find out just what is wrong, if anything in your relationship.

There may be nothing wrong in your relationship. He may have an unresolved fear which counseling will help. An example would be if he comes from a broken home. He may fear divorce/breaking up and what it would do to your child/children.

Instead of pushing for a commitment ask him how he would feel about counseling to talk to someone who would be able to help you two come together on hopefully a more permanent basis. Tell him you love him and you yearn for the security of marriage. Once you are married then you can talk about having a child with him.

My period had been on for the past 4 months it will get light and then heavy but it won't go off i stay tired but i made a doctors appointment but i want to know should i just go to the hospital

If when you made your doctors appointment you told them why you needed to see the doctor for and they scheduled the appointment accordingly then no. If you did not tell the doctors office why you needed to see the doctor and you are not going to see the doctor in the next day or so. Call the doctors office back and explain why you need to see the doctor and ask for an earlier appointment.

If they cannot arrange an earlier appointment for you ,within the next day or two, ask them if the doctor wants you to go to the emergency room.

We are not doctors. We can not diagnose a problem or tell you why something may be happening.

There are any number of reasons why you are bleeding. Some serious some not so serious. If you are unsure as whether you should wait to see the doctor then let the doctor make that decision. If you are in your teenage years and live at home; you should talk with your mother. Your mom is always a good source of information on matters such as these.

hi yesterday i had poo had lots blood and it happend again today but im get more blood then i am poo this has happend in the past but it worried me now as lot blood

You could have hemorrhoids or an anal fissure it takes a doctors exam to find out for sure. There are other reasons for anal bleeding all of which need to be checked out by a doctor. Anal bleeding is a serious issue that warrants immediate attention of your family doctor.

I am going on a trip to Vienna, Austria with my marching band over Easter. I will be flying out of Philadelphia. However, we are landing in Germany. How long would that flight be? I hear it's 14 hours and it's night there when it's day where I am. So, we'll be taking off in the morning, go through the Austrian night and land and go to the hotel in the next Austrian morning. So, is it going to be that long of a flight or maybe less? Thanks!

The total travel time for the trip you are taking ranges between 11 hours 45 minutes to 15 hours 15 minutes. The travel time includes the layover time of just over 2 hours in Germany waiting for your onward flight to Vienna. The difference in the travel time depends on the airlines you are traveling on and your departure time from PHL.

I hope this helps.

Its extremely embarassing asking advice about this but I have no else to talk to about it. About a year or so ago I was with a friend and she was with this guy she wanted to go hang with him in his van so I went with her because I didn't want her to go alone. They started getting high and asked me if I wanted to. Stupidly enough I agreed and apparently I slept with the guy that was there. I felt so disgusting I don't even know why I chose to get high. I'm tottally clean and I don't do stuff like that. I feel like a skank. I didn't want to do that and I found the guy really repulsive I told him I didn't wana be involved with him in any way and that I shouldn't have done that my friend doesn't look at me any differently but I do. I'm so ashamed of myself and I regret it deeply. I just want to forget all about it but I can't idk what to do.

In actuality by the legal definition you were raped. Unless you are able to knowingly consent to having sex you are considered to be raped. If you have sex while drunk or under the influence of illegal drugs you are unable to give consent. Whether you want to charge the boy with rape is up to you.

By willingly getting high does not mean you agreed to have sex with this boy. Doing one is not permission to do the other. What is operative her is your ability to make an informed consent then are you of legal age to consent.

Regardless of whether you want to press charges against this boy I would suggest you contact your local rape counseling center. They can help you through this by helping you find someone to talk with knowledgeable in these situations.

From what you have written you have nothing to be ashamed about or to feel like a "shank", whatever that is." You were taken advantaged of when you were in no condition to give consent. That is the definition of rape. Anyone who is raped is never at fault and has nothing to be ashamed of.

I would also suggest you talk to your parents. Yes they will get upset. They will get upset with you getting high, though they will get more upset at the fact you were raped or if you prefer had sex without you consent or knowledge.

You do not say how old you are. If you were my daughter and came to me with this information I would be very upset. No matter how old a fathers daughter is she is always be seen by her father as his little girls, even when she is all grown up and has children of her own. When something like this happens the first thing we as fathers want to do is protect our daughters and find the guy that has hurt her. So if your dad gets unreasonably upset if and when you tell him, this is partially the reason.

My advice: Contact the local Rape Counseling Center and consider telling your parents which I do suggest you do.

Hello. I have somehow stumbled upon this site and wish to pose my problem to all of you.

I'm twenty one years old and working to put myself through college right now. At my current job I met this guy that I am really into. He's a sweet guy, and he likes to take his lunch breaks with me (he has a twin brother he usually takes his breaks with, but lately he's been around me mostly).

Well, see, he's nineteen. I'm not sure if that matters too much (I mean, how much does it matter that there's a two year difference, right?) But I want to admit I like him but I feel like that might turn things awkward.

Neither of us are above the other in work. We're both on the same level. Our job went over in orientation that relationships between those of the same level are fine and are not frowned upon. I want to ask him to hang out outside of work, but I'm just not sure if I'm looking at things the wrong way.

Lemme explain more: not only has he been taking all of his breaks with me, but when we're assigned to do things at work we work together now. One of the managers told him he could either help me or his brother. He chose to help me. My other coworkers said that's a bit odd because before he would -always- choose his brother over anyone else.

We're interested in the same things: video games, books, music, tv shows, etc. We don't mesh completely with all of those, but we have enough similar interests that we can chat over them and have a fun time.

I really, really want to ask him to hang out sometime (I don't want to rush things! I just got out of a long relationship almost three months ago and I don't want to get serious too fast, I just want to keep it fun for now) but I'm scared he'll think that's too weird and blow me off and then everything will fall apart. I don't want to make things awkward.

Does anyone have any advice for me? I'm really not sure what to do. I work with him again on Friday and I want to ask him to hang out, but I'm torn.

Oh, and I'm a female by the way. Again if anyone doesn't remember I'm 21/f. He's 19/m.

If you two were younger says one of you still in high school I would say the age thing is relevant. Given your present situation it is not. If is of any meaning for you my mother in-law was 5 years older than my father in-law.

As for wanting to hang out with him after work. I think he wants to as well but he may be hung up on the age thing or is just to shy to ask. The fact that he wants to be near and with you at work says he likes you and wants to be with you. I see nothing wrong with you taking the next step. Just be open and honest with him about how far you want that next step to b right now.

deal with a divorce

There are a lot of different ways to deal with ending a relationship, especially a divorce. To give you any good help we would need to know a little more about the relationship. Things like how long you are married? Do you have any children? Are you the wife or the husband? What was the primary reason for the divorce?

It is not that we are nosey; it is just the reason behind the divorce plays a big part in how one gets past the divorce. For instance if you are an abused spouse my advice would be different than if your spouse cheated on you.

There are also different types of support groups that I can recommend for some of the reason a couple separate. Most importantly is knowing a little bit about where you want to go from here so I/we can offer some suggestions on how to get there.

So, I'm getting married in a few months. My fiance is getting deployed in April, so we wanted to sign papers first and then have a real wedding next year. However, I still wanted to do something decently special for our courthouse wedding. For those of you who have done the 'signing papers' thing, I would like to know how you all did it and how you guys celebrated! I just want some nice ideas, thank you!

My wife and I were married just over 40 years ago. We would have liked to have had a traditional Polish wedding as my wife is Polish. Since my future in=laws were putting my -future brother in-law through F.I.T. we chose instead to have a civil ceremony presided over by a Judge friend of my Uncle.

The Judge asked in lieu of a fee that we make a donation to a good charity. As a fire fighter a chose to make a donation to the local fire department.

The ceremony took place in the judges chambers with immediate family present. He remarked,"Hey I'm on a role, two life sentences in one day." When we left the court house the local fire fighters were out front and made an arch with crossed pike poles for us to walk under. Then my parents held a luncheon for family members and very close friend.

As the years have past my wife and have come to feel we missed nothing by not having a fancy wedding.

Congratulations to you both and please thank your fiance for his service and to you, thank you for your sacrifice while he is deployed.

I ALWAYS have a candle burning in my room.
I burn them on my computer desk, off to the side next to my computer.

Cups of water (plastic) that I leave in my room I find get a grey dust-like sheen on the inside of them after a few hours sitting there.
I've also noticed when I blow my nose, some of the boogers that come out are tinted black.

Could this be the candle smoke doing these things?

Yes. The candle when burning gives of a carbon substance, the unburnt potion of the wax. This substance settles on everything it touches. It is just like if you had a fire outside. The smoke from that fire would settle on things.

As a firefighter I have been to many small fires in homes. Much of the damage in these types of fires is not from the fire itself but from the smoke and the water used to put the fire out. We call this type of fire a room and contents fire. But the smoke from the fire may ruin much of the furnishings and clothing in the house as the smoke is made up of he unburnt portion of whatever is fueling the fire smoldering.

Lately it seems that all I do is get mad. People are always pissing me off and I end up yelling at them. I'm really stressed out right now and it seems like all my parents do is yell back at me. I get in verbal fights with people and I'll get really mad and then 5 minutes later, I'll be fine. I feel I'm on thin line of sanity and all everyone is doing is trying to snap that line. Is it pms or do i have anger management problems?
13/f

I don't think you have anger management problems or PMS either. I think you are a typical female teenager going through early stages of puberty. You are having trouble dealing with the hormones now coursing through your body, which in a way mimics PMS.

Each female teenager deals with this differently. Some have no trouble and others turn from the sweetest girls you ever met to 1 I don't have the words to describe. They are simply a terror to live with. Many experience teenage depression, which back in the dark ages was seen as a phase a child would grow out of. Today we know better and we have medications to help a child through this period.

You are 1 year to young for medical privacy so my suggestion is you speak to mom about making an appointment with a GYN. If you have gotten your period you should have already seen a GYN and continue to see one on a yearly basis.

Talk to the doctor and tell him/her, I think you would be more comfortable with a female doctor, what you are going through, with the mood swings. I am fairly certain there is medication the doctor can give you to help you through this period.

Hi, I'm 19 years old, and I often go to the tutor center at my college. And there is this english tutor that tutored me the first time i went for english two weeks ago. And hes really sweet, funny, and cute. And he makes me laugh a lot. I went again this week because well, his advice helps alot on my papers and I do good for once. He only tutors once a week is it weird and annoying and obsessive if i go get help by him every week the day he tutors. I obviously like him but he also is very helpful, and he makes me want to get help because hes funny and helps in a fun way. i have speech and eng 121 so i need the help in both and english is my weak spot. yes there are other tutors beside him but would it be weird to go to him everyweek for help, cause he only is there one day a week? he is young and he also goes to the same school, but he wears a ring.

annashae

If the only reason you are seeking him out is because he is a good tutor and you connect with him in a scholastic manner. Then no it is not weird for you to seek him out when he is there. The fact that he is cute is irrelevant. The fact that he is funny and sweet makes it easier for you and him to connect and you more accepting of his tutoring. Since he is wearing a ring this tells you he is married so thoughts you might have beyond tutoring and plain scholastic friendship would be wrong.

As for other advisers answering you. We are under no obligation to answer any questions. We read the questions and if we can offer advise we do. IF another advisor has offered advise and we can add to we may. IF we feel the other advisers advise says it all we may chose not to give any further advise.

By asking for all points of view may get you more than one or two responses from the advisers.

Currently I'm 15 years old and my boyfriend is 21, though our birthdays technically show we're 5.4 years apart. Anyways, we've been together for about 5 months now and we were wondering about statutory rape laws in Illinois. From what I've gathered, we can be together as long as we don't have sex or really anything close to it until I turn 17, which is the legal consent age for Illinois. I was wondering if there were any other parts of the law that I've overlooked. I really don't want to get him in trouble for being with me so I want to know all I can on the subject.

Statutory rape and the age of consent have nothing to do with one another. Statutory rape has nothing to do with sex and more to do with the fact that you two are together and that sex could happen. Then there is a Federal Law that comes in to play should the two of you cross a state line. The law is called the Mann act. This act in brief has to do with crossing the state line for the purpose of immoral acts. Here again it is a conceived purpose not necessarily an act.

Then there are lesser charges such as leading to the delinquency of a minor. Another has to do with interference with parental authority and there are more charges that can be brought if law enforcement wants to get really nasty with your boyfriend.

Why would they want to get nasty? For the simple reason that a 21 year old dating or having any type of adult relationship other than mentor, raises all kinds of red flags. The foremost is one of child predator. I'm not saying this is the case with your boyfriend, This is what we as adults see in a relationship such as you are having with this older adult. Law Enforcement will see this and more. Until you are 18 not 17 if you are with any male more than 4 years older than you, he is subject to all that I have written above. Your boyfriend being 21 should be well aware of these facts.

Question: Does he know you are only 15?

The one thing I noticed is you have not said if your parents are aware that you are seeing someone this much older than you. If your parents are not aware then it is them not us you should be talking to. Do not be surprised, when and if you do talk to your parents, which you should do, that they forbid you to see this person.

I realize to you having someone this much older than you, having a loving interest in you, makes you feel so much more mature than the rest of your friends. While I understand how you feel I have to warn you of the inherent dangers of this relationship. This man may have honest feelings for you. My age a maturity, as well as your parents tell us this is wrong and you could be in danger.

So please if you have not told your parents about him. Then do as they say as it is for your own best interest.

My husband and I have been married for almost two years. We have a one year old baby boy and another baby on the way. Last night I confronted him because he seemed distant to me... he admitted that he missed being single... he said he felt guilty for feeling that way and that he wanted to be with me because he loves his family and his son... but not in so many words did he say he loved me...
I am completely at a loss. I know there are things I could do better as a mother/ wife... but I don't know what to do to rekindle what he must've lost for me.

This is something many husbands go through. I would also go as far as to say it is not as you say,"I know there are things I could do better as a mother/ wife..."

As a husband and father we do not transition to fatherhood as easily as our wives seem to do. It probably has a lot to do with the fact that we do not carry the child for nine months. Therefore we are in a sense thrust into fatherhood where our wives have had 9 months to prepare for motherhood. This may sound like an excuse and maybe it is.

Having gone through this myself many years ago it is how I felt. It took awhile for me to understand that my wife's priorities had to change, that the child had to come first. We could no longer just drop what we were doing and go off for a weekend of wild romance. I missed that and other things. Your not wrong and neither was my wife. It wasn't that I missed being single. I enjoyed being married; I just missed being able to do as I/we did as couple when we were single and as a married couple. I hope that makes sense.

I'm thinking this is what your husband is saying when he says; "he admitted that he missed being single... he said he felt guilty for feeling that way and that he wanted to be with me because he loves his family and his son." You are his family so when he said he loved his family he was also saying he loved you.

With nothing else to go on I will go out on a somewhat sturdy limb and say I believe your marriage is still strong. What I believe your husband is saying is he misses some of the freedom you two had as a couple and as I said I believe this is natural.

What I might suggest is you try and make more time for your husband. If you are not to far along in this pregnancy, if there is someone like one of your parents that you can leave your son with. You might want to arrange a surprise child free weekend for him some place romantic; if it is affordable.

I understand that if your a working wife, mother, homemaker that time for romance just is not there. You can be just too tired. Unfortunately your husband, we all are this way, just doesn't understand the why of this and it makes him us long for the care free times.

when your breast hurts what does it mean?and is it normal if you are not pregnant ,

I agree with Zane. It is totally normal for your breasts to hurt prior to and during your period. If your breast constantly hurt then I would suggest visiting your GYN.

18/f
I have been on a diet for several weeks now, maybe about 2 months. I successfully lost 8-9lbs by eating 1200-1700 calories a day and running cross country. But all of the sudden I seem to be gaining the weight back, and I don't understand why. I know that weight fluctuates but it seems like I've gained back A LOT. My clothes are fitting looser, so maybe I'm just gaining muscle weight? I don't understand. Could I have gained a few lbs because it's the week of my period?
Any suggestions/tips/etc. is very appreciated. Thank you & God bless

Do to water retention and other factors during your period it is possible to gain a few pounds just before and during your period. It is also possible that as you build muscle you will lose inches but gain weight as muscle weighs more than fat.

I know it sounds insane, but escorts are human. I know because I feel in love with one. She has had a tougher life than most of us could imagine and she is very close to putting her escorting past behind her thanks to education. My issue is that I do not trust her. She's been a high end escort for 7 years and I started seeing her first as a client then became her boyfriend. I am by nature a jealous person and I wonder if I'll ever trust her. She has lied to me, but it's always because she's trying to hide her past and protect me from it. How can I ever trust this person? Many thanks for your thoughts on this.

Some people will say a lie is a lie no matter what the circumstances of the lie are. In this particular case if you are fully believing in the fact that she has lied to protect you then I believe there is hope for your relationship.

First: You are already fully knowledgeable of her background and I would believe accepting of it. If so then you and she must agree that from today forward there can be no more lies of protection. You must make her understand that your relationship is solid enough that you can come to terms with anything in her past and what is happening now.

Second: I usually reserve what I am about to say to young people embarking on sexual lives, though it is appropriate for the two of you in your situation. Communication is going to be the key to your successful relationship. Each of you must be trusting of the other to be open with each other and not to hold anything back about your pasts or your future goals.

Just as the best part of sex is the intimacy of exploring each other's bodies and sexual likes and dislikes. Getting to know each other on the higher plain of intimacy and intellect is importantas well even more so.

Third: If you both see this relationship leading to marriage then I would suggest that she put an end date on her escorting business. By doing so this puts a date that her past truly becomes her past and the two of you can start to build a future together.

Should the two of you accomplish the three things I listed the trust you are looking for will come as a natural part of things. We all need to do what we need to do to get by in this world and you said it yourself; escorts are human. I'm sure it wasn't a profession she aspired to in high school. To hold it against her would be wrong.

So put her past behind her. Tell her not to protect you from the truth and start building the relationship you seem to want.

18/f
OK so here's the deal. I'll try to keep this fairly short while still encompassing the whole situation. I've had a teacher for a few years and I've always felt I could talk to him about things... so I do. Not really personal stuff, I just love to talk to him. He's a fascinating person & he notices me and takes the time to pay attention to what's going on in my life. That, to me, is huge because my dad has not been present in my life (to put things nicely.) He notices little details my own father didn't. So as I got to know him better I would go after school & talk to him a lot and we got pretty close. Nothing inappropriate though, he's not like that at all! And I don't like him romantically. But what bothers me is that lately he is very... inconsistent. He is sometimes extremely nervous around me and other times he's totally comfortable. Could it be that he has a paternal feeling too & is afraid it will show because it's not appropriate for school? Or am I just hoping too much? I was planning on telling him at the end of the year before I graduate, or afterwards, how he was like a father figure to me and how great that felt... but maybe that would be coming on too strong and make him feel awkward. What do you think? I do want him to remember me & remember his impact on my life.. I think God puts people into each others' lives for a reason.
Also, and this really annoys me,but I have found myself jealous of other girls who talk to him and get his advice. I guess I want to be special and stand out to him and don't know how?? It's so frustrating. I think about it a lot so it's good to get this off my chest...
any advice is greatly appreciated, thank you so much & God bless

As you have gotten older your teacher may feel that the closeness the two of you have may be judged by others to be inappropriate between student and teacher. This being said I fell it would be entirely appropriate for you write him a nice letter thanking him for being a mentor to you. In this way you are telling him your feelings for him are appropriate for a student teacher relationship and nothing more.

If he is aware of your family dynamic concerning your fathers presents in your life. Then,if he has mentored you in more than just school work, you can go and and tell him what effect he has had on you personally. This is the area that is touchy and where inappropriateness comes in. It is okay for a teacher to help a student with life problems. There is a fine line where some of life problems cross over to a relationship situation even if it is not sexual.

If I were your teacher I believe I would appreciate knowing now that you understand our relationship to be strictly a student teacher relationship. I would also be thrilled to know that through this student teacher relationship I have had a positive impact on your life. This is the type of letter, if written properly, I would want to show my fellow teachers and school principal.

Im new to this so imma just say how i feel. My mom smokes weed drinkings and is major whore. She had sex plenty of times while i was in the same bed. Has books about sex. I cant stand her im 14 and i have done stuff too . I had sex, ONLY because i wanted to know how it felt why? because my mother was doing it my friends were and i thought i was in love with the boy. I have lied before i snuck people in my house after school when im not suppose to . Im not a girl you would call a whore. my mom found out i had sex she also saw that i sent a boyfriend a picture of my boobs but it wasnt serious it was in the bra and she made a big deal out of it. What ever. i dont tell her anything because we dont have that kind relationship. But come on if you dont live with your dad your mom hates him she drinks smokes weed trys to hide the fact that she does, doesnt keep her promises takes your money when you get it from family to "put it in an account to save it" and always says that shes not your friend shes your mother. Would you want to have a relationship with someone like that. I dont love my mother but i appreciate everything shes done for me get my hair done nails done clothes decent im fed my own room cat & dog bills paid roof over my head phone never goes off gives me privacy at times. BUT I JUST CANT TAKE HER AS A PERSON. Its like i wanna respect her so my life can be happy but its like how can i when she does the stuff she does and says the stuff she says its like why ???

In one respect your mother has done everything a parent is suppose too;"but i appreciate everything shes done for me get my hair done nails done clothes decent i'm fed my own room cat & dog bills paid roof over my head phone never goes off gives me privacy at times. BUT I JUST CANT TAKE HER AS A PERSON. Its like i wanna respect her so my life can be happy but its like how can i when she does the stuff she does and says the stuff she says its like why ???" "takes your money when you get it from family to "put it in an account to save it" and always says that shes not your friend shes your mother."

Parents do not have to be your friends. They do have to cloth and feed you. Keep a roof over your head, give you a place to sleep as well as see to it that you go to school and are cared for medically. Being your friend as well as your parent is a bonus many but not all children enjoy.

I am proud of the fact that you do respect your mother for all she has done for you. Here again not all children would be like you and resent the fact that they were not getting more from their parent(s).

What I don't like and bothers me greatly is; "mom smokes weed drinkings and is major whore. She had sex plenty of times while i was in the same bed." This is very wrong and considered child endangerment. If you participated in the sex mom was having, willingly or not and possibly the fact that you were in the bed anyway, this would be considered incest all of these things with the exception of the drinking are major crimes.

While your mother is providing for you as she is required too as a parent and more. The home environment is not what any child should be subjected to. You do not say where your father is. Is it possible for you to go and live with him or another relative? If so you should consider this. You should also consider talking to dad or this other relative about moms weed smoking and sexual habits taking place in front of you.

If there is no family member of parent of a friend you can talk to then I suggest talking to a trusted teacher or your school principal. Yes mom is providing for you but the environment must be corrected as it is not proper for you to live in that type of environment. So please speak to someone as I recommend.

My boyfriend likes to rub his penis on my vagina. Is there any chance that I could get pregnant? my bf can go on for hrs. we dont have sex. i am a virgin, he has came on me while i was on him. he has rubbed his penis on my vagina by the ****... he has pre *** on my vagina many time for hrs straight at a time.... can i get prego for doing this? please help me!!!!

The quick answer is yes.

In a sense you are playing Russian Roulette with a fully loaded revolver. All it takes is one sperm surviving the trip to fertilize and egg and your pregnant.

The sperm are programed to get to your egg. The fact that precum is getting on your vagina makes it possible for sperm, which is in the precum, to enter you and start making the swim. While the chances are low that any sperm will survive or even enter you; the fact that there is a chance makes it a possibility that you can become pregnant.

I would advise that you find another way to get your boyfriend to get off other than him rubbing off on you.

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