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My teacher is like a father figure
18/f
OK so here's the deal. I'll try to keep this fairly short while still encompassing the whole situation. I've had a teacher for a few years and I've always felt I could talk to him about things... so I do. Not really personal stuff, I just love to talk to him. He's a fascinating person & he notices me and takes the time to pay attention to what's going on in my life. That, to me, is huge because my dad has not been present in my life (to put things nicely.) He notices little details my own father didn't. So as I got to know him better I would go after school & talk to him a lot and we got pretty close. Nothing inappropriate though, he's not like that at all! And I don't like him romantically. But what bothers me is that lately he is very... inconsistent. He is sometimes extremely nervous around me and other times he's totally comfortable. Could it be that he has a paternal feeling too & is afraid it will show because it's not appropriate for school? Or am I just hoping too much? I was planning on telling him at the end of the year before I graduate, or afterwards, how he was like a father figure to me and how great that felt... but maybe that would be coming on too strong and make him feel awkward. What do you think? I do want him to remember me & remember his impact on my life.. I think God puts people into each others' lives for a reason.
Also, and this really annoys me,but I have found myself jealous of other girls who talk to him and get his advice. I guess I want to be special and stand out to him and don't know how?? It's so frustrating. I think about it a lot so it's good to get this off my chest...
any advice is greatly appreciated, thank you so much & God bless
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As you have gotten older your teacher may feel that the closeness the two of you have may be judged by others to be inappropriate between student and teacher. This being said I fell it would be entirely appropriate for you write him a nice letter thanking him for being a mentor to you. In this way you are telling him your feelings for him are appropriate for a student teacher relationship and nothing more.
If he is aware of your family dynamic concerning your fathers presents in your life. Then,if he has mentored you in more than just school work, you can go and and tell him what effect he has had on you personally. This is the area that is touchy and where inappropriateness comes in. It is okay for a teacher to help a student with life problems. There is a fine line where some of life problems cross over to a relationship situation even if it is not sexual.
If I were your teacher I believe I would appreciate knowing now that you understand our relationship to be strictly a student teacher relationship. I would also be thrilled to know that through this student teacher relationship I have had a positive impact on your life. This is the type of letter, if written properly, I would want to show my fellow teachers and school principal.
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