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How to deal with my mother
Im new to this so imma just say how i feel. My mom smokes weed drinkings and is major whore. She had sex plenty of times while i was in the same bed. Has books about sex. I cant stand her im 14 and i have done stuff too . I had sex, ONLY because i wanted to know how it felt why? because my mother was doing it my friends were and i thought i was in love with the boy. I have lied before i snuck people in my house after school when im not suppose to . Im not a girl you would call a whore. my mom found out i had sex she also saw that i sent a boyfriend a picture of my boobs but it wasnt serious it was in the bra and she made a big deal out of it. What ever. i dont tell her anything because we dont have that kind relationship. But come on if you dont live with your dad your mom hates him she drinks smokes weed trys to hide the fact that she does, doesnt keep her promises takes your money when you get it from family to "put it in an account to save it" and always says that shes not your friend shes your mother. Would you want to have a relationship with someone like that. I dont love my mother but i appreciate everything shes done for me get my hair done nails done clothes decent im fed my own room cat & dog bills paid roof over my head phone never goes off gives me privacy at times. BUT I JUST CANT TAKE HER AS A PERSON. Its like i wanna respect her so my life can be happy but its like how can i when she does the stuff she does and says the stuff she says its like why ???
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In one respect your mother has done everything a parent is suppose too;"but i appreciate everything shes done for me get my hair done nails done clothes decent i'm fed my own room cat & dog bills paid roof over my head phone never goes off gives me privacy at times. BUT I JUST CANT TAKE HER AS A PERSON. Its like i wanna respect her so my life can be happy but its like how can i when she does the stuff she does and says the stuff she says its like why ???" "takes your money when you get it from family to "put it in an account to save it" and always says that shes not your friend shes your mother."
Parents do not have to be your friends. They do have to cloth and feed you. Keep a roof over your head, give you a place to sleep as well as see to it that you go to school and are cared for medically. Being your friend as well as your parent is a bonus many but not all children enjoy.
I am proud of the fact that you do respect your mother for all she has done for you. Here again not all children would be like you and resent the fact that they were not getting more from their parent(s).
What I don't like and bothers me greatly is; "mom smokes weed drinkings and is major whore. She had sex plenty of times while i was in the same bed." This is very wrong and considered child endangerment. If you participated in the sex mom was having, willingly or not and possibly the fact that you were in the bed anyway, this would be considered incest all of these things with the exception of the drinking are major crimes.
While your mother is providing for you as she is required too as a parent and more. The home environment is not what any child should be subjected to. You do not say where your father is. Is it possible for you to go and live with him or another relative? If so you should consider this. You should also consider talking to dad or this other relative about moms weed smoking and sexual habits taking place in front of you.
If there is no family member of parent of a friend you can talk to then I suggest talking to a trusted teacher or your school principal. Yes mom is providing for you but the environment must be corrected as it is not proper for you to live in that type of environment. So please speak to someone as I recommend.
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You're mother has crossed the line, Sending a picture of your breast too your boyfriend is classified as child pornography and your Mother could go to jail if caught and your boyfriend could be charged as well.
Reality is sweetheart from what you have described above your mother is mentally abusing you and in some aspect is neglecting you. My best advise, Report it too the proper authority. Clearly, Your mother needs to get some sort of help for her problem as this behavior is not normal. I advise you, Stay away from sex. Do not have sex just because your mother is doing it, Most of all as hard as it is don't let yourself end up in her path because your mother is going down a terrible road. You need to report her, You will not get in any trouble. What your mother is doing is wrong and it can be fixed by your mother getting the proper help for it.
Now one thing I would be concerned about, Your mother send pictures of you to your boyfriend. Not only is this illegal in many states as they recently passed a new law that anyone under the age of 18 sending pornographic photos can be charged how do you know that your boyfriend didn't go around and show the photo's to his buddies?? You need to report Mom, This is not parenting and your mother is over the line.
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