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Pursuing a work relationship?
Hello. I have somehow stumbled upon this site and wish to pose my problem to all of you.
I'm twenty one years old and working to put myself through college right now. At my current job I met this guy that I am really into. He's a sweet guy, and he likes to take his lunch breaks with me (he has a twin brother he usually takes his breaks with, but lately he's been around me mostly).
Well, see, he's nineteen. I'm not sure if that matters too much (I mean, how much does it matter that there's a two year difference, right?) But I want to admit I like him but I feel like that might turn things awkward.
Neither of us are above the other in work. We're both on the same level. Our job went over in orientation that relationships between those of the same level are fine and are not frowned upon. I want to ask him to hang out outside of work, but I'm just not sure if I'm looking at things the wrong way.
Lemme explain more: not only has he been taking all of his breaks with me, but when we're assigned to do things at work we work together now. One of the managers told him he could either help me or his brother. He chose to help me. My other coworkers said that's a bit odd because before he would -always- choose his brother over anyone else.
We're interested in the same things: video games, books, music, tv shows, etc. We don't mesh completely with all of those, but we have enough similar interests that we can chat over them and have a fun time.
I really, really want to ask him to hang out sometime (I don't want to rush things! I just got out of a long relationship almost three months ago and I don't want to get serious too fast, I just want to keep it fun for now) but I'm scared he'll think that's too weird and blow me off and then everything will fall apart. I don't want to make things awkward.
Does anyone have any advice for me? I'm really not sure what to do. I work with him again on Friday and I want to ask him to hang out, but I'm torn.
Oh, and I'm a female by the way. Again if anyone doesn't remember I'm 21/f. He's 19/m.
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If you two were younger says one of you still in high school I would say the age thing is relevant. Given your present situation it is not. If is of any meaning for you my mother in-law was 5 years older than my father in-law.
As for wanting to hang out with him after work. I think he wants to as well but he may be hung up on the age thing or is just to shy to ask. The fact that he wants to be near and with you at work says he likes you and wants to be with you. I see nothing wrong with you taking the next step. Just be open and honest with him about how far you want that next step to b right now.
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