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lack of emotions
I feel as if I've had a mental disorder my entire life because I never seem to have true emotions as often as a normal person should. I say hurtful things in my mind just to make myself cry and feel sad. I find myself wanting to feel sad or depressed. When my friends grandma was diagnosed with cancer I honestly didn't feel bad for her. everytime I open up to someone, I always regret it because I feel weak having to confide in them. I can feel happy, truly happy, but I have trouble feeling sad. what's wrong with me? I've felt this way as long as I can remember, I'm only 13.
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What are these hurtful things you say in your mind to make yourself cry and feel sad?
Are you doing that just to see if you really have emotions?
Where did you get this idea that you are not feeling enough emotion or that your range of emotional expression is limited?
You might have a mental illness of some kind but it could also be that your thoughts are governing the emotions you feel and your intepretation of things is off. This is what cognitive behavorial therapy helps with. It helps people change the way they think about things, which then leads them to feel differently, and act differently.
i wouldnt jump to the conclusion that you dont feel the emotion of sadness or are somehow lacking in some fundamental way just because you didnt feel bad that your friends grandmother got diagnosed with cancer. If my friends told me her grandma got diagnosed with cancer. I would just try to empathize with the person. try to comfort my friend. That is not always easy. It's harder for some to connect with people they have never met, to whom they have no emotional attachment. also, when we are wrapped up in our own emotional problems it can be difficult to be there for other people. You're only 13. you have a lot left to learn, dont be so hard on yourself.
You might consider getting some proffesional help though so that you can get help dealing with these heavy feelings and thoughts you are having. There's nothing wrong with seeing someone about thisin fact, i think it's a healthy response. I dont think you have a mental disorder or that you lack a conscience.
Im sure things will get better for you!
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A: Dear lack of emotions,
This is a very touchy subject, when dealing with mental health issues. Before, I answer your question? I want you to understand, that I am not a medical professional, and only giving my opinion. I am, not giving you a diagnosis. Now, what you are describing, matches symptoms, and case profiles, of people lacking a conscience. They don't have the ability to feel emotions, except, for emotions bringing them pleasure. They can not truly sympathize, or relate to what others normally feel, or feeling. Our conscience's primary function is helping us in distinguishing right, from wrong. For example; If I had an argument with someone, called them nasty names, and made them cry? My conscience, would cause me to start having feelings of remorse. I would feel guilty, for hurting someone, and making them cry. It would make me feel so lousy, urging me to apologize to the person, for what I had done. Someone without a conscience? Would not care about making someone cry, or feel moved to make amends for it. Though they lack ability to feel emotions, they adapt, and learn how to fake them. Acting them out 'on Que', at times when displays of emotion are common.
You musn't blame yourself for not being able to feel emotions, if you don't have them. It is not your fault, unless your causing problems to others. Essentially, it's your choice on how challenging this will be for you, and it's overall effect it will have in your life. I don't mean for you to be somebody your not, but just choosing to be mindful of others feelings, and how they are affected with what you say and do. You must load a conscience manually, instead of having it automatically fully loaded, would be a good way to put it. Then? I don't see why, you would have to volunteer this information about yourself to anyone? Unless you wanted to.
Every human being must strive to live life doing to others, as you would want them to do to you. Living life with integrity is a life with fewer bumpy roads we must travel! You should see a professional for an evaluation if it is causing negitivity in your life.
Take care.
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im 13, too. i was the same way. but then i talked to my school counceler about it. i still hav slightly confused feelings, but talking helps. if u need someone to talk to just ask me. ill b there for u
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