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I recently just got out of a bad relationship and I no longer want to keep my ring that my ex gave me.. Its real diamonds and bought from Zales Diamond store. Where do you think is the best way to sell this for cash? there's a pawn shop down the road I could go there. Or should I try selling it online at craigslist? what about going to Zales and asking them to buy it from me since he bought it there (I don't have receipt though).
What do you think would be the best option for me? thanks!
This is one time I disagree with Zane. The ring is your to do as you wish with. It was a gift from your ex to you. There is nothing that says you must give it back to him. Of course if your ex is still paying on it and stops the payments the credit company may want it back. That though is between your ex and the credit company.
As for selling the ring. My son broke up with his GF and she did return the ring. He took it back to Zales and they offered him about a third of what they sold it for. The mark up on Jewelry is astronomical as much as two, three or four times what the Jewelry pays for the stones and the settings.
I doubt you will need the receipt as for one thing the Jewelry stores are familiar with this problem. For another you will not get nearly what the ring is valued at. If you want to get close to the rings true value you might want to try selling it on something like eBay.
I must have bit my lip in my sleep yesterday morning and woke up with a horrible cut inside my mouth on the inside of my bottom lip and I can't eat or brush my teeth or even sit here and type this without my lips feeling numb and on fire!!! I am in so much pain and I need a quick natural way to get rid of or decrease my pain :/ it was bleeding but it healed and it hurts so bad
There are many topical over the counter pain killers available at your local drug store that will reduce or take away the pain. My thoughts are more about the numbness you are feeling in your lip.
The numbness and fire you are feeling is unusual and leads me to believe that you bay have bitten too deep. I am not a doctor but I think you should check in with your doctor as there are many nerves in the lip you could have damaged.
Im so saad cuz im grounded im so mad at my step dad he thinks hes the boss of me
We really need more information. Information such as your age and what you did or your stepdad thinks you did to cause him to ground you.
Speaking as a parent I would say in general your step dad has every right to ground you. If you are living in his house and he is providing you with everything a dad would provide you with, food, shelter, clothing and everything else you need. Then in every respect he is a parent to you. Not only that but we parents have a saying you may have heard, "you live in my house, you live by my rules."
If you are living in his house, and you are not old enough to live on you own or for some reason cannot live with your father, then you owe your step dad the respect he is due as your step dad. When he married your mom he got a package deal which included you. There are not many men out there who will marry a women and take on her children as well.
If your step dad has grounded you and has good reason for doing so, then you should thank him for he is doing the job of a parent and trying to teach you right from wrong. By grounding you he is showing you there are consequences for doing things that are unacceptable. This is what parent do. He is also telling you he loves you for if he didn't love you he would not care what you did as long as you did not bother him.
Instead of being mad at him I suggest you go to him, apologize for whatever it is you did wrong and thank him for caring enough to punish you and show you right from wrong.
So a few months ago, i found a prescription for my mom for valtrex this cream that's for herpes, shingles, and other things. I asked my therapist because i panicked and she told me it could have been for shingles, what adults get if they didn't have chicken pox when they were younger, so i let it go. Well recently i found another prescription that was written to my mo about a month ago for zovirax. And on it said 15 gm ointment, apply to lesion for 7 days and now i am starting to wonder what is going on? i don't want o jump to conclusions again, but i am worried about her. She never told me about either prescriptions. Her and my dad have been having problems since they got married. But i am starting to wonder if one of them cheated on the other. I don't know why but my mom did tell me once that my dad forced her to have sex. Not only that my mom works late a lot. I ask her what she does, and if she even goes to work because i wonder sometimes, and she gets defensive so i don't know, i know it's none of my business what she does but now i found this out so i am really scared and concerend. I don't want to make assumptions, but it wasn't like i was looking for stuff, i just found it sitting in the laundry room in my house. So what should i do?
First this particular medication is used to lessen the effects of cold sores. The following is a lift from the manufactures Website:
"ZOVIRAX Cream is a prescription antiviral that goes straight to the cold sore. It offers you flexibility—you can use ZOVIRAX Cream at any stage of a cold sore, including the tingle—because the acyclovir in ZOVIRAX Cream specifically targets the cells that have been invaded by the herpes simplex virus (HSV-1). Once it gets into these cells, it stops the virus from copying itself, causing shorter outbreaks. That's how you know ZOVIRAX Cream goes to work right at the source. Keep in mind, ZOVIRAX Cream is not a cure for herpes, but it may lessen the duration of pain and shorten the length of your cold sore outbreak."
I would say give your mother the benefit of the doubt her that this cream is being used to stave of the effects of recurring cold sores.
As parent we are not always right in what we do or say, were human and we do make mistakes. Where we are rarely wrong is what we tell our children or not tell our children about any problems we may be having between us. These are our problems and should not and very rarely affect the love we have for our children. This is the primary reason we try so hard to hide any problems the two of us may be having from our children.
If one of your parents cheated on the other, that is a problem that they have to workout between them. There is nothing you can do about it, it happened ad it is over. There is no reason for you to love one or the other less than the other because of it. They are still your parents and there love for you hasn't changed why should yours for them?
I know a lot of what I said may not make much sense. As parents one of our jobs is to protect our children. Some of us do better at this then others. Sometimes we should prepare our children instead of protect them from whatever may be happening so that they are prepared for what ever fallout occurs. Problem again is we are human and you guys do not come with a book on proper parenting we learn on th job.
In closing; Your mother does not owe you an explanation for any medication she is using. It would be nice but it is not a requirement if she and your dad told you where their marriage stood. For whatever reason your mom is using this medication you are not at risk of getting Herpes from her unless she has an active lesion you can come in contact with, such as a cold sore.
The fact that this medication was just left out where anyone could see it tells me you are making something out of nothing. I see nothing at this point to be scared about.
I'm 23 years old and I no longer see any point in continuing to be alive. I do not have any friends and my family is the type that just ignores any/all problems (What? Something wrong? NEVER!). I do not have any way to see a doctor to help me. I have tried for many years now to "fix" myself and try to find happiness...it is just not working. I am afraid of pretty much everything. I have trouble convincing myself to leave the house. I have never felt like I belonged anywhere. Part of me keeps saying...just go ahead and do it..kill yourself but another really small part is just begging for something...just one little bit of hope. That's the part that has kept me alive for so long...I've been stuck in this same place since I was 14ish. What do I do? What can I do?
First there is help out there for you for which you do not need insurance to get it. All you need to do is ask for it.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline has a 24/7 chat line staffed by volunteers who will talk with you through any crisis you may be having and then help you find help in your home town. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline number is, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) give them a call and ask for help.
You can always pick up the phone and dial 911 or the emergency number where you live and help will be sent to you. Here in the USA if you call 911 help will be sent to you and you will be taken to the nearest hospital Emergency Room for treatment.
No one is going to ask you for insurance information before they treat you. There are programs in place to cover the cost of treating you. What is important is to have you seen by a Doctor and treated for your depression so that you so not hurt yourself.
So pick up the phone and call the National Suicide Hotline or 911. Don't have a phone then go to the nearest hospital emergency room or fire station and ask for help.
(18/F)I just started a job where I stuff animals for kids. Let's call it "Build-an-Animal Workshop" (I can't say the real name because I could get fired if this would ever become public). We're going to call it BAAW for short. Anyhow, it was a fluke that I applied to this job. However, my interviewer said that there were 100 applicants for my position and I was the only one that he wanted to take it. He said that I was the best person I'd interviewed in 10 years. One of the qualities that really drew me to this job was that my interviewer assured me that it wasn't about making money- it was about making kids happy. Plus, everyone there seemed super nice. The whole thing seemed great and predestined. Also, I'm in college so I need this job pretty badly. Needless to say, I took the job. Fast forward three weeks. I have a mean manager. I never met her during interviews. I want to know if I'm overreacting or if she's really a bully. The night before I had to leave early from work because I had a family emergency (my mother has dementia and it had something to do with that). I explained this to her the night before. Today she took me aside before work started and threatened to fire me if it ever happened again. She then stood behind me all day and criticized every aspect of what I was doing. After about three hours she finally left me alone. I was scheduled to work from 12 to 5 with a possible on call shift from 5 to 6. The managers are supposed to tell us at least one hour before if they want us for on call. We're not allowed to wear watches at my job because they're not part of the uniform so I had no idea what time it was. The big problem was that I HAD to know if I was staying until 6 so I could call my parents so my mom (with dementia) wouldn't freak out. I was stuffing and stuffing and stuffing animals for the longest time. I assumed it wasn't 4 yet because my manager hadn't come up and told me if I was on call or not. Then I happened to catch a customer's conversation in which she stated the time was 4:50! That was 50 minutes past when she was supposed to tell me. I finished the animal that I was working on and politely excused myself from the next customers in line, promising them that I would be right back and just had to check the time. I caught my manager walking by and asked her if I had an on call. She said no and very rudely told me to go back to the customers. After I finished my final customer and went to clock out at 5, she pulled me aside. She said it was "horribly inappropriate" for me to have left a customer like that. She said that if it ever happened again that I needed to excuse myself for "a drink of water" (because that's any better than excusing myself to check the time). I then explained my situation with my mother (for like, the seventh time)and told her that she hadn't told me if I was using my on call. She got really snotty with me and told me that they never tell people if they don't have to use their on call shift, only if they do. This was never the case with my other managers. I just accepted my fate and decided to go home. I grabbed my stuff and went to clock out. She jumped on me again saying, "NEVER GRAB YOUR THINGS BEFORE YOU CLOCK OUT. ALWAYS GRAB THEM AFTER. IF YOU GRAB THEM BEFORE WE'RE PAYING YOU ON YOUR OWN TIME TO GET THINGS OUT OF YOUR LOCKER!" By that point, I had started to cry and just ran out of there as fast as possible.I don't know what to do... Is it my fault? Am I overreacting? There are other weird things about her too. We all have lockers. Everybody's lockers are decorated with drawings and pictures and such. The only thing on her locker (and she's worked there for two years) is a sign that says, "Do NOT touch my locker. Do NOT take anything out of my locker." That's scary. There are other things about this company too. The main boss seems sweet on the surface but there's evil bubbling beneath. It always feels like he could snap under the slightest bit of agitation. In fact, the whole company seems like that. The whole "it isn't about making money- it's about making kids happy" is complete BS. They're extremely money hungry. The other "100 applicants... best in 10 years... you're amazing" thing is BS, too. I'm 99.9% sure that they only wanted me because I can work weekends. One other weird thing is that two other kids were hired the same time as I was. They're always getting glowing compliments from this manager, so I'm starting to think it's personal. Also, they've been here as long as I have but they've already learned how to do clothing, stocking,cleaning, machinery maintenance, and cash register. The only thing I'm allowed to do is stuff animals, sweep, and take out the trash. Nobody has taught me anything else. This makes me want to quit really badly. But, I do love stuffing animals for kids more than anything else in the world and my coworkers (not bosses or managers) are extremely sweet. I would do it all day if it weren't for the evil head honchos. So, do I quit? Do I express my anger? Do I suck it up? HELP.
One question first: Did you mention in your interview that there may be times when a problem with your mothers dementia may cause you to be called away from work. If not you should do so in the future as this may be the cause of the problem and her remark, "and threatened to fire me if it ever happened again". If you did advice them of this problem then her threat is out of line and you can report her to the HR department for harassment.
First off I'm a male but I have noticed that female supervisors for some reason seem to be more stern with female subordinates than they are with male subordinates. I have also noticed that female mangers and supervisors in general seem to be more aggressive than there male counterparts. I have always felt that this is because they feel they have more to prove.
Quitting may solve your problem with this employer but it is a tough job market out there. As they told you they had 100 applicants for the job they offered you. Before you quit you should do one of two things; either find a new job first or attempt to fix the problem at your present job.
You know how to find a new job so I will address the second thought. Ask for a meeting with your supervisor/manager, on your own time. Explain your feelings to her that your emergency, which was in essence a planned emergency, has caused a rift between the two of you. One you feel is effecting her expectations of you and is effecting your ability to perform to your own standards. No one can perform properly when they feel they are being looked at under a microscope. Tell her you like/love this job and would like to progress with the company. Don't say anything about leaving for college soon or next year. If she brings it up be prepared to answer her. Your looking at this job as being a means to an end may also be being held against you.
Based on how she responds to you, you may be able to improve your working conditions or have grounds to complain to the corporate HR department. However the meeting goes, as soon as you leave find someplace away from the store to write down what you can remember of the conversations with her.
Hi, everyone. I'm 12 years old and I found out sometime last year that I have scoliosis. I wear a brace now, but this is my fourth brace as the first three did not work. My curve is around 35 degrees, I was curious as to whether I would need surgery or not. Thanks for your help!
Right now you are young enough that the doctors have a good chance of correcting your scoliosis. If the doctors in consultation with your parents think this is the right thing to do then it is something that should be done.
If your concern is about the after surgery pain or the surgery itself. Then, if and when that time comes, you need to have your list of questions prepared for the doctor to answer. The better prepared you are the less scary the surgery will be. As for the pain, there will be some pain after the surgery that will diminish as the days go by. The doctors will give you medication to help manage the pain.
The end result though, should surgery be decided upon, is that in the end you will stand straight and tall. As well as live a life free from what ever pain scoliosis may bring.
For now do not focus on what may not come. Focus on the brace and whatever you are told to do to straighten and strengthen your spine. Focusing on what may never come is counter productive. Focusing on what you have control over is the productive thing for you to do at this time.
Hello,
I recently took an IQ test, and today I got the results through the post. It says my IQ is in the top 10% of the population. Is that good? I mean, It it worth noting on my resume, etc? Or is that just average? or slightly above?
Any input appreciated. Thanks.
:)
Being in the top 10% is good. Noting it on a resume is not proper. It is a form of bragging.
Saw your reply on the painless suicide options. I am seriously considering this as no way out. I have no reason to live for another micro moment so no lectures or discourses please.
Just plain and simple. Can you help me end my life? No left right or centre advise. If you want I can pay you. Just thinking if some one can shoot a hole in my head........can pay him and also sign a note absolving him of any crime. It will be an authansia
Both suicide and euthanasia are unlawful in all states and most civilized countries.
If you have read our answers to questions like theses then you know we will never answer such a question. We are into helping people find answers to their problems.
If you would like to live, write us back and any or all of us will be more than willing to help you find answers to whatever is causing you to want to end your life.
The only other advice I will give you right now is to call 911 or go to a hospital emergency room and ask for help.
I'm 18 years old and I'm between a C and a D cup in bra size. This problem has been going on for a few years and I just don't know what to do anymore, it's interfering with my love life.
I think I have big pores on my breasts, and it often looks like there are black heads on the skin. When I squeeze then, sometimes I get a white pus, sometimes I get something that kind of resembles a blackhead but are very different from the ones on the face, and sometimes I get nothing and it just bleeds. Needless to say, this causes scabs with sometimes cause a little scarring.
I know the obvious answer is to stop picking, but I have a impulsive problem with that. I need to figure out how to stop picking, but at the same time I want my boobs to look normal and not have those big pores with things that look like blackheads. Any suggestions?
I feel like I'm the only person in the world with this problem...I get insecure when I wear low cut shirts, bathing suits, etc. Especially when I'm being intimate with a guy, if it's really bad that day, I won't take off my bra or I'll even keep my entire shirt on and that is frustrating sometimes cause I feel insecure when I don't want to be, and I know it's frustrating for him cause he wants to be able to look at my chest when we're making love. If it's not that bad, sometimes I even put make up on to conceal the little spots so and if it's dark in the room, I'm comfortable showing my boobs.
Anyways, I'm in college and this boob problem with the skin has been going on since early high school. Help please!
Both Zane & soadorable__x3 have given you good advice. Stop picking at the pimples. Wash you breasts daily or when you get back from school if you have had a particularly sweaty day and change your bra. See a your GYN and a Dermatologist. Wear a good cotton bra for every day wear and leave the sexy lacy things for date nights.
Any man that expects his girlfriend or wife to have an absolutely perfect body is living in a dream world. None of us are perfect in body or any other way.
What attracts us to one another in a large part is appearances. But that appearance is when we are fully clothed. Then when the clothing finally comes off there are going to be hidden flaws, that is just a fact of life. Usually by the time the clothing comes off the physical attractiveness has given way to something less superficial. So let your boyfriend look. If all he wants to sees is beauty that is only skin deep he is not worthy of you or your love.
Okay I am really worried. For the past two months, I have been exremely tired. I go to bed around 10, wake up around 8 or 9, fall back asleep, wake up, fall back asleep, and I'm not even up until like 1:00pm!! I feel super groggy and unhealthy....I have talked to my doctors about this but they don't know or give me like a million reasons that don't feel right...I just wanted some opinions on what people think the cause of this is. Thank you
19/f
I agree with Rumley; there are a million reasons for why; starting with teenagers just love to sleep.
Mono is also a possibility but that is something a doctor would have found by now. Did your doctor screen you for depression? Iron Deficiency, or other Vitamin deficiencies?
Not wanting to get out of bed is just one sign of depression, there are an number of other signs that need to be present to diagnose depression. At you present age I can see certain external and self made stressors placed upon you that you have not had to manage before. High stress levels is another of the signs of depression but still is not all of the signs required to make a diagnoses of depression.
Depression is a lot more common than people think, especially in teenagers in your age group. One survey I saw says that 1 in 5 or 20% of us (not just teenagers) suffer from some form of depression. The most common form is the one where the brain does not secrete one of the two chemicals that control depression. This is the most common and the easiest form of depression to treat. In a sense this form is a lot like diabetes.
Since the doctors have not found anything else wrong and to put one other medical reason to rest. Ask your doctor to screen you for depression.
The job market where i currently live sucks so I plan on moving to tx where things are flourishing. I have some interviews lined up but nothing is a guarantee of course and I'm not going to move till i know i'm hired. I'm in a year lease contract now with my apt and I don't know when the right time to tell my landlord. on one hand I don't want to tell her and i go to these interviews and things don't go well and then come home to find out that my landlord found someone to take over my lease while I was gone. on the other hand I don't want a situation where I don't tell her go to these interviews get hired on the spot and the job expects me to relocate a week later but theres no one to take over the remainder of my lease. I want to do the right thing here I'm just not sure what the right thing is in this situation. Any advice?
First things first. Secure employment in Texas. Once you have a job to go to and a starting date then you can inform you landlord.
While your waiting for a job offer read your lease carefully. Some leases contain a transfer clause which details what your rights are if you need to move for employment purposes.
Once you have secured employment and have a starting date you then should notify you landlord. Worst case scenario is your landlord will insist you live up to the notice required in the lease. Given today's economic situation and job prospects in certain areas of the country your landlord may be understanding and let you out of your lease without penalty. If you have been a good tenant and the landlord has come to know you as more than just a tenant this is a possibility. Today's economic situation makes everything negotiable.
Most importantly is that you wait until you have two in the bush before you give up your home.
i gave head last night and this morning i woke up with a sore throat and two soars on the side of my cheek. should i be worried or no?
It is very possible the sores are some form of STD. If I were you I would have this checked out immediately. I'm not sure how fast an STD will appear but the coincidence can not be ignored. Please see a doctor immediately. Also tell the boy you were with that he too should see a doctor just to be safe.
It seems liek everyone is talking about cantaloupe deaths and illnesses right now and I don't know if I should freak out or not because what if I ate some cantaloupe yesterday? Am i going to get sick or die? do I need to go to the emergency room?
Is any cantaloupe safe to eat? If it is then how do you know which cantalopes are safe to eat?
thank you for helping me!
If you have eaten cantaloupe purchased after the CDC identified where the what was causing the infection you have nothing to worry about. The cantaloupe in question was removed from grocers shelves. You are also not in the age group of those that are at risk of serious or deadly complications fro listeria. If you were to contract the infection you would have symptoms much like the flu. Fever, diarrhea, body aches and so on. Should you feel flue like after eating cantaloupe for the next g 70 days contact your doctor. The incubation period for listeria is 70 days from contact.
I have sort of an odd situation. My boyfriend and I who recently, about 2 months ago, got back together after being together for 8 months and breaking up, called me F*ed up. He calls me all sorts of names, and tells me to stfu, calls me crazy, nuts, and all other things. When were argue this is what he replies back with. He can't communicate right. He is getting better but I can't make him understand how disrespectful it is to call your girlfriend those names. How do I make him understand what he is doing is wrong and no matter who he is with no one will take that from him? Should I break up with him? I am so comfortable with him and I have a great time with him but he doesn't connect on an emotional level with me.
The relationship you are in is called "abusive". No matter how much fun you have with him, no matter how comfortable you may feel with him. In the end you are being abused by him mentally when he resorts to calling you by those names. This is also his way of trying to control you which is part and parcel of an abuser.
You are not in a true loving relationship. You are being used and he is abusing you and attempting to control you for what ever reasons he has for doing so. You will not change him as this is a personality disorder.
Personality disorders are not cured, they are dealt with through therapy to help this type of person to understand they are wrong. The first problem is getting them to understand they are wrong. The second problem is getting them to want to change. In many cases it takes a judge to get them into therapy, but forced therapy usually does not cause the individual to change.
Yes, I've painted a dark picture. I did so purposely because this is what lies ahead for him and you if you stay with him. He needs a wake up call. You need to stay safe. Leaving him will keep you safe and hopefully provide the wake up call he needs.
I'm 20 years old and I've been with my boyfriend whose 22 for over 5 months. We've had a few problems, mainly minor but so far things are going great.
There is one problem though when we're having sex he won't take off his shirt. Actually make it where he won't let me see him without his shirt period. I actually tried pulling up his shirt because I wanted to try something new, and as soon as I did that he pulled his shirt back down.
When I asked him if I could see him without his shirt off, he said no. I asked him "Why not? I'm not your girlfriend," again he told me no.
He's the only boyfriend of mine that I've never seen fully naked. He does have a lot of body issues, he's overweight from playing football and has never been able to take off all of the weight. I'm used to when I'm having sex actually getting to see the guy naked.
He loves me and I love him, we're both very much into sex. He's seen me naked and topless a bunch of times, I would like to have the opportunity to see him naked.
Is there anything that I can do to get him to feel more comfortable about taking his shirt off in front of me?
If this is truly a question of body issues this is something that is hard to overcome. He may see his body issues(s) as something you will find as a turn off, it is definitely something he does not like about himself.
There are several issues I can think of that would cause him to feel this way.
First: You say he is overweight; this could give him the appearance of having breasts. Even men that are not overweight can have body tissue in the breast area that give them what is referred to as male breasts. Usually a simple liposuction type procedure rids them of this problem.
Second: If your BF is grossly overweight he could have skin rolls he feels are unsightly and can have unsightly rashes as well from the rolls rubbing against each other.
Third: This one is highly possible; he could have a tattoo on his chest or back that he does not want you to see.
Fourth: It can be none of the above and something else about his body he is ashamed of.
What you need to do is convince him of you love for him and get him to tell you first what it is that he does not want you to see. Then you need to convince him that whatever it is is not a turn off.
Hi. I am a 16 year old female that has been very depressed. I went to a counselour to get help about 4 weeks ago. But im back to my normal self now. I want to know. What would be the quickest way to kill myself? I dont have gas though.
You are not back to your "normal self" in any way shape or form, not if you are contemplating suicide. You need to continue with counseling for the depression and to see a psychiatrist for medication. Suicide is not "normal" it is not the solution to a problem it is a result that leaves those who love you behind with major hurt over loosing you.
If you are feeling suicidal at this time you need to go to a hospital emergency room for help. You can do this by going there by yourself or calling 911 or the emergency phone number for where you live.
You can also call 1-800-273-TALK (8255), if you live in the USA or Canada. This is the National Suicide Hotline. Trained professional answer this number 24/7 365 and are there to talk with you and help you in total confidentiality. They will assist you in finding help within your community to get you through whatever is causing you to be this depressed.
Just remember there is nothing that cannot be resolved satisfactorily. All that is needed is to find the right kind of help. With help from this hotline the right kind of help can be found for whatever you find so overwhelming.
Hey. I had a lateral release in June (2011). The surgery isn't helping. My orthopedic is talking about re-lining my knee because it's still so off track.
I was wondering, what is the pain level after surgery? How long will I have to do physical therapy? Was the surgery a success? Was the surgery worth it? Are you pleased with the results? Have you had trouble with your knee since?
Thanks for the help! :)
I have had several knee surgeries on my right leg for meniscus tears. During the last surgery the doctor did some realignment of the knee. The surgery was a success and I still don't believe this but I was able to put some weight on the knee the next morning.
The pain was tolerable and I had an ice buddy that I used which is something that looks like a small cooler you put ice in and a small amount of water. The ice water is circulated through tubes to a pad that I strapped around my knee. This helped a lot. I also took the pain medication the doctor gave me. The nurse in the recovery room told me to take the medication for the next several days whether I felt I needed it or not so as to stay ahead of the pain.
I am about to have surgery on my left knee for the same problem. As a result of the right knee surgery I had the added benefit of improving a chronic back pain condition resulting from a car accident I had many years ago. Both my ortho doctor and my pain specialist are looking forward to more improvement to that condition from the second operation.
i have developed some itchy sores around my genital area..... but i have only been sexually active once... im not sure what it is....
I really can't add much to what the other two adviser's have said other than to reinforce what they said.
Remember when you have sex with someone you are not only sleeping with him but everyone else he has slept with. A condom will protect you from some STDs but not all. In today's world it is important to know your sex partner and to know their sexual history. You should also know what to look for before having sex with them. If you are unsure about them it is not unreasonable to ask that they have an STD test before you have sex with them.
As for your problem to day; you need to see a doctor. If you are over 14 you can see the doctor in total confidentially. Meaning you can ask your mother to wait in the waiting room while the doctor examines you. By law, known as HIPPA, you are afforded this right once you reach the age of 14. The doctor cannot discuss with your mother anything that he finds during the examination or what he may treat you for without your expressed written permission.
HIPPA is a federal law. This provision was expressly written so young women and men could seek medical help for sexual and reproductive medical help without worry of parental interference. So go see your doctor or a Women's clinic.
ok so my really close friend (aka the guy i like) was staring at my lips today for like the whole day (i wore lip gloss today and i usually dont) and he kept smiling and im not quite sure why... (also we r both 14 in high school and im a little taller than him)
Every man/boy finds a part of a woman's body to fixate on. Some men are leg men, some are breast men and others fixate on women's butts. You have found a boy that thinks you lips are sexy.