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I dunno what to expect in 9th grade. I mean the work is nothing to me i have great work habits idc about that its just like i go to a PreDominantely white school, and im black so people make a lot of jokes about stereotypes for black girls over the years ive never had a lot of problems with things maybe a weave joke or two mostly but now thag im going tohigh school im scared that people be rude to me. Does it get like that in high school? Or does it just stay the same with an a fewjokes i mean im not sensitive but i have some friends that might be not sure. Im also afraid that some people i hangout with are going to like go down the wrong road

Hon, a few kids will never mature, they become adults who are still not mature. But the majority will "slowly" grown a bit more mature as the years pass. I am white and remember a black girl who used to pick on me through high school... I am not sure why, but late in our senior year, she walked up to me one day and said she wanted to apologize for all the times she was mean to me. I had no hard feelings. That just proves people can grow up. I admire her, cus she had more guts than the group of white kids who teased me. They never apologized or grew up...whichever it was.
What I did and what you will do is form your own group of supportive friends that you hang out with, no matter what their race and just not associate with the immature. High school is pretty big so it's pretty easy to stay out of the way of those you don't prefer to hang with. I had friends of all grades levels and of many races, Native american, black and chinese though my school was predominantly white. My friends was chosen for who they were on the inside and how they treated me. Good luck dear!

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My husband and I haven't been separated very long but our marriage was over along time ago we stayed together for the kids. Didn't even sleep in the same room for over a year. I moved over 12 hours away. Long story short I am in love with my ex. My sons father. Every time I see him I get butterflies we talk so good together every thing seems so perfect when we talk. I'm not sure how he feels though. He gives kind of mixed feelings. I have known him for 7 years.

It took me a while but how you wrote this was very confusing until I figured you're not talking about the man you are separated from but that there was a man before him whom you had one child with.
Even so...let me show you how my mind goes, others may have the same problems thinking the same way as you havent given enough clear details.
When someone says they stayed together for the kids, it usually means waiting until the kids are no longer little, they are either teens or out of the house. In order for that to be the case you'd have to have been married approx. 15-20 years to the one you are separated from. But you say the ex before him that you believe you still love, you have known for only 7 years. That cant be unless he is someone you have an affair with while married and got pregnant by him with the husband knowing or not knowing the difference.
Or you meant you were married 7 yr or in a relationship with the ex 7 years but add on all the other years to come to todays date and the numbers of years you've known him but not been associating with him would be a higher number than the years you've been with current husband.

Does the son know who the real birth father is? Another unanswered question is why you and the other man split up and never stayed together. There may or may not be reasons for you to get together again with him. Since you are on talking terms and must see him regularly, you must of course know he is single and available. However we do not know that for sure. He could be married but unhappily as you are. It's hard to give you any constructive advice with all the issues to think about before making your final decision but ultimately the decision is yours, we can only act as the sounding board dear. So if there is anything more you would like to share, just repost your question for us all, or if you want, just write to my inbox and clarify but realize if you do, I'm the only one who will see your clarified question.

Sorry it doesnt help. I really don't know why you split with the first if you still have feelings. The feelings could be connected via your subconsious mind to only the good things, maybe how the lovemaking was? If its based only on feeling and not on reality...you could make a mistake going back. Only you know why you split up with him. Was it mutual? He left you or you left him? I guess it doesnt really matter. I can only say to look at the facts. Does the person support and uphold you or weaken you? Can you be yourself or do you have to make changes to be with him? These kinds of questions are what you need to ask yourself. And who are you deep at core? What do you like and what do you need? Are you a complete person on your own looking for a mate to enjoy life together, or are you a person who feels incomplete and needs a man in her life to make her feel whole. You need to be a strong individual on your own before you can choose a mate for the right reasons and one who is right for you. I dont' know your situation. Follow your heart, your gut feeling. If you are wrong again, then take some time out to rediscover yourself before going into the next relationship. Good luck

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Male/18
India

Shampoo -
Ayurvedic (Type)
Patanjali (Brand Name)

Conditioner -
Herbal (Type)
Herbal Essence (Brand Name)

Hair Type - Normal

Question:
Is it safe to use both of them every day ?

Unless you have a problem with real oily hair, you don't need to shampoo every day, no matter what brand you use. Even a natural ayurvedic shampoo without harsh ingredients is not needed.

It takes our hair several days to produce that natural oil that when brushed through our hair gives it its natural shine and glow. Those who wash daily, will tend to strip the hair of natural oils so it becomes, dry, dull and brittle with split ends. If you add the use of heat from blow dryers or curling irons, it's worse.
It's okay to get your hair wet and just rinse it out with plain water every day. Then shampoo it once or twice a week.
If you want to give your hair a protein treatment, you need look no further than your kitchen. Beating up an raw egg and applying to the hair to sit for 15 minutes before rinsing out is a good way to give your hair some protein to absorb. Also, beer has a lot of protein in it and can be poured over the hair to sit again for a while before being rinsed out.
There is lots of information on natural hair care on the inter net. Good luck

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22/f I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and there's the very real possibility that we will be engaged within the next 1-3 years. His cousin is 24/f and engaged currently. We are all very close friends, and went out for a double date last night. During dinner she jokingly brought up the subject of me and my boyfriend getting engaged in the near future, then more seriously brought up how she has this prenotion that she will be picking out my ring with my boyfriend. She is a good friend to me, but she gets very jealous over rings, constantly comparing others in his family to her own. I know she would pick out something lesser than hers, and besides that I would prefer it if my boyfriend picks it out himself without her opinion, considering I want to wear something that HE absolutely loves. It's not about the ring size to me, but the thought of her influencing my boyfriend so that I can be another comparison really bothers me for some reason. Is it pushy for me to ask him to (when the time comes) pick one out on his own? Or to go with someone from my family instead? Maybe I am over thinking this? Thanks.

Let imagine something. Lets say you're already married, the cousin is just as jealous and into comparison as now. You've been married 5 years. Ask yourself if you can still put up with and actually be close friends with her after that amount of time? 10 yrs? 15? What you see is what you get when you marry someone, same goes for the relatives. No one is going to change much over the span of their lifetime if at all...that's how humans are.

Sooo...if you think her low self esteem problem which prompts her meddling with pushing her opinion and her choices, will put a strain on your marriage..which I believe it will or you wouldn't be writing in about this, then you need to find out about your intended and his stance before you marry.
If I were you, I wouldn't let on that her comment bothered you but ask her alone sometime how many other of his decisions she has influenced before out of curiosity. Next ask him the same thing. IF she's influencing him, ask why he allows it. If he doesn't seem to have any backbone when it comes to her or doesn't see it as a problem, then you have a serious issue. Imagine a name you've had for years that you wanted to name a daughter but cousin won't allow it cus she thinks its prettier than her daughters name. Once you know how your male friend feels, then ask him if he thinks there is a possibility of you getting married someday. If he says no...Find a guy with a family with less drama. If he says yes, you tell him he needs to prove himself to have backbone when it comes to his cousin over the next few years if you are to ever marry him. But you have to mean it if you give the ultimatum. He needs to be on the same page with you, wanting to make decisions only between the two of you without any influence from cousin. If she gets more persistant and nasty, then he tells her that as much as he loves her, he is married to you/or going to be married to you, not her, and until she can respect that and act accordingly, you two will not be spending any time with her. It's harsh but has to be done. Standing ones ground comes first, even with blood relatives, otherwise you'll be making a choice to allow them to influence and run your life for you. If you are willing to give up your own rights and choices and give them over to her just to be with him for life, then thats your choice, but you won't be truly happy if you haven't changed who you are to get what you thought you wanted. Eventually it will catch up and cause strains on the marriage due to how you feel. And because of your unhappiness and stress, it will be looked at as your fault for causing problems.
I realize the heart tie is there and the love. And that is what will make any decisions heart breaking if it doesn't go as you hope. There is going to be pain one way or the other dear, life long pain of basically being in a 3 way marriage and her for all practicality being his 2nd wife, or the pain of leaving him which though it may last quite a while wont last a lifetime. I am sorry you have such decisions ahead but life is never easy. It's the challenges of life that strengthen our character. Good Luck

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I want to change my style from hot teen to young mom but don't want to wear things that screams old or anything like that. I know about the heels ( never wore them anyways ) and the shirts and earings and my hair but I mean on what the clothes look like themselves like the style. I don't know how to describe my style before I was pregnant but when I pictured wearing it while taking my son out as a 1 year old I looked like I was babysitting my younger brother and look 16. Doesn't help how I'm really short too (4'9"). Sorry for ranting I'm just not sure what to do.

I am a person who has always looked younger than my age. You'll like it when you're older. At age 50 out with first grandchild someone says of my granddaughter, "You have a cute daughter." I just said automatically without thinking 'Thank-you'.

It goes the same at your end. Since you ARE young, you will look young no matter what you wear. If you try to focus on looking like a mom rather than ateen...you'll be disappointed because it really is a no win....someone is always going to think you're babysitting or a nanny, or even in your late 20's people could be looking at you as a high school girl who had a child, or that it's a younger sibling.

I think you will be happier if your focus is more on finding what clothing looks best on a shorter person. I am 5'2 with a short waist and even at that have difficulty finding clothes. Because of height--length and my personal taste in style, I have to look for clothing often in young peoples sections. If the current trend for teens is wearing a shorter cami top over a longer one, then I avoid that because all the TV and magazine ads have imprinted that image on peoples minds as a teen style.
I am sure you know what I mean here. By what almost every teen girl is wearing, just dont wear the latest trend unless it actually falls under the catagory as good to wear for shorter women.
So, it's time to peruse the web for ideas and hints so I went looking and here's one site with tips on all types of clothes for all types of short women, slender, heavy, curvy...

http://www.typef.com/article/kind-skirt-should-someone-really-short-wear/

I am sure you'll find more if you look. So what can a young at heart grandma who looks great for her age tell you from how I've dressed over the years as a mom and now a grandma?
Do not ever dress to please other people, or for what they think is appropriate. Let the clothes reflect your personality. Here's a short video with tips for dressing for short women.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k6E8I0mv1P4
Hope this helps. You won't find a solution overnight that you feel good wearing and look good in, it takes time and experimentation. Good luck dear.

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I had a friend I considered to be my best friend. But for my bday 30th she called an hr before some of us were going out to celebrate to tell me she wasn't going because she felt akward around my friends she didn't even know.. but she can go out with other friends with their friends no problem. And she also had a get together and invited other friends that ive hung out with but didnt invite me. We haven't talked since, and she is making it look like to others I was the bad guy. Over it? Wouldn't you be?

Sounds like a fairweather friend...as long as the situation and everything is to her liking and does something for her...she'll pretend to be your friend, otherwise she makes herself distant and not available.
I wouldn't consider anyone like her a great loss.
People who try to make someone look bad in the eyes of others is immature and needs to grow up. Those who would listen to and actually choose to believe are also immature and need to do some growing up.
It's high time to find yourself some friends at your maturity level. You are an adult. Time to hang out with some fun, mature and loving adults rather than adults who think they are still kids.
Its hard to make new friends but thats part of life. Someday in the future you'll be looking back at this time so glad that you moved on and never gave her another thought. Dont let your mind dwell on it. Good luck dear!

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My ex admitted that he liked me, and I kind of figured that he did. Honestly, I don't wanna get back together with him. I kind of did a bitch move the other day where I guess I sorta led him on. So our group of friends decided to go to his house to play but they were all guys (I'm the type who has mainly guy friends) and they all wanted to game. It was pretty late in the night and I was gonna game with them later, so to boost my energy, I said I would take a nap first. My ex decided to slip into bed with me 5 minutes later and I was half asleep and was like WTF. He put his arm around me and being the stupid drunk girl I am, I let him cuddle me. It sort of turned into a makeout session when he leaned in and kissed me. The next day, he was expecting me to be more intimate with him but I didn't want to, so now he's really pissed because he doesn't get what he wants. Idk, I kind of feel bad for "leading" him on like that and now he refuses to talk to me, but rather says bad things about me to others. What should I do?

You learned something and thats good...so next time you may be in the vicinity of your ex, not on purpose...just make sure you are not under the influence of anything, drinks or drugs. You need a clear mind to not let things go any further.
Let him say what he's gonna say and pay it no mind. There's nothing you can do to make it stop. Making threats only lowers your level of maturity as well as "playing mind games" with another person. You are better than that. We all do the stupid stuff in life. As long as we learn from it is whats important. So have a mental plan of how you will act if someone tells you the nasty stuff he says about you.
His words can't have any effect on you that you do not allow. You will only have a problem with it if you entertain his statements in your mind or agree with them. If you don't you'll be fine.
He's actually doing you a favor. Anyone who chooses to believe him right off the bat rather than get to know you, is not worth your time as a friend or more. And lastly, forgive yourself for doing something you kinda regret. It's okay. As long as you have learned from it.
Good luck dear.

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Im 16 a girl i love porn :/ n i love to masturbate is it bad a girl my age to masturbate

Masturbating is a good way to explore ones sexuality and it is normal. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Porn is okay too if one keeps it mind that it is really only like Hollywood, only a tiny percent of truth and the rest is made up to look good for camera's and on film. I have seen ones of a man going from anal sex to putting it straight into the vagina without cleaning it...even if you can't see anything on it...the germs are there. Females can and will get bladder infections this way. It's not a good practice at all. But some find it looks cool on cam. So please keep that in mind.
If you have a great interest in exploring anything on the subject of sex, dating and relationships, I would recommend you check out this site I have posted below.

https://www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen/videos

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I sucked my bf'z dick nd he waz sperming in my mouth so can I get pregnant I swallowed half of dem

Hon, this is some very basic sex education information. I see someone already answered. I know it's not your fault, they just don't teach it well or not at all in schools anymore and thats tragic.
So my suggestion is that you take some time to self educate yourself...just as Laci Green did. SHe's in her twenties now and works with Planned Parenthood and has her own Youtube page dedicated to any and all subjects related to sex, periods, dating and relationships. Please consider watching as many of her 3-4 min videos as you have interest in. I am in my 50s and even i have learned a couple things about new products she has checked out, and other stuff. She's very funny and entertaining and I guarantee you'll learn something from her.

https://www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen/videos

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13-f
I was at a waterpark today with my friend -one girl, one guy-and I jokingly pointed out a cute boy that was standing by two other guys.. so my -guy- friend went over and said, 'Dude, she likes you.' ... and his friends laughed and said, 'THAT girl??!' and they did that dumb 'gag' hand gesture where they point down thier throat and pretent to throw up. The worst part was, I think, was the fact that I later found out one of the guys was the son of my dad's co-worker/best-friend... it just lowered my self esteem even more later on, when I was getting out of a pool and they started splashing me with a lot of water and yelling at me.. so I kinda lost it and flipped them off and hid in the restroom--more info-- im a middle schooler, blonde, very skinny, and short short hair.. and I have depression. :( so I guess the question is, how do I deal with this? I haven't had a boyfriend for almost two years, but every time my friend trys to set me up, she ends up with the guy, and every time one of my guy friends trys to, they come back saying guys thought I was.. ugly.

At 13 and even older, thru highschool, teens have a lot of growing up to do. Their bodies mature and finish growing before their minds do at our mid 20's. So thats' why so many teens are immature and say and do hurtful things.
No one is ugly. What Hollywood portrays is all fake...just makeup job to make average plain looking people look like the few lucky to have good looks. Look up Celebrities without makeup on line and you'll see what I mean. Beauty is really up to each individual as to what catches their eye. For example, I like brunette men with long hair. It doesnt mean that a blond or redhead man with short hair or shaved head is ugly....in fact I realize they can be pretty handsome and sexy too...it's just what I naturally like. Teens need to learn what they like and don;t like in looks, behavior, morals and beliefs etc etc of the opposite sex. You dont date to BE with someone, you date to learn more about the person, whether they are a good and healthy match for you. If the relationship is unbalanced, abusive, or nothing in common and no romantic spark, then its the wrong one...you drop it, break up and move on to the next. You will experience that often.
You need to have inner confidence...that speaks louder than words or looks. Think about what your favorite feature is about you. The shape of your lips, your eyes, etc...and think of a young girl star,teen star who has the same or similar features...and imagine yourself as being that celebrity teen when you enter a room. I don't know how it works with teens but I read it somewhere and used it when I was divorced and dating. I imagined my eyes as being like those of an older actress Sophia Loren. Where ever I went for months guys and gals were telling me what beautiful eyes I had. I was actually shocked it worked so well. Its worth a try. Good luck dear. Don't pay mind to what comes out of the mouths of the immature.

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Ok so... there's this girl I like. But she happens to be my best friend. So i think i'm friend zoned. But she's been giving me signals that have made me think differently. Like whenever she's around me she always gets as close to me as she can like when we watch movies she scoots over as close as she can. She also touches me a lot and grabs my hand (not holding it) whenever she wants me to come with her somewhere. She also wants me to go anywhere she goes and when were in a big group of friends she's always next to me. Theres many more things she's done that makes me think she may like me but those are the big ones. So I asked my other friend who happens to be her best girlfriend if she thinks she likes me. Her friend told me that she doesn't think she likes me. So i'm very confused... Do you all think she likes me? She flirts with a lot of guys but she doesn't do the stuff that she does to me. I don't feel comfortable telling her I like her yet only because I don't want it to ruin our friendship. I don't want things to be awkward between us... What should I do?

The best and most stable long term relationships start out as friendships. Even marriages require the two to be best friends.
So taking it a step further will not ruin a good friendship. If she doesn't want to and you're okay with that, keep seeing her as a friend. If you find another girl who is into you as more than a friend, then focus your attention there and let your friend know she won't see as much of you because you have a romantic relationship.

But from what you say, she IS interested in wanting to take it beyond friendship. Women of any age will do that. There's isn't anymore more a person can do except to come out and say. "Hey I value our friendship but I am starting to have have stronger feelings for you and would like to explore that." If she's not saying that, she is likely scared for the same reasons you are. Someone has to go first and admit they want to go the next step. Nope, its not easy. It never is. But look at the alternative...neither of you ever say or do anything more and go on with your lives but never become a couple and perhaps life takes you both in different directions and you will always wonder if there could've been something more...and that is torture...wondering forever.
Good luck with your lady friend.

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so found out a guy is about to ask me out and i sorta like him but im not quite there yet. But my sister has been texting him and told him that i like him, which is sorta true. But i also feel bad for him because he is from a broken home. I am 14 and a girl from C.A.

I don't see how him having divorced parents could be a deterant to your dating him...unless there is something you are not telling me.
Rest easy dear. Dating is not about making a long term or even life commitment to one person. Dating is for the purpose of getting to know someone well enough to know if you would like to be around them more or if its time to stop seeing them and move on. You use this time to tell if you dont just like someone as a person but whether there is any spark or chemistry there beyond the excitement of a new relationship for the first month or so that acts like chemistry. You want to see if you have things in common and how he treats a girl which you can't tell from texting or just saying hi at school.
So when he does ask you to spend time with him, tell him that you aren't making any promise to date only him right now. you only want to find out if you have things in common and if there is some chemistry between you. As long as he knows you aren't making a commitment right off the bat, all should be well. Always be honest up front.
Best wishes.

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i & my partner had unprotected sex on 20july for 6times after 3hrs i had unwanted 72 pill, my period date was 23rd july but whn i checked it out yesterday through prega news i was pregnant. how could it became possible????? how do i got pergenant even after t5aking pill?

You'd have to ask your doctor. Did you follow the instructions for use exactly as listed that came with your pills? When the pill is started, you have to give it time to build up in your system, so you have to wait a week of taking pill before you can have sex. I don;t know if you took it sooner...that could be the problem. Or if you have forgotten a day or two here and there, that might affect it. I don't know. Look up the name of the pill you take on line and see if there are any problems listed for inconsistant use. If you have taken it properly every day, it is not 100% effective...almost by not quite...
Here's an article answered by a doctor as to why some people might get pregnant even if pill was taken correctly.

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/birthcontrolandcontraception/207415.html

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I've been having anxiety/panic attacks lately and I hate it... How can I get rid of it? I heard that you can make it go away from getting your mind off of it, but I can't think of anything to do.

I've tried breathing slowly and it's not working. Please help as soon as you can, please. Thank you.

While our bodies have an automatic response for survival even as animals do in the wild, it is a good thing only if we can quickly re-act in a situation with a clear enough head to save our own life. The adrenaline that hits afterwards can feel like great fear or panic.

I can't say how much your subconscious mind may be involved but since all of our emotions and fears come from there, there must be something that originates there, that eventually overwhelms and takes over your whole body response.
Try talking to yourself during a time you are not under a panic attack. Ask your subconscious mind as if you are talking to a 2nd person inside of you, what is bothering it, what is causing you to feel this way. Once you know what those fears are, no matter how unreasonable (little kids have strange fears of monsters under their beds) address the fears and tell your subc. that there isn't anything like that to fear. Sometimes just the reassuring yourself is helpful.
But it is more likely you'll get better results seeing a professional. See a counselor if you havent already. If a regular counselor doesnt work, you may want to focus on a hypnotist as they will work directly with suggestions to your subconscious if you can't reach it yourself.
And then, then is also a hypnotist type of professional who takes you back in time to look for any events that may have been traumatizing to create these panic attacks. I will you wellness dear.

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I'm trying to become a better person & stop being so negative, angry, etc. I want to change my life. What do I need to do to become a better christian & what do I have to do to repent from my sins? Do I need to go to church and get baptized?

It's a lot simpler than you think. No one needs the trappings of the church to be truly repentful for anything you've done. Your life on earth is like being in school and passing from one grade to the next as you learn and mature. God does not get mad at you if you fail a test. Like in school, all it means is you need more practice and to apply your self harder to get 100% on the lesson, whether it is learning to control your temper, or learning how to be encouraging, etc.
The failing of a test is much like what the church has told people is a sin. We are taught to feel so guilty about a sin, that just the guilt prevents us from moving forward.
What I suggest you do is what I did, get to really know God in a close relationship yourself as I did. The best way is by conversing. Prayer is conversation but people think it must be formal. NO...God talks to me in regular everyday conversation. So you can talk to him that way too. I would have to say that my conversation as I began to speak ended up more often being with the Holy Spirit than with Jesus or the Father though they are all aware of what you say. But it is the Holy Spirits role to be our helpers as Jesus promised. HS works close with us. So start by talking to HS and you won't hear back at first...keep talking, whether it takes months or almost a year. Eventually you will begin to hear back from the HS and have real conversations. I began to see that the HS and God are totally different than the stern angry revengeful God painted by the sermons of church and the Bible. Only people raised by loving parents are going to be able to relate to this. Those with messed up parents who were always beating on you are going to fear their heavenly Father too.
You can ask God how you can become less angry and negative. There will be simple exercises he gives you that will work better for you than for another person. One thing you can do is accept that everyone on this planet is not going to be at the same place maturity wise as souls. Some haven't awakened spiritually yet at all, and those who have...well there's gonna be Christians in Kindergarten, 5th grade, high school and college. And you will run across people that do stupid and ugly things in how they treat you. You simply choose to not get angry at them because they haven't learned yet. If you had a child that got angry at you because you didn't buy the sugary cereal at the store and now says, I hate you, you're a mean daddy/mommy, are you going to lash back in anger at the child? No! You know the child is immature and only saying that because they didn't get their way and they truly do love you. Look at the situations in life as opportunities to stretch the limits of your patience and understanding and to encourage the others "students" people on this journey of life that they too can overcome things to become better people.

As for the devil and evil spirits and such, I will use parents and children again as examples. While my parents were really good parents, they were listening to other people for advice on raising kids and tried some weird stuff like telling us what the rules were...and before we could disobey them, were telling us that if we misbehaved, they would have to call the police to come get us. Then one day they told us that the boogey-man would come get us. After a couple of years of realizing it didn't work and was uneccessary and only made things worse for the child, they stopped doing it. Thank God! I remember those couple of years clearly still tho I am in my 50's. Us kids were afraid to have curtains open or get near any windows for fear that the boogy-man was looking in at us waiting for his opportunity to snatch us away. Sometimes, we didn't want to go out in the yard to play because we feared he might find us there. We were afraid, even if we had behaved well. This is counter productive to living a normal life.
Does it make sense to you to get your child to obey out of fear rather than because they love you as their parent and want to please you? Never made sense to me either. Yet that's what the churches do when they focus so much on creating fear, fear of the Devil and evil spirits. Tho they may exist, for the most part, we create or conjure up with our own imaginations just like I did as a child, something that feels really real, the real thing...like the boogy-man. So while there may be souls that have not progress back to God when passing on and they haunt here on earth, the majority of devil/evil spirit stuff you hear about and feel is for the most part of your own creation. Once you are living a purer life, if there are any dark energies out there, they will not be attracted to you...this includes people who are yet asleep and not spiritually awake, they will carry lots of dark energy with them and if you have a gift for sensing those energies, you will need to visualize the angels pouring a shower of pure light over you at the end of each day to wash away the energies. Some people are sensitive to picking up on good and bad energies and some are not. It doesn't mean there are demon's afoot. So change your mind set and you won't find yourself battling so much scary stuff.

The Holy Spirit had me leave the church some time back. I found a whole network of believers who no longer attend a church. Why, well, for most part, the misrepresentation of what our God is really like and because of the use of fear to get people to obey and follow the church doctrines and rules.

And guess what? I have not come across a single person who has any problem with demons or negative energies. Also, I find more people who are actually living out the things Jesus said to do, how to love all other humans. It is so easy for them. I did not find it in the church but its out here outside of church...among the good people, the unchurched, there are more people who believe in God and Jesus and are actually following his example and living it out than I ever found in church.
Just for fun the other day, I looked up a couple Christian movies posted on the internet. Every single one had something to do about fighting evil. The focus was more and the bad than the good.
It's a pretty warped way of living. I recall a sermon where we were told that a naturopath doctor was okay to see but any other healing methods were all of the devil, like acupuncture, chinese herbal medicine, etc. I lost hearing in one ear and it was down to half in the other. Saw 2 drs and tried several different meds for major ear infections. After over a month...I was afraid I was going to lose hearing totally. I went to see and acupuncturist who worked in our chiropracters office. She took my pulse, looked at my tongue, went to look up the medicine and told me what Chinese medicine dispensary I could find it at. I took my first dose that night. Woke up in the morning and it was totally gone. I could hear again after one dose!! Just because you don't understand something does not mean it doesn't work or that it is of the devil.

I am not telling you to leave the church. It may be where God wants you for now to learn and grow. But don't rely so much on what you hear from there, but rather what you hear straight from the HOly Spirit for it will never lead you astray.
Blessings to you dear.

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What does a pronounced cheekbone mean ?

It means your cheek bones stand out from your face in a good way. It is already defined without makeup. If you've ever watched how makeup artists apply makeup to the cheek area, they use make up magic to make the models look the way your cheeks look naturally. I don't know why its so popular but people love having cheeks look that way so its a great thing!

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Yes dear, you have dimples. You also have pronounced cheekbones so maybe not everyone notices but the dimples are there.

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Hi.. Well this might be not a question you would hear everyday.. I dont think my other question posted.. But anyway.. I have cut/Self Harm for a year now.. I really want to stop.. Its just hurting my family and friends too much.. :( can i get some tips to stop? Please dont judge.

Has your family tried counseling yet with you? Perhaps you can't afford one. If thats the case and it's up to you, it'll be hard but there is a chance you can get better. Stress and depression are usually at the bottom of it as far as culprits that get you to that point of needing to cut.
As you already know, it's only a temporary diversion. Everything I will share with you is going to sound like something that can't help but when people are depressed, the amount of neurotransmitters needed in our brain to keep us happy and feeling joy go down very low, so low that our brain can't function as normal and so we become depressed because the levels of serotonin and other neuro transmitters are almost non existant. What is odd is that our bodies are able to naturally create what we daily need to get levels up. But heres where it gets strange...the things that bring up those levels are the following: Lots of long hugs, singing, listening to the kind of music that makes your heart feel light like a balloon about to float out of your chest, dancing and other movement, running, skipping, lots of laughter so a good comedy, anything that you find funny, indulge in it. Meditating is supposed to help too but thats harder for me when I am stressed. Journaling is recommended also but the others I mentioned work for me and all my daughters. It's hard to see an affect at first but eventually it will begin to have its affect. Now, if I feel stressed about something...I will put one of my mood lifting songs on repeat and listen a couple times and I already feel better. ONe that works for me is Clocks by Coldplay..its not words but the melody that helps. I never get depressed ever anymore. Its because I take care of stress that moment I feel it. If your family feels helpless, have them give you sincere hugs, it goes a long way towards helping. Ask your besties to help and give hugs too. Or you make the first move, give someone a hug cus you cant give one without getting one in return. >There may be natural herbal preparations that help. Check out your local health food place and ask the people there what they have that helps the moods when depressed. Its worth a try too. but what i listed does help. If after some times theres no improvement, you may definitely need medication. But not all people need it. Only one daughter needed it with depression after giving birth. Good luck dear

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i am 18 years old i weight 125.3 and height is 5'7 i wear a 36d. my breast and perky but when i go to bed without a bra they look small btw the way i'm a late blommer. the next day i wake up my boobs are big again. why does my breast do this can i get plastic surgery to prevent this from happening? will i have small breast forever since i am done with puberty.

You are not small at all. Most girls are A B or C cup. They'd kill to have your size. Well, not kill but they'd be awfully jealous.
What you need is a good dose of what natural normal breasts look like. So check out this site of photos with comments from the young ladies about their breasts. There are some who are almost flat when standing up and their boyfriends or husbands love them just the way they are.

http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php

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OK! So I have gotten really close to a guy I have known for a year now. He's a little older than me (Junior boy-Freshman girl) and I think he likes me! I'm at the point where I kind of want to start flirting. Physically and verbally. Like breaking the touch barrier a little more (he already broke it) we both are shy for a heads up (he's kind of shy and awkward- its adorable) but he has told me- I am beautiful (twice!) that he doesn't look forward to graduating because he'll be leaving some friends behind, especially me. Also we talk everyday after 5 o'clock (he has a summer job working for his dad) and we have a lot in common (dark music, Egypt-related stuff, writing/ reading and Marching/Concert Band) SO I would love some advice on how to flirt with him (physically/touching him and talking) and I also have one more question. Why is it that when a guy texts/calls you everyday at the same time is a 'sign' that he likes you?? I'm confused/curious about that... Thank you a lot. I have band camp coming up and he says he can't wait to see me! So yeah please help me with flirting advice... I need help!

Here's a website that I saved because it's great. It gives idea's on different ways to touch a guy to flirt. Even gives examples and also how to pretend and create the situation.

http://www.wikihow.com/Touch-a-Guy

You have so much in common, that it's already easy to talk to him. Guys like to know that a girl appreciates what he says or does for her. So if he pays you a compliment, tell him how wonderful it makes you feel and that he can tell you that kind of stuff over and over, you'll never get tired of it. Thats a way of flirting that ensures you get more flirting in the future too. Next time he calls tell him how your heart does a flip when ever 5 pm rolls around and the cell rings because you know it's him, he always calls that time. Ask if thats when he gets home. Tell him you enjoy your conversation and that he is one of the best at communicating. Lots of guys dont call regularly or you have to drag conversation out of them. Tell him he has a sexy voice on the phone. A guy loves his ego stroked a bit but your appreciation is a big one. Pay him compliment and you'll do fine

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