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today a cold sore appeared on my lip and its small and red and it looks like another one may appear next to it:( i have a boyfriend and dontthink i got it from him, and i havent been sick recently so where could i have gotten it??? could it be from giving blowjobs?? i do that sometime?? help!!
While it is possible you got the Herpes Virus from giving a blow job, it is also possible it is just a cold sore. Cold sores are a form of the herpes virus that I read somewhere most of the population carry.
If you are truly concerned this is not just a cold sore then you should get tested for stds. If your sexually active in anyway it is not a bad idea to be tested in any case just for peace of mind.
My mom said to stay away from the guy I like. I told him she said that and now he is staying away from me. We used to be best friends.What do I do? I am 12 years old and I am a girl.
I'm going to go along with the others and agree that you are to young to be dating your only 12or as my kid use to say a betweener. To young to be a teenager and to old to be a real kid.
I'm also going to guess that the guy is maybe a couple of years older than you. Mom is only looking out for you and in a few years you will understand and thank her.
When it comes to dating be patient. You won't be an old maid if you don't have a steady boyfriend for a few years. Group dating is the best and safest way to date for a few years. You can still go out and have fun without the worries of a guy being all hands.
So relax an wait until you are mature enough in body and spirit to handle dating properly. Just a side note here: If most fathers had their way, our daughters wouldn't be allowed to date until they're 30.lol So stick with mom, she has been there and will guide you correctly.
So.. my problem is , I took over 20 morning after pills. How much will that affect me?
If this is something you did recently and you can still read this call 911 IMMEDIATLEY. You have taken an overdose of that medication which can have life threatening consequences. You need emergency intervention NOW.
I had oral sex twice, and before you say anything hear me out. I was 16 years old and very naive. During that time I was going through an emotional and mental roller coaster from abuse to suicide. I'll admit at the point in my life I wasn't 100% there. Even when I did oral sex it wasn't sexual for me, i panic and reacted to the situation. I was always panic when I'm around guys because i was abuse sexually. Anyway, I feel in my heart that I am a virgin because what I did honestly wasn't sexual at all. Am I still a virgin?
At the moment there are two definitions of virginity. The dictionary definition loss of virginity by the penetration of the vagina by a penis (sexual intercourse) which would break the Hyman if intact. A woman's Hyman can break from many activities other than sex. By this definition you are still a virgin.
The other definition is a little more general which can be summed up as in having sexual knowledge of someone or someone having sexual knowledge of you. This would include oral sex, handjobs, fingering, having anal sex and just being naked with someone.
One thing that worries me more than if you are a virgin or not; for as far as I'm concerned you are. Is that you wrote; "I was going through an emotional and mental roller coaster from abuse to suicide." If you have not talked to anyone about this the abuse is something that will haunt you for the rest of your life, especially sexual and mental abuse.
There is an organization called RAINN which stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a 24/7 365 hotline where you can call and talk to someone in total confidentiality. Once you have spoken with them if you and they both feel you need to speak with someone in your own community to resolve the issues you may have they will help you find someone to speak with. Their number is 1-800-656-HOPE (4673). Please call them, it cost you nothing to call and I believe it will help you feel better about yourself.
i just need some one to talk to my famiy are all really mean to me i cant take it any more . the drama i just wanna walk away and disappear for ever but that is just not a option , i went walking in the woods behind my house they called cops on me said i was sucidial . when i came home they hand cuffed me and forced me to go to er to be evaluated omg . is there anyway i can disappear? change my idenity? so i can be left alone by these people ?
Can someone truly disappear, I really don't think so. Even if one goes into a witness protection program they never truly disappear.
Can you change your identity. Yes, that is what happens when someone enters a witness protection program. If you are not in witness protection then you have to be old enough to prove to the courts why you wish to change you identity. There in lies a problem,. In all court proceedings there is a paper trail. Even if you convince a judge to seal the record there are ways to unseal them and even to break into the record. So you probably cannot disappear simply by changing who you are.
When The police took you to the ER, did the doctors there suggest counseling? If so did you go to counseling? It sounds to me like you are a little depressed. If you are a teenager, especially a female teenager this is not so unusual.
I would suggest you see a counselor and find out what the root cause of you depression is. Then if you want or need be invite you family to attend some sessions with you.
my name is Rachel and iam 22 years old and there is a guy that's 53 years old and he keeps asking me out and I keep telling him that he's to old me and that iam not interested and he still keeps making comments about wanting me to go out with him. I've told the deane at the school and he's talked to him and he still won't leave me alone. How do I get the message across that iam not interested without hurting his feelings?
If this person is a member of the faculty at school and you are a student he is being very inappropriate in asking you out. I would once again talk with the Dean an be explicit that if the school does not resolve this, and give them a deadline. You will have no choice but to file charges with the Campus Police and or local authorities.
You have already been nice. It is time to ratchet up you demands to the school about this person. If you are a student you are paying good money to attend that school and have certain rights which include the right to attend without being harassed.
If this person continues to harass you then you have not choice but to file charges and to request an order of protection. If he violates the order of protection he goes to jail. Going to jail becomes his choice not yours as it is his choice whether he honors the order of protection.
Ok so the other day me and this guy and we were joking around and I was talkin bout this video I was watching and I put my arms around him and sarcasticly said somehting (he knew it was sarcastic) and it was I Can't wait for tonight(; and I winked and he was like i knowww, and we where joking because it was from the video. Just so happens tho my teacher and some classmates heard and my teacher mrs. Carter said Kaycee, Landon I need to see you two in the hall, and i started freaking out and when we got out there she was saying that she over heard what we where saying in there and she said that its not right for kids our age to be doing "that" by the way im 15/f but then she was giving us this it could cause consequences for you and the guy in the future talk. After she got done talkin my guy friend said we aren't really gonna do that it was just something funny from this video we watched and my teacher didn't believe us!!!! So she said I think you need to talk to the guidence counsler and we where like what the crap. So some Of my classmates/ friends found out what went on and started spreading stuff around like rumors about me and my friend, and it got my boyfriend and now he has broken up with me, and teachers keep giving me weird looks. This is going to far over a stupid video and no one believes me but my close friends. Even my parents acted like it isn't a big deal. Even though all this is happened now the teacher is makin us go to the school counsler, and I have lost my bf from this and now have a bad rep. Please help I dont know what to do!!!!!!!!
The problem with schools are that in some sense they have what is called loco Prentiss authority. Meaning they have some parental authority as they are responsible for you while you are in school. It is generally felt that this authority begins and ends with your welfare and safety. Unfortunately some teachers and administrators and in many school systems in general they take this authority even further.
Did your teacher have the right to step in as she did? In actuality only to the extent that you two where disturbing the class as a whole. Sending you for guidance counseling is questionable in my mind. Can the two of you do anything about this? No, not for or by yourselves. This is going to take parental intervention for both of you.
Depending on the type of counseling you are getting in school it could be seen as medical treatment. The school system can only authorize medical treatment in a life or death situation; that is as far as their legal authority extends. Any other medical treatment has to be authorized by your parents.
Under a law called HIPPA, you will have to research the following, you have certain rights to medical privacy. If those rights extend to the medical treatments the school may be trying to provide then only you not your parents or anyone else must give permission. You will probably have a problem with this with the school so I suggest you stick with parental permission required for whatever the school is attempting.
In short you need your parents to step in and fight this battle for you as far as the guidance counseling is concerned. As far as the other things are concerned it is going to be very hard to undo what has been done. While you can ask for a public apology and explanation from the teacher you won't get on. You will have to work hard to undo what she has done.
I have always wanted to be in the medical field but not as a pediatrician or just talking to people. I don’t necessarily know what I should call what I want to be either..I want to be the one to do the research, discover cures in cancer/diseases, do lab work on people to find what they have or need, perform treatments, maybe make medicines and alter the chemicals, I wish to be the brains of the field and make a difference. I want to work hands on with stuff, I don’t really care if I work with people one on one and I am very smart with science and medical.
What would I call what I want to be? What major and is premed needed?
I do modeling, write/play/sing music, photography, and have had my paintings in state art shows. I also do sports and theater but I don’t want a career in those two. I am an art therapist at the children’s cancer hospital. I have quite a bit of knowledge on the topic of oncology, neurology and drugs. I am a skin cancer survivor, neurology patient and on painkillers.
Is there another field I can go into that deals with those? I want to prevent what I went through the best I can for others.. Is there also anything that can mix my talents into a medical job or simply side job that I can make a living off of?
One or all questions answered is good enough for me, thanks!
It sounds to me as if you want to be a medical researcher. While I;m sure of what you want to do, I'm not sure of how you get there as Medical research is a very wide and open; See this link for more information: field.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Medical_research
The following link provides information on the how to in becoming a medical researcher: http://www.ehow.com/how_2107968_be-medical-researcher.html
You have picked a great field to work in . I wish I had more information to offer you. Hopefully the links I found will help you find the information you are searching for.
I want to have a job in the medical field but I can’t be in school too long, not enough money. I was thinking pharmacist or researcher or oncologist or art therapist, is there anything along those lines that can take around 6 years or less to be up and working, done with school and making enough money to pay back/live? I am a senior in high school
Of the choices you named about the only one you named that would take more than 6 years is Oncologist. To become an Oncologist would require 4 years of undergraduate school plus medical school and residency. All totaled that adds up to about 12 years or more. The others should be able to be accomplished with just a College degree.
I would suggest you talk to you High School College advisor about the fields you're interested in. Make sure you have the basic primary education to meet the standards of colleges offering those degrees. If you do not you may have to go to a community college for a year or two to make up what you are missing.
Money does not always have to be an object in obtaining a degree in your field of choice. There are scholarships that can be obtained as well as different grants that are available to worthy students. Then there are College loans available to make up any short falls there may be.
You can get this information from your college of choices financial assistance office. Don't let money be a limiting factor. Check out your options then decide what is best for you and your financial situation.
19/f
I'm a first year in college and I really need a hobby to do outside of school. I was thinking about taking singing lessons or dancing lessons. I've always wanted to and I feel like now is the time. I looked into a few places nearby that offer lessons. I found a great singing lesson place that offers private lessons.. and apparently the instructor is great. I tried to find dancing lessons but I'm not educated on what kind of dancing i want to try.. i was thinking jazz or hip hop? But the thing is, I'm inexperienced in dance and i feel like if I were to show up for a lesson, i'd be embarrassed because theres other people there too..
I guess what i'm asking is.. what do you think I should do? take singing lessons? or dancing lessons? maybe both if I can find a way to schedule it right and make it affordable?? opinions?
FYI- I am dealing with some stress and issues, so this is also a way for me to get stress off. thanks!
I agree with Zane; "It's not about what we like, It's about what you like." You say you are dealing with stress issues. I'm not sure how singing will help you deal with stress though I am sure that dancing, as it is exercise, is a great way to deal with stress.
Actually anything that helps you break from the routine that is causing your stress will help you deal with stress. What you want to do is find something that is not going to replace one type of stress with another. That is why exercise such as running or jogging is considered to be a great way to relieve stress; as it is something almost every one can do.
My advice: Is to find something you enjoy doing, that will allow you a break from your stressful routine. It really does not matter what that is. It can be exercise, painting, reading and even just cleaning your room. What is important is not so much whether or not how good you are at it as that it brings you enjoyment and allows you to uncock the stress hammer.
I've been thinking about going to the Europe on a Vacation but I am confused to how their currency works. According to Google 700 American dollars would be around 500 in Europe? I'm so confused, Why is it less? How exactly does this all work?
Matt, A short course in how the present economy effects or monetary exchange.
At one time our currency was backed by and supported by gold. Today the dollar floats against other monetary currencies and is backed by the good faith and credit of the U.S. Government. The British Pound is one of the few Currencies still backed by a precious metal, or Gem stones, that being Silver.
Dollars are now traded on a currency exchange just like the stock exchange and other commodities. Based on the daily exchanges is how the dollar fairs against other currencies. Not long ago our Canadian neighbors dollar was only worth $0.50 of an American Dollar. For people who lived near the border it was far cheaper to shop in Canada for a while. Now the currencies are about equal.
Because of the large deficit the American government has, the one that was in the news this summer. The dollar has not traded well and will most likely continue to trade poorly until other countries have more confidence in our monetary system.
I'm 17 and I get guys in their early to mid twenties hitting on me, but when I'm in school most guys just want to be my friend. I've had boyfriends but none lasted very long. There's this one guy that's been hitting on me since I was in middle school, he chased me down the street one time just to ask me how old I was and where did I live. He's friends with my brother and every time he comes to my house hes either staring at me or trying to flirt with me and I don't like him. He's 24 yrs old and he's been hitting on me since I was like 12. I was having a conversation with this one guy and he was 18 and I told him I was 17, he reacted with a holy sh*t. I don't dress slutty or wear make up and I don't understand why older guys hit on me or think that Im older than my age. So is it because I look older or because guys think I'm easy because I'm younger?
I would go with xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx answer. Girls are more mature than boys by almost 2 years to begin with. IF you are the type of girl who is more mature than other girls at school. Gives of an older appearance both in and out of school you will attract older men and at the same time boys your own age will shy away because they feel you will turn them down or tease them should they actually work up the courage to ask you out.
Suggestion: If there is a boy at school you really want to get to know better and would like to date. You will have to let him know in a more straight forward way that you are available to go out with him. You would have to say something to effect of; "You know I think we would really have fun if we went out together, Why don't you call for a date some time?" or Really get bold and say; You know we should really go out together, are you busy on Friday/Saturday?"
Sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns and make things happen.
So i was in the shower today self examining and i found a pea sized bump on my cervix ( the other bumpish like) and i just had my annual checkup in August and it was normal. And i haven't had sex since. I was wondering if it was cancerous or a cyst. Should i be worried? Help! Thanks.
Go to your GYN NOW, do not wait
We are not Doctors and even if we were we cannot make an examination over the web.
You are smart to do a monthly self examination between annual physicals. This is the best way to catch something before it becomes a problem. Early detection is the first step to an early cure if that is what is needed.
There is no way to tell what that bump is. Your GYN will have to examine it, possible biopsy it. Don't come all unglued over the word biopsy as it is probably the best way to find out what its is. I'm not sure a less invasive way; such as an MRI or CT-San will give the doctor a good idea of what it is considering where it is.
Many more biopsies come out negative for cancer than come out positive. My suggestion is you remain calm until you have something to worry about.
Call you Gyn today. Tell them you found a lump or a bump on your cervix. They will most likely schedule in at the first opportunity using one of the doctors emergency appointments. Don't let this upset you. Most doctors do this as they want to know what they are dealing with so they can get on top of this as soon as possible. The sooner they know the sooner you know and together, based on whether it is a good or bad outcome, you can decide how to treat.
One suggestion I do have: No matter what the outcome, get a second opinion. Especially if the outcome is to the effect, it is not yet cancerous so we will monitor it and see what happens.
I would suggest you get the opinion of a good Oncologist in any case. An Oncologist is a far better source for treatment of bumps and lumps be they benign or not. Your insurance company will pay for second opinions and even third opinions in some cases.
Ok so like I haven't pooped in like.....4 days....is that normal and when does it become NOT good. Is that when you haven't in 8 days or something. Just curious. I know this is totally TMI and everything but uh...I usually poop 4 days apart. I just wanted to know.
Everyone is different in how we move our bowels. We have come to train ourselves to go when it is generally convenient.
There is one train of thought that a properly regulated system will have a bowel movement 3 times a day. They back this up with good research backed by diet and exercise.
TO go 4 days without a bowel movement is unhealthy. You are either not eating enough,or not eating or getting enough fiber in your diet. Then there are medical reasons from lazy bowel syndrome to some type of intestinal blockage. Whatever the reason it is not good and you should have this checked out.
It is also possible that once every four days is what is right for you. Until you get this checked out you have to consider this is wrong and check to make sure there is nothing physically wrong with you. A simple change in diet or a fiber pill may make you function more regularly. Let a doctor, not me or any other non doctor tell you what is right or wrong for you.
hey guys, my dream is to be a paramedic,and i dont know what to study. i have no guide what so ever from my parents, because they never went to school. And im the first one to go to college im exited. but i dont know what classes i should take in college. or what to study...is it nursing? i really dont know..help me please..its my dream to be a paramedic and i really want to succeed. THANK YOU ALL
Oh and i live in Virginia, USA!! :D
Paramedic class is a 2 year program which includes every class needed to become a paramedic and pass the National Certification Test. When you finish You will have an AA degree in Emergency Medicine. You can then apply those credits towards to a 4 year degree in Emergency Medicine or take a 1 year Bridge program into Nursing after you have been a working as Paramedic.
Most Colleges will require that you be an EMT-B or what is referred to as an EMT Basic for 1 or 2 years before you can take a paramedic course.
In Virgina you can apply to Volunteer with any of the Volunteer Fire or Rescue Company's and in return for your volunteering they will train you for your EMT-B. If you live in Northern Virginia you could consider volunteering in Prince Gorges or Montgomery Counties as Volunteer Fire & Rescue Companies are not all That plentiful in Northern VA.
It is better to have passed EMT-B before applying for paramedic school as the course is not easy and EMT-B will prepare you better for what you are about to experience.
Most paramedic courses are offered at the Community College level. I would suggest you contact you local community College for more information.
I'm 17 and I'd like to use my debit card to by a vibrator online. But I was wondering, in the statement (or whatever) the bank sends like every month about my debit card, will it list what websites I've boughten things from and what I bought?
The letters are in my name, but I don't care about them so my dad just takes them and does whatever with them. He once told me he throws them out, but I don't know if that's before or after reading them.
I'm allowed to buy whatever I please since it is my own money, but I'm sure everyone understands not wanting their parents to know about these things.
Most likely the statement will have some type of generic name or initials as in; "Something Novelties.: Whatever you see on the shipping label is what your going to see on your debit Card statement. Just like the product shipping in a plain brown wrapper the statement will show a company name just a generic.
i have tried to be supportive, i have tried to hang in there. looking for the simplest, least messy method
I don't see a question here? Please write again and take your time. Make sure to tell us what is bothering you so if we can help you we will.
ok i been talking to this girl and she wants to **** but i didnt so she asked if she could blow me and i let her a few days later she told me she found out she has herpes. can i get it from a bj
Unfortunately the answer is yes. You need to get tested now and again in a few months. Until you have two clean screening refrain from having sex with anyone including her.
If you have had sex with anyone since her. You need to inform them to get tested, even if you are negative now, as you could still have past the virus on in a dormant stage.
When you get tested ask about the best ways to protect yourself from STDs.
so I am a 20/f who is currently seeing a therapist for my problems. Well she knows i have a lot of anxiety, which i inherited from my mother. Well for the past few years I've been having some scary thoughts. Like for example I've had so many thoughts of my mom and dad getting hurt like in a car accident or someone trying to kill them, and i have no idea why. Also when my brother comes home i worry when he goes out that he'll never return and i always wait for him. There was another time when i was volunteering and i saw this adorable little girl who had down syndrome, and she was wearing this necklace and i kept imagining that someone will choke her. I didn't realize how serious this stuff was till today when i read that these are called intrusive thoughts on the internet. I have ADHD, and i heard these thoughts could be associated with that maybe? I see a psychiatrist for my ADHD and other issues, and then a psychologist as well. She doesn't know, because i am not sure how to tell her, since whenever i've told her anything she tells me i am fine and not to worry, or she'll think i am just making this up for attention. So what should i do?
We are not the ones who will have the answers to your question. This is what your therapist is for.
What I will say and I believe your therapist may agree is: If you perceive it then it is real to you. It does not make it true or that something will happens that you perceive. It is the thought itself that is real to you. It is the thoughts and the reason behind them that you need to work in in therapy.
I'm male/16. I've missed about 5 days of school already. I feel horrible & weak. The back of my head & neck are killing me. I can feel and hear mucus in my chest, but when I cough it just doesn't come up. The mucus in my nose comes out fine. When It feels like I can hack up a bit, its a tiny amount and bringing it up feels like I'm puking my throat out. I already threw up once. I went to the Doctor and he said its probably bronchitis. So I'm taking robutussin & some other pill and I haven't felt any progress.....
You may need an antibiotic. I suggest you call your doctor. If you are really feeling bad and need to see a doctor today; you should or could go to one of the 24 hour clinics in your area or a hospital emergency room. You do not what this turning into pneumonia.