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A misunderstanding that has ruined everything (please read)
Ok so the other day me and this guy and we were joking around and I was talkin bout this video I was watching and I put my arms around him and sarcasticly said somehting (he knew it was sarcastic) and it was I Can't wait for tonight(; and I winked and he was like i knowww, and we where joking because it was from the video. Just so happens tho my teacher and some classmates heard and my teacher mrs. Carter said Kaycee, Landon I need to see you two in the hall, and i started freaking out and when we got out there she was saying that she over heard what we where saying in there and she said that its not right for kids our age to be doing "that" by the way im 15/f but then she was giving us this it could cause consequences for you and the guy in the future talk. After she got done talkin my guy friend said we aren't really gonna do that it was just something funny from this video we watched and my teacher didn't believe us!!!! So she said I think you need to talk to the guidence counsler and we where like what the crap. So some Of my classmates/ friends found out what went on and started spreading stuff around like rumors about me and my friend, and it got my boyfriend and now he has broken up with me, and teachers keep giving me weird looks. This is going to far over a stupid video and no one believes me but my close friends. Even my parents acted like it isn't a big deal. Even though all this is happened now the teacher is makin us go to the school counsler, and I have lost my bf from this and now have a bad rep. Please help I dont know what to do!!!!!!!!
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The problem with schools are that in some sense they have what is called loco Prentiss authority. Meaning they have some parental authority as they are responsible for you while you are in school. It is generally felt that this authority begins and ends with your welfare and safety. Unfortunately some teachers and administrators and in many school systems in general they take this authority even further.
Did your teacher have the right to step in as she did? In actuality only to the extent that you two where disturbing the class as a whole. Sending you for guidance counseling is questionable in my mind. Can the two of you do anything about this? No, not for or by yourselves. This is going to take parental intervention for both of you.
Depending on the type of counseling you are getting in school it could be seen as medical treatment. The school system can only authorize medical treatment in a life or death situation; that is as far as their legal authority extends. Any other medical treatment has to be authorized by your parents.
Under a law called HIPPA, you will have to research the following, you have certain rights to medical privacy. If those rights extend to the medical treatments the school may be trying to provide then only you not your parents or anyone else must give permission. You will probably have a problem with this with the school so I suggest you stick with parental permission required for whatever the school is attempting.
In short you need your parents to step in and fight this battle for you as far as the guidance counseling is concerned. As far as the other things are concerned it is going to be very hard to undo what has been done. While you can ask for a public apology and explanation from the teacher you won't get on. You will have to work hard to undo what she has done.
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