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There's this guy that will not leave me alone
my name is Rachel and iam 22 years old and there is a guy that's 53 years old and he keeps asking me out and I keep telling him that he's to old me and that iam not interested and he still keeps making comments about wanting me to go out with him. I've told the deane at the school and he's talked to him and he still won't leave me alone. How do I get the message across that iam not interested without hurting his feelings?
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Recording device followed by restraining order.
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If this person is a member of the faculty at school and you are a student he is being very inappropriate in asking you out. I would once again talk with the Dean an be explicit that if the school does not resolve this, and give them a deadline. You will have no choice but to file charges with the Campus Police and or local authorities.
You have already been nice. It is time to ratchet up you demands to the school about this person. If you are a student you are paying good money to attend that school and have certain rights which include the right to attend without being harassed.
If this person continues to harass you then you have not choice but to file charges and to request an order of protection. If he violates the order of protection he goes to jail. Going to jail becomes his choice not yours as it is his choice whether he honors the order of protection.
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You need to be stern, Tell him like it is. "I am not interested in dating you and if you continue to harass me I will have no choice but to file harassment charges against you"
You already pulled the nice route by asking him to leave you alone and it didn't work. Sometimes in order to get a point across we need to be upfront and blunt about it. This guy has no respect for you to leave you alone. That is indeed creepy, It's even creepier when you have someone that continues to harass you seriously tell the guy to back off or you will do something about it.
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So hes being an absolute creep? Sadly you can't really not hurt him in this situation -even if you could go out of your way not to hurt him it isn't something that you would want or have to do.
First you could tell him calmly that if he does not stop you will talk to the authorities.
If that does not work, arrange with a guy friend to give him the shock of him answering and well..you know :)... by giving the creep the guys number and the creep expects it is you. Theres a good chance he will get the message.
If not, the word lawyer usually works -nods-
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