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Can a girl be virgin again

Some people think you are no longer a virgin if anything enters the vagina such as a tampon or a dildo.
In the eyes of most of society, when a woman is considered to no longer be a virgin, its because she had intercourse, meaning the males penis entered her. Virgin is a word that needs to be taken out of our vocabulary. It is a very inaccurate word.

Some people will argue the point especially if one knows they are lesbian right from the start. Since no penis ever enters her, is she always a virgin or is she no longer a virgin once she has used vibrators and dildos with a female partner? What about two men? What about someone who has only given blow jobs, does that mean they now lost virginity? A ruler is something we use to measure the length of fabric you are purchasing, but there really is no way to measure if someone is a virgin because the word means pure, untouched. It in no way applies to sexuality. Sexuality covers a vast area of experiences. Even foreplay, touching and kissing is part of our sexuality. So it would be silly to say one was no longer a virgin once they had been kissed.
As you can see....the word virgin is not adequate enough for sexuality in todays age.
Once you have hormones running through your body giving you certain urges and the need for orgasming, then I'd like to call it having your sexual debut when you start off on your own exploring your sexuality.

Watch the two links below please for more on the subject:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-hUbI8my0Q

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HEbrcB5JNhQ

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Have sex when your on your on time of the month

Everything I'd want to tell you about having sex while the female is on her period is addressed in this video link I'm attaching. All the rest of the videos on this you tube channel addressing sex positive information on sexuality and relationships is very right on.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=if-zK9yLotg

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I am a fail at everything I do. My whole family skipped a grade in math. I just took the test for it, I failed it. My twin brother almost aced it. WHY CAN'T I BE MORE LIKE MY TWIN BROTHER!!! My family is nice and supportive but I just don't understand. I don't WANT TO BE THE LOSER OF THe FAMILY!!!! I'm a girl, a preteen.

We aren't all alike. We all have our own strengths and weakness, our talents and what we excell at naturally. I wasn't good at math at all, even in slow learners class in high school for all those who struggled with algebra.
The only people who need to be aces at math are bankers, accountants, scientists, astronomists to name a few. If future careers like that don't interest you, then you have nothing to worry about.
No one is a loser for being weaker at one of the main things taught at school. My strength is Language arts or reading and English. I was fascinated at learning to write when in first grade and they couldn't teach it to me fast enough for me to be happy practicing writing sentences. After a life time of doing jobs that weren't related to my talent, I am now focused on writing my first book to publish.
You are blessed to have a nice supportive family. Start asking the family what they feel your strengths are and focus on those instead. Apply yourself on subjects you struggle with but dont let it get you down and depressed because there is nothing you can do to change it and be better at it. Your best will be good enough. I know enough math to get by in life such as being able to give correct change when something is bought by cash, doubling or cutting in half a recipe, or knowing what a clearance item marked 30% off original price is. I dont get an instant answer in my head but I can slowly figure it out so I know if I have enough money to buy it before getting to the cash register. Thats the best I can ever hope to be at math and what I know is good enough for me.

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I find it difficult to be assertive at work.
There is a task at work that I keep being made to do, and I find it extremely stressful.
I am expected to do it because they took the time to train me, and because its expected of me as an employee who has been there for years (compared to people who have been there for only months).
The problem is, every time I tell my bosses that I don't want to do it, they don't really understand. When I am rostered on to do it, I refuse to, and I make them find someone else to do it. I have said to them "I already told (our store manager) and (our rostering manager) that I can't do it", and I have told them I don't want to do it because it is stressful and makes me anxious. No matter how I tell them I am still pestered about it. I get asked to do it, I am STILL asked questions like:
Why can't you do it?
Why do you find it stressful?
Who have you told about this?

I know that I am not very assertive when I tell them... I am usually like "Oh, it is just a bit stressful for me, it just makes me a little anxious", and I try to remain pleasant and smile, which I know makes it worse, but at my work, if you do something to annoy them, they stop giving you shifts all together. Also I don't want to seem like a drama queen, since everyone else who does this task doesn't find it stressful at all.

Please help me with: How do I word it? How do I actually tell them it is too stressful, without being aggressive or over-dramatic?

If I were your boss, I would be saying, well if you don;t like a task that comes with the job, you either better have a very good reason or maybe you should be looking for a totally different employer.

You put your job in jeopardy be blatantly refusing to their faces to do one part of your job.
Here's an example of a problem I had as a temp sent to work in a call center. People would be constantly calling in orders and I did the best I could, I knew I wasn't fast enough to get a quota of so many people spoken to in an hour. So I told them what I was doing and how I felt stressed about it. And asked if they could think of anything else that might help. I was courteous to them and to customers. No one had any problem with me other than speed on the computer, otherwise I was following the rules well and beyond what they expected for a call center operator. So after they took time to give me some pointers and it still didn't work. I told them I didn't know what else to do, that maybe I should look for a job elsewhere. They had a position come open in their out bound call dept. to call to get correct address or credit card numbers on orders that didn't go through. And since this wasn't a speed related position, I did great there.

So you need to let them know if its something that no matter how hard you try, you can't seem to meet their standards. But they have to see you honestly trying. All my calls were monitored, recorded and timed, so there was no pretending on that.
You have to be honest. Perhaps they will be willing to switch some things and give you something no one else likes to do but you excell at.
But you must start to communicate. It is not an aggresssive move to tell some that you are having uissues with a particular task. Ask them to watch you and closely monitor what you are doing so they can see for themselves what is wrong. If the job is done fine but the stress is all in your mind, then honey, you're in the wrong job.

A good rule to go by in life in any area of life is, "If you're not having fun...you're doing it wrong."

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First of all, my husband has many excellent qualities. He works very hard, is a great provider, and a loving, hands on father to our three kids. But, he was sexually abused as a preteen by a family friend. His parents were never really around, and he was supposed to be homeschooled but really only has the equivalent of an 8th grade education. He has worked hard to overcome this and owns a successful business. He had a horrible upbringing, and I know that is the reasoning for many of his actions. First of all, he drinks everyday. He doesn't drink and drive, and he doesn't go to bars, but he unwinds each night with a few vodka and cranberries. I feel like he uses this to cope with painful memories and to help deal with the stress of life. At cooksouts or special occasions though, he tends to overdo it and becomes very loud and obnoxious. This has caused a lot of tension between us. Finally, I feel like he has no patience with me. He literally blows up at me for things that I think are small and trivial, but to him....they are huge. In his words, he says I "....jump in his shit." For example, if we are at a cookout, and he has too much to drink, I might pull him aside and say, "You need to tone it down....you are getting really loud." Then, he will literally blow up at me. He doesn't do it out loud though right then and there, he will wait until we are home and alone and start screaming. Or he will start texting me things like, "I hate you....I wish you were dead." etc. I guess my question is....I want to stay married. I really do and I value his great qualities. But, I feel hurt when he says such hateful things to me. And, I feel like he should be able to cope with small, trivial issues better than he does. I try to tell him that he gets upset about the smallest things and there is really no reason to start a 3 day long fight over one statement I make at a cookout. I told him it's fine to be upset at me for saying it, but don't tell me you hate me and you wish I were dead. He has no patience with me at all and I'm getting exhausted from these blowups. How can I get my husband to realize that it's not worth blowing up at me for such small things?

HI there. Sounds in some ways similar to my ex. We attended church regularly, and I felt that over time, with my loving support, he would get better. He did not. Some people with a painful past don't want the focus on them to get better so they will do all they can to point the blame at other people. Not blame they for what happened in their past, but actually find minor stuff to point out or totally make up just to take the focus off themselves. It a kind of warped but effective defense mechanism...because it gets the other person so busy defending or trying to protect themself that attention is often taken off the person or they just give up and shut up to keep peace but that isn't really Peace. If hubby is not ready and unwilling to go for counseling and really want to get better, there is nothing you can say or do to "Make" him want to get help. I stayed with my ex for 30 yrs and thru 3 kids. It only got worse. That many years of verbal attack and stress began to have its affect on my body. I only credit my strong spiritual ties to God with keeping me mentally sane and from having low self esteem. But I did get headache and eventually it began chronic. I got ulcers for a while, and stress related skin rashes over the entire body and other stress related illnesses. One day I believe I heard God tell me that if I did not leave him, that I would be dead in four years time from the stress, either cancer or heart attack. Our bodys can only take so much stress over time before they slowly lose the battle to stress. There is enough stress in the world around to us to not going adding it at home. Home should be our peaceful refuge from the world where we are able to be recharged, loved on, upheld and supported by those who love us. You are not getting that.
It is a tough decision to give up on someone you may love but I was faced with it. When it came down to it, I realized I had to learn to love myself enough to not willingly subject myself to anymore of this type of treatment. So I left.

I hope it doesnt end that way for you and that you could write him how you love him but how you are hurt and no longer want to continue to live with his issues. So you are asking him to go for treatment and you will be there with him supporting him but he has to acknowledge he needs help and be 100% on board with working and cooperating on his healing process.
You can not have a face to face conversation where he can interrupt and pick a fight immediately. He needs to hear your side of it in a letter or note card and preferably be able to read it when you are not around so he has some time to think first. If he still doesnt take you seriously, then You have to be willing to get legally separated. If you are unable to bring yourself to do so if he won't budge, then you don't have the leverage. If you had to leave him, that might be what it takes to get him to really look at getting help and be serious about it. But he will only do so if he is "in love" with you. Not that he just loves you as a person. I had a friend who was a counselor ask my husband the same thing when counseling wasnt helping cus he didn't apply himself. He finally admitted to the friend in front of me that he has never been 'in love' with me. What a blow. But it was the extra push I needed to finish going through with the thought of leaving him and making it a reality.
If you have anything else you need to talk about your situation dear, you can write me at my column about it. I can't reply when you post on the comment site.

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I am 17 and don't know so can a 17 yr old get prego? I need to know because I want to have sex...

Yes, a 17 year old can get pregnant if not using birth control and then there's always the one in hundreds who might still get pregnant while on birth control.

It hasn't to do with age as much as having pretty much fully developed sexual organs. Some girls have their sexual organs fully developed at even a younger age.
There is very little sex ed. offered in schools today so its not anyone fault as a teen to not know. But at 18, you are of legal age. It would be a good time to start self teaching and learning about all the ins and outs of sex and one of the best ways I can think to recommend is a youtube channel called Sex + a frank video series about sexuality with Laci Green. I highly recommend her. All videos are short 3-4 min. and very entertaining and best of all she is a peer for you at age 23. But she info is all very right on and great stuff.

https://www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen

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Hi , I have a really big problem , every time I walk into my room there are a minimum of 6 flies on my window . I have no idea where they come from & I need to know how to get rid of them ASAP

When we used to keep rabbits in cages in our yard, that attracted more flies which being close to the back door, many came inside. Once inside, they were hard to get rid of. I tried the no pest strips you hang from the ceiling but since houseflies are attracted to windows, thats the better place to put these strips. I only found one dollar store that had clear sticky strips with peel away covers on each side. You peeled one side away. Stuck it onto the glass of window. Then you peeled away the upper cover exposing the sticky tape. The flies would land on it and be stuck. I left the tape up until it was just covered in flies. You have to put up with hearing the several live trapped flies buzzing as loud as a bee trying to get loose but that worked best for me. So look around for something like that or use the no pest strip and hang it in the window instead.

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Hi,

I'm a thirteen-year-old girl who is probably bisexual, and I have a crush on another girl. She's absolutely amazing. She's gorgeous, thoughtful, and funny, and we have a lot in common -- for example, we both love writing. She's bisexual too, and there's also a chance that she might like me back.

Whenever she sends me a text, I get the butterflies and want to say something back. We have been texting each other for a few days now, and I want to reveal to her that I like her without making it too direct -- like I want to flirt with her while texting.

If you have any advice on how to flirt while texting without making it too direct, I would really appreciate it. Thank you!

(P.S. I know I'm only thirteen and that it seems like it would be a little too early to decide my sexuality. But I have known for a while that I see girls in the same way I see guys. I am aware that this might change later.)

I am not bi myself but I realise that flirting is flirting whether with a guy or a girl. So whatever you would normally say to a guy, it would seem logical to try the same on a girl.
For example, I don't see non bi girlfriends saying things like, "I love the sound of your laugh. I love your eyes, I find myself unable to tear away from looking at them. You have such soft looking hair that it makes me want to run my fingers through it.
I can see myself saying that to a guy and it sounds flirty saying the same to a girl. If she doesnt get the hint from you saying stuff like that, you may have to ask directly. I was having a great time at a party, not drunk, just being my social self when one lady present asked me if I was bi. I told her I wasn't. She thought I was by how I carried myself. So I suppose that there may be signals a person can give off that may make them seem to be bi to a pretty much stranger but I am assuming you know this girl pretty well.
Good luck.
Okay, maybe it sounds corny

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is it possible to be in love with someone for years ? even after a year ? or say I have a boyfriend later in the future but i still have love for my ex ..

Yes its possible to feel something for an ex, whether he was a great guy or an abusive one. Our hearts get easily attached to a person no matter how they treat us. Its love but it may not be the "in love with" which is a much deeper love.
Here's what happens.
Our subconscious mind is where all our feelings and emotions are based. It has a memory of the feelings attached to a certain person, so when your awake mind/ or conscious self makes a decision to move on for whatever reasons to another partner, the heart is still being led by the subconscious mind. Sometimes you can learn how to speak to your own subconscious and tell it that its time to let go, that you will not be getting back together with the other person ever so instead of romantic love, it can just learn to have love for the person, just like you would love a sister or brother instead. I hope this explains it

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15/F

Okay. At my age, I do not plan on having sex. I know too many of my former classmates have already been around the block and caught what it has to offer. I actually DO want to go to college. I'm not going to jeopardize that by doing something stupid. However, I have made a few attempts to masturbate and I've found that even if I only use one finger, I'm pretty tight down there. This only makes the whole thing uncomfortable and sometimes painful. I don't really have free time to find what works for me because I constantly have to watch my sister, which is why I try late at night when my family is asleep. What I'm asking is if there's any way to loosen myself up, what is it? Thank you in advance.

The hymen or tighter ring of skin can over time be stretched out. Try using a lube of some sort with using a finger. Lube cuts the pull on the skin so it's not as uncomfortable. You just may have low tolerance for discomfort so you will slowly have to push yourself to continuous work that area. Its like a rubber band in its natural state but with pressure applied, can be stretched out much farther to eventually be able to fit a dildo or vibrator.
There is no special trick to loosening yourself up down there. Think about this, the skin there can stretch quite a ways at some point in life, such as when having a baby. And eventuallly it goes back to its usual size.
The less attention a womans vagina gets, the tighter it can get over time so if a divorced woman finds years passing by and she doesnt used dildos, then the next man she's with could find her to be as tight as a virgin again. So the key here is to work on stretching that area, not just every once in a while but every day. and u will begin to see a difference.

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Well at night time my period leaked on my bed and there where a few drops of blood on the bed and later on in that day my mum went to a friends house and i thought I will try to clean up the stain so i got some washing up liquid and i poured a small amount from the bottle onto the stain i got a piece of clothe and i started rubbing it. The stain got lighter but it was still there and I couldn't get it out anymore so i kind of just gave up but in the afternoon there was like a budge stain from where I poured the washing u liquid and i don't know how to get it out and also how to get the bloodstain out? By the way i can not go to the shops to get any other cleaning materials because i do not have any money with me. And if my mum does see the now budge stain what do I say to her? Im just really embarrassed

One thing I hated was having a mattress that had many stains from leaked blood at night during periods but pristine mattress, sheets and panties during the menstrual years is only a hopeful dream.

Although hydrogen peroxide will help lift some of the stain, the majority of it will remain. treat sheets the same way.
For the future, buy the thicker, longer maxi pads for night and adjust them on the panty so that the front end just starts at the crotch and the rest of it goes up your back side when standing. This positioning helps when lying down because the flow will go downwards towards your back when laying down. Of course it could shift a bit sideways and you may still leak. You could try the disposable bed pads that are often used for bed ridden, older patients. They should be in same area of pharmacy or stores where incontinence products or feminine products are sold. These are also used by women menstruating. They work really well unless you move around in your sleep too much dislodging them from beneath you. Most will slip and move around a bit because of the plastic side against your sheets. So if that doesnt work out for you, use one of the familys older bath towels under your bottom as you sleep. Double it over if you need.
Mom has likely stained many sheets and mattresses herself. I even did that to a hotel bed mattress once. I really felt bad about that but Its not like something one does on purpose. Its something we have no control over. So try to talk to mom about it. Andthing about body functions and sex is hard to start talking about but once you get past the first couple times of feeling scared and horridly embarrassed, it begins to go away. All my 3 daughters are able to discuss such stuff with me, no matter what their different personalities.

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Hi, I am a fourteen year old girl. My parents are divorced and have been since I was six years old. I love them both very much and I really appreciate everything they have done for me, I am truly blessed to have them in my life. They are so supportive of me but.. I find myself happier at my fathers. My real father actually respects me..when I'm having a rough time he almost always tries to see things from my perspective and never invades my privacy. My father and I have so much fun together, but he has missed out on the past seven or eight years of my life and I think it is time for my father to have a turn..you know? My stepdad doesn't respect me very much but he does keep a roof over my head, and food in my stomach, and clothes on my back. My mother,. she is amazing. I love her so much.. although sometimes she can drive everyone in the same room nuts at the same time, I love her very much. I dont want to hurt anyones feelings or make them feel like I am trying to push them away.. I am just a bit confused on how I should go about this but how should I go about moving in with my father? How should I ask my mother without hurting her feelings? Does it matter what makes me happy or my parents? Thank you in advance.

Hopefully mom and your birth dad are on good terms so that no matter what the child custody arrangements are, they would be willing to make changes to that now.

So as for what to say? Just don't mention how you feel about the stepdad. Approach mom and him together so he doesnt feel left out. Mention you appreciate all he's done for you. Some men don't have it easy relating to children or teens, only other adults. My own daughters have one grandma who didn't really start to enjoy relating with them until they reached their late teens. Some people are like that. I am posting an article to help you about the importance of father daughter relationships.
http://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/821928/the-importance-of-the-father-daughter-relationship

The paragraph on self image is the one you want to target. A Father is part of the young ladys developement of her self esteem as she enter's womanhood. Who ever is the father image that she most naturally leans towards, has an affinity towards or the personalitys click, that is the one who should be active as much as possible at this point. It doesn't matter if it's the birth dad, a step dad, an uncle or grandpa, whoever the male is that the teen girl feels most comfortable with and her heart drawn to, should be the one to be in her life as much as possible during this time frame. I remember going through this phase as a teen girl. There came a time in my parents marriage when I naturally wanted to be more around my dad. I didn't understand why at the time but this is a well known fact. I would choose to hang out by his side no matter what he was doing, having lots of conversation with him. I think part of it for me was also getting used to talking to a male in preparation for the days ahead when I would be trying to hold conversations with guys I like.
Yes, it matters what makes you happy but it's more than just feeling happy, its an important part of a females developement into womanhood. Hopefully your mom had a loving dad herself and will recall herself doing the same if you bring this up. It should make sense to her and not hurt her feelings. You will still need mother daughter time and want to visit her as you have been doing with dad so far. I hope for your sake that both your parents are willing to do this for you. Your dad needs to be willing to be there for you to the level and extent that you will need, not just allow you to live there. So should that article to both him and mom. Good luck dear. They must be very proud to have you as a daughter. You seem like a wonderful young lady.

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I hope someone out there it familiar with Second Life! I have to use it for a class and I'm last.

I have a couple of questions:

A. Is it safe to buy things from the Marketplace? Like clothes for your avatar? I can tell that anyone can list stuff but the site handles all of the transactions so random people can't see your information?

B. I accidentally left a box of stuff I bought on a... sandbox? People won't be able to see my credit card info or anything right?

C. Also, even though my internet runs fast second life runs very slow... anything I can fix that with?

Marketplace is the safest place to buy stuff because you get a copy or receipt of proof that you bought something. It is possible that you buy something from a store in SL world, and don't get it. It's happened twice to me. Your credit card info is well protected in SL but if a program fools you to put your SL name and password into it, they will steal your linden money, avatar and clothing, the whole acct. So even if it looks like an official SL page, do not ever put that info name/password into it, the only place its safe to give your SL name and password is in SL marketplace.

If you left a box in sandbox, try to find your way back. No one else can open it or delete it or get any personal info on you from it. So you need to find it and open it.
It always runs slower than any other thing on internet. You can try to boost up to a better video card, but other than that, it always run slower, especially on evenings and weekends when more people are on too.

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Poem #1
“Untitled”-Sabryn Alstatt
Beautiful you
Beautimous and true
Being great; being kind
You are one to find
Being proud of yourself; no one else can tell you different
Stay you and you’ll make it through
I see nothing but brains and smarts
Although you are one brilliant piece of art
You will be one along with few that have helped you fly
Going through life not ever knowing why
You are strong; you are bright
You have nothing to fright
Take a stride; take pride
You’re one in a million; compared to others it’s one in a billion
Stay strong you have won the battle
Sit back and watch the rest rattle
Shining bright; like a star
You believed in yourself; so you went very far

Poem #2
“Untitled”- Sabryn Alstatt
So great and settle
You can now rest
For your journey was too great
Or your timing too late
You fought like a stallion
But the chances of winning were one in a billion
You may have lost but that’s okay
Because you saw it a different way
You couldn’t win; but at least you tried
But you couldn’t just sit around and hide
That’s life; you live then die
Ending your life not knowing why
You are now dead; alone and cold
But you were the one that was brave and bold
The fight has ended can’t you tell
If the bell had ended with a ting-tong bell
They carry your corpse along in a coffin
They may be sad but that didn’t mean stoppin’
Although you lost the battle; you won
No matter the fight; you were their last one
To survive so long in so little time; with each minsicule second just ticking by.

Poem #3
“Trust”-Sabryn Alstatt
Believe in me; believe in you
We will surely make it through
With the help of you and the help of me
We will then both see
The love, the faith, the trust
But it all starts with us
You are my smile; gleaming eye
Taking a breath to just get a sigh
Standing soldiers; yes we are
Because we saw past all the scars
The way you enlighten me; leaves me breathless to thee
The scars, the cuts, the tears that roll
Are soon to be all under control
I love you; you love me
All the pain has willowed away
What that lays in your purse; we are finally free of this curse
Poem #4
“The Choice”-Sabryn Alstatt
Choices are to be made; Choices as sour as lemonade
Flavors change; Flavors sour; Flavors change every hour
The final hour has come to an end; Choices that come to such a bend
The time has come to make a choice
The choice I pick is not about boys
But more of how I go live; Live into the rules of five
The rules start with confident; Then go to independent
The third goes to trust; which is an absolute must
The fourth is loyalty; which means no cruelty
The fifth belongs to honest; If you choose to be the best; you choose to be honest
The choice has been made, yes it is
To be a confident, loyal, whiz
The whiz I am The whiz you are; You will never be too far
For your dreams to come true; you must look up to the blue
The sky, that has all the clouds; Until the thunder alouds
The night will come; the stars will shine
Then your life will be in line
Wish upon a shooting star; you will surely go far
Your dream has come true yes, it’s true; But it’s all because you believed in you.

Yes you are very good. There are sites on line you can join where you can share your poems with others who write poetry as well. You might try that because you will get more response on your poetry there.

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will wife give sign she wants two cocks at same time

No she will not. There are some fantasies a woman may have that she truly does not want to experience in real life, just in her mind for the naughty or excitement factor.
So she won't mention them but she is doing fine on her own just using the mental images for her purposes. There's a big trust issue when it comes to other people. Women aren't as much into experiencing this as men. Take it from someone who's been in the swinger clubs in the past, some men who thought they could handle it because in their minds, the scenerio of their wife with another would excite them, I know of many men who couldn't handle it in real life and actually got jealous. Imagine your wife making sounds with another guy that she's never made with you? (Actually thats very normal, different guys, different responses in the female) Or just the look on her face or how her body reacts in orgasm just doesnt quite compare to what you two have together. And there you have it, you start comparing which is not advised, and then you become jealous thinking that she enjoyed the other guy better!! The majority of people can not handle the emotional pressure this may bring them.
So it is best to keep this fantasy in your mind.

If I were you, i would work on my communication on the topic of sex just between you two, so that you both become more comfortable discussing it and it feels normal and natural. Focus on learning more from her as to how she wants you to please her. If both of you can be frank with each other and discuss anything sexual without feeling threatened or nervous, then if there is something she really wants to do in real life sexually, she will bring it up. I did a survey of couples in swing club to find out how they started going to such a place. I was shocked to find out that with 3/4 of the couples, the female was the one who brought it up. Keep in mind though that out in average society, only 1 out of every 200 people is a swinger or will become one. So your chances of your wife approaching you someday to ask for another man for a triage, is practically nil.

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here i go im a guy and ppl that masterbate what do the the master mean and do not have sex tell older like in 20or30 or tell you merried o by the way i am age 11.

I don't think the word Masturbate can be split in two parts so the Master part of Masturbate is only half the word which means to bring yourself to orgasm using your hand or in some case, other objects that feel good.
Masturbation is a good safe way to explore your own sexuality and take care of sexual urges.
Some cultures or religious groups say it is wrong.
There is nothing wrong with it at all. It is a man made social norm from back in the times when there were way less people on the planet and it was important to increase numbers of people to have workers for your farms, so to masturbate and spill your seed on the ground instead was not very productive to society or a familys way of making a living. The rule against masturbation is nothing more than that. Considering the time we live in with too much population on this planet for the resources, masturbation should never be an issue in your eyes.
You are right to wait to have sex until the time when you are considered an adult, of legal age, which in the U.S. for example is 18. Someone older than 18 having sex with a person younger than 18 is considered statutory rape. Even if both were consenting, agreeing to it.
If two minors have sex, some areas have laws against that too. The better thing to focus on during these teen years is learning to understand how the opposite sex thinks and understands and communicates...it is very different in many ways from a male. And at that age range, one of the biggest problems is not communicating well and getting angry with your peers and fighting verbally....saying all the stupid stuff that you wish later you had never said.

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I am gitting married nexd yr. and is it bad to let him is you nude and to have sex befor you get married?

I chose for religious reasons to not have a sexual relationship with the man I married due to our Religious beliefs as Christians. It turned out neither of us was fulfilled by the other sexually.
The needed chemistry was missing sexually. We were mismatched. What one liked the other did not or it wasn't enough. And yet for sake of our beliefs we stayed together, miserable and had 3 kids.
I am late in life in another marriage, and all I can say now to my 3 daughters is to be sure to have sex before something final as marriage to make sure that they are compatible in that way. Its one thing to realize that there needs to be a friendship part too to a relationship but you need both. If its only friendship, or only sexual, the relationship doesnt stand much chance of surviving time.

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how may i know that my gf is truly love me ?because our relationship is iligal . & one tym i caugh her that she is flerting to other guy in a message on a facebook when i open her account i read in tHier chat that my gf is denied me As her bf . when the guy ask her if she have a bf.

I'd say the love is one sided, only you loving her, but does she deserve it?
To explain the situation, just reverse the characters and say that it is you who professes to love her and yet you flirt with other girls on facebook and in person. And when asked if she is your girlfriend, you say that she is not your girlfriend. Can you picture yourself doing that if you really loved your girlfriend? I do not think you could. So that should explain how she feels about you, just as someone she knows who happens to be a male and who she has spent some time with.
Its not fair but when people fall in love, it's not always on both sides and you owe it to yourself to be with someone who loves you back.

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I have a friend and she's been like my best friend since kindergarten, I think (let call her T)! But this year we had like maybe a couple of little bickerings, I guess you can call it. And this summer our friend came back from Texas ( let's call her C). That just made T a little uneasy because when we were little T got jealous of me and C's friendship!
Finally I got T and C to get together and we had a sleepover for C's birthday. It was fun but T got offended when me and C laughed when T told us she was going to start a photography business (we are only 12 that's why I laughed).

A couple days later we talked about it and i tried to say sorry and explain why I laughed but my phone died and we didnt talk for about 3 days because we were busy. Finally we talked and we didn't pick up were we left off she acted like everything was fine! But after that it felt weird. Are text would always go like:
Me: hey
Her: hi.
Me: wats up
Her nm.
Me: oh Kwl LOL
Her: LOL.

It's just weird because after everything she would put "." and we don't normally do that when we text unless we are mad cause that's wat I do when I get mad and I text. I don't kno what to do because I just want me friend back :(

Other than not taking her seriously when she confessed wanting to start a photography business, she shouldn't have any reason to feel jealous. It's all made up in her head. Lots of young people get busy comparing themselves to others or have a low self esteem. All you can do is continue to spend time with both because no one should ever force you by their jealous behavior to have to pick and choose or drop friends. Remember this when it comes to dating. A guy shouldn't dictate you being able to spend time with girlfriends either.
You might call, its better than texting for stuff like repairing a relationship. And talk to her about the time you laughed. Tell her you laughed because of what your ages are and didn't think young teens started businesses. But actually there are a few. Too bad its not much advertised.

Here's an article for you to read and share with your friend. She's at a perfect age to start a business and needs people to believe in her. Maybe you will when you read this. Share it with her too.

http://smallbusiness.aol.com/2010/05/10/the-best-business-ideas-for-teens/

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What if your partner says that he/she doesn't feel like having sex and he/she doesn't have that feeling for you?

There's two possibilities depending on what your situation is. I don't have access to anything you've asked in the past so I am going blind here on answering you.
If the both of you are still in love, and partner loves you dearly but no feelings of desires come up sex wise, this after a history of years of great sexual relations, it can be due to extreme stress, but it could also be hormones, like menopause...whether at the age for menopause or not. Males also can have a lack of hormones. I know of two male friends who had this condition at an early age, 30s. If this is the case, go see a doctor to get tested. A simple prescription to take life long for hormones will remedy the situation quickly.
If it's not stress or hormones, it could be that the two people were not right for each other to begin with it as far as having sexual chemistry.
There is something in the beginning of a relationship that acts much like having chemistry with a person, its called NRE, New Relationship Energy. This is very strong, a heady, great feeling, like your head is in the clouds and your heart couldn't be fuller. But it is extreme and exaggerating what is really there. So on a scale of 1-10 compatibility is a 3, with NRE you'll be feeling a 12, off the charts. But it doesn't last forever, a few months. Some people are actually addicted to the feeling like a drug and once it wears off, leaves the relationship and goes on to the next for their next 'fix'. So they have a long string of serial dating. If what you feel after NRE disappears, doesn't feel as special, it still may be, the partners may just need to choose to put time aside, get creative and do something new and different to bring the spice back. For females after giving birth, her hormones can be thrown off, not so for all but it can take a while for her natural horniness to come back and sometimes, it may take a long time or she may need to see a doctor about it for the hormone reason again.
It kind of depends on how long you've been together. Hopefully the partner has not been pretending that all is well after the NRE subsided so that years have gone by, unfortunately many people do, cus they don't know what else to do. It's not fair to them or their partner to not be honest with oneself let alone the partner. Some hope its a phase and that they will go through it.
At this point, I must also point out something I never thought could affect a sex life so strongly but that would be ones astrological charts, if you believe in that kind of thing. My husband is into astrology. We are both very sexual and love each other deeply. Then all of a sudden both of us were not having the desire for sex and having difficulty with orgasms for both of us. So he went to check out that portion of our charts which are very similar and got the bad news that planets and things were lined up in a way that we would be affected this way for a whole year. And thats exactly how long it lasted. So we both continued to have sex even though we didnt have the desire or had difficulties. It was frustrating, I wanted to cry, but I can say that after pushing through that year, everything went b ack to normal. You may want to go check with a reputable astrologist to see what differences are in both of your charts. It may show a difficult period you're going through or may shows areas to work on, or may show that you never were the best match for each other. Thats the kind of thing we don't like to find out especially when our heart is engaged in the situation. But to ignore it and try to continue on, is just living a lie.
These are some things to think about. Its not a magic wand to quick fix and make the situation go the way you imagine in your mind it should. Without knowing more specifics of your situation, or knowing your personalities, etc...its hard to give a better help answer. So there's always the option to go to a counselor for couples depending on how long you've been together and if you want to stay together.

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