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well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..




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Lol hey whats up, i guess this is mainly for the girls to answer. Whats the chances of a girl getting pregnant, while having unprotected sex.. but pulling out? not on the pill.

no matter what you always have a 50% chance but when you dont use protection at all your rise gets higher. i would say aproxmentaly you have a 75% chance of gettin pregnant.
*~Stephanie~*

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ok well muh ex bf juss broke up with me last night. we went out for 3 weeks but we been talkin since da first week of school. and we talked a lot PRETTY much every night n in school. after he broke up with me i cried for about 20 min or so but now i dont really care dat we're not together or do I? bcuz da nite he broke up with me he went out n he was talking to this girl but she thinks hes just cute thats all they know each other bout 5 yrs now. but im so jelous EVEN THOUGHT THEY R JUS FRIENDS. im reali upset dat me n him wont talk as much anymore. i have to see him at school and same lunch table AUGH! BUT EVEN though it seems i have a lot of feelings for him still BUT I DONT! so do u think im right for being jelous and what should i do if he stops talking to me as much?

there is nothing wrong with you. i promise you that. evryone goes through the same thing. dont worry about. it is normal.
*~Stephanie~*

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Sorry If Its Long!!! .. Well here it goes

Ok well theres this guy .. well call him cody.
well me and cody have know each other for like almost 2 years. and over the summer we talked about how we liked each other .. and he kind of i guess strung me along for like 2 months .. sayin he liked me but wouldn't do anything about it, but when i asked if i should juss forget it he told me not to b/c he liked me ..

he said he'd call nd he said we'd hang out but he kept blowin me off and not callin but he "liked me" so i guess he thought it was ok. so i left him a message on aim sayin to call me so we coudl talk about it .. yahh well he got the message but didnt call. so we stopped talkin for like 3 weeks .. like i was pissed. and he knew it but didnt try to make it better.

soo halloween night me him and my friend kev chels and jenn all hung out. i didnt know he was gonna be there or else i wouldn't have gone. but we ended up having so much fun and i laughed the whole time .. all the feelings i thought i was over .. came rushing back soo fast!!!


so we talked about it and we talked online the next day and he told me he liked me and everything. so 2 nights ago we hung out and went to funspot and all of us were in a guy named brody's truck. i was like practically sittin on top of him the whole like 1 and a half ride, and he had his arm around me and stuff.
- - but when we were driving home kevie (the other guy who was there) was like "so cod are you 2 like goin out now. and codys like no. and kev was like wait what. how come? and codys like you heard me .. i didnt stutter ..

i juss dont get him .. so we talked nd hes like i REALLY like you, i honestly do i juss dont want a girlfriend .. but he told kevin that he didnt even like me at all .. hes pissing me off b/c hes not even tellin me the truth .. and i just wanted an honest answer

dont waste your time on this guy. if he realy liked you he wouldnt have blown you off and left you hanging he likes you as a friend and nothin else. he only saying that to get you to like him more then you already do. don fall for losers like that they will break your heart in a heart beat. alright take care and i hope you make the right choice.
*~Stephanie~*

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13/f. Alot of my girl friends say that i look pretty and gorgeous and things like that. But i dont think guys find me attractive,...why?

hey hun. personaly looks arent everything. i am not sayin you r this but mayb u dont have a good personality. it can be that you are to shy and are scared to show people how you really are and then they dont get to know you. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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what does stfu mean?

S shut
T the
F fuck
U up.
hope that helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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my guy friend..(not boyfriend) wants to finger me tonight..im nervous..i dont know how to prepare myself..any suggestions?
(my first time)

i dont think it is a good idea to let your guy friend that you have no feeling for do anythin like that to you. i think of that as a form of sex. and i dont think you would want to lose your virginty to someone you dont have feelings for. plus he will probably only do it to hear you moan or make noises then he will get hard and then guss what he will ask you to do?? .. if you werent thinkin of it he would ask you to please him next because he did to you. dont do it is the advice i am giving you.
*~Stephanie~*

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Hi Guys my girlfriend is a couple of years younger than me (23) but she acts like a little kid! When we're out with her friends that are her same age group she's acts completely normal and I am so attracted to her as a person when she's like this. BUT whenever she's out with my friends (their my age) she acts like a little brat, i'm a pretty patient person so have put up with it for a while now, but its starting to be a problem as i feel a little nervous whenever I take her out.

she's acts like this constantly when we're with her family too (she's the youngest child), and i guess her family has treated her like she's the youngest child like forever...

What should I do? I really love this girl, but its just in circumstances where its starting to stress me out. If its a psychological thing i wanna help her through this, just wondering what you guys thought.

you know what is so werid about your question is that my bf hates it when i act more mature then him and smarts it gets on his nerves and instead he likes it when i act immature but not completly stupid just like a regular 14 year old. anyways back to ur question what you should do is sit your girlfriend down and tell her how you feel nicely.. tell her how much you care about her and explain to her how she is acting. maybe she doenst know how she is acting. but what i think the problem is when she is around older people she thinks just because the youngest she can act like a brat and be less mature.. i hope my advice helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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Does anyone know how to request something to the people who created advicenators? I heard you can do that because i heard that a lot of people requested a delete question button.

any sugestions you need to email dangernerd and he will take your suggestions. good luck.
*~Stephanie~*

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can you get any STD's from being fingerd....i didnt cum or anything like that ...but i was fingerd and it was my first time and i worried

nope you cant.

*~Stephanie~*

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Okay I really like this guy. Well I have heard he liked me too but I don't know I am a freshman and he is a Jr. (same age as my older brother and they have conflicts) Well I want to see if he likes me but I am scared too. His cousin says he always talks about me and he is really sweet to me. He will come up and hug me and tell me that I am looking good and stuff like that. I want to ask him out but I am scared to. I guess I am afraid of rejection. Then one of my friends likes him too. and if she found out how I feel about him she would hate me... but he like hates her cuz she acts like a big ole' whore and stuff like that. So I am stuck... I also told his sister (which is my age) and when she found out that girl liked him too she was MAD cuz she HATES her. but she made me feel better when she told me he would never go after her. but I still don't know..

What should I do?

)(confuse)(

if your scared of rejection why wont you tell his sister to ask him to ask you out. i mean it sounds like your really close friends wit her. and about your friend if she gets mad at you then she really isnt your firend because she should respect the fact that you found someone that you like and that likes you back the time and she should be happy for you. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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me and this boy have been dating on and off for over a year now.we're not going out right now though.He's cheated on me and lied to me and somehow he gets off by calling me a liar and a player and i would never do that to him and on halloween me and my friend went to his house and we we're playing around at first and then he started getting serious and he slapped me and my friend just sat there only becuz he said he would beat the f*** out of her too.he is quite abusive and i still like him.do you think i should still like him or should i tell someone that he slapped me?

this guy is very abusive and doesnt repect you. you need to stya away from him and find soemoen else to poor your heart to not to this guy. he doesnt even seem to care about your feelings. forget about him and find yourself a new guy that will always be by your side and not hurt you in anyway. be careful.
*~Stephanie~*

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HELP PLEASE..WILL RATE HIGH

here's the background information:::

last night..i went to the homecomming game with my friends. i hung out with a group of my really close guy friends for a while. i recientally broke up with my boyfriend..and my close friend (( im just going to use letters )) D asked me to take a walk with him. so i said alright, and we talked about y i broke up with my bf E. after a few min..he held my hand and he told me that he respectes my decision about what i did. also that night..i hung out with my friend C..we were fooling around..he said something random or stupid, and i'd kick him cause it was so annoying..but thats the way we are...anyways...today, my friend D imed me and told me that i shuld go out with C...i found this totally random and asked him y he thought i should. he told me that me and C look good together...which..i dont really kno for sure.....my other friend ( a guy ) told me that he thinks D likes me and tried using the whole " C && me makes a good couple" to distract me....


my question is....is it ture that he could be saying that i look good with someone else to hide his feelings for me?

i think it is true he is trying to test you and see if you like him back without him actully telling you that. if you like D then go out with him. if you like C then go out with him. the best thing to say in your situation is to follow your heart. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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16/f
ok well about a month ago i found out that this guy likes me and that he'd been talking about me to his friends. then he started to hang around me a lot, walked with me to class and even referred to me as his gf to his friends. anywhoz as i got to know him, i began to get feelings for him too, but he didn't believe his friends when they said that i liked him back. well one day we were talking and i just flat out told him that i liked him, but he didn't really answer back..it was just awkward. i just blew it off and pretended that nothing happened. well that weekend we went out on a "date" and had an awesome time and we kept talking alot after that, but the last few days, it seems like he doesn't talk to me as much anymore and when we do he doesn't have much to say...has he totally lost all interest in me and is moving on or just being shy because he hasn't had a REAL gf in a while?? help me please!

i dont think it would be that he lost interest in you it might just be that he hasnt had a gf in a while and is shy and doesnt really know what to do. try talking to his friends about it see what they say. dont jump to conclusions until you find out the true. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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okay so theres this guy. him and my really good friend were going out but then she dumped him like a month or two ago. ever since then ive had feelings for him. while we were talking online once i asked him who he liked. he didnt want to tell me, because he didnt think she likes him back. im really starting to like him, but i dont know if we could ever go out because of my friend. so what do yall think i should do?

i dont think it is a good idea to go out with this guy because he is a really good friends of yours ex boyfriend. she still might have feelings for hima nd you might ruin your friendship with ehr because of this guy. if i were you i would only be friends with him and nothin else unless you want to lose a friend. and even if you talk your friend about it she will act tough and strong and tell you she is over him but the truth will be it will kill her to see you wit him. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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This isnt a real love life kinda question but like ive heard that chewing gum actually makes your breathe stink? is that true?

if its not minty gum then yes it does make ur breath smell bad.
*~Stephanie~*

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Im 16 and scared! I have been on my period for 28 days (bleeding for 28 days) you only supose to only stay on 5-8 days. I just started using the new Nuva Ring (birthcontrol). I put it in a day after I first came on, could I have been pregnant and not know and killed the baby if there was one?

my mom has had a problem like that and it lasted a long time i dont know about yours but hers was bleeding a lot. they found out that the bleeding was from her kidney and had to have surgery on it. my advice to you is call a doctor and go find out what is wrong. the longer you wait the faster you will kill yourself for loosing a lot of blood. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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Okay hi,
I`m a 16 yr old female..
Alright this has all been taken care of but i don`t know what to do bout somethings..
here i`ll start with what has happened.. I got raped three times by the same guy over the summer..Yes i`ve tooken care of him and he`s doin 21 yrs thank god plus he admitted to it..
But i`m havin diffculties with sleeping,Yea i thought that shit only happened in movies where you feel he`s by you and what not but No its happenin to me.. I talk to my boyfriend about it and he tries to talk to me at night as long as possible but that doesn`t change how i feel after i get off the phone with him.. This might sound stupid but the only time i sleep good is with my boyfriend on weekends its like i use him to put me to sleep i mean Yes i`ve tried sleeping pills,reading and i`ve counted sheep and everything else there is to count.. i don`t know what to do i`m so tired in school and my grades are goin down horribly.. i seen a doctor to talk to about it but i don`t think that helped.. i mean this guy already took my trust and everything else away.. i mean he don`t need my sleep too.. so if you can give me advice in anything or how to deal with it better ill rate high and give advice..

since you cant fall asleeep without your boyfriend try doing what i liek to do to. go to sleep on the phone with your boyfriend. just dont hang up the phoen all night. (yea i neo i am stupid for doin it but hey i get tired and so does he and cant help it..lol.) maybe you shoudl try seein a pysicatrist. mayb that can help you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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Ok, so I'm pretty sure that I love my gf, and a friend told me she loved me. But I don't know if he was telling the truth. I want to bring it up but I don't know how I can tell if she does. If I say it and then she doesn't say it back, well I wouldn't know what to do, it would just be out there and then everything would be awkward. What
should I do? Do i just tell her or wait to see if she loves me, then tell her. Sorry I'm just confused.

Thanks, I'll rate high for good advice.

relationships get ruined bythings that are left untold. i beat you have heard that one be4. tell her how you feel if she doesn say it back at least you know the truth. right? i mean it shouldnt be that hard. i promise you you will feel a lot better once you have done it. dont wiat any longer tell her. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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i have a problem my bfs a i guess you could say wigger. and im i guess a "rocker" im not all that into labels but ive been dating him 4 2 mouths and everyone keeps saying it wont last becuz we have nothing at all in common and latly ive been thinking about it to i mean we cant talk about anything and the one thing i talk about the most he doesnt like ((whitch is Rock music)) he listens to rap and i hate rap but i realli dont no what i should do i mean i like him but we cant talk about anything and he a little on the shy side and i normaly dont like shy guys (( dateing whys)) im so confused about this.

dont listen to what people say that si just there opinon on it. people will always try to breka up other peoples realtionships. give it a chance. think of something else to talk about. try this for a change let him tell you about himself and you tell him about yourself. like ask each other questions and stuff. dont just leave him becaus ehe different. shit evrytone different in there own way no one is the same. give him a try dont leave him. hope you make the right choice.
*~Stephanie~*

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my frend brittany went out with this kid named james. when they broke up, james started talkin 2 me on da computer. he wood kall me sexy nd everythin even tho he neva saw me, he wood always talk 2 me so nice.then 1 day, he asked me out nd i sed yes-not knowin wat he looks like-. wen i DO see him, turns out he's asian. nd no offense but i dunt like asian boys, i like white ones. he's really nice, but he isn't that cute... i wood break up with him but i dunt wanna break his heart since he really loves me...nd i dunt hav da guts 2 break up with some1 cus its 2 sad.... i dunt no wat i shood do!!! heLp me pleeeeeeeeees!

you got 2 choices. one give him a chance. so what if he asian everyone different and everyone deserves a chance so try making it work. dont just judge him by his ethnisty. or 2nd choice just breka up with him tell him it isnt working out and you dont want to hrut him but if you didnt do it faster it would hurt him more and you didnt want to do that. dont keep goin out wit him if you dont like him it will break his heart even more.
*~Stephanie~*

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