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A guy
Okay I really like this guy. Well I have heard he liked me too but I don't know I am a freshman and he is a Jr. (same age as my older brother and they have conflicts) Well I want to see if he likes me but I am scared too. His cousin says he always talks about me and he is really sweet to me. He will come up and hug me and tell me that I am looking good and stuff like that. I want to ask him out but I am scared to. I guess I am afraid of rejection. Then one of my friends likes him too. and if she found out how I feel about him she would hate me... but he like hates her cuz she acts like a big ole' whore and stuff like that. So I am stuck... I also told his sister (which is my age) and when she found out that girl liked him too she was MAD cuz she HATES her. but she made me feel better when she told me he would never go after her. but I still don't know..
What should I do?
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i say take what you want... you like this guy then go after him cuz at the end you will see dat there is really no such thing as friend because TRUST me i know for a fact that if this so called friend of urs get a shot at this guy she is NOT going to even think about how that will make u feel...so dont kill urself ova what other people will feel. ..do what is best for you and you only...ok
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You should ask him out and if your friend gets mad she must not be your friend you know.
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Dear Confused,
You are in a hard spot. A friend likes the same guy. You want him, he wants you and not her. But you don't want to hurt her. Wow this is though, and I agree with some of the other Advicenators. You should talk to your friend first.
See, this is what will happen when you begin dating him: You will stop talking to your friend as much. After all, he doesn't like her and his sister hates her. You will eventually stop talking to your friend and spend all your time with him and his sister. Like a trade off. Besides, why would you want to hang out with someone who acts like a whore? You like him, he likes you. This is the set up for a very good relationship.
In the end, it is you that will have to make up your mind on what you are going to do. Situations like this are always hard and someone will end up getting hurt here. Either you because you are not going to betray your friend and stay away from a guy you have feelings for. OR your friend will get hurt when you start hanging out with your new boyfriend more than her.
Have you ever heard a saying "You are judged by the company you keep"? If you are hanging out with people who act like whores, then others will view you as a whore as well. It's not fair but it's a fact of life. This guy you like would probably hang out with you more if you did not have friends that act like whores. Ever think of that? Life is too short to not stop and smell the roses. Rejection is a part of life, it is not something to be afraid of. Do not send other people to talk to him for you. This just shows that you have no spine to do things on your own. Just do it!! The worst he can do is say no.
Hope I gave some things to think about. I also hope that I helped you make a choice. Good Luck and I am here anytime you need :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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ask him otu, take the risk, it's usually worth it in the end.
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if your scared of rejection why wont you tell his sister to ask him to ask you out. i mean it sounds like your really close friends wit her. and about your friend if she gets mad at you then she really isnt your firend because she should respect the fact that you found someone that you like and that likes you back the time and she should be happy for you. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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go for it =) it's only a 2 year age diff soo it isn't a big deal & plus he likes you, not your friend & explain to her. you can't be afraid of your rejection, because you don't want to not tell him & then he start to like someone else. plus you'll juss be curious wondering what it would've been like dating each other. definately go for it & explain to him how you feel.
-hope that helped!♥
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I think you should go out with him. That other girl should realize that she has no chance with him and then get over it. Talk to her though. You don't want to lose a friend. But don't not go out with him just because she sorta likes him. It really depends on your situation. If this girl is one of your BEST friends, then I would ask her if it was okay first, because I've liked this guy once (a lot) and this one girl went out with him and I got really mad because she didn't talk to me about it. I would've been (almost) okay with it if she talked to me first. Good luck in getting that guy!!
!~*becca*~!
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