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confused
i have a problem my bfs a i guess you could say wigger. and im i guess a "rocker" im not all that into labels but ive been dating him 4 2 mouths and everyone keeps saying it wont last becuz we have nothing at all in common and latly ive been thinking about it to i mean we cant talk about anything and the one thing i talk about the most he doesnt like ((whitch is Rock music)) he listens to rap and i hate rap but i realli dont no what i should do i mean i like him but we cant talk about anything and he a little on the shy side and i normaly dont like shy guys (( dateing whys)) im so confused about this.
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dont listen to what people say that si just there opinon on it. people will always try to breka up other peoples realtionships. give it a chance. think of something else to talk about. try this for a change let him tell you about himself and you tell him about yourself. like ask each other questions and stuff. dont just leave him becaus ehe different. shit evrytone different in there own way no one is the same. give him a try dont leave him. hope you make the right choice.
*~Stephanie~*
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You cannot have a realationship with no comminication--you need that. Opposites attract. Did you ever try giving rap a chance? Did he ever try giving rock a chance? Ii never liked country but as time grew with my fiance i listened to it and realized it wasnt that bad--now even though he left me i still isten to it once in awhile but not often. The main thing is its not the music that is the issue--its what you and him want in each other and sweety you have to be able to talk more than about music.--hope i could help
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Being different is what makes knowing others fun. You don't want to be exactly like your boyfriend, although I will admit, having things in common does make it easier to be together. Your differences seem superficial (by this I mean the way you describe them and how critical they are to your relationship. Music preference shouldn't be critical to your relationship. Things like beliefs, views on respect, and what you want out of the relationship are more critical.) If you have nothing to talk about then you should not be dating. If you absolutely cannot find something to talk about, then you both should find other mates better suited for you.
Oh and just listening to rap music doesn't make him a wigger. I like rap, but I doubt that anyone would mistake me as one. I highly doubt that waving cartoon snakes are going to be come hip hop icons anytime soon. Maybe if they wore their hats backward...
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hey, well dont just break up with this guy because it seems da the things people are telling yu is starting to get into your head mayb you should give it a lil more time nd if you guys dont talk dat much lik u say dden mayb u should be friends, but dont listen to what other people say. well hope i helped.
xoxo,
NeVer_Noticed
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Dear Confused,
I think you should stay with this guy and get to know him better. Don't let what other people say get into your head. Make your own choice. If you're not happy when you're around him, dump him. But, if he can make you laugh, smile, and you feel happy when you're around him, stick with him - who knows, maybe it'll end up as a life-long relationship. Just because you have some differences in opinions doesn't mean you should end a relationship. Soon enough you'll find that having different interests is a fun thing to talk about. I hope you make a decision that suits you.
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Hey
Have you ever hared the expression opposites attract? Well maybe the problem is'nt the fact that you have nothing to talk about, or what you label your self. Maybe the problem is that you don't feel attracted to your boyfriend anymore? Maybe the feelings you once had are fading. I'm not sure if this is the case but it sure might be a possibility.
You know how they say the looks attract you but the personality makes you stay? Well maybe the method of opposites attracts doesn't work well with you. You might just be one of those people that needs to be around people that share the same interests with you. But if you ask me I think it's silly to lose a boyfriend over your difference of music taste.
If you really like this boy then try to make it work. So what if you have a different label from each other. If you both really like each other then find something you both have in common! I'm sure you have something in common you can talk about! Music isn't the only thing. Or you can always take the time to learn about something new from each other. But don't even bother doing all of this work if you know deep down in your heart it isn't going to work out. Save your self some of the time, otherwise keep your head up and don't worry about what other people say. If you like him try to make it work.
If you need any more advice be sure to comment my inbox anytime
♥ maria ♥
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