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Girlfriend acts like a kid
Hi Guys my girlfriend is a couple of years younger than me (23) but she acts like a little kid! When we're out with her friends that are her same age group she's acts completely normal and I am so attracted to her as a person when she's like this. BUT whenever she's out with my friends (their my age) she acts like a little brat, i'm a pretty patient person so have put up with it for a while now, but its starting to be a problem as i feel a little nervous whenever I take her out.
she's acts like this constantly when we're with her family too (she's the youngest child), and i guess her family has treated her like she's the youngest child like forever...
What should I do? I really love this girl, but its just in circumstances where its starting to stress me out. If its a psychological thing i wanna help her through this, just wondering what you guys thought.
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Wow I really don't know. Girls are usually more mature than us anyway, right? She may think you enjoy it when she acts like that and not the other way, but in reality its vice versa. Let her know you think the way she acts kinda turns you off. Give examples. Tell her you still care about her...etc, but you just dunno why she acts like a 12 year old when you're hanging out with your friends.
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She acts like this because she wants attention. You're giving it to her too. Talk to her about it and tell her how you feel when she does act like that.
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First, logical thing; try talking to her and explaining how you feel towards her behavior in a very nice and caring manner, dont make it look like you're calling her immature or anyhing of the sort.
If it is a psychological thing I am not sure you will be of much aid because in my opinion for people to drastically mature and grow life has to hit them in the face with something harsh so they learn form it.
Anyhow, if you really love her try to help her out to the best of your ability. If that doesn't work than you should just accept her how she is, sometimes people are not who we want them to be, regardless of that we still love them.
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She acts like this because like you said she is the youngest child and is used to getting attention. She doesn't act like this in front of her friends because they would think she was immature. She doesn't care if she acts like a clown in front of your friends because it is nature...it was how she grew up. Tell the girl you love her. Do it at the right timing...like when you guys are alone and say it right out...maybe she will understand and stop acting like a pain. I am sure she is just doing that npt because of any love resons but because she was born the youngest. That is my advice.
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Dear Girlfriend acts like a kid,
That is so funny. Anyway, I read the other Avicenators answers and I agree. You should tell her that you love her and you mean no disrespect but you like her more when she acts like a mature adult.
Be honest with her and open up to her as soon as possible or it will continue to stress you out.
Remember, she is younger, and a woman. She may take it wrong if you do not word it wisely. Just explain to her that you like her when she is with her friends, but when she gets around your friends she acts like a completely different person.
If this doesn't work, maybe you should try acting like a childish brat in front of her friends. See if she likes it. That would be a last resort naturally, but it is a thought. OR just stop taking her out around your friends. When she asks why you don't want her along, tell her.
"If its a psychological thing i wanna help her through this"
This pattern makes me wonder why she acts like this only with her family and your friends, but not around her friends. There has to be something that influences her actions when in these enviroments. With her family she probably feels comfortable and is used to acting that way.(little firls often act like this around their daddies) What could it be with your friends? Is it that she's more comfortable around them than her friends? Being a woman myself, I often find that women will act wierd around guys they really like, trying to get their attention by being cute.
Just a thought. Remember, keep smiling, hold your head up and stay honest.
Hope I helped :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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you know what is so werid about your question is that my bf hates it when i act more mature then him and smarts it gets on his nerves and instead he likes it when i act immature but not completly stupid just like a regular 14 year old. anyways back to ur question what you should do is sit your girlfriend down and tell her how you feel nicely.. tell her how much you care about her and explain to her how she is acting. maybe she doenst know how she is acting. but what i think the problem is when she is around older people she thinks just because the youngest she can act like a brat and be less mature.. i hope my advice helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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okay well the age diff. is somthing you'll both hav to get use to & theres nothin better then just tlaking w. your girlfriend tellin her how you feel.. letting her kno she kind of acts immature at times mayb she doesnt kno she acts this way & if she's the riqht qirl & she truely loves you as you do her then she wont take it offensively as lonq as you break it too her easy by not hurting her feelings .. & if she qets it then she'll mature up .. buh keep in mind your age difference and remeber how you miqht hav acted or your friends when you quys were her age
if you hav any ?'s IM me on tempting 0 bayb--hope eveyrhtinq works out fine!
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I think that if you told her this and if you were honest with her that it would fix the problem. She might get a little upset, but you should be truthful to her. Just tell her straight up what you just said. It's not like you are being mean, but you just want to tell her the truth. I'm sure she will know you still love her no matter what. I also think that she just want's to "show off" infront of your friends. All girls do that, no matter what their age is.
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