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Desperate...of sleep
Okay hi,
I`m a 16 yr old female..
Alright this has all been taken care of but i don`t know what to do bout somethings..
here i`ll start with what has happened.. I got raped three times by the same guy over the summer..Yes i`ve tooken care of him and he`s doin 21 yrs thank god plus he admitted to it..
But i`m havin diffculties with sleeping,Yea i thought that shit only happened in movies where you feel he`s by you and what not but No its happenin to me.. I talk to my boyfriend about it and he tries to talk to me at night as long as possible but that doesn`t change how i feel after i get off the phone with him.. This might sound stupid but the only time i sleep good is with my boyfriend on weekends its like i use him to put me to sleep i mean Yes i`ve tried sleeping pills,reading and i`ve counted sheep and everything else there is to count.. i don`t know what to do i`m so tired in school and my grades are goin down horribly.. i seen a doctor to talk to about it but i don`t think that helped.. i mean this guy already took my trust and everything else away.. i mean he don`t need my sleep too.. so if you can give me advice in anything or how to deal with it better ill rate high and give advice..
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since you cant fall asleeep without your boyfriend try doing what i liek to do to. go to sleep on the phone with your boyfriend. just dont hang up the phoen all night. (yea i neo i am stupid for doin it but hey i get tired and so does he and cant help it..lol.) maybe you shoudl try seein a pysicatrist. mayb that can help you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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Hunny♥ this case sounds bad. You need to talk to your parents about the situation or another adult you truly trust. I know what you are feeling because I have been through this myself.
♥I know you said you have tried medicines and stuff, but you really need to try your own medicine. What I mean by this is at night find something that bores you and do it over and over again. Untill you are bored out of your wits tell yourself a story and continue with this story for several nights just like you were writing a book. I know that sounds odd, but for me it helps.
♥If that doesn't help try listening to music or have a friend spend the night with you a couple of times. I know you said your boyfriend stays with you on weekends, but that is a sin and I do not think that is right. Please don't think of that as offensive because I am only telling my belief's. You do not have to obide by that note.
♥Maybe you should sleep in your parents room. Not in the same bed, but make yourself a cot on the ground and sleep there. If this doesn't work have your parents talk to you until you are to drouzy to say a word.
♥I really hope this is what you are looking for. I do hope I helped!♥
♥Glam
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Okay, I know you think this is bullcrap, but you probably still feel scared about him being around, subconciously, you know? It's normal for rape victims in real life situations.
I'm surprised that the sleeping pills don't work. Were they prescription pills? The reason you probably sleep better with your boyfriend is because you feel safe and protected.
I'm very sorry about what happened. No one deserves to be violated like that. I personally think that guy should never be let out to rape more women.
I wish you good luck!
!~*becca*~!
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first off, im so sorry that happened to you, it must be tough. But please, the best thing you can do is try to put it in the past. try seeing a therapist for a while. the feeling probably wont fully go away for a while and there really isnt anything you can do except wait for time to pass. It's kind of like when you get a really bad cut on your foot, and you cant play soccer for 2 weeks! the time passes slowly and u can't wait to just play again ya know? it takes time but the feelings gonna subside i promise good luck and be safe
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Possibly the best thing to do would be to see a counsellor/therapist. There are therapists that specialize in abuse, and they are trained to be able to truly listen to you - as well as teach you techniques to help calm yourself down.
Therapists will work much more with your feelings than a doctor will, and it's your feelings about the rape that are stopping you from sleeping - your body hasn't magically stopped sleeping, it's all related to the attacks.
Speaking to a professional therapist can help you work through any feelings you have about the rape, your lack of sleep, etc. It's not an easy 'cure', but it's probably the best way to deal with your situation.
I wish you all the best.
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sorry to hear that. all you can really do is slowly but surely get that he is in jail, he's not roaming the streets & your bf must care for you a lot since he tries to talk to you. that's all you really need- people that care for you. it's over & done with though, so try not to keep going back & thinking about it over & over again. it's probably difficult for you, but you can't change it. the only thing that can really help you is people. you'll eventually be able to get back to sleep again & know that everythings okay now.
-hope that helped!♥
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