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this isn't really a big deal but im really nervous about it--
okay, so i go to a private school, and i have since 6th grade.(im in eighth now)And today we just got some serious news. Our school is also a church, and the church is moving to a different building next year. They pay for half of our school, and we're a poor school as it is, so we cant pay for it all on our own. So there's this school thats about 15 minutes away from my school, and its huge.Its really nice inside, and they have air conditioning (which we dont have) and its super nice there. But im so nervous because its a whole new school, new people, and im not so great at making friends. Im outgoing and hyper and stuff but my weakness is making friends, and im not really good friends with anyone in my class, so i really wanna make friends there. Im also scared that i'll get lost because its so big!please give me advice i rate all 5's! (link)
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♥ The beggining of this year I went to a new skool for a day. I quit because of other reasons. Going to a new skool is fun, but at the same time very nerve racking! You just need to ask your 1st hour teacher where you need to go to for your 2nd hour and you shouldn't have a problem finding it.
♥ Making friends isn't easy so don't be ashamed if thats your weakness. I do encourage you to boost your weakness although. First off find a gurl/guy who you think would be a good friend. You might want to observe them for a few days (NOT STOCKING) see what they are like and then go for the kill. Start talking to them and if you don't like them move on to another one and repeat the prosses.
♥ Last, don't be nervous. Calm yourself down and understand that you are just one of the many comming to this place. Just be calm, play kool, be yourself, and dress decent for the first day!
♥Glam
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I have a boyfriend who is really awesome. He is a year younger than me. His name is *Michael.* My freind always flirts with him and he flirts back. What should i do? (link)
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♥ Calmly talk to both of them and tell them how you feel. Ask them to stop. If you really like this boy and this girl is your best friend it should not be hard.
♥ Conversations starters- "Guys I have been feeling neglected","Your my boyfriend and your my best friend, but it seems like you two have more feelings for each other than me. Is this true?",or "Do you guys like each other?"
♥ Remember to stay calm and keep a relationship with both wether its a friendship with him or a real relationship with him.
♥Glam
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ok well I have been talking to myslef since I was about 6 or 7 and I seriously feel like I'm talking to someone else. I ask myself questions and then give myself an answer all out loud. When I think these I can't come to a solution, but when I talk to myself out loud I feel like another person is talking to me. I find myself looking in magazines and saying out loud and pointing as if I'm giving another person a visual "I'm her."(on that I also find myself choosing who I am in a movie show anything even books... what could that mean) And then I sit in my room and I act out diffent things talking to myself and then talking as if I'm another person and I can get so into it that I get angry or upset I can even cry example: (I have done this) i say "I love you so much" then "I don't know if this will last so let's not kid ourselves and continue with this" then my throat starts to close up and I get so into i say more and more and start feeling the emotions one would feel if this were actaully happening and then I just keep on talking to myself. Is this normal? If not what is it? I'm 13 (link)
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♥ It isn't normal to talk to yourself like that, but that is who you are and you shouldn't be ashamed. You should maybe talk to somebody about it and ask them if they do the same. DOn't worry to much about it unless you start to become paranoid or don't like talking to real people then see a mental doctor.
♥ Write notes to yourself at night and then in the morning get them out and read them. It is a proven fact that if you do this you will have a better social life. ANd it will eliminate craziness. Talk to people more often so that you can keep a social life.
♥ Just remember be you and love who you are. Don't be ashamed.
♥Glam
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have you ever had sex? does it hurt? (link)
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Well i haven't had sex and i don't think that is your buisness but i have heard it hurts the first time because your cherry pops
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ok well i have a pretty big crush on a girl at school. But there is a huge problem. Two other girls like me and i dont really like them and i dont want to say no to them cause they would freak out on me... I used to like one of the girls but now i dont and she still thinks i do. what should i do. i really dont wanna go out with them i want to go out with the girl a like. How should i begin to talk with her. (link)
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♥ Well I think you need to know that once you date a girl your feelings become stronger and stronger for them. Well you probably already know this, but I'm just revising.So the girl who likes you now and you don't like her feelings have been strong and now she wants you back. This girl you have to talk to and break it to her gently because you cared for her and you probably still do you just don't want her. You probably don't want her gettin hurt, but you also don't want her. I hope you understand what I am saying. The other girl don't mind her unless you have some sort of feelings for her wether they are liking feelings or friend feelings. If you somewat of like her tell her you really aren't interested. If you like her as a friend don't bother with it.
♥ As for the girl you like tell he how you feel. I know its a big step but if you tell her now she might become to grow towards you to. Just explain to her about the two other girls and tell her how you could care less about them. Tell her you want her. Most likely she will say the same. Once she does go for the kill. Ask her to do something with you. If she likes you back she will agree. From here on you are in charge. Treat her right and be good. Don't pressure her into anything and I can promise you that she will have feelings for you like she hasn't ever.
♥Glam
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i am a comlumnist here but there comes a time when i need advice. c i have been w/ this guy for 4 months now and he seem to b slipping. i dont know what to say to him. he seems to be holding back all the time. i need help. please, tell me what to do! (link)
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♥ I am in this kind of relationship as we speak so I am going to tell you what I have been trying to make it better and if it works or not.
♥ I have been holding his hand every chance I get hoping that he will understand that I have feelings for him. He holds back and so I think that is a good sign.
♥ I kiss him goodbye and hug him for hello. Signs of love are very good to a guy. He understands you care about him and you need him. A guy likes it when a girl takes charge of some things, but other things let him do it.
♥ Have him hold you and if he backs off he is not interested. You need to be more upfront with your relationship. If you tell him how you are feeling he might respond back with the same thing. If this happens ask him what you could do to make it better and tell him what he could to to make it better.
♥ Some guys break off from relationships because their skool work or just work as been keeping him busy. Ask him if thats the case and if it is plan a date on a day he is off. Don't make it a suprise because he might have plans and then once again your relationship is down.
♥ Ideas for a date-Dinner at your house, Movies, Lunch in the park, Going to the beach, Dinner at a nice restraunt, or Goint to the mall just to hang out.
♥ Over the weekend dates-Spend it in a boat house near a lake, Sking trip, Beach house, Go to a nice hotel nearby, or for a longer date maybe Jamaica. It's nice there
♥ I really hope I helped. Please Keep me updated!
♥Glam
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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=387836 (old question)
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Okay... I figured out why he hasn't tried contacting me. (It is by far the worst reason possible.) I finally found a number through directory assistance, called it, and a woman answered. I was so shocked. I made up some crap about how I was from the hotel he stayed in and he had left his hat (the one he had given to me) and asked her if she wanted us to ship it back. It was the correct number because she said she'd leave him the message and have him call me back. She even knew which hat I was talking about.
After that, I did some research on the internet with the number I found. I am 99% positive HE IS MARRIED and has TWO KIDS. He lied to me, told me he was single. He had told me when we were together that his ex-girlfriend (what he really meant was his wife) had written him a letter while he was in Iraq telling him basically "cya, can't take it anymore." So I think maybe the marriage is faltering/on shakey ground, especially since he is about to be deployed soon and is wondering if she will leave him again.
HOWEVER, I know this is no excuse to lie to me and does not give him a reason to cheat on her. I have NO SYMPATHY for him. I am so glad I found this little bit of info out now, instead of wasting my heart on him. And he told me he didn't have any secrets. (Hmph!)
But I am soooooo hurt. Especially since I broke up with my previous boyfriend because of all the lies he told. Now this. Believe me, it's going to be very very hard for me to ever trust a man again. I feel like such a fool.
I'm going to send the hat back. I'm so angry right now. Maybe I'll send it back in shreds. I feel like screaming in his face or telling his wife what a &%*#%*$ he is. I feel like crying but right now I'm too much in shock to do so. I'm so stupid, but I suppose this experience will make me a wiser and stronger person... or at least an old maid.
Why do guys lie? Will I ever find someone who is not going to lie to me? Even if I find the greatest man in the world, will I screw it up because I'll be paranoid that he is lying to me? How do I deal with all this heartbreak? (link)
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♥Well first off guys are just like that and you have to forget about that skeez. He is a jerk and you deserve better. Guys are lying perverted sons of a bitches!!! lol. If a guy makes you cry he is not worth your time.
♥Send the cap back and with it write a special little not in it. The note should contain
your feelings and every thought that you have felt while crying those pointless tears. Make sure to tell him that you weren't anything to him, but a small fling that wouldn't last in heavens words.
♥You have to stay strong by keeping things together and not crying as much. Make sure to find other fun and trustful guys to hang out. I know its hard to trust again but you have to. Make yourself enjoy one others company and soon it will come natural to you. I really hope I helped
♥Glam
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Okay hi,
I`m a 16 yr old female..
Alright this has all been taken care of but i don`t know what to do bout somethings..
here i`ll start with what has happened.. I got raped three times by the same guy over the summer..Yes i`ve tooken care of him and he`s doin 21 yrs thank god plus he admitted to it..
But i`m havin diffculties with sleeping,Yea i thought that shit only happened in movies where you feel he`s by you and what not but No its happenin to me.. I talk to my boyfriend about it and he tries to talk to me at night as long as possible but that doesn`t change how i feel after i get off the phone with him.. This might sound stupid but the only time i sleep good is with my boyfriend on weekends its like i use him to put me to sleep i mean Yes i`ve tried sleeping pills,reading and i`ve counted sheep and everything else there is to count.. i don`t know what to do i`m so tired in school and my grades are goin down horribly.. i seen a doctor to talk to about it but i don`t think that helped.. i mean this guy already took my trust and everything else away.. i mean he don`t need my sleep too.. so if you can give me advice in anything or how to deal with it better ill rate high and give advice.. (link)
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Hunny♥ this case sounds bad. You need to talk to your parents about the situation or another adult you truly trust. I know what you are feeling because I have been through this myself.
♥I know you said you have tried medicines and stuff, but you really need to try your own medicine. What I mean by this is at night find something that bores you and do it over and over again. Untill you are bored out of your wits tell yourself a story and continue with this story for several nights just like you were writing a book. I know that sounds odd, but for me it helps.
♥If that doesn't help try listening to music or have a friend spend the night with you a couple of times. I know you said your boyfriend stays with you on weekends, but that is a sin and I do not think that is right. Please don't think of that as offensive because I am only telling my belief's. You do not have to obide by that note.
♥Maybe you should sleep in your parents room. Not in the same bed, but make yourself a cot on the ground and sleep there. If this doesn't work have your parents talk to you until you are to drouzy to say a word.
♥I really hope this is what you are looking for. I do hope I helped!♥
♥Glam
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Ok, I like guy, guy likes me. I found out he liked me today from a friend of us both. He told her this exactly (at least from what I know) "I like (my name), but I am going to wait a while so I can make sure she is right." Omg, I like him so much, haha, anyways I was wondering when this would be...? (link)
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Well. First off if he likes you give him some time. Don't rush the situation. And like he said he will do it, but he wants to make sure you are the right girl.
Second, don't blow your chances. You have to keep your kool and do everything your doing now. Don't change anything because he likes you as you are now. If you change something he might think that you aren't the right girl. Don't mess up.
Thirdly...other guys are off limits. You can talk to them, but no hugs, hookups, or even guesture flirts. Guys see a girl as who she talks to and if she flirts a lot. You must stay clear of any other guys.
Last...be yourself. Make sure he knows the real you and surely he will ask you out.
♥Glam
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every time i go walking or sometihng i ALWAYS get sweaty, and my shirt under my arms gets wet. does any one know how to prevent that from happening... thanks i rate 5's (link)
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First, It's not unnormal so don't be ashamed.
Second, maybe you should try a new kind of deodorant. Suscibed deodorant is the best kind.
Third, don't flaunt it. I know that sounds weird, but we have girls who think it is funny and raise their pits to your face and make sure you see it. It's GROSS!
*Glam
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A few years back I tried those crest whitening strips. After a few tiresome weeks of having the crap on my teeth, I noticed some changes, all except for one tooth.
One of my teeth are capped. So I read the crest white strips box and it says "DOES NOT WHITEN CAPS." That's absolutely perfect. I have a very off colored tooth. As gross as it sounds it's actually kind of yellowish and I'm extremely embarassed about it.
I don't smile or anything becuase of it. I don't know what can all whiten caps or if brushing more with some whitening toothpaste will help at all. So to those of you with capped teeth, hopefully you can help. (link)
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First off I don't have capped teeth.
Second, go to a dentist and bleach your teeth. It cost some mula, but in the end it's worth it.
Third. To prevent people from seeing it, but aren't suspicous smile when people are a ways away and don't smile when they are close up.
*Glam
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Ok so like..Im really shy around guys. I have no clue why. I mean if Im with them for mor than like 30 minutes then Im KIND Of fine. It depends, Some days im not, some days I'am. Anyways, well there's this boy in my Algebra class (I DONT AND NEVER WILL..keep that in mind, k.) && well I barely know the dude and so therefore I'am shy. And the first day I was in his group, soo shy, and he said I was a bitch. BECAUSE, I was being shy && didnt know the RIGHT thing to say back to him...But im really not a bitch..Im soo freggin nice =( lol..So what can I do to not be shy?! ANYTHING..please..please...
I'll rate HIGH =) promise
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First off aproach your friends. Ask them to help you socialize. It's a proven fact that once you can socialize your grades will become better.
Second, if any of your friends have a party soon maybe you should go and enjoy yourself. Talk to the boys and girls. Another thought is to throw a party for you. Invite guys and girls.
Third, talk to the guy that told you this and ask him why he thought of you this way. Once you get his answer you should ask if shyness brings this to their mind. Maybe this guy said that and is just a jerk so maybe you should ignore him.
I know this may not be on your list of things to do, but if you have a boyfriend your social status sky rockets as long as your boy is a popular and hot guy. Boyfriend's are every girl's purse. You may not get that now, but once you have one you'll get it.
*Glam
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I am known for having like the best parties and whateva, but I have never had a sleepova. I mean like one with more than just cousins. I need serious help. I want to do it when I get out for the Christmas Break. Any ideas', I mean I know I want games, and Like I want my house to be like a sotre from favorite candy, to favorite drinks and food. Imma do it up now. So do I need a theme? What kind of things should I put up? Help Thanks (link)
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Well first off you need to know who you are going to invite. Pick a few of your closest friends. Make sure its ok with your parent or guardian before telling your friends about it. You need to tell your parent or guardian who it is that you want to invite so they can make sure it would be ok. Make sure that you don't invite two girls who hate each other.
Second you should ask around for a theme. Think about wat your friends will like. Say they all like animals...a safari hunt with you cats and dogs dressed like girrafes and elephants. I know those may seem imature but in the end it will be a ball of fun.
Third, find games that similar to your theme. Make sure to find drinks and snacks that match your theme. If its a scary theme make dirt cake. The worst mistake you can make is not to have enough drinks and food. Guest would not like that.
Fourth, have everyone bring a sleeping blanket or something else to sleep in. Maybe if you do something like a jungle theme tell a few girls to bring tents for outside sleeping.
Well I hope this is what you wanted. If you can't find good idea's look for a issue of American Girl magazine. They always have good ideas!!!
*Glam
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When do you usually have a grow spurt?
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5's for reasonable answers (link)
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Well since you are 13 your growth spurt should be comming.
Because of different hormones your's may not come till much later. Most of the time they come around puberty.
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ok so im 5 5....5 6 and im 124 pounds i think im overweight but alot of my friends say im skinny and some of my guy friends who mess round and pic me up say im light but when i look in the mirror i dont see skinny i see fat
am i fat or overweight/healthy (link)
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Well first off you should know that there is a disease when you think you are ugly, fat, too skinn,...etc. You should probably talk to your parents about this. They can help you! I know a girl you is the exact same and I see her as skinny ,but not to skinny. If you see yourself thinking that you are ugly and all the above see a doctor!
*Glam
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I love Seth Green and his acting, and just about every movie I saw with him in it I liked (such as Without a Paddle, Rat Race, all the Austin Powers movies, etc.), so I was wondering if anyone saw the movie "Can't Hardly Wait". I want to see it, and I'm wondering what all your opinions are about it. I also want to know if it's an appropiate movie, like does it show "anything"? I know it's rated PG-13, but I'm just wondering if it has anything really bad in it, and I dont want to waste my money on a stupid movie.
Thanks so much! I rate fives and give feedback! (link)
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I have to agree Seth Green is awsome! Well anyways yeah it's pretty good. There are two scenexs I remember the most of and one is a sex scene. But it isn't much to see so don't fret. There is a seen with a bud light beer in it and you will find that the most humorous!
*Glam
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I have a good guy friend, and we are good friends. I like him more than just a friend now and I think he may feel the same way. But i am not certain. Should i tell him how i feel or keep it to myself. And if i should tell him..how should i break it to him..like where..when..how..all those. thanks (link)
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If you are such good friends you should feel like its easy to talk to him. If you feel this go for it. Take him to a quite place and explain to him that you have feelings for him. You may say something like this to get the conversation started. "What would you think of you and I as a couple." Or "Do you have feelings for me?" Something like that. But you must know that when you start the conversation you must be confident and willing to bring up your feelings and expressions for him. if he likes you back you'll know as soon as you start the conversation.
*Glam
Hope everything works out.
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In the 5th grade, I called my friend a biotch because she was being one. The problem was I didn't really know what a biotch was. Then she told her mom and her mom got mad. Now I am going tricker treating with her tonite and she said that her mom was not mad at me anymore. But I am still nervous! What do I do? Should I tell her mom it was all a mistake or should I wait for her mom to bring it up?if she does talk about it, what do I say??? please help me~!!!
i will give a 5 to anyone who trys to answer this 1!!
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Well if you feel conforatble you should bring it up first and explain to her you did not know wat it meant. Your friends mom will see something in you and next time something should happen she will trust that wat you say is true.
If it's to hard to bring up then maybe you should talk to your friend and have her explain it to her mom. And then casually ask the mother if your friend had talked you her about it. If she did the mother will probably start the conversation
*Glam
Hope I helped
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I have this friend and she is so gorgeous. So many guys like her and she is always talking about how they stare at her and how so many people call her beautiful. I try to be nice, but i can't help it, i am so jealus of her. Sometimes i'll be really mean to her but i dont mean to be and i feel so bad. She's really nice to me, but but whenever i bring up a topic about myself, she'll change the subject and talk about a guy liking her. Is there any way i can stop being jealus of her and get her to listen to me? thanks in advance. (link)
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Well your friend is obviously looking for attention. Some people do this because they do not get a lot of attention from their parents. Maybe you should observe the way her parents treat her. After that come up with a logical speach and practice it. THen give the speach to her and tell her how you really feel. If this does not stop tell her that you can't be friends.
*Glam
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How come my best friends boyfriend flirts with me all the time?
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maybe he likes you. But you should talk to him and explain to him that you respect your friend and he should stop
*Glam
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