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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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I have played basketball all my life... it has become an every day thing for me ... every day i practice 4 to 6 hours a day... This year for some reason Im confused about wanting to play or not...I played this summer with our towns varsity and want it to stay that way, but if i end up of JV i will be really depressed like last year should i still play even if it means being on JV?

well if you just love to play then it shouldnt matter whether you are on varsity or not. but the choice is up to you. if you dont feel like playing anymore then dont, but if you really want to then play. no one can make this choice for you, you have to.

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I have this guy that I liked about 2 years ago and he found out about it. Now, I don't like him like that (AT ALL!!!) How do I let him down easy, because I just broke up with a long time boyfriend and I know that he's about to ask me out. He got mad and said REALLY loud how I told him that I liked him when I mentioned that I didn't like anyone at the moment. THANKS!

just simply tell him that you are no longer interested, that that was a long time ago, and you just dont feel that way anymore. if he doesnt understand that then oh well. you were ncie and said what you had to say.

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I have a long time friend who has turned.....slutty. She doesn't think anything that she is doing is wrong at all. How do I get her back to well.....her? What do I say or do?

tell her that she needs to chill out and you want her to cuz you care for her. tell her she could end up pregnant or get an std or hiv/aids.

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What's a good way to lose weight on the tops of your legs? I've tried the running thing and it doesn't seem to work well. Bicycle? Walking? what?

running does work. you just have to stick with it. bicycling is a good way too, but just like running you have to stick with it. these changes dont happen over night.

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Why is sex such a big thing now? I mean young people are even doing this, I just don't get it. What happened to waiting until marriage?

okay. i dont believe in waiting til marriage. but i do believe in having morals and respect for yourself, and not just gving yourself away. these young kids are all a bunch of horny fast asses and think that having sex is cool. they probably dont even know what the hell real sex is.

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I just broke up with a longtime boyfriend. He didn't seem to care at all. How do I deal? What do I do to keep my mind from straying his way?

concentrate on yourself. take yourself out shopping. pamper yorself, like go get a manicure and a pedicure or give yourself one. relax in the tub wiht some smell good and stuff. spend some time with you to just be good to yourself. the healing process take a while, but trust me, you will get over him and hopefully find someone new and better.

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It seems like hoops are going out of style, am I right?

no way! hoops could never go out of style. but they are making like alot of chandeleer earrings and earrings in bright ass colors ans stuff like that.

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on the song milkshake what does milkshake mean?

i think she is talking about how she is in bed, or maybe its hoe she dances... beats the hell out of me

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what r soem good truth or dares that i can play w. guys.. n girls!!??

dare someone to moon your neighbors, or make out with a dog

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question for everybody that asks questions on advicenators: How come you dont rate somebody after they answer your questions? it doesnt take a lot of effort and its a quick little thank you for their response. It helps the advice giver to understand how well they answer certain questions. I think everybody should rate out of pure politeness...Just curious as to why most people dont..??

i agree. but everyone doesnt have pure poilteness, i guess.

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Is it considered "dorky" to roll jeans that are a little short into capris? or should I just cut them? Thanks

do what you feel confortable doing. it shouldnt matter what other people consider "dorky".

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tomorrow I want to bake bread! I used to do it all the time when I was small and we did it last week at camp. However, I can't exactly remember how much to put in it of each particular ingredient. I know it needs flour, yeast, sugar, salt, crisco and milk. Any help would be appreciated.

just follow the directions of a recipe. look up on a serach engine like google.com and type in bread recipes, and find a yummy bread that you will like.

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Hey Caity...I went to party and I started talking to this guy Ryan at the time he seemed really cool so I gave him my number so we could keep in touch,we started dating and I got pregnet I told him and he told me he wasnt ready to be a father and i wasnt gonna keep it I felt really scared and i didnt know how to tell mt parents and what they`d think of me...Im 3 weeks pregnet now and Im only 16 I know i shouldnt keep it but apart of me tells me I should!Ryan still doesnt want me to keep it and he told me that he loved me and that he wouldnt let anything bad ever happen to me But if he loved me he would help me through this.What should I do? -Kayla

Okay well 1st of all it is not HIS choice. you are the one living with a human being living inside of you NOT HIM. i am 17, i'll be 18 in a couple of months, and i am % months pregnant. when i told my boy friend, he understood, and told me it was my choice. but honestly i dont think any man could live with getting rid of his 1st child, or any of his children for that matter, just like how a woman can never live with the fact that she had an abortion. we are talking about a living person here. in 3 weeks, a baby has a brain and heart. this person is already beginning its process of life. it has plans. how are you just gonna take that away? would you like it if someone did that to you? just basically TERMINATED your life? thats selfish. yeah its a tough situation, but hey thats life. no one said it was easy. its not like you didnt know what you were doing. but it is YOUR choice. if your bf really loves you, he will respect your decision if you decide to keep it or not. and if you do keep it he should help you. and if he doesnt, then you will just have to take things into the hands of a judge,and get some child support. no matter what he has to help you if you keep it. Good Luck! :)

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hey can anyone help me? i just gave myself an abortion yesterday with a close hanger and im really sore. can anyone help? like medicine wise, or will sex help the pain?

a clothes hanger? are you serious? where the fuck do you get off thinking that you are medically qualified to something like that to yourself? you fuckin dumbass! are you crazy? no there is nothing yuo can take to get rid of the pain. GO TO THE FUCKIN HOSPITAL. THE EMERGENCY ROOM. RIGHT THE FUCK AWAY. you have seriously hurt yourself. you can an infection from that shit, parts of the baby or amino sac can still be inside of you and you can fuckin die! i bet you didnt know that shit though, huh? you are fuckin stupid. i cant believe you would even ask something like that and think you would get a normal and sincere responce. go fuckin get help.

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What are the bases? Like I know what a home run it but like the rest of them, what are they?

Think of it this way: the 4 Fs'; french, feel, finger, fuck

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Please, if you have an answer, help me. Especially guys, they might understand:

The thing is, I have this guy cousin who is 15 and I was hanging out with him 2 months ago, and he really has gotten quite groovy looking since the last time I saw him. Infact, he is absolutely gorgeous. ANd he is the funniest guy I know, and amazingly fun to be around. And I love him as part of my family, but when I went to visit him in London, I realised that I think I have feelings for him. But I don't think he has any for me...then again, I don't understand how guys are...but he talks about sex with me all the time, and I have seen him pretty unclothed...and he was comfortable with that. But I don't know...is it wrong that I like him, and is it unusual? And how would I know if he likes me or not?

okay there is nothing wrong with thinking your cousin is cute. and he probably wasnt uncomfortable being getting undressed in front of you because you guys are family. also, you probably dont have feelings for him. you just think you do because he is probably the only guy or one of the only guys you have really been hanging around lately, and he is a really cool person to you. but trust me you realyl dont like your cousin like that. that wouldbe wrong and you know it. like i said there is nothing wrong with thinking he a great guy or cute, but dont go making any moves on him because that is where is becomes wrong.

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how do you keep your clothes from shrinking.. like jeans and shirts!! please help

dont put them in the dryer, hang them on hangers and let them dry. or dry clean them.

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I do gymnastics and there is this really mean and stupid girl there,I hate her.My friends at gymnastics always hang out with her, but what they dont know is that this girl always talks about them really bad behind there backs. I try to tell them but they just say I am being a *icth and that I just want them to hang out with me and with no one else.This girl is starting to get on my nerves and ruin a great friendship. Sombody pppllleeeaaaaasssseeee help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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dont stress over your firneds hanging out with this girl. if you now she is bad news and you told them and they dont wanna believe you, then hey thats on them. you already did your job and warned them. when they are up your ass complaining to you about how much of a bitch they realized she really is, you can be there to say i told you so.

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Okay my friend (well call him -IB-) asked me out in May and i told our friend (well call her -AN-) and she didnt believe me so she asked him if we were and I had forgotten about it until yesterday and i asked her what he said and she said that -IB- said that he did not know that we were and shes like "but he said also that he was messed up today so maybe u r" he is grounded and he has been so whenever he calls me he has to sneak it like when his parents are gone...I start school tomorrow and I dont know how i am going to find out before school starts but i can live with that part i just want to know how i can find out if we are going out or not and i dont know how or what i am going to say to him to find out what or if i should have someone else do it or what i really need help so please help me
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PLEASE HELP ASAP
-Moderators do not delete this i really need help

okay well 1st of all dont go sending your friend to ask him questions. guys hate that shit. do it yourself. just simply ask him "where do we stand?" and find out if you guys are together or not. if he cant give you a straight answer, chances are he is playing with your mind, and you dont deserve that, so just drop him.

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Ok, well i have this friend who always tells rumers about me! i hate it and i always tell her how i feel, but everytime i tell her she goes and tells another rumer! what should i do?! help me please!
signed.
Losing a friend?

well 1st of all she is NOT your friend, if she is telling rumors about you. since you said you already talked to her about it and she just continues to be a bitch and talk about you, all i can say is that you have to stop hanging around her and just ignore what she has to say. your real friends wont believe her if they are your real friends so it doesnt matter what she has to say. she is probably just jealous of you. but if things get out of control punch her the fuckin head and tell her to shut the fuck up.

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