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Hey Caity...I went to party and I started talking to this guy Ryan at the time he seemed really cool so I gave him my number so we could keep in touch,we started dating and I got pregnet I told him and he told me he wasnt ready to be a father and i wasnt gonna keep it I felt really scared and i didnt know how to tell mt parents and what they`d think of me...Im 3 weeks pregnet now and Im only 16 I know i shouldnt keep it but apart of me tells me I should!Ryan still doesnt want me to keep it and he told me that he loved me and that he wouldnt let anything bad ever happen to me But if he loved me he would help me through this.What should I do? -Kayla
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my sister was pregnat at tha same age...nd she nd tha baby daddy wasnt ready for a baby...its a lot of work... i mean a lot... buh im sure that ryan is gonna be wit yu thro this.. nd once yu have tha baby he`z gonna love it nd wanna be a part of its lyfe... he jus prolly is scurrd... no teen wants to loose tha partying years nd everything ya kno...if he reallii loves yu he will stick by yu- haley
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well if he relly loves you he should let you keep the baby and bee there for you so just talk to him ...
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Tell your parents. They should know. Even though you absolutley don't want to tell them you have to. The abortion is up to you. Think about it, the giving birth part ( which isn't very fun ) But you can get a c-section.But killing a kid that hasn't even been born yuet. No one can really tell you what to do. This is one of those situations where you have to make it by yourself. I know I didn't help but I hope I made you feel better! <3
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ok.. first thing... you need to tell your parents that you are pregnet... Cause a couple of months ago my sister had a baby and she hadn't told anyone except her boyfriend that she might be pregnet... and she ended up havin the baby in our house... and she really put her life in danger and her baby's life... you really should tell your parents cause they we're kids once too... they might understnad... and if they don't oh well... they will eventually just except it... they can't change anything... cause what's done has been done... you can't change that, even if you do abort the baby... cause you will always feel guilty and sick of your self cause you killed a human being!... don't kill the baby... even if you don't want it... you can always have the baby then put it up for adoption... cause there are ppl out there that want kids but can't have thier own... there is someone out there that wants your baby... even if it's not you...
And now the boyfriend thing... If he wants you to get an abortion then i really don't think that he loves you like he says... if he loved you he would back you up 100%, no matter what!... it doesn't really matter if he's not ready to be a father... cause it's because of him (and you)that there is a babyinside of you... and he's gonna have to get some responseability and take care of your child... cause it's his child too...
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you really need to talk to him.
and tell him that it doesnt matter if hes ready or not. but thats your baby and you need someone to help you. he should of thought about the what could happen / and learn to deal with it. - hope i helped - rate me please - <3 Nicicole
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Okay well 1st of all it is not HIS choice. you are the one living with a human being living inside of you NOT HIM. i am 17, i'll be 18 in a couple of months, and i am % months pregnant. when i told my boy friend, he understood, and told me it was my choice. but honestly i dont think any man could live with getting rid of his 1st child, or any of his children for that matter, just like how a woman can never live with the fact that she had an abortion. we are talking about a living person here. in 3 weeks, a baby has a brain and heart. this person is already beginning its process of life. it has plans. how are you just gonna take that away? would you like it if someone did that to you? just basically TERMINATED your life? thats selfish. yeah its a tough situation, but hey thats life. no one said it was easy. its not like you didnt know what you were doing. but it is YOUR choice. if your bf really loves you, he will respect your decision if you decide to keep it or not. and if you do keep it he should help you. and if he doesnt, then you will just have to take things into the hands of a judge,and get some child support. no matter what he has to help you if you keep it. Good Luck! :)
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this is your decision, for you to either have the baby or to have an abortion. im against abortion. things can go wrong, and in some cases, women who've had abortions regret having one. i think you should do what you believe would be right. i also think that you should tell your parents now, so that itd be easier for to have an abortion if they think that that is right for you.
as for ryan.. if he really loved you, yes, hed help you through all of this. i know youre probably stressing, and it isnt right for him to not be by your side. i cant say that he doesnt love you though, because when a guy gets a girl pregnant, some of them start to freak out and not know how to react. have a talk with him.. and try to work things out
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ok first i dont think he loves you i mean if he did he would take this responsibilty and take care of this baby i think you should keep it i mean i am totaly against abortion and this was yourmistake but do what you wnat dont let him tell you what to do!!i hope i helped you
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WHATEVER U DO, DO NOT GET AN ABORTION!!!! u need to tell ur parents really soon cuz they're gonna find out somehow and it'll be harder to talk to them about it. if ur parents are willin to help u support the child after its born, then keep it!! even if this Ryan guy doesnt wanna help u out wit the baby, and if thats the case then dump his ass....if ur parents dont wanna support the baby after its born then give it up for adoption. alot of couples out there are waitin to adopt a baby and u would bring them lots of joy. whatever u choose, just please dont get an abortion!! and remember that Christ is always wit u
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First off im totally against getting rid of the baby and everythign cause i dont think that killing another form of life is right...Second i think that Ryan needs to step up and be a man hes the one that got you pregant and everything and sooner or later hes going to have to see the child and everything so he needs to be there if he honestly loves you...Third your going to have to tell the rents sooner or later you cant just hide behind baggy clothes because they are going to notice if you have to tell you mom first or something but your going to have to tell them that it has happend you never know they might take it better then you think...I hope that everything goes well...If you need to talk more IM me Untouched926...
-Cassi-
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Well, I'm not Caity, but I'll still tRy to help ya! So yes, that IS coRRect, if he "loved" you.. he would help you with this baby. OR moRe appRopRiately.. if he was a MAN.. he'd help you with this baby!!! I'd also spRing to say that if he "loved" you, he wouldn't have slept with you. I mean, if he claims to "love" you, then that means he has all intentions of being with you as long as possible, thus meaning.. theRe shouldn't be any Rush to sleep with you, since you two will always have each otheR. And he had the neRve to say that HE'S not Ready to be a FatheR??? K, that may be ENTIRELY TRUE, and completely undeRstandable that at age 16... no one is Ready to be paRents at 16... but he should put you and that unboRn child befoRe himself. He may NOT be Ready to be a FatheR, but if he's Ready to have sex then he needs to be fully awaRe of the Risks involved, and be pRepaRed to handle the woRst situation, should it occuR! I Really can't tell you if you should keep this baby oR not.. I have no idea wheRe you'Re at in life, finacially, education-wise, matuRity level... I don't know enough about the situation to help you out theRe. HoweveR, you DO need to conceRn youRself with an education. If you DO keep this baby.. how do you intend to finish school? Will you be able to supply a Roof oveR this baby's head? Will this baby actually HAVE a FatheR? TheRe's a lot to be consideRed, but I do wish you the best!! Take caRe!! =D
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Tell him how you feel and that you really need his help, maybe if you write your parents a note instead of telling them straight up maybe they will take it easier. Since he helped you make the kid, he should help you work through it. Don't lose the kid. Even putting it up for adoption would be best. I mean if you just think it's just like you, It has a heart beat, don't harm it. But tell the father of your baby that you need his help and no matter what he has to pay child support or that will kick him in jail if he doesn't. The best thing to do is sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Hope that helps!~! Good Luck! CaitLynn
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