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im IN LOVE with a guy and i realli want him to like me to but he doesnt seem to care about me the way i care about him even tho he says i love u and stuff i mean i cant take it i have loved him for 2 yrs he liked me b4 but we never told eachother and i neeeeeeed him i love him soo much i cry at nite for him and everything but i dont think he gets it and im too shy to talk to him ....wut can i do?

Try writting him a letter about how you feel just say something like "I was too shy to tell you this, so thats why I'm writting you instead, I don't know how you feel about me, but I have feelings for you and I have for 2 years now, and I just want to know how you feel about me." Just say something like that and how you feel about him. If you want you can tell him how much you love him and stuff. Just tell him how you feel and ask him anything you want to know! Good luck!! If you need help writting it, just leave a message in my inbox or something.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok, I talked to the guy online. Ive hade two coincidences where he seemed to like me. I was sitting there like "Everyone at school hates me..." And then he came up with "Well..I dont hate you." SO you know I was like frozen. So then later I was talking to him on AIM. I said my stepsister was like "Oh, now that I have my own friends, I wont hang out with you. I dont need you." He was like. "Oh.." And I was like "Yea." So then hes like "Well you can hang out with me." Is it just me or does he like me? You kinda have to know him to know the way he said it and they way he is. But, from what you know, what do u think?

I think he likes you. But he could also just trying to be your friend. But! You'll never know unless you find out. If you like the boy, then ask him if he likes you too, just be like "You're so sweet to me and I love that about you and I've began to develop feelings for you and I just want to know how you feel about me?" Just say something like that. Hope that helps and good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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My boyfriend, we'll call him *Bob*, and i always fight...like seriously, we can't get through a day with out fighting about something. but i love him with all my heart...and couldn't break up with him even if i tried...but what should i do? i can't handle all the argueing?

Well, sometimes relationships hit a bumpy road and you have to work through it by talking. Even marriages has fights and they get through it by fighting. Look at how your parents get through it. Try talking to your boyfriend about the arguing and just be like "I dont want to argue anymore because I'm just getting really sick of it and I'm so afraid I'll lose you because I love you with all my heart" Just tell him how you feel. Next time you argue, you should be the calm one and not blow up and try talking it through very calmly. Because sometimes when you blow up at him, it'll make things worse. So, be calm and just sit him down and just be like "We need to talk this through instead of yelling at each other" Hope this helps and good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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Hi, my names liza im 14... i have this guy lets call him *Dave* and we were goin out for like 16 months, and then yesterday he calls me sayin "yeah liez i have a gurl her name is kelly and laughs and says i know its gonna piss you off, oh well bye" and i cryed for hours, im still crying right now. i know it was stupid and i dont know what love is... but i really did i was seriously in love with this boy and i cut my like my whole arm up, and did a bunch of stupid things. i really dont know what to do anymore with my life i dont wanna live, i wish i was dead. does anyone have any ideas for me to get him backk or something cause i REALLY wanna get him back... and i dont know how to. s0o pleaseeeeee pretty please someone anyone please help!!!!! :( ill rate you, just please help me... xo liza

Hey Liza! I know you want him back, but that was the meanest thing you could ever do in a break up, he laughed at you. And thats not right. I've been through a bad break up, a pretty BAD one, and it was nothing like that. Thats probably the worst one. And you could do so much better than that. You're only 14, you have a lot to live for. I know sometimes when you're young, you can fall in love early, but that's just not love, thats just hurting the other person. You're cutting yourself for him and what is he doing, he's hurting you more and more. And you don't deserve that! No one does! But, you do want to live, its just a breakup and I know a pretty bad breakup, but you have a lot to live for and to discover and try new things with. NEW THINGS like new guys. Go out and have fun! There are tons of guys out there and I know you're just going to say but he's the only guy. No, just go put yourself out there for other guys. And show him you're not hurting that you're moving on, just like he did to you. You'll be okay. And please don't cut yourself, if you feel like you want to, put a rubberband around your wrist and snap it everytime you feel like you want to cut. If you still want to talk about this, just leave a message in my inbox, I'll be glad to help you out and get you through this. And you'll be okay hun!!

xoxo Kourtney

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im 14 years Old nd i was never kissed or never had a bOy .. my friends say im pretty nd everythin but yeah i dont feel like that ..y ?


o nd hOw can i nOt b shy rOund them its soo hard fo me ??????PLEASE HELp !

You're just 14, its okay!! You're just waiting for that special someone to kiss. And when that guy comes, you guys will kiss. I didn't kiss right away either. I waited for the guy I wanted to kiss. And I know a girl who is so gorgeous and she's never had a boyfriend and has never kissed. She's just like that for some reason. And, you seem like that too. You're just waiting for that special someone to come around. And, yea I understand how you get shy around guys, heck a lot of people do! So don't worry about that one. If you DO like one of the guys and you're talking to them or around them, just pretend like he's just a friend, because in front of your friends you can act like yourself. And you ALWAYS have to be yourself no matter what, because you don't want a guy to fall for someone you're not. Hope this helps, if not just leave a message in my inbox and I'll still try to help you =D

xoxo Kourtney

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If your bf or gf got you a limo for a surprise for like 3 months of going out and it was a boxy kind of limo.. would you care?

LOL I'm blonde, a boxy kind of limo? Does that mean a crappy limo? IDK help me out here. SORRY! But, I don't think it really matters what kind of limo it is, atleast they were thinking of you and was trying to surprise you. Its the thought that counts, right? Your b/f or g/f must care a lot about you if they're getting a limo for you and its only 3 months. I think its cute, but if I didn't answer this too well, since I'm blonde I don't really understand the question lol, just post back again

xoxo Kourtney

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hey, i went out with this girl for all of my freshman year, and last year we broke up, and ive dated other people since then, but now things are heating back up with my ex, and i need to know the difference between her just trying to be nice, and flirting with me again....any help?

Hey! I think you should try talking to your ex girlfriend. Just be like "I know I've dated other girls after me and you broke up, but I'm beginning to develop feelings for you again and I just want to know how you feel about me" Just say something like that, because that'll get your answer out of her. And just tell her how you feel about her and stuff. Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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My boyfriend has smoked cigarettes and gotten drunk just a few times. I hate it SO much! He's only 15 almost 16 years old, why in the hell does he need to smoke? It makes me mad but his friends tell me to get his nipple out of my mouth (referring that I'm a baby) and that he is old enough to do what he wants and its not bad... I'm just looking out for the love of my life! Do you really think I'm acting like an overprotective mom?

NOOO!! Don't think that! I had the same problem, but they have to learn on there own. And if this boy really loves you, then he'll stick up for you when his friends say that about you. But, you also have to understand once he's addicted to drinking and smoking, its kind of hard to get unaddicted. But, try talking to him, so he can try to stop. Just be like "I'm not trying to be your mom or anything, but I really want you to stop doing drugs and drinking so much, you can get in a lot of trouble if you get caught (like probation) and I don't want that to happen to you because I love you way too much" Just say something like that and how you feel about him doing that. And just keep telling him that too, because it'll take him awhile to stop! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey you guys, can you hel;p me? I'm looking for a good website with cute girly clothes that don't cost a lot, almost like a cheap delias.....do you guys have any favoirite websites?

Hey!! I LOVE CLOTHES! lol Try:

www.forever21.com
www.alloy.com
www.kolhs.com
www.pacsun.com
www.wetseal.com

**Thats all I can think of right now** Have fun shopping =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i have known johnathan since the 3rd grade and he jus asked me out. I walked by and his friends were laughin cuz he said, I have butterflys in my arm. Then Adam (friend) said its supposed to be ur stomach. Adam said dude do u want me to ask her? Johnathan said, yea plz. then adam said will u go out wit him? I said, I said no, im sry but, we are just really good friends. every since then he hasnt talked to me. do u think hes mad? Iam a female and I am 18.

Yea, I think he's just more embarrassed than anything because he did get turned down in front of his friends and his friends were making fun of him. You can always try talking to him and saying "You are just more than a friend to me and nothing more, I'm sorry. I'm also sorry if I embarrassed you. I still want to be friends though" Just say something like that. Good luck!! Hope this helped!

xoxo Kourtney

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okay so i was really really close friend with my x we'll call him t.j so i was really close to tj b4 we went out then one day he asked me out and of course i said yes! and we went out for like 3 weeks (not that long) but i was then end of the school year and i didn't want a bf over the summer so i broke up with him. but now when i look back i really miss all the things he used to say and do for me! i really miss him alot now!! and i want him back! but everytime i try to call him the line is always busy cuz his sis talks alot on the phone! so wut do i do?

Yea, you never know what you have til its gone huh? Boys cause trouble I swear haha. If you know where he lives, you should try going over there and talking to him and saying what you just told us. (but leave the friends part out lol) Just say "When I broke up with you it was because I didnt want a boyfriend, but when I lost you, I didn't realize I would miss you that much and I still like you and I just want to know if you would ever go back out with me?" Just say something like that and how you feel about him and stuff like that. As for your friends, they are you friends, so they shouldn't be going out with your ex boyfriend or anything! But, since they're your friends, you should tell them "Yea, I still like my ex boyfriend and I'm going to try to hook up with him again" Say something like that. Hope this helps and tell me how it goes! =D Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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Okay, ONLINE, I've been talking to this guy for at least 2 years. He is the sweetest, greatest guy. But I ONLY have talked to him online, and the phone. And believe me, he's no 50 year old man.:P Well, for like the first year I talked to him, I liked him so much. I even got jealous if he talked to another girl. And, turns out, he liked me too. Just..both of us never said anything. Which totally sucks, because things could've been so differet! :( But, my problem is that I still like him. I love him, hell. I do..but I think he's over me. In his mind we're still just really best friends, but I want to be more. If I tell him, he'll probably be freaked out..cause, well, he prob. thinks I'm over him, too. But..noo..=/

Having a long distance relationship is hard and you two haven't seen each other and its been 2 years! But, you love him, so I'll try to help you out! =D When you're on the phone just be like "I'm not trying to freak you out or anything, don't get me wrong I love being friends with you and we always will be, but I still like you" Just say something like that and say "And I was just wondering if you still liked me too." Just something short and sweet and how you feel about him. But, if he doesn't like you, then you guys can still remain friends! Good luck hun!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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My best friend that is a boy likes me, we have been really close for like 2 years now. And hes obcessed and even tells my boyfriend how lucky that my boyfriend is that he has me, is there anyway i can get him to lay off a bit without hurting his feelings? Cuz hes always there for me and idont wanna loose him as a best friend, but i dont want him as more than that..

Just be like "You know I have a boyfriend that I really like and you're just my best friend who is always there for, you're only my best friend and always will be JUST my best friend." Just say something like that. And just tell him you like your boyfriend and ONLY your boyfriend. Hope that helps!! Good luck =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I really like this one guy aand I know he likes me. How do I tell him how I feel? Should I wait untill he makes the first move because that is what I think I should do. Im to afraid to tell him myself

I think you should tell the boy how you feel about him. It has been awhile and you do know he likes you, so what could be so bad about it? Just be like "I don't know if you know this already, but I DO like you and I just wanted to know if there are any chances of me and you hooking up." Just say something like that. Short and simple that he DOES know you like him! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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everytime I get a bf my friends think he's too ugly and that I need better, but it hurts him whenever i tell him what my friends think about him and makes me feel bad. I know how he feels because they dont know what hes like. I told them to stop but they keep at it. and my bf dosnt feel like doing any thing when im around bc of what my friends say. how do I get them to stop???? for me and him

Thats mean that you're friends are doing that. It doesn't matter what anyone looks like. As long as he treats you well and you like him! Next time they say that tell them "Why do you guys have to make fun of him? I LIKE HIM! I don't care if you guys think he's ugly or if you think he's hot, I like him for him. And if you guys were my friends, you wouldn't say anything. So, please just stop" Just tell them how you feel! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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my best friend is a guy and we've gone out twice but i've been talking to him alot and i'm starting to like him again but after we broke up last time i told my self we would just be friends but i don't know now. what should i do should i tell him try to forget about it or what

Its okay to like someone over and over again. You don't have control over it. But, if you like him, go for it! Since he is your best friend, it should be pretty easy telling him. Just tell him "I know we've gone out before but I'm developing feelings for you again and I just want to know would you ever go back out with me again?" Just say something like that. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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i don`t kno if it`sz healthy that i`m 12 nd my bra cup size isz a 36B..isz that bad ??

Its not bad to be a B cup. Every girl grows differently. So don't worry about it. =D

xoxo Kourtney

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How cAn I ge my boyfriend totalk to me???
all he dose is egnore me and Its like everytime I go to talk about him around his friends he gets red in the face andsays he dosn't know me.
What should I do??????

Geez, this boy is really shy huh? Do you guys talk on the phone? If you do just be like "When I talk to you in front your friends, why do you get all embarrassed and act like you don't know me?" And just find out why he doesn't talk to you. Find out anything you want to know and ask him anything you want to ask.

But if he continues not to talk to you, I think you should break things with him because I mean you two don't talk and he acts like he doesn't know you (that is if he doesn't fix that problem). Because there are plenty of guys out there who will talk to you in front of anyone, even there friends!

Hope this helps! Good luck talking to him!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey okay well mai boyfriend constantly sends me these pics of these celebrities practically porn pics sometymes and it bothers me and hes lyke oh yeah shes hott and shes hott and sumtymes makes jokes about'em which I think arnt that funny esp when it deals with something sexual ... i meen i knoe he doesnt have a chance w/'em er n e thing but it styll bothers me... when he did it tha 1st tyme i thought he was gonna stop then i realized that hes not stopping! should i act pissed a bit jus ta make him knoe that thats not ryte or should i jus let it happen...cuz it wont matter he doesnt have a chance and thats how he is...??

Hey! Geez, boys do dumb things lol. Try talking to him, the next time he does it be like "Why do you always do that, why do you have to show me these pictures?" And tell him it bothers you and you don't like it all. And tell him how would he like it if you did that to him (but guy pictures lol) and see what he says. And he'll get disgusted because it'll be guys and just be like yea, thats how I feel when you show me those pictures. Just tell you don't like it all and for him to stop. Hope this helps! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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major problem! my best friend(3 years) hates my boyfriend(2 years)it just happend she just started hating him...he thinks she has to much drama in her life..and she hates how he has an attitude...she gets mad that he doesnt let me go 2 partys with her..but i mean i dont blame him what should i do i can so tell shes really starting to hate him shes always talking about him to me like that makes me feel really bad

Try sitting her down and asking her why she doesn't like your boyfriend and say "You're my best friend and always will be and I want you to like my boyfriend, he's really sweet because I really like him and I mean would you want your boyfriend going to partys too? We can still hang out just as much, we're best friends." Just tell her how you feel about this situation and ask her why she hates your boyfriend. As for your boyfriend, if he does give her an attitude try talking to him about it and saying "You're my boyfriend and she's my best friend, if you want her to like you, you need to stop giving her an attitude because I dont like it and she doesn't either" (that is if he is giving her an attitude) Just tell her how you feel. Good luck. Just ask if you still need help =D

xoxo Kourtney

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