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My boyfriend has smoked cigarettes and gotten drunk just a few times. I hate it SO much! He's only 15 almost 16 years old, why in the hell does he need to smoke? It makes me mad but his friends tell me to get his nipple out of my mouth (referring that I'm a baby) and that he is old enough to do what he wants and its not bad... I'm just looking out for the love of my life! Do you really think I'm acting like an overprotective mom?
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why dont u just ask him why does he some bcuz its only natural-ubein his gf- and caring about him..to well care
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Tell him that it bothers you, and you dont like it. But let him do what he wants.. its his life
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NO!! not at all! you need to talk to your boyfriend and not listen to what his gay friends think.. tell him that your just looking out for him and you don't want to be a overprotective mom your just trying to make it right for him so he doesn't get hurt.. if he doesn't listen to you and your really turned off by it maybe you should tell him he needs to pick.. smoking or you and hopefully his choice will be you. if he picsk smoking hes just not the right guy!
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you are just trying to look out for him and that is fine, I think you are acting like a good friend trying to help not only a friend, but your love, and i think that is the most mature thing, and the most brave thing a person can do
Lizzy
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NOOO!! Don't think that! I had the same problem, but they have to learn on there own. And if this boy really loves you, then he'll stick up for you when his friends say that about you. But, you also have to understand once he's addicted to drinking and smoking, its kind of hard to get unaddicted. But, try talking to him, so he can try to stop. Just be like "I'm not trying to be your mom or anything, but I really want you to stop doing drugs and drinking so much, you can get in a lot of trouble if you get caught (like probation) and I don't want that to happen to you because I love you way too much" Just say something like that and how you feel about him doing that. And just keep telling him that too, because it'll take him awhile to stop! Good luck!
xoxo Kourtney
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No i dont think so!!!
~jessica~
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i honestly think u r not actin over protected. if he luves u he will listen when u tell him that u luv him and u dont want him to die early.
~good luck ~*~jinx~*~
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katie
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No. It's completely understandable to know where your commin from. So maybe you should just tell him how you're feelin. But do it when his friends arent around, just ask him to try to make an effort to quit.
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Your not being overprotective. Your just telling him how you feel and he should respect that and if he's not then that means that he doesn't respect you. I would try talking to him one on one and telling him why you feel the way you do and maybe make some agreement that he can like do it everynow and then or something like that. And tell him that you would really apprtiate it if he respected your wishs even just a little, just to know that he cares.
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no, you're not. you're doing the right thing. you can get as mad as you want about it, and there's nothing THEY can do about it. i think it's awesome that you're worried for him... it means that you really care about him and what he doing to his body. you are perfectly in line to be worried about him.
~accolade~
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No, I don't think you are acting like an over protective mom. Tell him that your relationship could be ending soon if things don't stop.
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no your not bein an 'overprotective mom'
your lettin him kno that u care dearly about him
it's good that u care, don't worry about wut his friends think, u care about him, and if he hasn't noticed wut he's doin is illegal, and he could get in trouble
u just have his best interests at heart(sounds like a mom, but it's just a caring girlfriend!)
u love him and want wuts best for him, he's the man in ur life and u want him to be okay
well idk if thats how u feel, but thats how i feel about my guy joel!
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Hey look you gotta kiss his nicotined filled mouth. If the cigarette smoking repulses you as it would me,then you have every right to say,quit or I'm dumping you.You can't really make him quit,but you can get out of the relationship if it bothers you so much. He is old enough to do what he wants,but so are you. There's no law that says you have to smell that nasty shit.
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Hey,
You never now how he fells. His friends think your protective but sometimes the boyfriend likes to be free and to be his own boss. maybe you should talk to him instead of his friends.If you already did then you should..... Hey something i would do would be to try it myself but like in front of him like i now what im doing. Maybe he will tell u to stop and you could show him how u fell about what he is doing. sometimes that works.
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You're boyfriend is really young to be smoking and drinking. I think you're doing the right thing to protect your man. You obviously care and love for him and wouldn't want him to get hurt. Just don't listen to his loser friends. Hope this helps... Please rate me.
*Bethany*
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It is one thing to talk to him about it; it's another thing to badger him about it. Try compromise. Tell him not to drink or smoke around you, because honestly, it isn't your place to order him to stop. Also, it's normal for 15/16 year olds to experiment. It isn't a problem unless he is CONSTANTLY doing it.
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Eh. It's hard to say. It's normal to experiment, all kids do. But if you haven't, good for you! =D I'd say you can start to worrie when it becomes a habit and starts taking away from his everyday life. I hope things begin to look up.
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*Yeah he is old enough to make his own decisions and you've gotta accept that! He should respect you for what you think, but you can't make him quit smoking or drinking because that is his choice! You aren't really being overprotective your just trying to look out for him! Just tell him how you feel and maybe he will stop for you, but if not your just going to have to accept it! GoOd LuCk* xOxO Kaela <3
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Getting drunk isnt that bad unless u make to much of a habit of it. Smoking personally i hate it cause its stupid and pointless you dont even get a good feeling of it. He is old enough to make his own decisions but he should respect what you think about what he's doin. U should talk to him and tell his friends that tell you that F U!
--Kuzo
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