It is called "The grass is always greener on the other side." You would feel this way even if you had a boyfriend, because it is not any one else's responsibility or within anyone else's power to MAKE you happy. Happiness is a state of YOUR mind and you need to take steps to find out and go after what you define happiness as at this moment. No one else can do that for you. You want a boyfriend? Decide what you are looking for exactly and then be open to love. Find your own reason to cheer up! Guy's are not going to be attracted to Miss Mopey or Miss Lonely Without A Man. If you don't know how to make yourself happy, how can you expect someone else to? Tell yourself that now is the time for change and make steps to prepare yourself for meeting the man of your dreams...if he walked by you tomorrow, would you make a great impression? Be your best self now, and attract your best potential man. The thing to know is that you were happy before him, and you have something to offer, not just take.

Love them forever? That is a big promise for anyone to make, let alone a teenager. Yeah, I was your age and felt the same about someone, so I understand completely. We cannot control anyone's reactions, but only our own decisions. Once you put those words out there, you are vulnerable to rejection, so make sure it is worth saying when you do it. Remember that love is much more about a decision and a commitment, and less about feelings, which are prone to come and go. Being in love is a great feeling, but it can open you up to a lot of bad ones, too. Just take it slow and ask yourself if you really know the other person and how he feels about you and is he able to commit.

No guys talk to their friends like we girls do with ours! Talk to HIM! Tell him you are still crazy about him and want him back! Hold nothing back!

Don't give up, because it is worth waiting for the right guy. You need to stay picky and keep high standards to avoid mistakes and regrets. Focus on yourself and your goals and keep an open mind. Sometimes the harder you look, the more you miss! Relax and be open for love to come to you.

He is in a place where he will get help, no matter how scary it seems right now. It is paranoid to think that someone is out to get him, and the doctors have his best interest in mind. They want to get him healthy, so that he can get out and have a good life, and he will then be able to return to you a stronger man. You need to be strong for him right now, and not give up on either one of you. While he is away getting the help he desperately needs, you should talk to your friends, family, a school counselor or any other person who is safe to talk to about your feelings and get some support while you wait for him. Your boyfriend cares about you, so he would never want you to harm yourself, just like you would never want him to do anything like that either. Feeling lonely is normal at times, and the thing you need to do is talk to people and get involved in your own life. Your life is not going to stop, just because he is at a hospital. If he had a broken bone or needed surgery to save his life, then he would be in a different kind of hospital, but the help he needs is just as important. Say a prayer for him at night, and write him a few letters and send them to his parents to give him from you. Be positive and encouraging in your letters, and let him know you think he is worth the wait and you want him to know that you think of him often and send your love. You are young, but you can be a big influence on him. Stay strong and be brave my dear!

No ring unless it is an engagement! Any other jewelry is great! White roses are beautiful or a mix of white and red. Any personal touches are really appreciated, because it shows you know her, pay attention and really care. A mushy handwritten card is a must! Have fun!

Fat cannot be spot-reduced, so the love-handles will only be reduced with general weight loss. Running is very good for getting in shape, and anything aerobic that gets you moving. Abs can get really tone if you just suck in and tighten your stomach all the time. Sit-ups and crunches are okay, but can leave you with too much muscle and you would rather have a flat stomach. Squeeze that rear and do squats and back-leg lifts. General aerobic exercise is the best. Tone muscles won't show under fat. Check your bmi and eat healthy and drink lots of water. No diets or starving yourself, ever!!! Workout at least 3x week for one hour each time.

What the heck did you do? Details would help me advise you better. It is good you apologised of course, and I would do it in person as well. Also, if it is possible to make amends to undo any damage you did, then you have to take responsibility for that, too. Saying sorry is just the beginning, you need to make it up to him somehow if he lets you.

First, make sure you are using the right type of cleanser for your type. Are you usually normal/dry/combination/oily skin? Using the wrong product could really mess you up. If your skin is not oily normally, you could be overdrying it with a cleaser that is too strong and send your skin in an oil producing frenzy. Wash your face every morning and every night before bed. Find a cleaser, toner, and moisturizer that is right for the condition your skin is usually in. Use them every day and night! Oily hair will make your forehead break out, as well as dirty hands touching your face. Drink lots of water and eat healthy food for healthy skin!

I don't know your real age, so I can't advise you appropriately. Let him know by verbally telling him, and then he will not be confused. If you are too shy to tell him what you want to do, then you are not mature enough to actually do it. Take it slow and enjoy it, rushing does NOT make anything better. Appreciate some romantic time together and be clear about your desires by talking to him.

The child will not care as much about the historical significance of the name as much as how pretty it sounds. I would pick whichever you feel will put a smile on her face when you say it. She has to live with this name. Could you name her, Emma Linn? Sounds like Lynn, but the significance of being named after Linnora is still there. How about Linnora Lynn? Congratulations on the pregancy.

You did not have a chance growing up in that environment to develop a healthy sense of self and boundaries. The cutting is not going to help you and you know that. What is going to help is to get some quality therapy and talking to a counselor is your best bet. There are free counseling services available through some community and church organizations, so check those, if you can't afford to pay. Hotlines can provide you with support in the moment you feel frustration or like giving up. You survived a terrible childhood and you have proven that you are strong and capable! Be proud of yourself for that! You also know that you deserve better and are seeking help! That is a healthy step in the right direction. Total healing will take time, but you will get there. Seek out healthy friendships and read books about setting boundaries in relationships. Check in with me again for anything. I am here for YOU!

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Attraction and looks are in two separate departments, and both are subjective and vary from individual. One can be good-looking, without being attractive and vice-versa. Attraction involves many dynamics of character traits, subconscious feelings, senses of smell, psychological needs and mental perceptions, our past, our present emotional state, and so much more! A girl can date a hundred model type guys and not be as attracted to them as she would be to an average looking guy, who seems to have an invisible pull on her. Love and attraction are more mysterious and complex than you think. However, some general specifics for being attractive are:

Self-confidence.
Responsibility.
A sense of humor.
Creativity.
Acceptance of their partner as an imperfect human.
Strong personal interests.
Spirituality.
Stablity.
Sensitivity.
A sense of style and cleanliness.
A desire to explore the world and learn new ideas.
Health (no STD's)

These should get you started, but remember that you never know which girl is interested, so don't discount yourself, and girls love a little obvious attention and your willingness to compete for them. That is sexy!

...oh, that changes things, thank goodness! Now that I've had my coffee, I can tell you that you always have a chancee and that as long as he is not "with" this other girl, you should definately go for it. You are pretty fortunate in the situation, because your friend can set you up with him by the four of you going out as friends. Casual double-dates could turn into more. He does not know you enough yet, so give him the chance and make a good impression. He may be hot for another right now...but that does not mean you can't be in the running.

It is a gesture not only of love, but vulnerability. When he said that in the note, he was taking a risk you could reject him. If he was older and more mature, he would have asked in person, but it is still sweet. So what's your answer?

Sounds like you already know the answer to that plan, so think of another plan. Also, think about the fact that some guys just love the challenge and once they get the girl, they lose interest. Could that be part of the adreniline rush? If you have not gotten her attention yet by doing friend/same interests stuff, then get her attention with something new. Try dating other people. I am not talking serious relationships or using someone to make her jealous, but it may get her attention to see you as someone other than her gal pal. She needs to see you as a potential boyfriend, a hot guy! Girls are attracted to a guy for a lot more than looks, so whether or not you look like a rock star, carry yourself with a confident attitude and try a new attitude. Is she attracted to a certain type of guy? Pay attention to what gets her going, and you can bring a little of that to your own charismatic personality. If you are too available and already made it known that you are too easy to get, then she will continue to take that for granted. Keep in touch with her, but not every second, there are literally thousands of girls around you, so start looking!

Continue to be his friend and respect his relationship with his girlfriend. However, you do have the right to ask him if he is serious about her and if he thinks any other girl would ever have a chance with him...hint, hint! If he really just wants to be friends, then that is fine and you need to look for love elsewhere. He may change his mind later, if you are still close.

You are not alone. It is normal to go through times of changes and feel like we are alone and depressed. This will pass and you will feel good and happy again. It is so important to remember that although feelings of depression and sadness can be overwhelming and feel permanent, they are NOT permanent. Never make any serious decisions that you would regret later when you are feeling bad, because when you do feel normal and happy again, you will be glad that you refrained from doing anything bad or harmful. Friends come and go easily sometimes, especially when you are young. The best thing you can do is talk to your parents, a teacher, school counselor or other trusted adult about your feelings and ask for their support and guidance. Also, I would try to no concentrate on just a few people, but try to make as many friends as possible and give more people a chance to be your friend. There is a really big chance that their are other kids your age that feel the same way as you, and wonder why you are not being their friend, too. It is okay to cry and let out your feelings and you can also feel better after talking to someone about it. Let me know how you are doing and I will be here for you.

Yikes!!! You both must want kids if you are having unprotected sex! It is not the best situation for the parents or the child to start so young. It really could be a huge mistake! A child is for some girls a security blanket and proof of your love. Girls often idealize such situations and are in for a rude awakening later. You are going to have to take responsibility and be the one to live in reality. Go back to condoms everytime, since you can't trust her with female birth control. A child deserves a good family environment, responsible mature established parents that can care easily for the child and everything you can do to make sure that the situation is healthy and permanent. I was born to young parents, and of course like most young parents who are in love and get married, it did not last long. Yep, I am glad to be here, but I know the situation was not the best for anyone. If you can to better, why choose to do worse? Tell her she does not need a child to know you love her, and that if you both want to plan on a future together, you want it to be perfect and she needs to wait for the right time because the child deserves that. Now go buy condoms and hopefully you won't have to buy a pregancy test!

"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable. To say something you value deeply to another and to have him or her value it equally by listening to it carefully and apppreciatively is the most universal way of exchanging social interest or demonstrating affection." David Augsburger, CARING ENOUGH TO HEAR AND BE HEARD.


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http://www.childhelpusa.org/about/programs-and-services/childhelp-national-child-abuse-hotline-1-800-4-a-child

drug/alcohol abuse help go here: http://www.4drugabuse.com/addiction-treatment.html

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The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free suicide prevention service available to anyone in suicidal crisis. If you need help, please dial 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area. With over 120 crisis centers across the country, our mission is to provide immediate assistance to anyone seeking mental health services. Call for yourself, or someone you care about. Your call is free and confidential. -----------------------------------

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You can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN, 24 hours a day, free & confidential. 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

For info. on birth control etc.
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The Girls and Boys Town National Hotline is the only hotline that children and parents can call with any problem at any time:
Open 24-hours a day, every day at 1-800-448-3000

Spanish-speaking counselors available; translation services for 100+ languages

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Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline
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